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My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:08pm On Nov 19, 2019
I met this girl two years ago, to cut long story short, she told me that she is in a relationship. I respected the fact that she has a guy and I stopped making advance as a gentleman. But I call as much as possible just to check on her.

Then one night, her boyfriend chatted me up on Whatsapp and as gentlemen, we talked about it like matured people and I told him I am not gonna stick around that he should talk to his girlfriend.

I asked how he got my number, he said he secretly took it from her phone because of the many calls and most times I call, both of them are together.

I asked him what has the girl been telling him about me, he told me she is saying we are just friends and nothing much.

II apologized to him and said I will watch my limits that he should talk to the girl himself about it.

Two days passed, I have stopped calling the girl like I used to, then on the third day she called and asked me why did I change all of a sudden that I no longer chat her up or call like I used to, she was being emotional, and as a good friend, I love her and wouldn't want to see her sad.

I opened up to her about what transpired between me and her guy and I begged her not to confront him. She was so mad at the guy for chatting me up after she has told him many times that I am "just a friend".

I told the girl that for the sake of her relationship, I don't want to stick around and I don't want to be the guy that breaks people's relationships.

The girl started crying and said I should not leave her, that I should at least be her best friend that she can't loss me..

I agreed to be the bestfriend so as to make her feel happy..

Fast forward to this week, the girl said she loves me so much and didn't know how to tell me before and she is kind of confused to chose between her guy and me. I told her that I love her too but she should not leave anybody for me that we should just continue being friends and see what the future holds because no one knows tomorrow.

Few days ago, the girl said she wants to have sex with me.. and even going as far as telling me the style she wants..

I respect the fact that she is in a relationship and I even told her about it, but she was having non of it.

Please nairalanders, what should I do.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by charleff512(m): 4:15pm On Nov 19, 2019
Nna! You know what to do. Why asking?
All you want is approval and validation.No be so?

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by sweetonugbu: 4:15pm On Nov 19, 2019
Can I have the girls number, I need to advice her serious,a private section with her.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by sweetonugbu: 4:16pm On Nov 19, 2019
You are just a fallback, oche ndabere

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Nobody: 4:16pm On Nov 19, 2019
Young man that lady is playing both of you . Both of you are important to her one way or the other . From your story I think the real boyfriend provide the cash while you will supply her a mind blowing sex. Her asking you for sex proves she is not enjoying sex with her main boyfriend .

Guy leave that lady, money will always win over anything . In fact you are already a looser .

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by officialfestus(m): 4:17pm On Nov 19, 2019
man up and take the bull by the horn


modified:she told you she's in a relationship and you didn't relent in calling her,now you've ended their relationship and you're now seeking for order to carry out your plan....but have it in mind that after you've succeeded in seeing her vj,the said feelings you have for her will fade away like rag.... Na wetin man sow na him dey wear.... Hundred years soup no dey sawa (you and that guy don cross path)

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by lilmax(m): 4:17pm On Nov 19, 2019
but I call as much as possible just to check on her.


LOL

Who do you think you're fooling?

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by DaHrNn0001: 4:19pm On Nov 19, 2019
Knack or Pass... You owe yourself the responsibility to consider everything.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Nobody: 4:24pm On Nov 19, 2019
You said he confronted you gentlemanly, and you both reached terms of agreement. With this, you shouldn't have opened up to the lady, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't confront her partner.

To be honest, you have destroyed that relationship, even though you don't realize it. Trying to fix it might be ineffective but you have to try anyway, so you only have two options. You either cut all ties with the lady and go your way, and let things naturally fall into place, or stick with her as a friend and maybe become her man later on. Remember one thing however, what goes around comes around.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by MrBrownJay1(m): 4:26pm On Nov 19, 2019
you have to be honest with your own self.... IS THAT THE TYPE OF WOMAN YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE? a deceitful, disrespectful, dishonest person who is willing to sleep with you?!

remember, what you wish will be what you will get, and when she will be tired of you, she will play you the same way she has been playing this guy all along (and he was right to be suspicious about her). a woman who cheat on her man to be with you, will cheat on you to be with other men....FACT!!!!!

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:31pm On Nov 19, 2019
Sirvingeo:
Young man that lady is playing both of you . Both of you are important to her one way or the other . From your story I think the real boyfriend provide the cash while you will supply her a mind blowing sex. Her asking you for sex proves she is not enjoying sex with her main boyfriend .

Guy leave that lady, money will always win over anything . In fact you are already a looser .
noted bro
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:32pm On Nov 19, 2019
MrBrownJay1:
you have to be honest with your own self.... IS THAT THE TYPE OF WOMAN YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE? a deceitful, disrespectful, dishonest person who is willing to sleep with you?!

remember, what you wish will be what you will get, and when she will be tired of you, she will play you the same way she has been playing this guy all along (and he was right to be suspicious about her). a woman who cheat on her man to be with you, will cheat on you to be with other men....FACT!!!!!
as a gentleman, I have talked to her about all of this..

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:34pm On Nov 19, 2019
GeniusWannabe:
You said he confronted you gentlemanly, and you both reached terms of agreement. With this, you shouldn't have opened up to the lady, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she wouldn't confront her partner.

To be honest, you have destroyed that relationship, even though you don't realize it. Trying to fix it might be ineffective but you have to try anyway, so you only have two options. You either cut all ties with the lady and go your way, and let things naturally fall into place, or stick with her as a friend and maybe become her man later on. Remember one thing however, what goes around comes around.
i told her I wouldn't be sticking around anymore,but she was crying and begging that I shouldn't cut my self away from her.
she asked me to at least be her best friend which I agreed on. everything was going on well until recently she started this behavior.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Nobody: 4:36pm On Nov 19, 2019
Sunisonflex39:
i told her I wouldn't be sticking around anymore,but she was crying and begging that I shouldn't cut my self away from her.
she asked me to at least be her best friend which I agreed on. everything was going on well until recently she started this behavior.
The tears and pleas should have given you a sign. You should have read that sign.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:37pm On Nov 19, 2019
Sirvingeo:
Young man that lady is playing both of you . Both of you are important to her one way or the other . From your story I think the real boyfriend provide the cash while you will supply her a mind blowing sex. Her asking you for sex proves she is not enjoying sex with her main boyfriend .

Guy leave that lady, money will always win over anything . In fact you are already a looser .
aAs a gentleman, I told her I won't be sticking around. but she begged and cried that I should at least be her best friend that she can't stand the sight of loosing me totally..as friends, everything was going well until recently when she started this behavior.
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:37pm On Nov 19, 2019
GeniusWannabe:

The tears and pleas should have given you a sign. You should have read that sign.
explain bro
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:38pm On Nov 19, 2019
GeniusWannabe:

The tears and pleas should have given you a sign. You should have read that sign.
explain bro.
I just want to see her happy all the time that's why I agreed
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:40pm On Nov 19, 2019
MrBrownJay1:
you have to be honest with your own self.... IS THAT THE TYPE OF WOMAN YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE? a deceitful, disrespectful, dishonest person who is willing to sleep with you?!

remember, what you wish will be what you will get, and when she will be tired of you, she will play you the same way she has been playing this guy all along (and he was right to be suspicious about her). a woman who cheat on her man to be with you, will cheat on you to be with other men....FACT!!!!!
I have talked to her to change some ways... but just recently she started acting like this.
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 4:41pm On Nov 19, 2019
MrBrownJay1:
you have to be honest with your own self.... IS THAT THE TYPE OF WOMAN YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE? a deceitful, disrespectful, dishonest person who is willing to sleep with you?!

remember, what you wish will be what you will get, and when she will be tired of you, she will play you the same way she has been playing this guy all along (and he was right to be suspicious about her). a woman who cheat on her man to be with you, will cheat on you to be with other men....FACT!!!!!
I am not a relationship breaker bro. that's why I have been trying my best.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by ThugBoy(m): 4:50pm On Nov 19, 2019
Na Romance Scam, how Yahoo boys Tek dey collect wife from husband, las Las na billing!

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 5:00pm On Nov 19, 2019
ThugBoy:
Na Romance Scam, how Yahoo boys Tek dey collect wife from husband, las Las na billing!
how do u mean?
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Nobody: 5:01pm On Nov 19, 2019
I just want to remind you that they are not married. Why are you too weak to take what is available
Sunisonflex39:
i told her I wouldn't be sticking around anymore,but she was crying and begging that I shouldn't cut my self away from her.
she asked me to at least be her best friend which I agreed on. everything was going on well until recently she started this behavior.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by LoudlyMouthed: 5:12pm On Nov 19, 2019
charleff512:
Nna! You know what to do. Why asking?
All you want is approval and validation.No be so?
o su mi ooo
He's now coming here to ask for wot?

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by LoudlyMouthed: 5:15pm On Nov 19, 2019
Sunisonflex39:
I am not a relationship breaker bro. that's why I have been trying my best.
Shot d 4k hop ma friend !
If na yur story d guy rite here, tell us what you think mk d him do

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 5:20pm On Nov 19, 2019
niaralandtopuser:
I just want to remind you that they are not married. Why are you too weak to take what is available


bro am not a relationship breaker.
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Nobody: 5:25pm On Nov 19, 2019
There is no relationship anywhere. The girl was already cheating with you emotionally. You should have stayed away if you are too weak to take what is yours
Sunisonflex39:


bro am not a relationship breaker.

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Edyice: 5:27pm On Nov 19, 2019
How will you tell the gal what her man told you ?

Uncle both of us know wella say you want knack

Just go and knack , that's what you wanted for telling her and bringing confusion....

You should know that if you spoil this and successfully take her away , another lad will work on her same way grin and pray it's not me because with my 6.3 inches eggplant cool .. I don't need to explain the damage to you..

Unless you only want knack regularly or sometimes not letting her man knows... (Its called bestie with benefits grin)

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 5:34pm On Nov 19, 2019
niaralandtopuser:
There is no relationship anywhere. The girl was already cheating with you emotionally. You should have stayed away if you are too weak to take what is yours
i tried staying away after her boyfriend confronted me.. but she was begging me to at least be her best friend that I should not leave her life completely.
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by Sunisonflex39(m): 5:37pm On Nov 19, 2019
Edyice:
How will you tell the gal what her man told you ?

Uncle both of us know wella say you want knack

Just go and knack , that's what you wanted for telling her and bringing confusion....

You should know that if you spoil this and successfully take her away , another lad will work on her same way grin

Unless you only want knack regularly or sometimes not letting her man knows... (Its called bestie with benefits grin)

I don't plan breaking her relationship,i only want to see her happy.
Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:38pm On Nov 19, 2019
Sunisonflex39:
I am not a relationship breaker bro. that's why I have been trying my best.

bro, again, you have to be honest with your own self....A) you are indeed a r/ship breaker and B) this woman is in a r/ship and you fully well know that the dude is uncomfortable with you being around his woman ( to which you have agreed to back off)... only for you to do exactly the same thing AND even considering her deceitful dishonest disrespectful demands.

here is what you should do: tell her you would do anything she wants the day she breaks up with her man, and you can confirm it with HIM.

then you can be happy with this cheating woman until she cheats on YOU the exact same way.

Sunisonflex39:
I have talked to her to change some ways... but just recently she started acting like this.
Sunisonflex39:
I am not a relationship breaker bro. that's why I have been trying my best.

she reacted in such a way because of A) your cheap tricks (staying around her while saying you would back off) and B) you snitching on her man (despicable dude).... how can you expect their r/ship to get better?!?! you have to take your fair share of the blame for having their r/ship being such a failure (partly thanks to you).

Sunisonflex39:
explain bro.
I just want to see her happy all the time that's why I agreed

well done....brotha "captain save a hoe"

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Re: My Friend Told Her Boyfriend That I Am Just A Friend,, Now This Is Happening. by ITbomb(m): 5:45pm On Nov 19, 2019
If you don't want to see her sad, do what she wants
I hate nonsense

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