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I like Ifenaya and Kasiobi.

Please bring some more boys' names. Without Chi... at the beginning please.

many thanks

Swissess

What does Amaluchi mean?

...he said after Chelsea won the Champions League.

What am I supposed to do with that?

a wife.

190, what exactly is ur point?

Cc how could i mind you saying sth? Thanks for ur concern. Yes he's a good man and he's trying so much. I have tried to take him out. No Chance. The answer is always no! Although I'm even the one paying!
He doesnt like going out with me / us.
He rather goes to places that are not for women as he says. Wakekeepings etc.

thanks so much guys!

Amydee, I will do that. when are you online?

when I read your post first I thought my husband has a twin! they are so much alike.

I know exactly what you are going through. and anybody that thinks that we women need a reason or even permission from NL to cheat on our husbands has not understood anything at all! this is not about cheating, men! in the place where I live anybody can cheat on anybody - no big fuss about that. if that was my aim, I would not even come out here to talk about my problems.

but Amydee, I also think that we are to blame as well. I gave my husband a lot of freedom. accepted anything he did or wanted. never asked anything, never expected anything. now he is sort of spoilt and takes me and everything I do for granted. or at least does not see any reason to be thankful for.
I doubt that any Nigerian woman would put up with this!
but I have to say that my husband still helps me a lot. he does a lot of housework, takes care of the children, doesn't go out much.
MY only problem is that the concept of 'together' is so different. he just doesnt care. and I want to do things together. as a couple, as a family, we have a lot of discussions about that. sitting at home together, him at the computer or watching football is not spending time together for me!!

hope to talk to you soon. s

AbyDee, how can i send u a Personal Message? We need to talk!

who can help me with nursery rhymes and children's songs in Igbo? with English translation please!

thank you so much, Swissess

http://234next.com/csp/cms/sites/Next/ArtsandCulture/Film/5548938-147/story.csp

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie about the movie.

and what business was the British guy involved in?
what has he being a soldier to do with it?

Can somebody please explain to me why the British guy was killed in the end?
I did not get that,

Chaircover, what you write makes a lot of sense to me! thank you!

Pinky Lady, God forbid, I will never hate my daughter. but a tiny little bit of jealousy is there, I have to admit.

mama-gee u'r defenitely right. don't put salt in my wounds. I already feel bad enough about my 'selfishness'. but I can't help it; I'm still a woman, not 'only' a mother.

are you serious? I'd thought that a boy was going to get far more attention than a girl!
sometimes I am even scared. I pray that never ever anything happens to this child. He would just blame me and if it was really my fault, I could not garantee for anything.

my husband and I have a beautiful baby girl, but since she's born I don't get any attention from him anymore. she takes it all! all the sweet words, the smiles, the kisses.
I feel very neglected.


I want his love back!

How?

very nice pictures!

why don't you create an Abuja-fan-page on facebook and upload those pix there?
so everybody can have a look at it.

Department of Obstetrics and Gynaecology, Nnamdi Azikiwe University Teaching Hospital, Anambra State, Nigeria.

The incidence of circumcision in 256 pregnant Nigerian Igbo women was 124 (48.4%).

This incidence increased with increasing social class (circumcision index (C.I), 0.06 to 16.50, for social class 1 to 5); was least among the least age range, 16-20 years (C.I, 0.45); and among the primigravidae (C.I, 0.36) compared to the grandmultipara (C.I, 4.43) (P < 0.05.).

Simple excision was the commonest type of circumcision, 122 (98.4%).

The genital introitus was mildly scarred in 48 (38.7%) respondents, moderately scarred in 47 (37.9%) and severely scarred in 29 (23.4%).

Ninety four (36.7%) of the respondents were not aware of their circumcision status, while 91 (96.8%) of the circumcised women had it performed during infancy.

On the question of continued practice of female circumcision in their villages, 43 (16.8%) respondents replied, "yes"; 138 (53.9%), "no"; 25 (9.8%) "Sometimes"; and 50 (19.5%), "don't know".

The incidence of episiotomy during delivery was similar for both circumcised, 47 (18.4%)and uncircumcised, 46 (18.0%) respondents (P = 0.05).

More uncircumcised respondents, 31 (12.1%) were sexually satisfied during intercourse than the circumcised, 11 (4.3%) (P < 0.05).

Of the 118 female offsprings of the respondents, 109 (92.4%) were not circumcised while 9 (7.6%) were.

Increased public enlightenment on the risks of female circumcision is expected to eradicate the practice by the next generation



http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9473958

@all

thank you for your replies. I think I did forget to make one fact very clear: I would never ever circumcise my daughter. Only over my dead body.

And yes, our son is circumcised. But only because of medical reasons. Even that one seems to be unnecessary in my eyes and brought a lot of trouble in our marriage.

agabaI23:
Poster i have been to club where I was the only black guy. i was new in the neighbourhood. All eyes turned my way like 'what he is he doing here?
So don't even go there.

hey, it happens to me as well! if I am in Nigeria, I am usually the only white person around. and people give me a lot of attention! sometimes even too much. no, they're not unfriendly, but it still makes me feel a little uncomfortable sometimes.
and when I go to club, I am stared at all night long.

davidylan:
lol good point.

no, it's not a good point. it's an assumption.

because I don't think white people do just think the way you think they think. . .

agabaI23:
Did anybody ask you the question you used as thread title or you just thinking we think the way whites think when they see a black in their neighbourhood?

yeah, I came across somebody 'wondering' what we are looking for here.

I had a discussion with my husband recently and I asked him about female circumcision among Igbos.
He said that as far as he knows most Igbo girls are still 'done' till today.
He also said that he is not against it and that if we ever had a daughter and I would want her to be circumcised he would not be against it either.


But when I asked two friends of mine (Igbo-women) who I know well enough to discuss such a delicate topic, they told me it is not done anymore among Igbos.

How is it then?
Can anybody tell me something about it?

Nairaland Forum: Home of Nigerians and Friends of Nigeria

But some people are still wondering, what we are doing here.

As for me, I am here because I am married to a Nigerian and I am hoping to find some answers to some questions. Or just to understand better, how Nigerians think, what bothers them, what is important to them, I find it very enlightening and interesting to read here and learn about your points of view.



this is a global world! why should white people not write on Nairaland?

Swissess

at the same time?

Or how many I have had in my life?



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