[size=15pt]research on casual sex found that despite women’s claims that they can have carefree sex unattached: 80 percent of men had overall positive feelings; meanwhile, only 54 percent of women had positive feelings. Instead, they felt “regret at being used.” Women said, “I felt cheap,” “horrified afterward,” and “I felt degraded. Made myself look cheap and easy. Total regret.[/size]”
Just in case you guys think they are having fun, most "players" are actually suffering silently
"those who reported serious thoughts of suicide or more depressive symptoms as teens were more likely to engage in casual sex as young adults. In other words, poor mental state and casual sex do reinforce each other"
CindyeMerAld: yes u can if u truly love her...besyds hers is nt dt bad, i have seen worse cases...at least she can count how many, some gals cant count cos its 2 much
ettaetta: I’ve always wondered how some of you can be so cold. How you can have a wife here, a mistress there, and 30 side chicks spread everywhere, yet tell someone that you only want to be with them. Does sleep come easy knowing that your promiscuous ways and playboy antics crush hearts and bruise self-esteem, causing pain and bitterness for women who love you more than you love yourselves?.
I bet it never occurred to you that you’re dogging another man’s daughter; some other man’s sister, niece, cousin or mother, You may not realize it now, but a lot of your indiscretions are being tallied up on the board of life. And once you meet Karma, you’re sure to feel the true wrath of a woman—just like with anything else we do in life, your behavior could come back to you. I’d bet that it will. Maybe when you’re ready to settle down, the woman who vows to love and honor you will milk you for everything that you have and leave you feeling the heartache and pain that you’ve caused so many over the course of your “playa” years. Perhaps you’ll find that the love of your life is as loose as a goose, then the tears that leaked from the eyes of your ex will pool from yours.
You may not want to believe it, you may not think it can happen, but the games that you play, the lies that you tell, and humiliation that you cause will come back to you one day. It happens to everyone, man or woman. Whether it’s through your love life, or your future seeds, somehow, someway, you will find yourself on Karma’s receiving end. I just hope that the next time you decide to play with a woman’s heart, you remember that a woman just might do the same to you, or another man might do it to your daughter. Thanks
chiefmidwife: Pls help a nairalander I saw a girl I love in a flat I newly relocated We are seeing everyday but I don't know how to tell her I love her and ask her for friendship I called her around 11pm last night and told her that we will see today I later text her that I love her bt don't know hw to tell her Pls what and hw should I approach her today? Ur advice
Oboi you be gentleman o! Don't take advice from these dragons on Nairaland. Your approach is better than their animal instincts. If she does not like your mellow style, let her go.
[quote author=Pheals post=45105432][/quote]This is very unfair characterization of a person in need of help. It is not like I don't know something is wrong. I am sure there are other guys here with more babes. I just see it as a major problem in my life in need of correction. Una sabi judge person o!
i am not sure how I got tangled up in this mess but as they say "body no be wood". I now hate that lifestyle and I want to do something about it, but I don't know where to start.
I swear I did not know this could ever be a problem but wahala dey. I have too many babes (about 14), all of which call me their boyfriend. I am ready to settle down but this mess needs to be cleaned up ASAP. My main problem is that I have at least 5 that I feel like will make good wives, but it is hard making a choice. This has become a chronic problem keeping me up at night. I used to enjoy being a player, but now it is causing me sorrow. Anyone with similar problems?
jaelz: Okay there's this girl that i really like a lot but the problem is that i know of someone not really a friend just the oh boy how far greetings kinda friend that used to date the girl back then and men u know guys with shagging and bragging now. I mean what i have heard about the way he bleeped her and how she did snake in the monkey shadow style on the bed for her. Just restrains me from walking up to her though i really love her much, am just so so confused right now. Please my dear nairalander i need your advice.
Chop and run. It will haunt you for ever if you are friends with that guy.
armylord: Ive been dating her for 5 months plus nd this nigga is still texting her on fb , still talking bout how he missed her? , I'm d impatient type, plus I'm bad tempered, This nigga saw us together nd is still texting, what's his problem . I'm thinking of texting him on fb to stop bothering her ?
She needs to handle her business or you need to bounce. It is not your job to take care of her EX, and the same goes for your own EXs. Those people telling you to put a ring on it before you can get mad have no clue about marriage. Problems don't go away with rings, they get bigger.