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greiboy:
Like one lady poster pointed out earlier, you cannot control her reactions.

You have taken your decision not to go back to the relationship, So let her feel how she wants to feel.

You just have to wait till she recovers.

thanks bro

izaray:
Seconded, my thoughts too

thirded.... Abeg wats yur advice now

greiboy:
You see!!

You are both going through emotions at the moment i.e. you don't want her back and she doesn't want to see you.

I believe you need to give yourself time.

as in wat u advice I do. I don't want my conscience to blame me.

greiboy:
It is quite obvious she hasn't gotten over you, She is showing the other side of the passion and affection she showed you while you were together.

So give her time, it will pass

Although, I have this funny feeling that you haven't gotten over her either because you cared so much about her to create a topic about her.

Your story resembles that of a couple having a fight

yes, I didn't say I was hundred percent gotten over her. That's y I still care to notice her attitude. But I maintain the breakup should be and remain. However don't want enmity. I can't do dat

femolacqua:
Bro can you do one thing for me?, simply move on don't let someone else give you unnecessary headache.

OK bro... Tnx

Lionessza:
Lol, you sound like control freak . You broke up with her but still expect her to be nice and friendly to you. Are you well ?

I can b commanding sometimes honestly, but not disrespectfully. I didn't put up this thread to be asked if I am well....don't abuse me

QueenSuccubus:
As u said, u never had romantic relationship with her..SO my question is ...WHY U FEEL SO AFFECTED?

cos we were really good friends... As in I was dis kind of shy n so reserved guy. She really helped me boost my morale and I too, gave her advice as to her life. She grew up in a single parent home, with her mom. So I was like a fada or broad and she was to me as an elder sister. The connection was too familiar. The thing is, I really can't define correctly how dis friendship was. U must hav been in dis kind of friendship that wen you begin to explain it, u realise u can't really explain such : the sacrifices, support, gossips, secrets

dojnr4real:
Smiles I cherish this line 'she doesn't greet me anymore and now gives me things with left hand'. Don't do that you will hurt yourself the more. Mind you, you don't have control over her. It seems you thought you guys are still dating. She's now EX.

I have issues keeping enmity with people most especially the female folks.... I don't have the talent for DAT.

roarik:
wat did u expect? u just broke up wit her..so u expecting her to greet u..lolz

I don't get it the way you mean. But its not a fight. I can't be avoiding sum1 cos she is an ex; y must she do this ?

QueenSuccubus:



She's ur ex, so what do u expect ?

Actually the way it happened was that we were friends but as time went, she began to tell me she felt sth for me. We never had any romantic relationship tho but I call her ex cos that's from her angle. Does it mean now, she never respected me before ? What do u think

I just broke up with her 3 days ago and since then, she keeps disrespecting me. The way she responds to my question, doesn't greet me anymore and now gives me things with left hand (which she knows I dislike). But its not that she insults me verbally, but this attitude. How do I go about this ? Do I stop totally talking with her ?
Note: we are in d same department in school...

Mak4web:
Okay

Try deleting the icons
If it reappears then you may just have to ignore them

have done that before.....

Mak4web:
Are you using itel device?

not at all.

Mak4web:
No. Your phone is not hacked.
I had this experience on itel phone

really ? Wat could b d cause

I see strange icons in my gallery and some of my Facebook friends profile pic and I am wondering if my phone has been hacked. See the icons below...I screenshotted them in gallery.

Muafrika2:
He just feels like he is an elder taking care of the compound. Just let him and cooperate. And stop leaving the gate open

lol... Read it again

blessedvisky:
How old is his wife? Make a move on her. If he has young daughters above 16, go for them...

lol.. Thankx so much

paulhq:
Hi, I am here.My name is Paul, based in Osubi, but I have access to most areas in Warri, I currently reside in P.T.I campus. Wordpress developer, website designer, entrepreneur and consultant. I also take tutorials on wbeiste designing. I am a graduate of Petroleum Training Institute. My ATM pin is.... enough introduction nice to meet you too.

I want to learn android app development

Sterope:
That you are a bully

you must be joking.

mrjojo:
madam, even the op himself understood

thumbs up

sisisioge:
Hmmm...maybe you guys should get copies of the gate keys made to go round your family. Then every single one could stop greeting him. If he says anything, don't even answer. Hard stuff there but effective, some people really do get carried away.

yeah thanks so much

mrjojo:
The man has turned himself to a chief tenant in the compound have a talk to him calmly first. Am sure is behavior is influenced owning to the fact that you guys are the "new family on the block. BTW at late your twenties you should be out of your parent rented apartment by now.. no offense

no offense at all. You are entitled to your opinion. I have heard you talk.tnx

MIKOLOWISKA:
then tell him accordingly or ignore him and if he lock d gate wake d idiot from sleep every night till it gets through to his brain to behave

Thanks

mankettle:
@ Op
All of una get d same leg for the house. No be landlord na. One day wait for him to go out. Buy a new padlock and lock gate or one day go out and lock gate.
If that doesn't work meet his wife in his presence and tell her to buy you pepper and Maggi and give her money. Forget her age. If that doesn't work then open conflagration will.
If the landlord wants to put mouth you tell the landlord the truth, you paid money no be beg u use enter house. So you have your rights including no nuisance
Thank me later

thanks plenty. I think the open conflagration will be the best. The man no just respect himself. This morning self, I wan greet am him just throway face as him see me, me too troway face. D man really is a useless person

oyb:
more like the guy may have helped the parents out in some big way in the past; lent them money, settled a marital dispute, sorted out a police issue

there are some peculiar relationships our parents have with people that we will not understand fully until we get older.

lol.... Oga, totally wrong. This man is a total, I mean total stranger to us.

oyb:
there is probably some history you are not aware of.

like he is a co-owner or ? The only thing I observe is that since he runs a prayer house in his house, the other neighbour and the landlord attends, so he uses that influence on them; you know this "daddy n mummy" thing. So that's the only thing I think

Ishilove:
Is he a tenant too?

yes ...

uboma:
Keep ignoring him

it is quite hard to c som1 trying to play mental slavery thing on my kid sis n bro especially the last two borns. If only me, I may ignore but them, it really to Me is like a direct challenge. This is the time to build their self esteem and sum fool is trying to instill fear in them.

MIKOLOWISKA:
evict him

we are not the landlord....

We have a neighbour who behaves somehow. I am in my late twenties and I live with my parents and my siblings.. I am d first son. My parents are not usually around so I and my elder sister are overseeing the affairs of the house. But there is this thing that is happening that me, I utterly hate: there is this man that just can't respect himself. The week we came in, he was giving orders and unreasonable complains as though he wants to control my family. Starting from locking us inside the compound, to ordering one on how to use the gate. Where it really pains me is when he does that to my little ones. And all these orders he is giving, he doesn't keep them he could stand in front of the gate and leaves the gate open which seems normal, but when someone else does it, he tells you to close d gate or locks it. It got so intimidating that a day my sis bought rice and came in rushingly to call me to carry it inside from were the bus stopped, which was like fifteen Meters from our yard, he just locked d gate and worst still our last born who went to buy sth was outside. That day eh, I got so pissed but my mom welded in on the matter and I just gave her the respect. He normally sits in d evening at a place close to the gate but you can never knock and he opens for you, so that makes us to knock louder is your initial knocking are not responded to, but today, as I knocked, twice and no response, I had to knock louder and he opened and started to tell me if you knock you wait, but believe me when he or his wife knocks its like pulling the gate off not that they start small then goes louder as we do, but so loud whenever they knock. We are four tenants in the compound but one is a female corper but the other tenant are answerable to him just like slaves. But we are not and he keeps showing this bullying attitude. Each time we talk to our mom about it, she will be preaching peace. My dad the same thing but its really getting on my nerves especially the way he was trying to scold me dis evening like I was a kid. I just didn't say anything but walked away.
I have a quick temper and as such if I take off, it may not end well - I will insult him with words he can't forget in a hurry.
Actually, out of anger that earlier period I had flared up, calling him a mad man. He calmed down that period but now he seems he has lost his reasoning n I can't take it anymore. This man should be in his 50s.

lawson007:
All i can remember was that Apostle Suleiman said that since childhood he has always been a victim of false accusations.He made this statement about his life long before this Otobo saga.I remember hearing that clearly while watching him on TV some years back before this scandal broke out..

he really said that ? Isn't that exactly what I speculated?

texazzpete:
I’m certainly not an idol worshipper like you!


But back on topic. When will your Papa release the names of the ‘Pastors and Politicians’ who paid Otobo?

me idol worshipper ? Like I told u earlier, not here for people like you.

texazzpete:
You say the Church is under attack. But Otobo claims she was paid by Pastors.
Are you saying the Church is attacking the Church?

i hope you r not here to argue. Firstly, Are you a christian ?