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MzErica:
. received sense

you mean you just receive it'sir'

Tall guys with nice dress sense. I love it when I look into a guy's eyes and I feel short.

IamLEGEND1:
O.K try to keep it in your pants,luv. There is no need for violence. I simply didn't understand what you meant & asked that you rephrase.

no poor little boy. You actually thought you made sense with 'rephrase', whereas, you so off point.

See mine

IamLEGEND1:
say again?

I don't have time for BS! Get the fúçk outta my face

IamLEGEND1:

*I am
The asterisk comes before the word(s).

and you do make sense be that o

naija1stpikin:
am crying

I am*

Estharfabian:

four years? You need Some kinda hobby.



get that Rod outta your ass and lighten the fück up, Grumpy!

GROW up kid. You need it

Estharfabian:

Well, life goes on!


Boys are Mostly dickheads.
So, Puleeeeeeease! don't sulk, Move the hell on!
don't let nothing Hold you back. Look Good, Get independent, wash up good and Have great Ass!

Another Prince Charming would Come knocking. there's so many sharks to choose from.

how old are you really? You make no sense at all. Its four good years smallie! Grow up. Stop trying to show Nlanders that you are strong

nwosu35:
Babe l know, Jst stay put and calm but u did not send me my 2017 wishes, kindly Holla at me through this channel

Have a blast of 2017.. .

Happy new year Nd mind your biz this year . Shallom

Onila or Na onitomatoes

nwosu35:
Bad Belle. . . . How E take Consine U

this is 2017

CreamyMoltenLar:
Hi Tasha. I hear you're sort of a connoisseur of small dicks and mine's microscopic. Like you'd need the Hubble telescope to see it......so, what's up?

obontami:
Now you are talking dear

worefa

Presh9OO:
Are you related to any troublesome girl

nope. I'm not.

obontami:
Wicked girl gerrout

Happy new year sweetie

obontami:
Abeg carry yourself commot make continue finding my better half.

enjoy your ultimate search

obontami:
If one no gree shebi the other one go gree. But this case none of una dey even gree. Its not fair OOOOooooo

SORRY ehn

obontami:
Tashagirl and ladyF this thing you 2 are doing to me is not good Ooooo

imagine o
Na only you Waka come
Two ladies at a time

honeychild:
@OP, believe me it's really challenging getting married to someone from another tribe. The main thing you have to do is look at your in laws. Are they tribalistic? How do they sound when they talk about people from other tribes? Especially your MIL. In most families, the moral character of the family is set by the mother. If she is horrible, you can almost be certain that your sisters in law will be worse lol.

Then you need to objectively look at your partner. If he is the type that can stand up to his folks when the shit hits the fan. Or is he the type that likes to sweep stuff under the carpet and never confronts issues?

Basically it boils down to individual families. I have had horrible experiences with my inlaws from another tribe. But i have friends who are in inter tribal marriages and didnt go through the same.

On your own part, You also have to be willing to adapt to a totally different culture. If you are yoruba planning to marry an igbo person, just forget about all that formal respect we have. Then be ready to have a lot of relatives flocking in and out of your home and acting like they own the place. Basically don't approach it with the mindset that there's a right way to do things and a wrong way (culture wise). Just accept that things can be done differently to what you are used to and still be alright.

Basically flexibility on your part is very important

At the bolded, I have lots of work to do then. Thanks for this

Acidosis:
there is nothing to learn about dating. Anybody can date anything.

you think so?

x240:
Lol. . Not our fault. It is something you grew up with. Nuture and environment.

Although i have installed a Yoruba virus in her now and she can greet people much more than me and respect is something that is easily shown by her to the point that i was stunned when i heard her call me by my name few weeks back which was very suprising as i have not heard her call that name in like 7months only for her to tell me she avoids calling me by my name because of the "cultivatition of respect that the Yorubas require". Wow!

I have had to tell her in a funny way to cut the BS when i call and the first thing i hear is "Good evening".

Thise little things we gloss over are actually things that build up and in the end may impact a relationship in a positive or negative way. I am not the rigid or cultural type but sometimes you can't outplay the subconscious in somethings.

So, please learn about his culture and see if it's something you can live with. Culture is a way of life of a group of people. You can't do without certain aspects but you can always work your way around them.


To me...the kids are the ones that enjoy inter tribal marriages the most. That blend and culture mix does them a lot of good. Like mixture of two different entities embedded in one.

I'm happy to learn from you bro. Thanks so much for your time.

x240:
Not advising you to quit but please do have an honest talk.

You are a lady and for you to enjoy an inter tribal marriage or relationship, the corresponding families must be willing to buy into the idea. I understand families are more mobile and detached but notwithstanding, extended families have much more clout over a marriage than we choose to accept.

You have little say as regards things as you are going to be one and you should be ready to forget wherever you are coming from. Not saying you would lose your identity but be ready to let go of your tribal callings and doings.

Your discussion should centre on this;
Things like where would you guys want to settle back after working and retirement?

What are the differences between both cultures that may cause disagreements?

You may come from a tribe where respect is not that pronounced. Using words like Aunty for someone you are age mates with or older than sef just because they are from your spouse's family might be alien tl you byt maybe integral to his culture.

Most issues bother on human to human relationship and if you are a good human manager you should be able to maneuver well.

Never talk about things or make statements like "this is how we do it in our own tribe" or such. It brings much more strife than you can imagine except you are trying to explain a concept.

Above all be flexible. It is something needed in all relationships.


I am in one and can be a bit confusing even as a guy. I just learn to overlook most things and try and give her warnings ahead of time about pitfalls around my people she shoud try and avoid. Dealing with relatives is my most issue. Visited once and was treated like a "kid" , no respect, no special greetings like i was used to where i was coming from. Felt very bad and i wanted to even cut it out at that point. You can imagine looking into the future and imagining this is the people i have to deal with for eternity? Scary isn't it?

Don't let those butterfly feelings cloud your judgement. Yeah love is real but be logical and think about what it takes. The people around your partner are the most important ish, not the tribe. If they are good, no matter what tribe they are, you would enjoy it and if they are otherwise. I am sorry, the tribe differences would amplify it.

exactly what I need. Thanks so much for this. I guess you are yoruna because of that 'respect' and treated like a kid stuff. Lol. We Yorubas are just too addicted to respect and it's strange if we don't get it.
I really appreciate you

Presh9OO:

what's the meaning of that bro

zionmade:
I dnt regret studying my course

Hope u will think of challenging him right inside the labour room.
Hope u also thought of challenging him wen u were just a liquid in ur mother's womb

hope u also thought of challenging wen u fell from ur mother's hand and nothing happened to
Hope u will think of challenging him wen ur death (maybe at old age) draws nearer

my life my life. Thanks

themosthigh:
Religion because if I did, I would have realized on time that religion is fake, there is no God called jehovah and Christianity is as bullshit as a scam can get. I would have not wasted my young life praying and speaking in useless tongue while my mates enjoy their life and have fun to the fullest.
I would not have married my prayer warrior wife who sees demonic plots in everything and live in a fantasy world worst than Harry Potter.
I would have had sex with many of the girls that liked me in school.
I would have taken up a scholarship to study in the USA instead of praying and waiting for directions from an imaginary God.
I would have not given birth to many children that did not get the best in life due to my religiousness because my wife believe birth control is a sin.
I would have treated my mother better before she died and not believe that she was a witch like my wife's pastor told me.
I would have been friends with neibours and not believe that they where cultists out to get us because our pastor said so.
I would have invested my tithe in my self instead of the church.
Now I am old and impotent and I cannot but wish that I never wasted my life in service of an imaginary being.

like seriously? I'm beginning to have my doubts too but I want to challenge HIM first

maggilove:
Its cool because u tend to learn a lot of things if u are not a strong headed person. The language barrier is not a problem for me because he interpretes for me sometimes(I know he can't tell me evrytin), and as for the food I must confess that's d best part, u learn how to eat it first and gradually learn how to cook it, no big deal if u understand eachother.

woah. I love this.