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My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by jiksman3: 2:58pm On Apr 27
Hi everyone, please i need an urgent advice and suggestions on the girl i wish to marry. Her major problem is that she gets angry easily and often but later will apologize after saying or doing something out of anger.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Wakins(m): 2:58pm On Apr 27
Sit her down and talk sense into her. And you're gonna have a lot of patience.

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What's so special about this first comment of a thing self?

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by PlayMaker14: 3:00pm On Apr 27
The handwriting on the wall is clear enough...


Nor go let "I TOO LOVE AM" make you drink sniper.


A word for the wise is enough.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Xenry: 3:00pm On Apr 27
"My brother, marry her, she will change after marriage," I think that is what you want to hear from us.Your case will surely reach Front-Page after una marriage, like, "Woman arrested for breaking husband's spinal cord (photos)."

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Jashub: 3:00pm On Apr 27
Your lady has anger management issues which she should put in check before tying the matrimonial knot. I advise that you both go for marriage counseling before taking a step further

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by donbachi(m): 3:07pm On Apr 27
U better end it now and suffer heartbreak.than die in it and ur people mourn.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Nobody: 3:09pm On Apr 27
Leave that relationship immediately....Many times God gives us danger signs, but we are sometimes blinded by emotions or love.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Chris525: 3:10pm On Apr 27
A woman is not to be hot tempered. How is she going to cope with your kids and in-laws or even neighbors? Thats HBP for you, sure banker. Also kids are cute and lovely but can be pretty annoying and frustrating, how will she cope? This will affect the atmosphere around your home because all the tolerance you’re having now will run short when you feel like she’s not being rational with the kids.

I dont know how you intend to go out all day and come home to a woman who gets upset at the slightest things, you see those guys that go to the bar from work and come home late? You’ll soon join them.

Take her for anger management and make it clear to her if she doesn’t show visible change, you cant proceed. Again, women are known to mellow when they’re with a guy they really like...think deeply.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by DICKstractor(m): 3:16pm On Apr 27
undecided


Buy her chill water or chill pills, so that whenever she gets angry, you give her to drink.


Since you no Sabi read capital letters on the wall

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Anfield247(m): 3:16pm On Apr 27
Chris525:

A woman is not to be hot tempered. How is she going to cope with your kids and in-laws or even neighbors? Thats HBP for you, sure banker. Also kids are cute and lovely but can be pretty annoying and frustrating, how will she cope? This will affect the atmosphere around your home because all the tolerance you’re having now will run short when you feel like she’s not being rational with the kids.

I dont know how you intend to go out all day and come home to a woman who gets upset at the slightest things, you see those guys that go to the bar from work and come home late? You’ll soon join them.

Take her for anger management and make it clear to her if she doesn’t show visible change, you cant proceed. Again, women are known to mellow when they’re with a guy they really like...think deeply.


Wisdom will not kill you, bro! You are blessed!

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Chris525: 3:18pm On Apr 27
Amen & you too, thanks.

Anfield247:

Wisdom will not kill you, bro! You are blessed!

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by TripleDdotcom: 3:25pm On Apr 27
Faults and being prone to error is one of the things that define humanity. But dealing with it with the right attitude is what's important.

The wrong attitude - like some people do - is to recognize the attitude and continue with it or not bother to change it due to malicious desires or the carefree attitude and excuse of "everybody has faults".

But the right attitude is to recognize that fault and strive as much as possible to correct it; getting back up and continue to try if someone fails or relapses in it.

People are out there with their own faults; there's most likely something you wouldn't like if your present girl was replaced with a thousand different women. You'll probably find an area where she's lagging in character just as you yourself are lagging in perfect character to some extent.

So eliminating someone from your life - just because she has a MANAGEABLE/REPARABLE fault - is somewhat illogical or not ideal as a move.

Anger is not a good thing. it destroys things and its consequences can be very disastrous. There are numerous aspects or examples of life affairs that I could give in which if anger was to be applied, calamities will most likely follow.

What you must do now is to come together with her to identify this problem and try as much as you can - with all credible means within your capacity - to rid her of this problem. On that (the measures you're going to take), you should do your research. This is not a time to leave her. She needs your help; it's a time for you to help her.

But if after all efforts and no considerable changes have reflected, then you have to pick a choice.

Take her like that, knowing you're at risk of whatever fate has in store for you as a consequence of her anger OR you leave her to free yourself from whatever her problem could result to for you in future.

Take care son, and God guide you.


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By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. Na beg I dey beg. Thanks.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by ProphetofOdin: 3:26pm On Apr 27
We have been hearing lot news of hot temper women killing men lately please don't make yourself become part of that statistics. Tell her you are putting a hold to all marriage arrangements for now, so that you can both seek professional help(not church or mosque ooo) for her problem.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by stacyadams: 3:27pm On Apr 27
jiksman3:
Hi everyone, please i need an urgent advice and suggestions on the girl i wish to marry. Her major problem is that she gets angry easily and often but later will apologize after saying or doing something out of anger.
cheesy grin grin

Continue sir,till she stab u one day

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by DaddyRochie1642(f): 3:30pm On Apr 27
Just pray your Story won't land on Nairaland Front page after you marry her with the title.

"Wife Stabs husband to death after a minor Misunderstanding"

You're seeing the "Red Flag" now and you're forming gentleman, your eyes go soon Clear grin grin

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by chatinent(m): 3:31pm On Apr 27
Oh
Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by 5ine: 3:38pm On Apr 27
Oga, nothing u can do about it...just understand the fact that she has hot temper and tolerate it or you leave her.









Make love no go kill you o
Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Charmingrascal(m): 3:45pm On Apr 27
I only pray that she will not stab you when her fury comes one day.


You have made your mind, do that which you have already decided to do.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Gabe427: 4:11pm On Apr 27
omoor I stop they advice people in love tey try
cause everything seems like jealousy or an attack enjoy your angry babe

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by SmellySperm(m): 4:45pm On Apr 27
go ahead with the marriage bro. she will change after the marriage

be like woman never nack u 4 by 4 for head before

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by sheobserves(f): 4:47pm On Apr 27
Run.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Twelfthman: 5:28pm On Apr 27
Hmm
My advise:
Before u discuss any serious issue with her
Hide knives and any other sharp object

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by bestabigaelever(f): 5:36pm On Apr 27
Do not marry her o
I don't want to type rip o

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by ictjobber: 5:38pm On Apr 27
You see dangerous snake you wan go pick am...

Humans are very funny creatures.

@OP... Adults don't change. Know this and know peace.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Guyman02: 6:03pm On Apr 27
My wife is hot tempered, I must confess that it has really drained me, it took years for her to know the damage she was doing to us by her temper.
Simple family discussion can lead to serious quarrel. It got so bad I started reacting to her madness when it starts and this led to me smashing her phone and she retaliated, when the dust settles she will apologize but for days me that is a very gentle person will feel awkward that neighbours heard us exchanging words, imagine the emotional torture and feeling of embarrassment.

I tried to end the marriage but kids were already involved, I ignored her hot temper during our courtship thinking it was something I can always handle.

A hot tempered woman would get you emotionally drained at a period you may need a shoulder to lean on when you get home.
Very soon she will clash with your female relatives if they visit your house or try to call her to order if they find her talking back at you.
It's in your hands to decide what you want, no be we go advice you, I am just sharing my personal experience.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Sweetshuga(f): 6:24pm On Apr 27
TripleDdotcom:
Faults and being prone to error is one of the things that define humanity. But dealing with it with the right attitude is what's important.

The wrong attitude - like some people do - is to recognize the attitude and continue with it or not bother to change it due to malicious desires or the carefree attitude and excuse of "everybody has faults".

But the right attitude is to recognize that fault and strive as much as possible to correct it; getting back up and continue to try if someone fails or relapses in it.

People are out there with their own faults; there's most likely something you wouldn't like if your present girl was replaced with a thousand different women. You'll probably find an area where she's lagging in character just as you yourself are lagging in perfect character to some extent.

So eliminating someone from your life - just because she has a MANAGEABLE/REPARABLE fault - is somewhat illogical or not ideal as a move.

Anger is not a good thing. it destroys things and its consequences can be very disastrous. There are numerous aspects or examples of life affairs that I could give in which if anger was to be applied, calamities will most likely follow.

What you must do now is to come together with her to identify this problem and try as much as you can - with all credible means within your capacity - to rid her of this problem. On that (the measures you're going to take), you should do your research. This is not a time to leave her. She needs your help; it's a time for you to help her.

But if after all efforts and no considerable changes have reflected, then you have to pick a choice.

Take her like that, knowing you're at risk of whatever fate has in store for you as a consequence of her anger OR you leave her to free yourself from whatever her problem could result to for you in future.

Take care son, and God guide you.


............

By the way, please check my signature and patronize us for your data. Na beg I dey beg. Thanks.

Well said, I don't know why most people advise lovers to leave their partners because of a fault which isn't their making and by the way, love is all about helping each other overcome their weaknesses and not abandon them to deal with it, if we don't help our partners overcome their flaws then why are we friends and lovers?

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by PlayMaker14: 6:28pm On Apr 27
Guyman02:
My wife is hot tempered, I must confess that it has really drained me, it took years for her to know the damage she was doing to us by her temper.
Simple family discussion can lead to serious quarrel. It got so bad I started reacting to her madness when it starts and this led to me smashing her phone and she retaliated, when the dust settles she will apologize but for days me that is a very gentle person will feel awkward that neighbours heard us exchanging words, imagine the emotional torture and feeling of embarrassment.

I tried to end the marriage but kids were already involved, I ignored her hot temper during our courtship thinking it was something I can always handle.

A hot tempered woman would get you emotional drained at a period you need a shoulder to lean on when you get home.
Very soon she will clash with your female relatives if they visit your house or try to call her to order if they find her talking back at you.
It's in your hands to decide what you want, no be we go advice you I am just sharing my personal experience.
jiksman3, kindly take this advise...


A life saving advise.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by Sonnobax15(m): 6:41pm On Apr 27
undecided
Wait first..

how these kind people take dey share masculinity with me ?

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by shege45: 6:46pm On Apr 27
jiksman3:
Hi everyone, please i need an urgent advice and suggestions on the girl i wish to marry. Her major problem is that she gets angry easily and often but later will apologize after saying or doing something out of anger.
she won’t change after marriage. If you can’t cope, run and tell her your reason

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by dairykidd(m): 6:47pm On Apr 27
jiksman3:
Hi everyone, please i need an urgent advice and suggestions on the girl i wish to marry. Her major problem is that she gets angry easily and often but later will apologize after saying or doing something out of anger.


And how do u mean doing something out of anger? So long as she's not violent, getting angry easily can be controlled. Better a hot temper (non violent ) than a serial cheat or violent abusive one

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by GIANTPLUSHUB: 6:52pm On Apr 27
Chris525:

A woman is not to be hot tempered. How is she going to cope with your kids and in-laws or even neighbors? Thats HBP for you, sure banker. Also kids are cute and lovely but can be pretty annoying and frustrating, how will she cope? This will affect the atmosphere around your home because all the tolerance you’re having now will run short when you feel like she’s not being rational with the kids.

I dont know how you intend to go out all day and come home to a woman who gets upset at the slightest things, you see those guys that go to the bar from work and come home late? You’ll soon join them.

Take her for anger management and make it clear to her if she doesn’t show visible change, you cant proceed. Again, women are known to mellow when they’re with a guy they really like...think deeply.



This is a good advice but I will advice Op not to follow it. Anger management won't solve this. Let the lady go for a guy who's anger issue too. She will succumb to a higher anger person. Anger management won't treat or solve this. If it's a man, anger management will solve it but a woman, the mindset of she's just a woman and the guy should take her as she's won't yield any changes in the anger management course. Lastly, it's hard to change people of their inbuilt natural behavior. She might pretend just to get married to him and starts showing the anger issue too after wedding.
I wish Op the best in any decision he decides to take anyway. This is dicey and unpredictable. Have seen things.

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Re: My Fianceé Has Very Hot Temper, Please Advise Me. by HeyHey(f): 7:39pm On Apr 27
Op, I cant advise you to marry her or not but I can tell you first hand information from my brother's hot tempered wife.

She go change, she go cool etc them marry. After they got married they stayed 1 week with us before moving to their house. Omo, that week na die. For night oo, morning oo Fight. Everyday, my bro get fresh scratch for all him neck and hand. My mama say mk he no retaliate (though he slapped her too), he is smallish, she is big.



After them move, the situation got worse. At least in my presence and presence of my siblings, she pour am glass of water, and in her anger constantly abuses him.
Pour him hot water for him hand. What broke the camel's back was when she chased him with knife, he ran and locked the door. All my uncles and aunties pack go there to throway her load o, her people said its spiritual problem. Then they already had 4kids, where them go start from?

After that she opted for religion, prayers, vigils etc, it helped calm her down. She started a business too, it keeps her busier, plus the 4kids. She is better now, after 11years marriage

Your own story might be like this, might be worse or might be better. But I pray you both come out triumphant and alive



Ps: they got 2 quit notices from different landlords bc of the quarell. Another of my brother dated one of the landlord pikin, he say during extra-cool he dey hear their quarell, when he asked she say its your brother and his wife. Shame go dey catch am

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