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jaxxy:
I’m not blaming u at all for anything here bro. Uve done the right thing sofar. Sm talking here are even big hypocrites who have done worse than u.

Equity15:
yah..possibly. try to confirm with a call .

Puregold3:
Imagine..
You invited her over...
Really...
How would u feel if u had a gf nd u call, then call her, she says her bestie invites her over..(spits)
You not a man at all..
You re Just a pussy nigga.

Equity15:
you get sense

openmine:
Op She is a selfish and manipulative person.....you should not hang around these kind of ladies!
Just leave before she sets a trap for you!

mahkanjuh:
It is easy to identify someone that really need a genuine advice or someone that is looking for public approval. Konji is a bastard, man don hear the style the lady wants, this can get off d man's mind. It is well
All I see you doing all through people's suggestions is to keep giving excuses for everything they alleged you of, reason why it was the lady's fault. Someone, who has a positive mind will be objective and be willing to do the right thing. Not necessarily, giving reasons you accepted lady's request and all of that.
All I see is a defensive tactics all throughout,
[b][/b] meanwhile, know this, the matter of this life is, what goes around, comes around. And I am sure someone like you can't joke with a male friend arojnd your girlfriend or spouse. You will soon understand, the lust may prevent the reality now. But, o ma to cast

AdewaleCoal:
My dear Brother, I understand your plight and I can see that you are trying to do the right thing.
My Advise is for you to disconnect from her because such kinda woman is not even meant for you and will do the same to you if you end up dating her.
The heartache that comes after is not worth it so I will advise that you either disconnect completely from her or You avoid indulging her.
The end is not worth it.
Yours will come and there will be no hassle.

jaxxy:
We still don’t know how this so called bf treats her and looking at the way he snuck the guys Num just to interrogate him also bt then it may be nothing so serious based on the conversation they had. I think the guy needs to ask the gal who she wants to cheat on her guy and see if there a cogent reason to leave him then fine she shud do that if her on will and not because of him.

People are free to leave relationships when they see a valid reason to. Aslong as they ain’t married.

Sunisonflex39

Bluffly:
Look here, your game plan is to have her do your bidding over time. What the heck are you checking on her for? Are you her father? Can you accept that if someone is doing that for you GF. Your game plan is coming to light and you are here asking us stupid questions. You better Bleep off.
You even betrayed the sensible BF with your devilish nature.
Spit on you.

MrBrownJay1:
thus the above is the answer to your initial questions... EOD

MrBrownJay1:
good how?! the bf asked you to back off for the sanity of their r/ship, and you are still around... now she wants to fukc you... is that your idea of "good"?!?!?!?



if thats was remotely true then you wouldnt have come to NL asking us what to do....and instead would tell this women to SHUT THE FUKC UP!



that would be true if you didnt know what she wanted...but now that you know (and you still want to be around her) makes you SUSPECT... i would even say DISGUSTING (if you put yourself in her man's shoes).
what do you want exactly? you want friendship (supposedly) she wants sex... so you only have 2 options here: you go ahead and fukc her or get the hell out of her life, but dont come her with this "i care for her" BS.



there is NO sense in everything you write.... answer these 2 simple questions truthfully:
1) is that the type of woman that you desire in your life (aka dishonest deceitful disrespectful untrustworthy woman)?
2) put yourself in her man's shoes and tell us exactly how you would view your actions?

MrBrownJay1:
from the beginning you want this babe, the only reason you stayed around is to be with this babe... you were willing to disregard r/ship common sense and stick around even after her dude asked you to back off, and most importantly, YOU are the reason why they are having difficulties in their r/ship..... and now that you have succeeded in your evil plan and the babe decided that she wants to give you a shot at her coochie, you want to pretend holier than thou coming to NL asking what to do?!?!?!?!? really?!?!?!?!?

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Allsingles:
If she break up with her boyfriend because of you, she will break up with you because of another guy.
Also, Don't create enemity between you and her boyfriend, give up on her even though I know is not easy but you can do it.
Go for another girl is better than being the cause of another man's sadness.

Sunisonflex39:

Sunisonflex39:

MrBrownJay1:
bro...for the last time.... you gotta be HONEST with your own damn self. all these lies you are bringing are making NO DAMN SENSE!

ok lets go back again:
A) you meet a girl, you like her, chat her up and want to be with her and make advances. then she tells you she has a boyfriend.
COMMON SENSE: any normal man with common sense would simply back down and let this woman be..... oh but not you! you instead decided to back down and "call her to check up on her as much as possible"
the important question IS: why exactly?! what were you checking? her temperature? the weather? or simply putting yourself in a strategic position where you will be able to attack the minute there issue in her r/ship?!?!?!?!

B) her man notices you and asks you to back down, because you are in the way of his r/ship with the babe.
COMMON SENSE: any man with common sense would have back down for good... oh but NOT you. the minute babe called you , you instead ratted the dude out and further damage their r/ship.
the important question IS: what did you expect would happen when you run your mouth to her ?!?!?!?!?

C) the babe now come to you and say that she wants you to be her bestfriend as before...and you agreed because " you make her happy".
COMMON SENSE: come on bro, come on!!!!! how old are you to be telling us that much BS. you have NEVER planned on leaving this babe and have been sticking to her (like glue) since day one expecting her to fall so you can be there to catch her on the rebound...which is exactly what is happening.
the important question IS: what kind of "friend" are you to prefer destroying her r/ship so that you can be happy together?

here is the main question that you need to answer: put yourself in her man's shoes and tell us all (with a straight face) that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your actions

MrBrownJay1:
bro...for the last time.... you gotta be HONEST with your own damn self. all these lies you are bringing are making NO DAMN SENSE!

ok lets go back again:
A) you meet a girl, you like her, chat her up and want to be with her and make advances. then she tells you she has a boyfriend.
COMMON SENSE: any normal man with common sense would simply back down and let this woman be..... oh but not you! you instead decided to back down and "call her to check up on her as much as possible"
the important question IS: why exactly?! what were you checking? her temperature? the weather? or simply putting yourself in a strategic position where you will be able to attack the minute there issue in her r/ship?!?!?!?!

B) her man notices you and asks you to back down, because you are in the way of his r/ship with the babe.
COMMON SENSE: any man with common sense would have back down for good... oh but NOT you. the minute babe called you , you instead ratted the dude out and further damage their r/ship.
the important question IS: what did you expect would happen when you run your mouth to her ?!?!?!?!?

C) the babe now come to you and say that she wants you to be her bestfriend as before...and you agreed because " you make her happy".
COMMON SENSE: come on bro, come on!!!!! how old are you to be telling us that much BS. you have NEVER planned on leaving this babe and have been sticking to her (like glue) since day one expecting her to fall so you can be there to catch her on the rebound...which is exactly what is happening.
the important question IS: what kind of "friend" are you to prefer destroying her r/ship so that you can be happy together?

here is the main question that you need to answer: put yourself in her man's shoes and tell us all (with a straight face) that there is absolutely nothing wrong with your actions

MrBrownJay1:
we all know that you didnt.... because thats what a REAL man would have done.

murphyibiam15:
LMAO, you're playing emotional game with her, I know your type..How can u be a best friend to her? how?

her cries mean nothing and you know this

murphyibiam15:
that guy is only interested in banging the babe, he's only pretending.. he's being emotionally cunning claiming not to want the gal.. LMAO

theTransporter:
all of you that are bashing op, forming saints could have even done worst sef... una for Don even kpansh d babe teh teh, but for op to come here still shows that this wasn't his initial plan, make una reason am like that... that guy has been dating himself for long thanks to op, op shouldn't have stayed glued to a lady in a relationship cos with time feeling start to build up from d girl... I have a similar story which I don't want to share yet... d op just needed advice, if you have a nice one, then help him out, if you are here as accuser of the poor naive dude, then f**k off...we agree here to read up things and help one another out not to accuse

MrBrownJay1:
FIXED

kenir:
Lets try this convo
girl: sonflex you have changed o

sonflex: swiri how do you mean

girl: you haven't been calling as usual, neither have you been texting, what's wrong? Did i offend you?

sonflex: no babe, it's complicated

girl: then uncomplicate it

sonflex: hmmm, you will not understand

girl: talk!

sonflex: ur boyfriend had a chat with me and politely asked me to stay away from you cause he's not comfortable with how close we are

girl: my boyfriend did what!
sonflex: baby calm down, he means well, he just did what any guy would do

girl: i'm goin to confront him, he has to tell me the meaning of what he did!

sonflex: please baby don't, you're not supposed to know this

girl: okay i won't if you promise you won't leave me

sonflex: i promise

i don't know what you were thinking when you snitched like this

eazzzy1:
You need to talk to her boyfriend as a gentleman. Tell him his girl likes you and both of you can be playing her because she isn’t right for him.

The girl will cheat on her boyfriend either with you or someone else. Just ensure you use protection with her and don’t fall in love with her either.

clapper04:
A snitch, that is what you are bros. A fucking snitch. You deliberately turned the girl against her boyfriend by telling her her bf had a conversation with you and pls stop acting as though you need a 6 month training on how to walk away. You really want to hit that kpekus, go for it but remember, what goes around comes around.

kenir:
Lets try this convo
girl: sonflex you have changed o

sonflex: swiri how do you mean

girl: you haven't been calling as usual, neither have you been texting, what's wrong? Did i offend you?

sonflex: no babe, it's complicated

girl: then uncomplicate it

sonflex: hmmm, you will not understand

girl: talk!

sonflex: ur boyfriend had a chat with me and politely asked me to stay away from you cause he's not comfortable with how close we are

girl: my boyfriend did what!
sonflex: baby calm down, he means well, he just did what any guy would do

girl: i'm goin to confront him, he has to tell me the meaning of what he did!

sonflex: please baby don't, you're not supposed to know this

girl: okay i won't if you promise you won't leave me

sonflex: i promise

i don't know what you were thinking when you snitched like this

OladimejiRufai:
yes now. Her statement explains that.

She said she's been keeping it from and didn't know how to tell you. That's why everything seemed "fine" before until she spoke out.

I hope you get?

OladimejiRufai:
This matter is really simple, I think.

Isn't relationship meant to be fun? Isn't one's partner meant to make one happy and fulfilled? Isn't it appropriate so as to avoid infidelity and problems that one should seek a partner that his/her heart feels strongly connected to and finds delight and solace in?

So if someone makes a mistake in fulfilling the above criteria, and the relationship is still at "relationship" stage, shouldn't the person correct it before marriage?

If the girl doesn't like the guy, it's very simple. Let her break up with him. Let her explain to him in the simplest and most gentle terms and manner. Let her make him realise that she wouldn't be happy neither will she commit to the relationship If they carry on because her heart is not with him and the guy wouldn't be happy either and eventually the relationship will still hit the rocks or will be filled with problems till the end.

Then let her go for who she loves.

But why did she accept to be in the relationship with him in first place? Girls can be funny ehn

No wait, guys do it too. in short, human beings can be funny

MrBrownJay1:
again bro....you gotta be HONEST with your own damn self. if you "say" you will back off, then you DO IT. if the babe can simply call you and you will run your mouth like an emotional girl on her period (and rat her man out), then its clear that you sir are only plotting against this dude all along.
you CANT be the best friend of this deceitful dishonest disrespectful woman... because you fully well know what she wants, and you know that it aint RIGHT. stop pretending to not understand what is going on here. part of the problem is YOU

how can you respect the fact that she has a man when you told her man you would back off, and continued your rubbish instead?!?!?!?!?!

funny enough...men like you would be upset when she starts dating you and having "bestfriends".....lol!

MrBrownJay1:
bro, again, you have to be honest with your own self....A) you are indeed a r/ship breaker and B) this woman is in a r/ship and you fully well know that the dude is uncomfortable with you being around his woman ( to which you have agreed to back off)... only for you to do exactly the same thing AND even considering her deceitful dishonest disrespectful demands.

here is what you should do: tell her you would do anything she wants the day she breaks up with her man, and you can confirm it with HIM.

then you can be happy with this cheating woman until she cheats on YOU the exact same way.




she reacted in such a way because of A) your cheap tricks (staying around her while saying you would back off) and B) you snitching on her man (despicable dude).... how can you expect their r/ship to get better?!?! you have to take your fair share of the blame for having their r/ship being such a failure (partly thanks to you).



well done....brotha "captain save a hoe"

niaralandtopuser:
there is no boyfriend anywhere. The guy is just dating himself

Edyice:
How will you tell the gal what her man told you ?

Uncle both of us know wella say you want knack

Just go and knack , that's what you wanted for telling her and bringing confusion....

You should know that if you spoil this and successfully take her away , another lad will work on her same way

Unless you only want knack regularly or sometimes not letting her man knows... (Its called bestie with benefits )

niaralandtopuser:
There is no relationship anywhere. The girl was already cheating with you emotionally. You should have stayed away if you are too weak to take what is yours