chatinent:
Omo, bro, you need to take a break before it turns into depression.

Can we talk about it elsewhere?

Yes bro, how do we connect?

arthurwillia:
Wow a lot of things to go through here..

Boss you are at a point where you don’t have to choose what you’ll do o, if it’s to polish and sew polish and sew and use it to gain experience and learn how to make shoe not shoe mending..

If you like the photography go and learn, but I’ll advice you go for shoe making, it’s not bad

God be with you

My Dad is insisting I should learn shoe repair, cos it can be learnt at a short period of time and make small changes with it, he believes that I am underating the work and too proud.

inforesource:
You need to defined your passion first. I don't know your age, but let me break it down: If you are between 12-18years, you should go back to school, if no money, get a skill that is in line with your passion and train yourself and be good at it. If you don't understand how to know your passion, then train yourself in any skill that comes to your mind. Acquire more and more skill during this period of age grade I mentioned.

Besides, don't be afraid of making mistakes. Focus less on making money, while that is the final goal, but learn more and more skills. By doing this, you will find what you were created to be.

However, if you are between 18-25 years of age. This age range requires more focus on already learned skill or education. If you don;t have any of this yet, then, combine the 1st 12-18 with 18-25 years. At this point, While you are learning skill(s), try to make money by doing menial jobs. No excuses!

Lastly, you MUST move pass your father undoing and stop attributing your failures to what your father did to you. This will not allow you to focus and accept responsibilities that come your ways.

If you need more on life and seasons of life, what and what to do each of the seasons, you can respond to it here and I will guide you through.

You still have a very bright future. FOCUS!!!!!

Thanks sir, I am 26, no skill and not done with schooling.

Zeinymira:
Oh. It is Schizophrenia. Please don't stop with schooling...you have a year to go. Instead, focus on your medication and endure the remaining one academic year.
Your parents shouldn't burdening you with feeding and all.....it can worsen your mental state

Thanks ma'am I appreciate.

Protein0:
Is your brother facing similar challenges?

cc spiritualmubi

No he isn't, he is doing well all wise, even in a law school presently

Mindlog:


He has to be clinically diagnozed by a Psychiatrist for him to say that is the disorder he is living with not only basing it on what he read online because some disorders overlap each other.

I was diagnosed at 18 by a psychiatrist. It is an ailment that it's relapse happens occassionally if drugs aren't taken or cos of too much stress. My first encounter with it mandated me to stay for two months in a psychiatry.

frozen70:


Sorry about the mess uour father caused for you that made you to start having issues upon issues

What was in his mind or what was his gain when he was moving you around like a piece of furniture

Now it's affecting both you and him

Pls try and finish school and have that certificate then you can continue with medical course in another school or same school
If care is not, if you take a year or two recess, you may not have any certificate of your own to show that you ever went to school

As for what the Alfa said, how are we sure that you won't get another mad one to the existing one

I think you should talk to God about your health challenges because you were not born with it

Forget about your age counting, it's not how far but how well

Think straight and fix yourself to be stable

Thanks, I appreciate

Occurstaem:


You will surely overcome it.
I've been there before. Most people won't understand you. Stop putting unnecessary pressure on your self. I will urge you not to take leave of absence in school. What would you be doing after that? Unless you have a concrete plan laid out and you are ready to follow the plan to the letter, please don't think of LOA.

I think this is happening to you because you over think about stuff that you have no control over. Just focus on what is within your control and stop blaming yourself for not being able to be the ideal self you want to be for now. You can still develop your self.
You get depressed because you know you are not what you should be. Don't give up. Keep fighting. Be positive and optimistic.
You need someone to confide in and also you should be seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist for therapy and evaluation from time to time. I suggest you get rosemary tea. It helps in boosting brain functions.

Since you are a Muslim, I have some ruqyah audio you can keep listening to and share some special prayers with you. Do you pray tahajjud? If no, start observing it and ask Allah to help you. Pleade don't visit anybody not upon the Quran and sunnah, lest they misguide and lead you to commit shrik.
Never neglect your solah, engage in dhikr intensively, seek repentance abundantly from Allah and put your trust in Him. May Allah ease your affairs, aamiin.

And I don't think you have schizophrenia, it seems like a major depressive disorder. When and where were you diagnosed of schizophrenia? Can you let me in on the symptoms you experienced or experiencing?

I was diagnosed to have schizophrenia when I was 18 in a psychiatry , which I still go to up till date for follow up, and regarding the symptoms, bro it was crazy, even ran from home and slept far away from home outside for 3 good days, they had to look for me, voices and visions commanding me, and all. Thanks bro, and regarding the tahajjud I even find it difficult waking in the morning for fajr due to the prescribed drug I take to induce sleep.

TeeWelz:
I’ve never posted a comment here ever since I signed up on NL but my conscience keep disturbing me that I must say something. I hope this helps anyway.

I thank God that you could be courageous enough about seeking for help because alot of people die in silence and that’s how the devil ruin their lives.

Firstly, you have to forgive the past, whatever your parents have done, you have to forgive and let go so you can focus on the present and the future.

Whatever happens now is an obstacle to make you weak and discouraged to achieve that big price ahead.

It doesn’t matter if you were born into an Islamic home. That’s where God placed you to be by birth, however that’s not your final destination.

If you feel stuck remember that Jesus Christ is our Lord and Savior. He’s willing to accept and help you out of your situation.

HE said: I am the WAY, the TRUTH, and LIFE

The way you must follow to know the truth and have a blessed and eternal life.

Secondly, I would not advice you to joke or leave school. Think about how bad you wanted the admission before you finally got it. Think about the late night burning candles, early morning, tests and exams you passed through before getting to where you are now and you’re just 1 session away from your final year.

Whatever you missed in school you can still make up for it with time and you will graduate even though you may not sign out with your mates but eventually you will.

There’s a joy that comes with people seeing and calling you a graduate even if after graduation and NYSC it’s difficult to get high paying jobs but at-least you’re one step ahead and it’s an opportunity to bigger things ahead.

My dear we live in a messed up society, your discipline in school don’t determine success in your field. What employers want to know is do you have B.sc or HND and do you have common sense?

Let me foretell you the consequences of writing jamb all over and starting again.

1. By the time you leave, reality sets in and the big bad world slaps you in the face when you see your level mates and juniors going for NYSC and you’re not with them.

2. You become Depressed

3. You start chasing money and won’t have zeal to go back to school except with God’s intervention.

4. You would regret you gave up

5. Unstable economy will frustrate your efforts

4. ASUU will help add to your age

5. You start seeing yourself as a nuisance

6. You become a drop-out and many more unforeseen circumstances

Thirdly, since you’ve deferred admission for one year. It’s a beautiful avenue to learn a skill. It’s not a must you learn a physical skill. You can learn a skill online like graphics design, coding, affiliate marketing e.t.c or better still if you want to go for physical trainings the sky is the limit.

All you have to do is to be committed and dedicated in learning for that 1 year and be certified, so that after that training you will start making money for yourself and stop being depressed on how to make money.

I actually know how being broke and stuck can mess with someone’s mind. Like I said it could lead you to taking wrong decisions and will lead you astray.

Lastly, you shouldn’t be the one to worry about your family’s responsibility, your parents should be responsible for that, even In your Quran they are supposed to feed you till you’re 40years of age.

They shouldn’t bother you neither should you feel bothered because that pressure can make you loose focus. For your own sanity, focus first on yourself before thinking of how to help other members of your family.

If you hadn’t deferred your admission due to some cleric advice I would have asked you not to. All you needed was to have a relaxed mindset to finish up with your studies and take the next step but since you have.

Leave every other problem aside focus on the 1 year you have to solve your financial instability by getting a skill handy.

If you don’t have nothing to offer no one will give you money! Always remember that.

The scriptures says: if the blind leads the blind they will both fall in a ditch.

I wish you all the best.

JESUS LOVES YOU.

Thanks sir, I haven't deferred a year yet, just an opinion of a cleric that I should do so

anthonyuncle:
guy, i really feel for you o.
you are in 300 level, try to endure and graduate.
even as a student,
I'll advise you go ahead and learn the photography while you look for something else that will be putting money into your pockets as side hustle.
the process of learning the photography might be difficult now, but when you finally become independent, it can feed you for life.

STOP FOCUSING ON PLEASING YOUR PARENTS
this might hurt, but it is the truth.
they are the basic reason for your present predicament.

but before this, you need to ask and answer the following questions below:
is photography truly your passion?
is there any other skill/thing you enjoy doing?
how long will you allow your parents to be dictating for you?
is there anyone around you that you can approach to help you(by giving you connects)?

as for going back to study medicine and surgery, forget about your age. one of my evil uncles told me in 2011 that: you can study to any length you desire in life without been answerable to anyone, as long as you are the one funding it

Thanks sir.
I would have also loved to endure and graduate but now, that Saint of God told us to defer a session for me to gain good health, and my parents don't want to go against him, so that is why I just decided to concur and used the 1-2 years to develop myself mentally and financially before going back to school.

Happyyoo:
Pls i would advise you to go back and learn photography
There is money there,I see people who are blessed with the job
Plss seek help spiritually from real men of God and be prayerful
After some months or years of succeeding,you can then further your education into the university
Looking for a company job won't pay because as time goes on they will want to recruit people and replace u with people that has qualifications better than yours.
God will help you
Stay blessed

Amen thanks for your advice ma'am. The photography, do you think learning as an apprentice under someone will be the best shot?

SF123:

PLS SOMEONE SHOULD HELP A DEPRESSED BROTHER

Hmm bro I will advice you just prepare for another Jamb if medicine is what you really want, if you go to school now, hmm reading again for another Jamb plus school wahala may affect your health, I'm speaking from experience, I suffered mental decline when I did that and just wished I never accepted the admission when I was given at the first place. So to me you can just use this year at home and do what you didn't do last time to excel more in jamb, tho radiography is a good course, but since you said you don't have interest in it, then go for medicine.

Hello, good day Nairalanders.
I'm presently in a critical situation in my life. I really need your advice on this situation of mine.
I just feel like a looser, I am an undergraduate studying botany. In 300 level due to me deferring a semester due to a Relapsing illness (schizophrenia). I suffered from brain fog when I resumed school after the relapse and lock down. I'm 26 and I don't have any skill and don't have a degree at hand.
The reason for this is not far fetched because till date I still harbour that anger for what my Dad has done to me. When I was in Jss1 in a very good school and also doing well, he removed me and my younger brother from school and took us to a Quran memorizing Islamic school following the advice of a hausa colleague of his in his place of work. We memorized the holy book but for me it came with it's price, I didn't even have solid memorization of the Quran self to speak. I went through hell in those two years memorizing the holy book, ranging from mental, physical and spiritual challenges, which I believe triggered the schizophrenia am suffering from today. After the graduation ceremony from the Islamic school he enrolled me in conventional secondary school into Ss1 which means I never attended Jss2 and Jss3. Had episodes of relapse of the ailment am suffering from after then twice apart from the first occurrence after my memorization of the holy book. I believe that if I was allowed to continue my education back then I would have been a graduate by now and even working and must have gained financial independence
Presently my mum brought the idea that we should meet a Sheikh who is a saint of God, regarding my issue of not being able to read, assimilate let alone retain, and also my inability to sleep without taking a prescribed medication the saint said that I should defer a session, that is a year so that he will pray for me that there is a good spirit standing beside me that needs to be dissolved into my system before I can sleep normally, which (the spirit) is as a result of a spiritual book, litanies I read that my father gave me.
So now I don't have any skill, my Father has no source of income whatsoever, he doesn't earn any salary, he only has ND, the money we are even feeding on presently is a contribution by BOT of a foundation he founded to buy a house for its Islamic school. I started learning photography during the lock down but left it for no tangible reason. My Dad insisted that I should learn shoe mending, that it is easy to learn and get small small change, I started it but had to leave it when I faced the challenge of sowing and polishing shoes, I don't just like the work. And presently am been pressured by my parents to get something doing to be getting money because even to eat once in a day is a problem for us now, and to buy the drug am living on which enables me to sleep but believe me I'm at loss of what to do, should I go back and learn photography as a skill or should I find a job, like a company that can employ an Ssce holder. Cos the former needs start up fee and also need time for me to master it before talking of getting money from it.
Secondly, regarding my academics, I am thinking of using this one year or two years which I would defer to gain financial independence and mental well being, then rewrite jamb and apply for my original passion which is medicine and surgery but hmm, am already in my late twenties, so please Nairalanders help a confused soul.
Sorry for the long write up, just had to say everything.
Thanks, any contribution is welcomed
Please Lalasticlala move to front page for it to gain more views, am really in a critical situation

Hello, good day Nairalanders.
I'm presently in a critical situation in my life. I really need your advice on this situation of mine.
I just feel like a looser, I am an undergraduate studying botany. In 300 level due to me deferring a semester due to a Relapsing illness (schizophrenia). I suffered from brain fog when I resumed school after the relapse and lock down. I'm 26 and I don't have any skill and don't have a degree at hand.

The reason for this is not far fetched because till date I still harbour that anger for what my Dad has done to me. When I was in Jss1 in a very good school and also doing well, he removed me and my younger brother from school and took us to a Quran memorizing Islamic school following the advice of a hausa colleague of his in his place of work.

We memorized the holy book but for me it came with it's price, I didn't even have solid memorization of the Quran self to speak. I went through hell in those two years memorizing the holy book, ranging from mental, physical and spiritual challenges, which I believe triggered the schizophrenia am suffering from today. After the graduation ceremony from the Islamic school he enrolled me in conventional secondary school into Ss1 which means I never attended Jss2 and Jss3. Had episodes of relapse of the ailment am suffering from after then twice apart from the first occurrence after my memorization of the holy book. I believe that if I was allowed to continue my education back then I would have been a graduate by now and even working and must have gained financial independence
Presently my mum brought the idea that we should meet a Sheikh who is a saint of God, regarding my issue of not being able to read, assimilate let alone retain, the Saint said that I should defer a session, that is a year so that he will pray for me that there is a good spirit standing beside me that needs to be dissolved into my system, which (the spirit) is as a result of a spiritual book, litanies I read that my father gave me.

So now I don't have any skill, my Father has no source of income whatsoever, he doesn't earn any salary, he only has ND, the money we are even feeding on presently is a contribution by BOT of a foundation he founded to buy a house for its Islamic school.

I started learning photography during the lock down but left it for no tangible reason. My Dad insisted that I should learn shoe mending, that it is easy to learn and get small small change, I started it but had to leave it when I faced the challenge of sowing and polishing shoes, I don't just like the work.

Presently am been pressured by my parents to get something doing to be getting money because even to eat once in a day is a problem for us now, and to buy the drug am living on which enables me to sleep but believe me I'm at loss of what to do, should I go back and learn photography as a skill or should I find a job, like a company that can employ an Ssce holder. Cos the former needs start up fee and also need time for me to master it before talking of getting money from it.

Secondly, regarding my academics, I am thinking of using this one year or two years which I would defer to gain financial independence and mental well being, then rewrite jamb and apply for my original passion which is medicine and surgery but hmm, am already in my late twenties, so please Nairalanders help a confused soul.

Sorry for the long write up, just had to say everything.
Thanks, any contribution is welcomed I am really in a critical situation.

Vanpat:

Being a radiographer would have been the best decision of your life , left botany ( 3yrs ) for that

Hello bro, am also in lvl 300 botany and am contemplating on leaving it and apply for radiography, what do you think?

Blablamalala:


That's why when I see youth lamenting about the ASSU strike I feel a lot of pity for especially those who still choose idleness during the schools closures instead of going to learn a skill that will make them become productive, creating wealth for themselves.

Good day sir, do you think photography is a skill that one should and ought to learn during this ASUU strike to use in creating wealth?