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UNIOSUN lecturer wins N900m Canadian grant
An international research consortium led by Prof. Clement Adebooye
of the Osun State University has won $4.45m (about N900m) grant from
the Canadian Government to boost indigenous vegetable production in Nigeria and Benin Republic.

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you are right, most times it feels like a lost cause but i'm not sure it's something anyone should laugh about. lost cause or not i will always stand by my feminist views, so you can continue mocking women who only want a better life for themselves. someone every human has the right t pursue, man or woman.

Omotola has stated what works for her marriage and is also entitled to her opinion on the status quo of men and women. some can choose to emulate, some can choose not to. we all have things to learn from people who have a successful marriage. take from it what you will but what you cannot do is force or mock others who decide to pass.

iebanehita:
GBAM!!!!!!!!

Of course they won't give give a phuck na, bcz she didn't support them in their lost cause.. They would never read in-between the lines.. If

The earlier all the feminist realise whatever they are after is a lost cause, the better.
Deluded set of low life's championing a white elephant project would only lead to a vicious cycle.

The Executive Secretary, National Universities Commission (NUC), Professor Julius A. Okojie, OON,
has advised the Governing Council of the Evangel University, Akaeze, Ebonyi State, to go back to
the drawing board and explore all available means to resolve the lingering administrative and governance
issues ravaging the Institution to ensure uninterrupted academic activities.

The Executive Secretary told Members of the Governing Council who paid a courtesy call on him in his
office that the NUC would expect them to report back on the update within two weeks after the meeting,
consequent upon which he said that NUC would send a team of staff for the forensic audit of the University,
he announced the donation of 30 sets of computers to the Institution.

Professor Okojie enjoined the visitors, led by the Acting General Superintendent, Rev. Dr. Chidi Okarafor
and fomer Governor of Ebonyi State, fomer Minister of Education and Pro-Chancellor of the University
Dr. Sam Egwu to work harmoniously for the growth and development of the University, stressing that
without peace, there could be no progress in the Institution. The Executive Secretary said that the NUC
would not fold its arms and allow any university to flagrantly violate the operational rules and procedures,
especially those that bothered on governance and administration. He said that the University had ample
opportunities that would put it at par with other thriving private institutions, if it harnessed same effectively.

The NUC Scribe recalled that the Commission had directed that all the principal officers illegally dismissed
by the former General Superintendent be reinstated as the first measure to resolve the crisis. He said that
the Commission had not been officially briefed since the development for it to appraise the level of progress
so far made, adding that the NUC was eager to ensure that the University was effectively organised,
pledging that the Commission would always advise it to run only programmes that would aid its growth
and development. In his response, Rev. Okarafor expressed gratitude to the
NUC Management for the advice which, he said, had already
started manifesting. He apologised to the Management for coming late to update the Commission,
saying that the development was not unconnected to the unpleasant leadership style the Institution
had experienced, which he noted had also affected the church.

The Acting General Superintendent said that the Church summoned courage
to suspend the General Superintendent and followed the directive of the NUC
and recalled the suspended principal officers. He said that the University resolved
to recall the Governing Council and apologise to members for the embarrassment
caused them by that unapproved action of Rev. Emeka, adding that the Council
had since resumed duty alongside the Principal Officers. He thanked the Executive Secretary
for his continued interest in the development of Evangel University, in particular,
and the Nigerian University System (NUS) in general.

In a remark, the Director, Inspection and Monitoring, Professor Lawal Alhassan Bichi,
advised the University to make available relevant documents relating to the Institution
to NUC within two weeks. The documents, he said, included Staff /Students data,
academic programmes data, among other vital information, so as to allow the NUC study them,
before the conduct of the proposed forensic audits.

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As part of efforts to achieve the goals of Vision 20:2020 and the Transformation Agenda, the Federal Government of Nigeria is currently developing a critical mass of professionals who would serve as catalysts of change and agents of scientific and technological advancement, as well as sustainable economic development. This is being achieved through the sponsorship of outstanding students for postgraduate studies in the top 25 universities in the world.

To this end, the Federal Government has instituted the Presidential Special Scholarship Scheme for Innovation and Development (PRESSID).The Scheme, which sponsors graduates that have obtained First Class Honours degrees from any recognized and approved university, was established in January 2012 and has awarded a total of two hundred and five (205) scholarships under two editions (the 2013/2014 and 2014/2015 academic sessions).

The PRESSID Implementation Committee now invites qualified candidates to apply for the third edition (2015/2016 academic session).

Eligibility Criteria for the Scheme
Interested candidates should:

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The National Universities Commission (NUC) is in receipt of a call circular from the British High Commission in Nigeria, for research proposals on the Ebola Virus Disease (EVD). The aim of the research is to produce robust research findings that could contribute to the effectiveness of the response to the current outbreak of the disease and to also help draw lessons for future outbreaks of Ebola and other communicable diseases.

The Ebola Health Research Call is being funded by the UK Department for International Development (DFID), the Wellcome Trust and the Enhancing Learning & Research for Humanitarian Assistance (ELRHA), through a special funding window of existing £6.5 million Research for Health in Humanitarian Crises (R2HC) programme.The size and number of grants to be awarded will depend on the number of high-quality research applications that are within the scope of the Call as a wide range of applications will be considered in terms of the amount of funds requested. Applicants should note that the Call does not cover the funding of laboratory or pathogenesis research.

Research proposals must aim to strengthen how to improve public health outcomes following Ebola outbreaks.

Other relevant research areas include, but not limited to:
• Anthropology
• Clinical Management
• Diagnosis
• Disease Control and Prevention
• Ethics
• Health Systems
• Social Mobilisation
• Surveillance
• Treatment

Kindly note that after the selection of successful research teams in the first stage, they will be invited to develop a more detailed research proposal.

For guidelines and more information, applicants are requested to visit www.elrha.org/ R2HC/Ebola-Health-Research-Call or contact the following e-mail address: r2hc@elrha.org.

Interested qualified researchers are to submit a preliminary Expression of Interest application to ELRHA by 11 Am British Summer Time (Same as Nigeria’s time) on or before 8 September 2014. Applicants who are unable to meet this deadline should contact ELRHA directly through the email address above.

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The Executive Secretary, National Universities Commission (NUC), Professor Julius A Okojie, OON has said that the Nigerian Research and Education Network (NgREN) had the potential to enhance the achievements of the Science and Technology Education, Post-Basic (STEP-B) project by bringing the centers of excellence set up by the intervention together for higher and more efficient collaboration. Professor Okojie disclosed that NgREN would reduce the cost of bandwidth from about $1,260/ mbps/month to about $129/ mbps/month, adding that when the second phase of the REN was completed, the cost would further reduce to about $20/mbps month.

The Executive Secretary, remarked that the NgREN was an initiative of the NUC with the support of the Committee of Vice-chancellors (CVC), the Nigerian University System (NUS) and the Ministry of Communication Technology. He noted that the purpose of NgREN was to provide cheaper bandwidth for member institutions and efficient network infrastructure to the research and education community. The NUC Scribe added that NgREN was to provide network services and applications to promote linkages and collaborations between the research communities and leverage technology to promote new trends and innovative ways of teaching and learning. He identified some of the challenges faced by the REN to include; funding, inadequate technical capacity, poorly-designed networks in universities, inadequate power and poorly-coordinated nature of research activities.

He disclosed that a broad based proposal to address these problems, including the extension of the network to the remaining 102 universities and several polytechnics, colleges of education and research institutes amounting to over 600 Higher Education institutions in Nigeria had been developed. The Executive Secretary, thanked the Federal Government, for its contributions to the actualisation of the project, the Honorable Minister of State for Education and the Honourable Minister of Communication Technology for their tremendous support, the World Bank, through which the Step-B project assisted in providing the funds to enable the initial phase of the project; connecting 27 older Federal Universities to take off.


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The Joint Admission and Matriculations Board (JAMB) has announced the cut-off marks for the 2014 Unified Tertiary Matriculation Examination (UTME), retaining the existing 180 cut- off mark for admission into uni- versities in Nigeria and pegging the cut-off mark for admission into Polytechnics and Colleges of Education (COEs) at 150.

The decision to retain the exiting cut-off marks was reached at the 5th Combined Policy Meeting of stakeholders, including Vice- Chancellors, Rectors and Provosts, on admissions to tertiary institutions, held at the National Universities Commission, Abuja.
Declaring the Meeting open, the Supervising Minister of Education, Barr. Nyesom Wike, frowned at the inability of some tertiary institutions in the country to fully utilise their admission quota and urged the institutions to ensure that all the admission spaces in their schools were adequately utilised.

He said, “I have been briefed that despite the rising demand for high- er education vis-a-vis the avail- ability of a large number of qualified candidates, some institutions did not fully utilise the admissions quota approved for them by the relevant regulatory agencies in 2013. “This disservice to the Nigerian child is totally unacceptable. In line with the efforts of the Federal Government to improve access, let me urge you all to, with effect from today, work assiduously to ensure that all admission spaces in your institutions, for the current year, are fully utilised within the approved time-frame.”

The Minister disclosed that the Federal Government was current- ly putting necessary structures in place to replace the existing pa- per examination mode with the Computer Based Test (CBT) at all levels of education in the country and commended JAMB for its innovation, particularly, the introduction of the biometric data capture and verification, and the CBT mode, which he noted, had greatly improved efficiency and further protected the integrity and credibility of its examinations. Barr. Wike informed the meeting that the Federal Ministry of Education (FME) had already made Information and Communications Technology (ICT) training, part of the standard curriculum at the secondary school level, in order to prepare Nigerian youths for the challenges of globalisation and ensure that their skills were at par with their peers in the developed countries.

Speaking, the Chairman of the Governing Board, JAMB, Barr. Peter Eze, urged Tertiary Institutions to strictly adhere to the 60:40 Science to Arts ratio for conventional institutions and the 70:30 Technology to non-Technology ratio for specialised institutions, which were aimed at ensuring the technical advancement of the country.

The Chairman equally urged federal and state-owned institutions to abide by the guidelines approved by Government to promote unity, integration, geographical spread and equity. “Accordingly, the 45:35:20 admissions quota for the merit, catchment areas and
educationally less developed states criteria, should be complied with.”

The Registrar and Chief Executive, JAMB, Professor ‘Dibu Ojerinde, in his presentation, gave a statistical run-down of candidates’ preference for tertiary education. He observed that after the conduct of the 2014 UTME, candidates who applied for degree awarding institutions were 1,584,348, representing 97.07 per cent, National Certificate in Education (NCE) applicants totalled 25,767, representing 1.579 per cent, National Diploma (ND) had 22,072, representing 1.349 per cent while the National Innovation Diploma (NID) had just 46, representing 0.003 per cent.

Professor Ojerinde, who thanked stakeholders in the sector for the unanimous decision in retaining the cut-off marks for Tertiary Institutions, won- dered why most Nigerians shied away from polytechnic and technical education.He also counselled Nigerians to embrace technical education.

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Researchers Successfully Grow “Seed Yams in the Air”

In a release from the Public Relations Unit of the International Institute of Tropical Agriculture (IITA), Ibadan, Nigeria, researchers at the Institute have successfully grown seed yams in the air using aeroponics technology, raising hopes and more options for the propagation of virus- and disease-free planting materials. In preliminary trials, Dr Norbert Maroya, Project Manager for the Yam Improvement for Incomes and Food Security in West Africa (YIIFSWA) project at IITA, together with a team of scientists successfully propagated yam by directly planting vine cuttings in Aeroponics System (AS) boxes to produce mini-tubers in the air.

Aeroponics System is the process of growing plants in an air or mist environment without the use of soil or an aggregate medium. The technology is widely used by commercial potato seed producers in eastern Africa (Kenya, Uganda, Tanzania etc.), and southern Africa (Mozambique, Malawi etc.) but successfully growing yam on aeroponics is a novelty for rapidly multiplying the much needed clean seed yam tubers in large quantities. “With this approach we are optimistic that farmers will begin to have clean seed yams for better harvest,” Dr Maroya said on Friday. Preliminary results showed that vine rooting in Aeroponics System had at least 95% success rate compared to vine rooting in carbonized rice husk with a maximum rate of 70%. Rooting time was much shorter in aeroponics.

Aeroponics is coming at an opportune time for African farmers. Traditionally, seed yam production is expensive and inefficient. Farmers save about 25 to 30% of their harvest for planting the same area in the following season, meaning less money in their pockets. Moreover, these saved seeds are often infested with pathogens that significantly reduce farmers’ yield year after year. However with an established Aeroponics System for seed yam propagation at the premises of an interested private investor, seed company or humanitarian nongovernmental organization; yam producers can have access to clean seed yams.

The soilless yam propagation system will increase the productivity of seed and ware yam and effectively reduce diseases and pests incidence and severity (no soilborne or vector-transmitted pests and diseases during the vegetative phase). Dr Robert Asiedu, IITA Director for Western Africa described the results as “impressive.” “Yam is an important crop in Africa and addressing the seeds’ constraint will go a long way in improving the livelihoods of farmers who depend on the crop for their livelihood,” he added.

In conducting the aeroponics trial, a special structure was built in an existing screen house with Dixon shelf frames using perforated styrofoam box, as support for plant vines, while the developing roots of the plants in the air were enclosed in conditions of total darkness to simulate the situation of soil to the roots. For the plant and tuber to develop, an automated power house system was established for atomizing periodically nutrient enriched water solution in the form of mist to feed the plants.

warrior101: A feminish hooking up with a straight guy? Hmmm I've never really thought about it now that you just mentioned it I've given it a thought and I think it'd be a drama... A constant strugle for headship... A war... One person might die during the cause of the fight.

Is this what they are bringing to the table? Men are facing the batle on two fronts. Fighting the oppressors of the world and now they are taking our women from us and turning them against us.

There is a man behind these women redistributing the rights wrongly. And the more women they gain, the more powerful they become. Everybody is not equal. Some people irrespective of gender are stronger then the others. You can not give a weak man a bigger man's job to do so why give them the same reward? Its a scam and people who preach equal rights are scammers... There is nothing new under the sun. There are still royalties and dignitories and ther are still peasants and middle class and everybody has its own unique duty and reward. The same goes for a man and woman. Most freedom fighters are greedy people looking for power. They would cause trouble and later offer a solution and this gives them power and followers.

A word is enough for the wise...

"Most freedom fighters are greedy people looking for power. They would cause trouble and later offer a solution and this gives them power and followers"



interesting the word freedom isnt it. from your statement i can make the deduction that you believe we have been imprisoned.

this may surprise you but a lot of women i know were taught how to be a good wife. myself included. we get the general idea. how to antcipate a man's needs, what he needs, what is expected of you as a wife. im assuming every girl who grew up with a mother was taught. so no be say dem no train us well as good parents are expected to. i dont know about other women but im not really influenced by what i watch on tv. although there are many positive things to learn. as a people im gonna say yes as africans we have some moral values, every culture has theirs too.

i just think the amount of effort training women isnt spent training men. maybe im wrong but its the impresiion i get. i dont belive women have changed, i think they always had these needs, just didnt occur to them to say it out loud. i cant speak on behalf of other women, all i know is i like it when men LISTEN. you cant do it all, you need help and we are being underused for our intellect. partly our fault too to be sincere. bottomline is, im here in this world with you, i want to be heard and respected and i want a place at the table. im not asking, im telling. this is much bigger than any of us can imagine. every woman wants a loving husband, a good example to her kids and i hate to say this, some fathers are morally bankrupt, since you brought up immorality. if you are fit to lead, then lead and i will follow. if not then you need my help. my conscience will not allow me sit back while the morally bankrupt lead us astray.

what does morality mean to you? how would you describe it?

scram: Sister you didn't answer my question. You just keep nailing your point into my head. This struggle of feminist should not and repeat should not be one sided given that both parties have their own part in the whole hullabaloo.

In the beginning of my previous post I said the society has failed to train the woman and prepare them for the future forgive me if I didn't point out the man must also be trained thoroughly for the future ahead. Is it not true that everything our children are being exposed to in the school, on the streets, on medias are characters that have destroyed the very core of our moral values today? And that people in authority permits them? Why aren't the feminist group fighting the cancer from its roots but have decided to take the fight to the opposite s£x? This is what I find hard to understand.

Sister, let's call a spade a spade, the arguments of the feminist are baseless and needs reviewing ASAP. Otherwise, its a mischievous movement. Please we don't need division no more, we want peace to reign. What do you people really want? Every man viewing this thread wants to know the way forward.

Sram

no one is fighting men. only men who oppress women. a good marriage isnt a burden. both parties have to work hard to make it successful. its good that you find it disturbing cos only then can you ask why this is happening. like they say, the first step to solving a problem is realising there is one in the first place. talking about bitterness, i have seen it in many married women. its a scary word i know, especially for women. what is the cause? i reckon its dissapointment. thats the problem we should be addressing.

scram: To read from a woman that marriage is a burden to herself and the entire womanhood is amazingly jaw dropping and disturbing. Sometimes I wonder what kind of heart some woman have. If woman are thought their roles from their homes, in the schools they engage in extra- curriculum activities that would enhance their life and get them prepared for the future ahead as a woman, a wife and finally a mother I don't see any reason for all these mixed feelings. I will support any group that comes out to the fore front the fight against feminism anytime any day because they are nothing but a bad eggs among women, they are bitter women opening their arms wide as if they need a hug but beneath the glove they wear is an iron fist.

In a marriage, everybody has a responsibility, just like the ship captain and a crew, just like a government. And everybody working together for a better result. The man is the head and the woman is his assistant. They both share ideas with each other in love and trust but the final decision lies with the man.

Your arguments are baseless about a woman throwing what she has and exchanging it for a MRS for the fear of ending up lonely as they are been threatened by the male folks. What do you mean by that anyway? Could you please give us a reasonable explanation with examples? Which man would even divorce his wife or threaten to do so if she didn't somehow turn out to be different from the wife he married (due to bad influence from her widow or divorced friends)? I really need you to think about all these things and come up with a reasonable argument. Otherwise, we are saying no to feminists ideas.

Finally, I would like to see a feminist woman like yourself on every forums, on the streets and medias building trust not just among couples but everybody, then we know you people are for real. We don't need you causing troubles between men and women, a man and his brother, a woman and her sister and then offering your own kind of solution like someone has said on this thread. There is an order, don't turn the world into another sodom and gomorra, please. I speak today on behalf of all straight men of nigeria, that we still love the women and we want them to continue to suppose us and fight the oppressor.

Cheers
From a true brother

its ok. sorry i lost my temper jor.

2buff: Please forgive.
Like most girls in here, he is going by what the environment has shown...like you mentioned earlier.

I hope you can see that the judgemental effects of simply going by "the environment" is a 2 edged sword.

warrior101: Bruv if you know these mutants plans fear go catch you. They are not prepared for a marraige, they are very smart enough to decieve men into marrying them and then after getting pregnant they zoom off claiming the baby and then expanding their businesses with other men's money (sleeping with other men)... They only breast feed their baby for a month or two and then result to fomulas so that their breast remains good looking. They threaten the father with all vices until he gives up on his baby. These women value their body more than life itself. Some of then will never deliver a baby through their vagina but prefer an operation that cuts their abdomen open (there is a medical name for it) so that their vagina can remain firm... If you know these woman, you would fear them. Run when you see one brothers...

you constantly shock me with your spewings. why are you knocking Ceaserian operation. how dare you. have you ever had a period, talk less of carrying a child? have you breastfed a child before? if you were a woman i wouldnt bat an eye lid, but as a man, how dare you? i cant believe you went there. for your information, women pretend because thats what you want. you do not appreciate women who are themselves. am i lying? after you will say you were deceived. talking abour firm vaginas, who is it being kept firm for? whoever you are, what you wrote was completely uncalled for. what do you know about women and their women things. how dare you to judge what you know absolutely nothing about.

sweetroses: Please be mature in your speech. For heaven's sake you cannot call somebody a bit.ch simply because she disagrees with your ideas that women should submit to men. Learn to respect other people's views. One thing you men need to realize is that not all women think alike just the way not all men think alike and so you can't expect that every woman you come across will support your notion of submission.
If you want submissive humble women that worship their men and place them on pedestals than I can assure you that you will certainly find such women, they are every where; women who want a man to protect them and provide for them and lead them. Such women are everywhere so find one of them when you want to get married instead of trying to force every woman to think the same way and accept the same ideals.
Hard as it might be for you to believe, there are men who don't have any interest in dating submissive women. Such men want a partner that is on equal grounds with them and can interact with them as pals and buddies instead of leader and follower. I should knowbecause I have met some men who are like that.

Summary of the everything I wrote: some women want equality in their relationships and some women want a leader. Some men want. Equality in relationships and some want their women to submit to their leadership. Differences exist in human needs and desires so learn to respect other people's opinions.

Peace.

thanks for your astute input. i hope it gets through to everyone.

warrior101: A feminish hooking up with a straight guy? Hmmm I've never really thought about it now that you just mentioned it I've given it a thought and I think it'd be a drama... A constant strugle for headship... A war... One person might die during the cause of the fight.

Is this what they are bringing to the table? Men are facing the batle on two fronts. Fighting the oppressors of the world and now they are taking our women from us and turning them against us.

There is a man behind these women redistributing the rights wrongly. And the more women they gain, the more powerful they become. Everybody is not equal. Some people irrespective of gender are stronger then the others. You can not give a weak man a bigger man's job to do so why give them the same reward? Its a scam and people who preach equal rights are scammers... There is nothing new under the sun. There are still royalties and dignitories and ther are still peasants and middle class and everybody has its own unique duty and reward. The same goes for a man and woman. Most freedom fighters are greedy people looking for power. They would cause trouble and later offer a solution and this gives them power and followers.

A word is enough for the wise...

this is a serious question but i need to ask. can you sincerly say that guys have done a good job so far. im talking generally, not just relationship wise.

no fighting, children. no name calling. let's keep it PG13.

bettermike: He wasnt insulting you calling you a bytch. He was simply identifying you as what you truely are. Its the fact. Let me give you another fact: when a man/woman decides to start dancing in the middle of a highway, without music playing, you say, aww...he/she has gone mard. Now, no one can accuse you for insulting other cos you simply stated a fact. Same for girls that have lost it the way you girls have; there's no better word to describe your state of mind than bytch. You dont wanna be called bytch? Stop dancing naked in public.

i have to ask, whats the difference between a MAN and a REAL MAN?

bettermike: SISTERS VIEWING, WE, REAL MEN, LOVE YOU. It will be in your best interest to do away with the likes of koyes, tdn, safarigirl etc; if you are still nursing any idea of settling down in a blissful marriage in the near future.

sometimes we have to scream cos its unhealthy to keep all those emotions inside. yes, its true we suffer burdens of our own choosing. is it feminism tearing the family unit apart or women walking away from unbearable marriages. like i said earlier. i believe in marriage. mum, dad, 4 kids, white picket fence and all. what is threatening marriages are so many things and one of them is the fact that women are disatisfied and therefore couldnt care less about pleasing their husbands.

i always hear. 2 wrongs dont make a right. its ridiculous how many times i hear this. assuming the man is the head of the house, shouldnt he also be the spiritual leader of the house? the moral centre of the home? or do we just assign responsibilities to wives, husbands find distasteful.
one thing you said earlier i dont agree with, yes women end up being alone and become casualties of their philosophies, but thats what men use to threaten women. although it wasnt your intention, thats the way it is. women are scared of ending up alone, they remain in marriages from hell. when you make a statment like that, no matter your intention, one lady somewhere is taking it to heart and throwing overboard whatever needs she may have and exchanging it for a MRS.

im sure you know this trust building exercise, where someone stands behind you, and you are asked to fall because they will catch you. you are to let go of all your hang ups and just fall. in this exercise, whoever is behind you always catches you. in real life between men and women im sure you understand why its hard for some women to just let go and fall. they are terrified he wont be there to catch them.

jewel4Hiscrown: AMEN and Amen, thank you 2buff.



I don't think we have to scream at all. I hope I don't seem rude when I say I think we women sometimes subject ourselves to burdens we do not need to bear, such as self-inflicted exhaustion. Bitterness only harms the bitter party. I'm still learning a lot but in my estimation, a bitter woman is not ready to be married and from what the Bible tells me, if she is married, it is one of four tragedies which the earth cannot bear (Proverbs 30:21-23). Why punish ourselves and innocent men for the choice a man made to hurt us in 1922?

I also have a question, regarding your statement "You want us to do better, start with yourselves." Is our role as women determined by how men behave? In other words, if today men refused to do better, would you then stop being who you are called to be as a woman? I must also humbly disagree with your statement that [all] men have a bad name. The only ones who do are the ones who have chosen to answer to that bad name and act accordingly. It is only when a person answers that their name is discovered or assumed. If anybody stands at my door and shouts "Jemima!" even 100 times it doesn't matter and I wont even know they're calling me because my name is not Jemima and anybody who knows me will know it is the person shouting who is misinformed. The best I can do is say "There is no Jemima here." But if I answer, the person will continue to call me Jemima thinking it is my name. Finally, femininity is not a crown of thorns. On the other hand, feminism, which has tried to paint womanhood as the doldrums of anguish and retrogression, is not only a crown of thorns but also a thorn in the side, the eye, the flesh and the foot. The author of The Color Purple is revered in feminist circles and called a champion of women's rights but her own daughter wrote an impassioned article stating how her mother's feminist views tore the entire family apart. Why did her feminism not work in her own home? There are endless examples, TDN.

There are mistakes across the board but the way I see it, the solution is not for us to say "You have to act right before I do" or to ask why nobody is talking about someone else. "The way things used to be" just might be different from "the way things should be," and I dare to wager that the latter is difficult, more than possible.



Thank you niyitogun

bettermike: Halfway you say? Sorry, i dont negotiate with terrorists.

you are too funny. terrorist you say. definitely not my intention but at least now you know what it feels like for some women. for one second i got you to put yourself in our shoes. its a good day i say.

2buff: Then we have nothing further to argue about. We have the same Point of view.
To not get side-tracked, this thread is about humility and how it affects your relationship with your man.
If you already understand it, then that's good.

In fact the kneeling thing you did would have been so cute . I'm sure you know, a lot of girls today will rather call thunder on his head than do that. Afterall, "who is he?" lol.

Keep it up. The blessing follow you too and all women that "get it".

this your prayer is for all women, kissed plenty frogs before i found my prince. so ive used the "who is he" line, countless of times. for so many people like me humility doesnt come naturally. its definitely a virtue for men and women to aspire to. so give Nigerian women a chance. dont give up on them as we havent given up on you yet. this environment can be hostile and aggression can be a defence mechanism. my fiance told me once that before we met he heard how horrible i was, we started dating and i cant tell you how surprised he was that i was capable of a loving relationship. bottom line, all i needed was to feel safe, to trust him. people will always need other people who will bring out the best in them.

was watching a movie last night and a woman said EVERYONE'S BROKEN. THEY JUST NEED SOMEONE LESS BROKEN TO TAKE CARE OF THEM.
so do you want gold or a diamond in the rough? funny, this life, all you have to do is open your heart and you might find unimaginable happiness in a place you least expect.

2buff: @TDN's song, As you can see, and as I have said, a lot of songs and media exists already that tell men what's up.
But very few, if any, tell women what's up. And any that do, is often viciously attacked by the media and given a bad name.
The result is a generation of a particular gender out here in the west that don't know their own part in the dance, because they're not aware of steps/moves they also need to make to make a beautiful dance performance.

With all the clauses in that song, she does say something that a lot of females listening to will feign ignorance at or just generally block off:
"...and a real woman knows a real man always comes first."

That bit ofcourse only took up about 1% of the song, hence it being easy to miss.
It kinda needs to be sounded a lot louder than that in today's west-centric media.

oh i didnt miss that line. not at all and i hope you didnt miss " And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her "
its exhausting sha when you have to scream and no one can hear you. hence what you perceive as aggression. we all need to make an effort to fully understand what the opposite sex wants. women are bitter, do you blame them? men are disillusioned as a result. lets put positions aside and actually listen to each other. you want us to do better, start with yourselves. forget about the media, from the day we are born, we are told whats up. how to please you. the media didnt give men a bad name. men did this all on their own. im influenced by what i see around me. its hard to miss.

things will never go back the way they used to be. so what now? i dont know but something has to change. cos all this time you have worn the crown, we had thorns on our heads.something to think about.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JtMUIwOE2ss

"A Woman's Worth"

You could buy me diamonds
You could buy me pearls
Take me on a cruise around the world
Baby you know I'm worth it
Dinner lit by candles
Run my bubble bath
Make love tenderly to last and last
Baby you know I'm worth it

Wanna please wanna keep wanna treat your woman right
Not just dough but to show that you know she is worth your time
You will lose if you chose to refuse to put her first
She will and she can find a man who knows her worth

Mmm
Cause a real man, knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a womans worth

Mm Hmm Mm Hmmm
Mm Hmm Mm Hmmm
Mm Hmm Mm Hmmm
Mm

If you treat me fairly
I'll give you all my goods
Treat you like a real woman should
Baby I know you're worth it
If you never play me
Promise not to bluff
I'll hold you down when shit gets rough
Cause baby I know you're worth it

She walks the mile makes you smile all the while being true
Don't take for granted the passions that she has for you
You will lose if you chose to refuse to put her first
She will and she can find a man who knows her worth

Oh
Cause a real man knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth

No need to read between the lines spelled out for you (spelled out for you)
Just hear this song cause you can't go wrong when you value (better value)
A woman's (woman's)
Woman's (woman's)
WORTH!

Cause a real man knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real woman knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a woman's worth

2buff: Oh my goodness. You are truly a daughter of heaven.

In all 13 pages of this thread, you are the only woman who has been able to GET what I'm trying to communicate here.

Your home and your seed be blessed and may God grant you the man of your dreams,
as it is clear you have prepared yourself to be the woman that will not let him suffer or hurt, nor use your own hands to destroy your home because of stories of what someone else somewhere who isn't your spouse did.

There is such great power in humility that girls today do not understand. Love your example of Delilah.
With humility, the right man would have no issues doing anything for his wife (even washing her underwear sef)...because he can TRUST that he can allow himself do certain things for her without her scheming to use it as a means to usurp his position in the household.

na we be devil pikin. lol

i collect the blessings even if it wasnt aimed at me. i just let out a huge sigh. no one is scheming but you hit the nail on the head. no one wants to harm the man they claim to love. i understand what she's saying and i agree with certain aspects. im interested in knowing what your needs are as a man. always. i cant help it, its in my nature as a woman to be nurturing but at the same time be interested in my needs, not dismiss them. i hold marriage in the highest regard and think its sad when over a certain age, anyone, man or woman is single.

are you getting what im trying to communicate? the exact same thing you are saying. cater to our needs and there is nothing we wouldnt do for you. thats what we are saying too. why is it so hard for us to understand each other.
no matter how much i have in my bank account, it feels good when my fiance spends on me. i feel like im treasured. we dont want to be men. we want to be women but you sometimes make us feel like being a woman is a bad thing.


guys, try and cater to the needs of your women and they will treat you like a king.
i have knelt down to serve my fiance food before. we just laughed over it cos i saw my aunt do it once.
yes its sometimes true, you stoop to conquer but we have been stooping for thousands of years.
meet us halfway is what we are asking.

2buff: Oh my goodness. You are truly a daughter of heaven.

In all 13 pages of this thread, you are the only woman who has been able to GET what I'm trying to communicate here.

Your home and your seed be blessed and may God grant you the man of your dreams,
as it is clear you have prepared yourself to be the woman that will not let him suffer or hurt.

There is such great power in humility that girls today do not understand. Love your example of Delilah.
With humility, the right man would have no issues doing anything for his wife (even washing her underwear sef)...because he can TRUST that he can allow himself do certain things for her without her scheming to use it as a means to usurp his position in the household.

bettermike: Oh! I'll be so delighted to see you pump that bullet through your head girl. That'll mean one less feminist polluting our world. Why is what you want wrong? My dear, what is wrong is wrong! And stop throwing the 'dont judge' card in our face. Just as the gay are asking for their rights to put their pins through other men's behinds, which is sooo wrong; that is the same way your opinions are very logically, spiritually, emotionally and socially wrong. Are we not supposed to try to correct the gay too because we are encouraging equality? I will say it again: What is wrong is wrong. Your ideas are so wrong!

i see there's no reasoning with you. cos you keep bringing up irrelevant things. who is polluting the world if you really think about it. you bring up gays.

yes, dont judge, thats how you practise tolerance but there's no attempting to meet me halfway. whats wrong is wrong. zero interest in my valid concerns. unfortunately for you, the world is changing and eventually you have to adapt. resistance is futile. now im gonna say something shocking.

MEN AND WOMEN ARE EQUAL. you are not superior just because you were told you were and i find it hard to believe you watch documentaries. my opinions arent wrong because you say so. remember the golden rule? do unto others as you want to be done unto you. nothing i say will ever get through to you. abeg im going to watch Game of Thrones, winter is coming.

warrior101: Why would I be wanting my wife to call me a master per say? I'm asking you cuz I don't understand what you're saying therem

Actually there's nothing to quibble about here misus we don be ok let us call you to the table now. What is it that you want? What are your strenght that you have discovered that's making you stand up to me and wanting to divde my(talking like the head) home?

guy you never still answer question wey i ask you. anyhow im standing up to what you represent., not you. as for my new found strengths to which you refer, i have seen what male dominion has done to women in the society. to the society itself and then it occured to me that because i was told a man was suprerior to me, i believed he was. i saw that some men were failing in their responsibilites as the head of their homes. i guess i ceased to recognise this authority that no longer benefits me.

the question i asked myself is this. so the man is the head of the home. does he deserve that title. is he worthy of it? absolutely not but of course there will always be exceptions. if the crown is so important to you, earn it. enough of this tyranny. what women doesnt want a man to love, cherish and take care of her? a lot of men abused the right as head of the family. now its a priviledge. earn it.

if Goodluck Jonathan gave give our country uniterrupted power, forget 3rd time, he would be king. there would be no fighting for women's right if we didnt need it. why would you deny someone who wants to improve the quality of their lives. for once, put yourself in our shoes.we go to same schools as you. we wanna feel good about ourselves and most important, we want to contribute to our society. why try and put us in a box and then not take care of us the way you should. it makes no sense.

bettermike: House help (female) will not challenge my ANY move. She's paid to take instructions and make a home nice. She knows her role and i know mine. If possible, i could Behind her up to taste and make babies with her as i like (ofcourse as my househelp). What else do i need in a wife if not these?

so thats what a wife means to you. cook, clean, take instructions, dare not challenge you and make babies?

i would rather put a bullet in my head but cool. i cant judge you, there are plenty women willing to be at your beck and call.

so why is what i want wrong? why judge what i want and term it as wrong or madness. thats my question.

bettermike: Speaking is a man who has lost all hope in african women.

dont be discouraged. there are women out there who share your values.

bettermike: DO YOU GIRLS EVEN KNOW WHAT YOU WANT? Most of you dont have any idea what you want. Its realy no suprise because you were made that way. So why should we take seriously what you want. Why can you just empty your junk cup and follow us the men? Is that too hard? Our weapons are no longer effective you say? Wait till we are through. You will jump on your knees begging us to master over you.

its our right to change our minds and have ever changing needs. try to keep up.

warrior101: You forgot to add 419.. Our weapons are not effective anymore? So you agree its a weapon? So its a war and your own weapons are more effective or superior You have no idea what I'm capable of doing. I'll shock you guys as far as 9ja is concerned then go ahead to seek foriegn backup if you think that's where your power comes from. Wait and see...

you wanna know what your biggest weapon is? im sure you know. the others are being neutralized every day that passes. foreign back up ke. you havent answered my question.

why is being called and treated like MASTER, so important to you?

its not that men are any less men. its that women are realising their strengths and it terrifies you doesnt it. i really want to know why.

bettermike: Educated and respectful women? Where are they? Please point them to me. Please! Honestly, i've had it realy rough with agressive girls. I have been led to assume that my lady househelp solution is the only way out. Perhaps i'll need to be more outgoing to meet the women i want.

i cant believe what you just wrote. your lady househelp is the only solution? solution to what? never mind, you have a right to want what you want. im certain ther's a girl out there for you. good luck.

im excited about the how to be a man symposium you guys want to organise. dont forget before you meet to ask women to fill out a questionnaire about WHAT WOMEN WANT.

seriously, you could learn something if you asked us what we wanted. i know its hard to let go of it always being about you but its for the greater good. happy wife, happy home and all. different women, different needs. im hurt you're offended that some dude has chosen to give it to me. trying to come between me and my pursuit of happiness tinz. not cool.

im glad you have taken up this challenge. keep in mind, your weapons are no longer effective.

which one is prostitutes and homosexuals. its okay sha. change is hard but we will get there. for the record, i respect our culture but there are some that dont make sense in today's world and we have to let go. i have to ask though, what is it about women gaining more independence that makes you so ticked off. why is it so important for you to be called and treated like MASTER. im opening up a dialogue here. i wanna know. im genuinely interested.

warrior101: LOL@Heroes... Goodluck to your heroes...
This is just like turning prostitution into an occupation and making 419 a legit bisiness... Everything that's bad is now celebrated like homosexuals and shemales... Endtime tinz

However in the last part of your comment you're saying my point indirectly but attacking me personally becayse I'm a man telling you that I'm a man and have my role as much as you have yours...

There's no need for a war? I thought YOU were standing up to ME just now?