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IjeBos:
I grew up watching my dad mercilessly beat the hell out of my mom in front us and though we are in the West, she stayed with him because of cultural brainwashing. Money is a great separator. The problem is a lot of men are marrying women who they can control with money. But the world is changing and women can make their own money now. When a woman does make more money or makes enough to be independent, they lose that control. And some Nigerian men, can't successfully be in a relationship where it's even 60 40 in their favor. Why should someone continue to take abuse esp. if they are the breadwinner. Some Nigerian men somehow think God created them Gods to loom over woman. Their wives work 100 hours a week, are the breadwinners and their husbands expect them to still come home make dinner and serve them, while they sit at home.

Treat women how you would want someone to treat you. And pick someone who you want to be your partner, not your slave.

Well said brother, may God bless your sisters if you have any and your female children with a good man that will take them as their friends mother and siblings as well in Jesus name Amen.

seyi360:
Ladies are most guilty of this, after feeling choked by a man's relentless wooing, to pity his "destiny", they give in. This wrong footing gives undue advantage to an exploitative woman calling the shots. In some instances, the lady eventually falls in love , but not often. On many occasions, after milking him , she dumps him.

Some guys too do the same.
Have you loved or been loved out of pity?

Story of my life right now because my guy whom I love more than life itself is currently loving me out of pity and I can't seem to get over him because I'm still very much in love with him and I see no other person but him, the worst part is that he has refused to tell me the truth that he is no longer in love with me because I have been asking him to open up to me so that I can learn to move on even though is not easy to move but at least so that I can open my heart again and well look for someone who won't give up on me easily the way he did.

TripleDdotcom:
Faults and being prone to error is one of the things that define humanity. But dealing with it with the right attitude is what's important.

The wrong attitude - like some people do - is to recognize the attitude and continue with it or not bother to change it due to malicious desires or the carefree attitude and excuse of "everybody has faults".

But the right attitude is to recognize that fault and strive as much as possible to correct it; getting back up and continue to try if someone fails or relapses in it.

People are out there with their own faults; there's most likely something you wouldn't like if your present girl was replaced with a thousand different women. You'll probably find an area where she's lagging in character just as you yourself are lagging in perfect character to some extent.

So eliminating someone from your life - just because she has a MANAGEABLE/REPARABLE fault - is somewhat illogical or not ideal as a move.

Anger is not a good thing. it destroys things and its consequences can be very disastrous. There are numerous aspects or examples of life affairs that I could give in which if anger was to be applied, calamities will most likely follow.

What you must do now is to come together with her to identify this problem and try as much as you can - with all credible means within your capacity - to rid her of this problem. On that (the measures you're going to take), you should do your research. This is not a time to leave her. She needs your help; it's a time for you to help her.

But if after all efforts and no considerable changes have reflected, then you have to pick a choice.

Take her like that, knowing you're at risk of whatever fate has in store for you as a consequence of her anger OR you leave her to free yourself from whatever her problem could result to for you in future.

Take care son, and God guide you.


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Well said, I don't know why most people advise lovers to leave their partners because of a fault which isn't their making and by the way, love is all about helping each other overcome their weaknesses and not abandon them to deal with it, if we don't help our partners overcome their flaws then why are we friends and lovers?

Raysleek:
You no dey shame, after asking a girl you haven't married to help you, you still come and expose yourself online. Girl that you will leave immediately you get another higher paying girlfriend. If you can't afford 7k for your own needs, you have no business getting married. Stop using marriage to deceive young girls.

Chai you nailed it

Raysleek:
You no dey shame, after asking a girl you haven't married to help you, you still come and expose yourself online. Girl that you will leave immediately you get another higher paying girlfriend. If you can't afford 7k for your own needs, you have no business getting married. Stop using marriage to deceive young girls.