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Hi ,
..this matter came to me by a girl and I'm confused how to advice her so I need matured ,experienced and wise contributions please ..

She is 18 going to 19.done with waec .... got impregnated by a guy 5months ago .d boy denied .she met a boy who assisted her ,tool care of her till she aborted the baby cos she doesn't like the guy.it was a mistake .

Now she stays with her grandma who is struggling to feed .the boy who helped her abort took care of her waec (2021 waec) ... the boy was just in town for a little job.

Her dad (biological ) raped and discovered her a year ago...she fought will all her might but couldn't over come him.she ran away and went to her mum .d mum didn't believe the step dad currently married to the mum made series of advances on her and threatened not to pay her fees if she doesn't give in to him.she told the mum n d mum sent her to the grandma to save her marriage .

Back to the young man that has been helping her ,they fe inlove.he has been looking for a baby .they agreed to hv a child together. Now she is one month gone.the man is back to his state cos job finished n he is broke .

Young man wanted to come see the mum but mum refused cos he has nothing doing and said she must abort it.she wants to take the daughter to the clinic to abort it .little girl is scared cause of the local abortion she did 5months ago for another guy.

Mumsy drove her out of grandma's house ,said until she agrees to abort it .the young man is broke. She is living n hanging with friends now .met me for advice and I said I will reply her in 3days time.

Mumsy has poisoned the heart of all uncles n aunties not to help her .mummies excuses are she is too young ,she needs to go to sch ,what will people say,she wants to make the same mistake I made....

What does she do? From her statement she rather commit suicide dan abort her baby who can help? Any gov agency or what? Any contribution?

martinslaura:
That's not the issue. Are the banks not working again? Or no more transfer or deposit. If u give u give, all this show off. I beg na them sabi. I wish clem a successful surgery.,

So that doubting Thomas's like u wouldn't call it audio money...how can one please u Nigerians?

PHIPEX:
God bless the giver but what is it with the public display?

So that Thomas's like u will believe .

Alhajiemeritus:
Sorry
Why cash?

So u won't call it audio transfer ....Nigerians like u r hard to plz.

stacyadams:
50k go solve the problem if u got the man phone or village.

How do I get intouch with u bro

southniyikaye:
Before he can recommend such business, he must have known the person very well..
Let him provide the man or your money cos he is the guarantor to the man

He never signed any document as a guarantor though. Everything was done verbally n out of emotion but he is never denying introducing his friend to me.

BigYash:
Using police in this case will implicate you,and your gf's dad. But how can your gf's dad not know his friend's whereabout? Someone is not saying the truth. If you really want to get your money back,your relationship might not survive it. Because your gf's dad need tell you where his frd is or he should tell you how he intend to pay the debt,if his frd is not found. You gerrit?

Yes I gerrit. I'm also willing to lose the relationship if need be. I can tell the police I didn't know d nature of business .

Davinity:
Rather than arrest him I think you should help him find the man at large

@Davinity but how.the man is at large..

Hi ,really need advice here on how to go about this matter next week so I don't make mistake or lose everything.

3months ago my girlfriends father told me about a business.buying kerosene here in Port Harcourt and selling in Benin or owerri .one can make 300% per drum of sale .

He connected me to his friend into it on phone .have never seen the friend .but cos its my gf father ,an assemblies of God pastor, I threw caution in the wind and embraced emotion to delve into the business .

He gave me the friends number .I called ,sent 1.5million .to cut the long story short ,it's 3 months now and the man is at large.my gf father is confused cos he knows this man ,a fellow assistant pastor too from childhood.

Now to recover my fund I don't know how to go about it .should I arrest my poor gf father who never saw or ate a dime from it? If I use the police won't they say kpon fire is illegal? If I use ospac where will yhe poor old man get money from? I know he has a sincere heart but I need my money.if I arrest my gf father can I win the case?

So confused .somuch in my mind.

Pweetiedude:
Person wey him suppose don knack belle

I swear down.just like I did.no time bro.

I thought she has asked for forgiveness, y r her village people n enemies after her?

Yep,did once n regretted it....their poor state at first attracts the pity, after see me finish don enter and she is getting on her legs ,d real colour enters .this can take years .wen dat thing dat made u pity her is no longer there break up is inevitable

Iykenuwa:
if you do not have a PVC and you are reacting to this, you are a hypocrite.

Sorry to burst ur bubbles ,pvc is useless cos ur vote don't count.in Nigeria its selection not election.the right thing to say is to get a visa

Mrglobal1:
The kind of news one keep hearing every blessed day is really frightening .

If you are in Lagos invest 100k into my Food Packaging business or POS business and get 15k returns every month for 6months and pull out with your initial money

Nobody gives out money to anybody again for business especially if he is not involved in it cos of heart breaking stories .huzzle ur capital.itsvnot even wise to start a business with borrowed money.my 1.4million still dey outside now because of this type of ur request. We r wiser now

Candidlady:
RiP Sister!!

you pray you die, you dont pray you die. Ijust dont understand over to you elder righteousness2

bros explorers can you in anyway take a lil time out from your banana/plantain island dealings, help us with some crazy documentations of unsolved murders in nigeria?

The question should be ,which is better.prayer before death is better.

This might be jihad in disguise or land grabbers ....but who ever and for what ever reason ,your repercussion is not far. Either in this life or d next.eirher by man or by God....
I leave with this piece of advice ,sad but true ,it's time we all defend ourselves. The gov does not hv d capacity. Get urself a weapon . gun,machete, etc . With ur 100k and good connect from area boys u can get one. my area is not war prone in the south south but I hv my English pistol ducked .fact .never used it but with the way Nigeria is going I can bet my left ball I will use it soonest .God will not do for man wat man can do for himself ...this is time for action .not just telling me to pray .

I just can't stop living kumuyi and his principles

@mrsimini drop ur number let's so business

Failure has so many enemies; success many friends ... imagine for a second all things went as planned ,this day newspaper will take the credit .life ...we learn everyday with different scenarios.

Hmmm,lucky dube comes to mind ...soon they will be building prisons .... I think the Church should hv directed thr funds to free sch,hospitals,etc than a police station...my own opinion though.u r entitled to yours.one love

Chai....see our oil money .from the south to the north .

Damage control ...lies and more lies ...no one is safe in this country...for those outside the country, my respect to you.for those who hv their own thing putting food on their table,my respect .for the good ones who r dead and at Abrahams blossom,lucky you .the bitter truth remains ,no hope for Nigeria to get better. Not even the holiest clergy man on the seat of power can turn Nigeria for good .Truly,there was once a country.

wirinet:
Which most high? O the God of your slave masters.

will rather believe and serve the most high Jehovah than serve or believe any other god...I'd after death I find out Jehovah is false no problem. Got nothing to lose.but if u disbelieve n find out he is real u hv everything to lose...think about this for a moment.

OtemAtum:
What if your most high is just another God like the Yoruba god? Currently Jehovah, Allah and thousands of religious gods are in a spiritual cage.

I will rather believe and serve the most high Jehovah than serve or believe any other god...I'd after death I find out Jehovah is false no problem. Got nothing to lose.but if u disbelieve n find out he is real u hv everything to lose...think about this for a moment.

So far the tradition does not exalt itself above the most high ,its good for me .

Wat n wat does it cure

What's d name of ur drug

Pictures of the drug,what is it made up of,natural?

If u ever have an incline of what goes on in the afterlife, you will desist from all evil actions in this present life..these thoughts are the pinnacle of which I live my life here on earth knowing fully well that my actions here on earth will definitely affect my life here after .wisdom thought me to always prepare for the future .

Pataricatering:
why should she hide in shame? Is she the first person having sex ? Becos her own was on tape? Lol

As expected

I hv come to find out that this generation has made sin glorious ....back in d days Tiwa will be hiding in shame .watch and read fans that will congratulate her now.