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Adverts / Re: My Fiverr Skyscraper Strategy - 7 Figures In Fiverr Sales Within 6 Months by SUGARBEE(f): 10:23pm On Feb 28, 2020
Sacred048@gmail.com thanks boss
Romance / Re: How Would You Feel If Your Partner Is In Steady Communication With Their Ex? by SUGARBEE(f): 12:55pm On Apr 30, 2017
Lalasticlala, mynd44, please move to fp..
Romance / Re: How Would You Feel If Your Partner Is In Steady Communication With Their Ex? by SUGARBEE(f): 11:42pm On Apr 29, 2017
babyfaceafrica:
Dump her ass...who has time for nansense?...ex should be ex

Romance / Re: How Would You Feel If Your Partner Is In Steady Communication With Their Ex? by SUGARBEE(f): 11:41pm On Apr 29, 2017
SirL0neWolf:
Too damn long shocked
In answer to the topic..a pūssy that has been fuçkd can always be refūckd so no way I'm cul with that

How about if its your wife? You're cool with her ex coming to have sex with her?
Romance / Re: How Would You Feel If Your Partner Is In Steady Communication With Their Ex? by SUGARBEE(f): 11:40pm On Apr 29, 2017
Alondrah:
You are right op! In a relationship, you have to think about your partner's feelings before doing some things. You may have a platonic friendship with your ex but does your partner see it that way?. To avoid contentions, some things / people are best left in the past or at arm's lengthsmiley

Davidgrey, Vorpal, Fitnessdoctor . What do you all think about this write upsmiley

Yeah, you've got to think about your future with your current partner and whether its worth it to still be in communication with your ex

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Romance / How Would You Feel If Your Partner Is In Steady Communication With Their Ex? by SUGARBEE(f): 11:15pm On Apr 29, 2017
*Wrote this from a male perspective for a client, hope you enjoy it*

The few times I’ve had to sit down and reminisce over my past relationship of my Ex have been more than just a trip down memory lane. The dire decisions I’ve made in my current relationship has been if nothing but an eye opener.

I always ask myself, what's the big deal still being in constant communication with my Ex, why does everyone make faces and frown when they hear the voice or receive a text from their Ex? Why do people cringe at the thought of taking time out to ask and find out how their Ex are faring? For you to even call someone an Ex, then there’s no denying the fact that at some point in time past, there was some real feeling of attraction towards you both and in fact, there's still no love lost between you two.

But I've come to realize that communicating with my Ex when I'm in the single market is one thing, and communicating with her when I'm in a new relationship with someone else is an entirely different thing on its own. Most times, in every new relationship I find myself in, there’s always this tension between I and my new mate when talking about our Exes. I talk about my Ex and more often than not, I realize that the topic makes them feel uncomfortable.

I’ll tell you the story of A’Marie, my Ex, an ever controlling, dictatorial and live-in girlfriend, who was always of the opinion that couples who've been through a relationship and now quit shouldn't be in any communication with each other. Her favorite lines were often, "If we're not together or still dating then it is for a reason, so why would I want to talk to you." If you think that's fair, she also adds that "I don't have Exes, I don't even know you anymore after our relationship".

I’m of the opinion that for couples to be lovers, a certain degree of rapport and friendship must have been built by both parties before the relationship began. That’s why; it’s not surprising to see couples that have been friends right from childhood get married, why? That’s because they discovered that friendship is the bedrock of any relationship. You can't expect people like these to forget each other when times are hard quickly, and when they are going through a rough patch.

I thought it normal to be in regular contact with my ex-wife, I needed to know how she was faring and know how life was treating her, I thought no different of it and never knew it upset my new mate, after all, it was my ex-wife. "You are too damn friendly with your ex" My new partner revealed one time. I didn't quite understand what she meant by that, but it was then I came to know that my completely innocent and naïve attempt by doing things like keeping photos, talking and maintaining contact with my Ex did arouse and stir up lots of jealousy in my new mate.

That left me a lot to ponder on. Why was friendship, something that had been built painstakingly over the years be forgotten and dusted under the carpet just because I was in another relationship? Why is it allowed and permissible for all the moments we’ve shared, the history, the respect, and most importantly the love be erased all in the context of being in a new relationship? Many a time, we have heard the saying that "friends are most important because they last longer." I thought being friends with someone was a good thing before you become lovers with that special someone? If so, why, or better yet, how does a friendship stop even at the cessation of being lovers? Friendships were never meant this way, never "Because if I can choose to get in, I can also decide to get out." It's like we're throwing the proverbial baby (friendship) out with the bathwater (relationship).

Alas, what I thought was innocent and harmless was more complicated than I imagined. I was neither flirting nor was I engaged in an affair with my Ex. I also believe other men feel the same way about the Exes of their female partner and not wanting them to communicate with their exes. Now, two things get to happen as someone in a relationship were both or only one party is still in communication with their Ex. I can either play the trusting and jealous card, if my woman wants to be with me, she should be with only me and not some other guy in her past, and it's my role to make her happy at all times and be her man or I can act aloof like I don't care what she does and accord her that respect as an adult and trust her to make decisions based on her interests and desires. If she chooses to cheat or engage in some other nebulous relationships, then she must be willing to accept the potential consequence of us breaking up and me turning to another "Ex."

Ultimately, I got to realize that being in a new relationship, it's not just about me anymore and not even about jealousy, to say the least. It took me time, but I learned that my new mate also has feelings and I need to be attentive to them if I want a future with them. More often than not, I found out that the primary cause of problems and conflicts in a relationship arises when a person is in regular communication with their Ex, without the knowledge of their present spouse. Doing that in secret can come off wrong, and can be mistakenly interpreted.

But the truth is this, whether you're still in contact with your Ex in secret or its open and your current mate knows about it, you're giving them the impression that you're not emotionally available for their needs and that makes you lose focus in your present relationship. Aforementioned is a just mere distraction as it won't lead you anywhere as it serves no good and no purpose.

A romantic relationship that's secure rests upon one thing. A foundation of trust and this trust between both parties as couples can never be established if one or both of the partners continues to keep steady contact with their Ex.

END

Originally written by me, SUGARBEE

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Celebrities / Re: Iyanya Shows Off Muscle Doing Hardcore Workout With Tractor Tire (pics & Vid) by SUGARBEE(f): 9:01am On Apr 11, 2017
BUTCHCASSIDY:
Madam. where have U been
Been around.. Just wasn't commenting..
Romance / Re: Ladies.. How Protected Would You Feel With This Kinda Guy (pic) by SUGARBEE(f): 10:35pm On Apr 10, 2017
Davash222:
Why is it hard for you to go straight to your point



'protect me ' means financially stable, right
Think of it whatever you wish.,
Romance / Re: Ladies.. How Protected Would You Feel With This Kinda Guy (pic) by SUGARBEE(f): 9:40pm On Apr 10, 2017
When we say 'protect me', we talking about someone who can stand up for us when things go awry..

Someone who can defend our dignity and not necessarily physical buildup

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Celebrities / Re: Uche Maduagwu Reacts To Reports Of Sleeping At An Audition In His Famous Shirt by SUGARBEE(f): 9:37pm On Apr 10, 2017
Sure his instagram wasn't hacked?
Celebrities / Re: Davido Baby Mama Sophia, Mistakenly Displays Her Boobs While Dancing (pics,vid) by SUGARBEE(f): 9:29pm On Apr 10, 2017
Lol.. Quite intentional if I must say..

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Celebrities / Re: I am Booked Till August! Davido Says by SUGARBEE(f): 9:27pm On Apr 10, 2017
Good for him..

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Celebrities / Re: Iyanya Shows Off Muscle Doing Hardcore Workout With Tractor Tire (pics & Vid) by SUGARBEE(f): 9:25pm On Apr 10, 2017
Those muscles he thinks he has is actually irritating..
Please enter the studio and do something better with your life..

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Romance / Re: Wish A Nairalander A Merry Christmas And A Lovely End Of Year by SUGARBEE(f): 9:15pm On Dec 25, 2016
Mskrisx:


Hey SUGARBEE! Plenty love dear.
Wishing the same dear
Romance / Re: Wish A Nairalander A Merry Christmas And A Lovely End Of Year by SUGARBEE(f): 9:08am On Dec 25, 2016
benedictnsi:

Good morning nairalanders....

this is my own way of wishing you guys a happy Christmas. So I am gonna mention few monikers, as much as I can and don't panic if I don't mention you cos I hope another person will help me mention you here ..... I really do wish everyone a very Merry Christmas

So let me keep the ball rolling wink

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Hand don dey Pain me oh sad tongue

Abeg if your belief dey against this celebration, pardon me....grin na just because say I get all of una for hearth, that's y I just d wish everyone happy Christmas!!!

wish another....


Thank you dear.. Wishing you the best life can offer.. Compliments of the season

*kisses

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Literature / Re: Mirror Irony Short Story by SUGARBEE(f): 12:35pm On Nov 09, 2016
Lalasticlala fynestboi food don done.. This piece is fp worthy. Good work..
Education / Re: ABU Zaria Team Wins The Shell Eco-marathon Competition In South Africa by SUGARBEE(f): 10:39am On Oct 19, 2016
Abu Zaria.. We're naturally ahead
Celebrities / Re: Linda Ikeji Wikipedia Page Updated, Check Out What Was Added To Her Profile by SUGARBEE(f): 5:01pm On Jul 30, 2016
Wikipedia wasn't hacked... Some jobless maggots took advantage of the free editing Wikipedia has to offer...
Romance / Re: Why Do Ladies Do This? by SUGARBEE(f): 6:26pm On Jun 17, 2016
janzguy:
oh oh!! What you enumerated above, should that be the base on which friendship should be built on? Friendship should be something that is built without any need from any of the party involved, friendship should be something that mostly happens subconsciously..

Sorry but I thought the thread was on fake friendships and the likes?
Romance / Re: Why Do Ladies Do This? by SUGARBEE(f): 6:19pm On Jun 17, 2016
I see friendship a two way thing... I need someone for something, I become friends with the person.. Whether am fake or not, the person am befriending is aware am out to get something but can't avoid me because by that time, she'll also be in need of something from me... That's how friendships begins... Loyalty on the other hand is quite different
Romance / Re: This White Girl With Very Big A*ss Is Disturbing The Internet (pictures ) by SUGARBEE(f): 5:45pm On Jun 17, 2016
What's up with Nigerian men and ass's?
Celebrities / Re: The BOOBS That Drove This Pastor Nuts!!! ;D by SUGARBEE(f): 7:55pm On Apr 15, 2016
Old news... This topic already hit fp a long time ago

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Romance / Re: Dope 15 Songs You Would Enjoy On Your Track List -hiphop 'n Rnb by SUGARBEE(f): 5:16pm On Mar 22, 2016
uupgrade:
wow I never knew I have mate in music, sia one million bullets cool, but how about sia unstoppable and set free. r city Adam levine 's locked away, n make up by r city. Rachel platten stand by you. n fight song. Taylor swift out of d woods. n also wildest dreams damn I adore dat track n many more like carley jasper your type, selena Gomez same old love. if I should keep on listing I might xpload, is really good to know girls like u appreciate real music n make ur time in listening to dem I swear u will make a perfect wife becux music itself teaches in relationships for those who understands its meaning, am not talking about those crap of shoki, obobo n rest sang by some Nigerian artists

Thanks.. I have all those songs you listed on my playlist, just that if I begin mentioning them, hmmmhmm tongue tongue.. I actually download my songs every week from the US billboard, so no song/hit passes me by.. Isn't that wicked! grin wink
Romance / Re: OYA...LET THE LIES Begin....how Many Did This? by SUGARBEE(f): 7:52pm On Mar 21, 2016
BUTCHCASSIDY:



Heeeeey! Sugarbee!
How I for do na their time grin grin grin
Missed U some

Yeah.. How do you do?
Romance / Re: Dope 15 Songs You Would Enjoy On Your Track List -hiphop 'n Rnb by SUGARBEE(f): 7:49pm On Mar 21, 2016
Jacksonville:


Wow!! grin grin, you're on point... I love these songs too u mentioned..especially LA LA LA -naughty boy ft sam smith nd zero...


wah about hands to myself-selena gomez nd fight song- rachel platten ?? grin grin

Lovely songs I tell you..
Seems you have the same taste of songs that I do.. cheesy
Romance / Re: OYA...LET THE LIES Begin....how Many Did This? by SUGARBEE(f): 6:14pm On Mar 21, 2016
BUTCHCASSIDY.. Tell me you weren't bathed like this.. shocked grin cheesy.. Howdy..
Romance / Re: Dope 15 Songs You Would Enjoy On Your Track List -hiphop 'n Rnb by SUGARBEE(f): 6:00pm On Mar 21, 2016
1) Adventure of a lifetime.. Coldplay is one of the best of the best, then, pillow talk by zayn.. Back to sleep..

Then we have Janelle Monae-What is love.. Rachel platten-Lone Ranger.. Lorde-Tennis court, Sam Smith - La La la, Charlie Puth ft Selena gomez- we don't talk anymore , Sia-one million bullets, one direction - steal my girl, the weeknd - in the night, Chris Brown - zero.. John Newman ft Calvin Harris - blame

grin

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Celebrities / Re: (PHOTOS) Flavour Flaunts His Sexy Body In New Shirtless Photos by SUGARBEE(f): 12:47pm On Feb 15, 2016
undecided undecided
Education / Re: See The Six Largest Universities In Nigeria by SUGARBEE(f): 12:09pm On Feb 04, 2016
BUTCHCASSIDY:


All good... so URe back in school?


Yeah I am..

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