Pukkalolo:
Years ago, I was watching Asa being interviewed on a show where she was a guest. They asked what are the top qualities she love in a man. Among other qualities, she said she loves a man who is CONFIDENT.

Well....

This is a cliche`. In hundreds of sources, they describe "confidence" has the most attractive trait a woman love in men.

I got curious...

So in particular a private group online, I put out the question, "What does it mean for a man to be confident with women"

In no time, answers flood in.

I got answers like:

"A confident man always go for what he wants..."

"A confident man always says exactly what on his mind and he isn't scared of expressing how he feels"

"A confident man always take action and has the firm believe that he will get what he looks out for."

"A confident man always bla bla bla....."

They are all correct, but I think they miss the point of what true confidence is.

Here's is what makes you confident:

A truly confident man is a man who is "comfortable" with rejection.

Nothing more, nothing less.

He's comfortable with rejection because he's comfortable with people not liking him.

The average man isn't comfortable with rejection, so when he get rejected, he verbally attacks the woman.

A lady recently showed me her chat with a Man she rejected recently.

She: "Sorry .... I'm not interested."

Man: "mtcheew...what is this mumu feeling like self. With your flat ass....bitch."


Lolz

In some occasions, a lady might have some interest in you but will still reject you because rejecting you is a safer option for her at that moment. That's the reason why--- how you respond to a rejection matters more than the rejection itself. Responding in an upset manner like that will be a confirmation to her that you have low self-esteem. She will try her best to avoid you for fear of harassment or fear of being physically attacked.

Again,

When a woman outrightly reject you, do not attempt to try to change her mind.
Unfortunately, that’s exactly what most guys tries to do...

The average man isn't comfortable with rejection, so when he get rejected, he tries to convince her to change her mind.

For example:

She: "Sorry .... I'm not interested."

Man: "Why now? You know I truly care about you... Please accept me."

The more you try to change her mind, the more she’s going to disrespect you. When she perceive that you are not comfortable with getting rejected, she view that as weakness and even try to exploit you and toy with your emotions.

Ok enough talk....

We are just starting...

When you're comfortable with rejection, how do you respond

You say, "Sure, take care."

No comeback response. No argument. No debate. No trying to convince her to change her mind.

Just say, "Sure, take care." And then stop interacting with her immediately.

Remember, chances are that she’s might be expecting you to do one of these things:

- Verbally convincing her to change her mind

- Giving her cash gifts so she can change her mind

- Getting upset at her and calling her negative names.

Doing any of those things would boost her ego and make her feel she's on top of the world...

But when you respond with just, "Sure. Take care," And immediately end the conversation with her.....Her ego will drastically reduce.

She might be inspired to re-initiate a contact with you.

Some women have rejected me initially but later contacted me again because they were caught off guard by how "comfortable" I was towards the rejection.

Getting upset or trying to convince her never work; it only make your value go down in her eyes.

But being comfortable with it and saying “Sure, take care,” makes your value goes up.

Stay blessed.

You be correct guy.

One bottle for you.

Thing is, he is representing carnality and to do it well well and gain it more is the more you go in carnality the more you reap.

So it's on same page. However, all na rubbish

Throwback:


He was specific on the lifetime democratic Presidents he is attacking.

There is no such fellow in Nigeria.

Igbos and Obidients should slow down on their hatred for Nigeria.

@ embolded, for real ? You call that hate ? Guys una no dey tire to go left left ..... If what they say and are concerned in is hate, then where is your human reasoning ?

Haba naw, pretence to appear foooolish should have limit na...... Or u mean you aren't really pretending but that way ?

EmperorCaesar:
So that when they throw out Giiiriiigoooorrryyy Pitobi case outside, those on the fence wont start to say another thing

This man is wiser than Achebe and Chimamanda put together

His skull isnt flat

You sound petty and does it in addition mean nothing positive / fruitful can come out of you ?

yarimo:
TINUBU is the world most powerful president

Kikikiki ...... Like u just want to make it obvious say u no be am at all, up there in the head.

shonepa:
Plenty talk no dey full basket....no cure, try Babalawo

Lol .... Lol

shonepa:
E dey pain u? plenty talk no dey full basket

Make i just leave u with ur pikin OT. Na heaven remain to compare Nigeria with.

U still dey sound like Mumu ..... y u dull reach

shonepa:
We know una set......dey do comparisms dey go, no focus on how to improve ur self. OT no gum u. Abi dem det tell person say na fish dey inside sardine? Dey play like churky.

Can you comprehend what you wrote

shonepa:
If u no get something to talk just fem. Comparing Nigeria with Developed countries na failure of reality....better open sense

Na to compare am with lion cage na im fit, for your sense.

Gee........... shhhh

shonepa:
Is ghana not a perfect example? Hear your self na....comparing Nigeria with developed country.

Name just one African country u can compare with the so called developed country?

Read and reread and then rate your comment.

Using failure to support failure

Lexiskillz09:


See zombie self dey talk. Mumu, did we not conduct elections in d past?

The religious bigot, Peter Obi, joined and here we are.

Mumu rest

With each passing day, y'all make it look like the dumbness you had the previous day is only a child's play

Lifestone:

What of Ghana. Let say the truth, it's cheaper here

Not about if it's cheaper. We need to look at growth and not compare with failure.

Just like you want someone to speak highly of you saying, wow, Lifestone you deserve accolades cos you're more intelligent than kids in nursery 3.

So that is promotion ? Or retrogression

PlayerMeji:
If he used developed countries nah, it is still people like you that will say why did he use developed countries knowing their high income ...

He has come down to your level, yet all you can think of is why he didn't use developed countries...

As long as you continue in this direction where you deflect the truth because of the bringer of the message, you will find it hard to break even in life ..

You didn't speak wise ...... How can one who calls his failing statistical sense a failure, still attack it if it goes opposite way ? You know wetin you dey talk at all ?

Throwback:


He gave you a West African reference for context and also gave you a "saner climes" reference, but you say you want more.

So go and dig up all the other West African countries yourself if you need more comparison to be convinced.

talking like the comparison MUST be with west African country.

Why won't you compare yourself with a failing one as usual ?

Throwback:


Did he not reference Ghana?

Is their minimum wage Australian or Canadian standard?

So it's only Ghana that has minimum wage ?

Very failing failures .... Looking unto failures the author and conclusion of their belief .....

USA has Per hour ..... Why won't you run away from that one with the kind of idiosyncracy you got ?

Lexiskillz09:


I swear. Peter Obi really caused alot of division and hate. Until Peter Obi came in, in 2023 there was election in 1999 2003 2007 2011 2015 and 2019.

Thank God he didn't win

With each passing day, y'all make it look like the stupidity you had the previous day is a child's play.

Lol..... Why didn't he use the developed countries to measure the minimum wage ?

Using failure to support failure

This man is beginning to make it look like his stewpidity the previous days is only a child's play when compared to that of the subsequent days.

Tingotoe:
And how is Obi any different? Isn't he just another crooked politician just like the rest of them?

Now let's see how bright or darkened you are in reasoning : How is Obi The Same ?

Tingotoe:
I don't really blame the man for doing what he did, but I do however blame the gullible people who were stupid enough to believe anything a politician tells them. That goes for Atiku, Obi and all the others

Pls that idea of generalization to prove a point without evidence doesn't hold true in all instances. It's laughable to include obi in that statement.

It's clear to the blind and deaf that that is an anomaly

Vinnie2000:


Which work, OP? 😏

Jobs dey Nigeria? 😒

If you don't want Hunger to kill you @home,You better buy Corn seedlings and go into Agbado cultivation, Ok?

I already have a job but looking at bigger challenge. It's still same energy; but more critical

Can one readily find jobs in Nigeria which require the following ?

1) Data Science cert
2) IoT Infrastructure Architecture Cert
3) Full Stack dev Cert
4)


And how much is their salary range

Proudlyomonna:



The majority problem We have in this Country is that an overwhelming number of the common man refuse to reason well.

They allow themselves get sold and drowned in the political jabawakky, sensationalism and euphoria the evil political class and strongholds have created.

They refuse to think deep to the essence of politics itself, which is to better the lives of the people.

Nija will start moving forward when the common man start thinking well.

Honestly. The people's lives are about 90% politics centered. I don't know if this is a ploy to keep the majority unproductive especially for themselves. An average man all his consciousness is about is only political parties and the politicians; newspapers all about politics, the media politics - if it ain't party, it's the politicians in house of reps, what this did, or that did. While this isn't bad in itself but it being run by people who have no initiative in life and no vision makes it a mess and even as it occupies 90% of an average Nigerians consciousness.

Something is fundamentally wrong with the humaness of the humans in this country Nigerian. Could be deliberately (by the UnImpactful politicians ) or just how weak they want to be and unusable to the world at large.....

God1000:
Nigeria remains the pride of Africa despite the numerous problems bedeviling us

Is it not what everyone is saying, to let that light shine ?

famology:
Obidiotssssss with fake news

Haba ..... Get sense na

H

AntiMarxist:



Pains

That's not pains, that's a real talk. I think it's high time people desist from this fooolery .... You go and are still looking for ways to go abraod, and trying to tell people in a state to go back to their state.... It's looking dumb for it to be a culture. And besides, the Lagos is what it is, cos of the FG when it was capital ..... And the kinda politics practiced here so it ain't as a result of your lot or your people. Otherwise other states of yours would have shown that. But we know the result.

The more you try to feel in attacking mode over another, you're wasting your own time which you could use to help yourself.

This Nigerian thing is turning to full blown foolishness .......... C'mon guys you can do better

luluman:
And you still can't do arguing with me?

Ok you've been arguing all the while ? Wow, all u know is argument..... So then bye look for your kind ..... I don't argue but converse

Meanwhile, how far na about your day

luluman:
And a deranged man engaged you in arguments for long? Then you are more sick.

You're deranged. No need

ecolime:

Yorubas don't support or defend criminals. You can accuse them of anything but coming together to support criminality because the fraudster is from their tribe isn't one of them.

bro that isn't exactly in that line I wrote that but to tell u crime has no ethnic group. But y'all making it look like the girl is the worst. That's hypocrisy especially when your principal is having questions to answer ..... And secondly, is also betraying your first assertion of don't support stuff when he has support of the trubalist in your clan .... So ?


The hypocrisy is open

Rolings:


Shameless igboman

Did you see any yorubaman come out to defend huspuppy or Woodberry? Like the while tribe came out to defend without thinking critically to defend a 19 years old scam artist.....I was so happy the way the girl disgrace most of una

We are omoluabis
We won't defend proven fraud.
(Before you come dey tell me say Tinubu stole your manhood)

most of who ? Lol .... This anuofia (bush meat) thinks from the left.

See him talking about not defending roven fraud when your principal still has a pending case ...... Well, look for your grade to engage with in that level

luluman:
...confirmed that your IQ has been valueless to everyone including you? If not prove it. Those with high IQ levels have ever built, and with less manner problems, but those that brag even without having it ( just like your case) are full of insults.

Ur deranged actually.

Obaaderemi2:
You can't find virgins at 14 where he came from in the north. They've all been defiled by alhajis or married off at 12.

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