If you "honestly" dont mind a "limited" relationship, sure!

You can only know what the other person tells you online, You will never know 4 sure about this person until you are face 2 face and have spent quality time, Anyone can pretend to be "perfect" online,
You would be settling for a non-realistic approach to love,

Such jealousy!! LOLOLOLOL!! None of my info is even true except that I am in the "USA" and that I love Dior!  (You never touched Dior?? huh) WOW, I made you soooo angry that you are checking my profile, LMAO!!! You love me dont you, HAHHA Broke, angry, ass, Angry at "successful" women that have successful men, like myself, I love it, Thank you, Sorry, Now go back to your hut and mud puddles, ahhhh he he Come walk my dogs and clean up for me o,   AMEBO NO 1 = nairalands STALKER  Im definitely through responding to you Thank you for the lovely entertainment!!

StephenP- Once again, its great to see the responses to the post, Its great to hear all the "opinions"
If there are questions then I try to supply a response, If it comes out rude, its just in response to a question or a post that has been posted, Hey, everyone has an opinion, thats the point of me posting, So I can hear the opinions, Dont tell me to stop with the insults as if I am randomly supplying insults, Some need a taste of there own ignorance, I dont mind giving it back sometimes, May need a spark at times,

Far from denial, WAT IS THERE TO DENY If anything Im wide open about everything, WTF?

Dede1 - This is a forum, I can care less what the public says honey, Its only entertainment for me, Sorry, you feel different and really think I give a damn about what you post This passes time away when I need a break from studying, Actually its a study for me to see the difference between two cultures, I have posted this on two different forums to see the difference in responses,

So thanks for participating in my study with your idiotic responses, You cant help it, I understand,
Just dont get soooo upset if I give your "ignorance" right back to you, Ok?
Oh and Dede by the way, Go F&*^K ya self again, lol

@spikedcylinder- I have attempted to answer most of the questions? not sure what I have not made clear,

and whatever amebo is -He/she is still an A$$hole,

OMO IBO wrote:  "the other woman served her purpose and in my opinion that was smart move by sweetpie. she eats her cake and still keeps it"

Exactly OMO IBO thank u,
Dont get me wrong this is not the "picture perfect" situation, but, Its "my" situation, and my love for him is what drives me to stick by his side throughout this. Despite his flaws, he is a great man, very loving and worships the ground I walk on, and I reciprocate the same to him


@ delaice & @spikedcylinder- Yes he was living with her and had already had her in place to marry for green card when I met him.  We started to fall for each other so he decided to ask me instead. I really, really wanted to help but, I had to protect myself first. I did not want my relationship based on citizenship. I wanted to know I had true love with no strings attached,

So, I advised him that if we were meant to be, we will get through it all and be together in the end. The female he married knew she was marrying him for his greencard, even though she asked him if they had any chance at a real relationship. She knew it would not happen, and it didnt and they are now threw, He does not live with her anymore.

He is determined to make us work and rebuild my trust for him. It will take some time, but I have forgave him.
Time heals all wounds, On the other hand; I don't believe in repeat offenders,

Its nice to hear what total strangers think of a situation, I find all the posts quite entertaining

@delaice- amebo no.1 is an Angry person and he lives a miserable life, He has told me that he secretly desires men and I told him I disagree so now he FIRES at me on the forums, He needs a man to release his frustrations, he is extremely unattractive and cannot get a gay partner to save his life!, Im sorry 4 u Amebo. He has been hurt before and very angry, On top of that he is BROKE and life is hard right now for him, Sorry!

@Dede1- Another A$$, Has no clue on the post, Hey Dede1 Go F&*^K ya self,

@AsmeboNo1- I answered your question on the calling issue idiot. You are a waste of typing, You are becoming boring now, What a waste of a human life.

Love is defined by the two individuals that share it,
Love has no standard definition in my book.
Yes true love does exist. True love is so beautiful, Wat a great feeling to love and be loved back in return,
Its ok to let loose and let your emotions show when u are with your true love,

@Amebo#1 - HaHaHa, I have struck a nerve!!! hehehe~ So upset and angry on a forum, nothing worse than a SCORNED MAN*** Sorry u are soooo angry at women and cannot get a decent woman b/c u are aF%^K UP!!!!
Better Luck this year you lonely, uneducated, piece of filth. Now take you head out of your A$$ slowpoke and get a better attitude as a man, Maybe some other piece of trash out there may want you, Smooches

@davidylan- You are obviously a loser or you would know how much a Masters or Doctorate in CS brings in in the
USA. **SIX FIGURES** (and I start on my Masters this year), Me being a software engineer I will be able to buy you "DAVIDYLAN", Maybe you can clean our house or walk our dogs, LOL!! Dont be bitter, Now go back to waddle in the mud puddle you crawled out of, LOL

@ OMO IBO- You fully grasp the situation I see,   I was left out of the loop!

@Amebo#1- What a scorned idiot, I talked to "Him" about this situation, You only see the details I post so dont be such a "dumb GOAT yourself! Stop "ASSuming, My convo with her was totally unknown to her that it was of relevance to this situation, I asked 2 probing questions to receive all that I needed. She never had a clue. Took less than 2 minutes! U HAVE NO IDEA, So stay in line and go and shove your foot in you mouth now, I dont do those type of things,
sorry, not that type of chic. You have to upgrade the sorry females you are attempting to date, Maybe in 2009! Enjoy

@sweetpie.This might be personal but  were  u in the position to help him acquire his green card ?I meant are u a citizen?i know where am coming from because i have friends who had similar experiences.anyway the guys have said it all.He might care for you but he's very determined and u wont stop him.He's in control and more inteligent than u.

@martho- Thats ok if he if he is determined,  I love a determined man. Im not trying to stop him in any way.
                As far as "stopping" him from having a situation like this occur once again,  Your absolutely correct!
                I wont stop him,  I will LEAVE HIM, LOL,  I love him alot but my tolerance for repeat mishaps is ZERO.
                As far as being in control,   Maybe for his "male-ego" I may allow him to "feel" in control at times, 
                As for intelligence, He is a highly intelligent man. I am a highly intelligent woman. Nuff said.

@vonny- "WHATEVER A MAN IS TO OTHER WOMEN, HE WILL BE TO YOU, EVENTUALLY"
                  --What?? I totally DISAGREE-  rethink that one,
             - "By the way, a 10,000 dollar loan doesn't come from 'one night' of sex"
                  --I dont think I mentioned anywhere in my post that I assumed this was a one night ordeal"
             - "Please don't rationalize this statement, "
                 -- Im not rationalizing anything,  It is what it is,  You only know the details I have posted so just
                     relax and keep that in mind. Your not dealing with a naive female, Trust**
                    On the other hand you obviously looked at your Aunts situation   
                    and judged without reading my post clearly,  understandable,
The difference between me and your aunt is, 
He needed this loan  for his "masters" not his "doctorate". Money is better now. I am not sitting around waiting while he is struggling for money and going through with med-school.  This ordeal happened in 2007, I jnow know of the ordeal in 2009. So, sorry your Auntie was dropped after his law school but, I am finishing my degree, soon to be starting my Masters. Therefore, "I am not waiting around for him" We "both" are finishing up our goals. 

Why r u confused? If she is supposed to be your girl, you are the one who is wrong
You have text messages from other females that are breaking her heart, Why not just dump her already?
This is full enjoyment 4 u!

This also strokes your ego and you are not ready to let the idiot out of your life yet,

Anyways, Enjoy!

MEN

Well if she really loves him and HE is "WORTH" it, Maybe it may be worth her while before dumping d guy to find out if it is his baby,

If that is not an option 4 her, then she must suck it up, it will be a long road to healing after 4 years, Time heals all,

Does she even knw Tell her whats on ya mind or keep it moving,

I have been with a loving, wonderful man for 4 years now. We love each other and have talked about marriage/kids after we are both done with our studies. He is in Med-School to become a medical doctor(Genetics) I am in school finishing my Computer Science degree. We have thus far; had a really fun, great, loving relationship. 

When we met, he had legal issues with obtaining his greencard. I advised him that I wanted to continue our relationship but, I "could not' help him with obtaining his greencard. Doing things like that goes against everything that I am,  Plus, I did not want to take a chance at being another "STATISTIC"

Therefore, I told him I would understand completely if he married a female so he can obtain it,   I have fully accepted this. It has been really, really hard but,  this is the situation. (Things are better now that he is living away at med-school)

Years, past and in early 2007 he wanted to obtain his Masters degree. We went to the school together, checked it out and he decided to attend. I was happy for him. This is where things went really sour,

He told me that he needed a student loan to pay for the Masters program.
I could not help him, His mother could not help him either,  No other relatives are here to help.
Now, I find out that he cheated on me with a female he worked with for the student loan,
He did whatever it took so she would cosign for a 10,000 dollar loan.

I am so shocked and upset that he did this . I spoke with her and she seemed like such an airhead.
I know 4 sure he is no longer seeing the girl. He dropped her like a bad habit after getting what he wanted.

He used her for the loan and now tells me that this is in the past. (since I just found out 3 weeks ago)
He says--> "I'm sorry I have done this. Its all in the past now. She has been useful to me, You are the one I love, trust and will marry".

I love him will all my heart and want to make it work but, 
Im shocked at how heartless and calculating he can be, 
I had no idea. Its all about his academics and success,  What would you do in this situation?? 

Only once previous did I "think" I was in love, Now I have met my sweetie 4 years and counting, Anything can happen though, At least I know that this time around it is true love