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 Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 10:29pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
warrior101: So na who go wash the dishes before?im going to say it again. no one, i repeat, no one is conspiring against you. women arent having secret meetings, strategizing on how to get you to do dishes. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 10:21pm On Dec 27, 2013*. Modified: 10:36pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
warrior101: You're a great help to your parents. But please stop twisting cowardise to mean guts... Stop it. So when your man is arround peers and can not express himself you would fight for him right? That dude you call husband is a figure head, you're actually the man in the house and it was women like you who encouraged his weekness... I don't have to write a note. Already made my point. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 9:54pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
warrior101: My friend you've been brainwashed or you're a clown. My grandmother was learned and my mother also, I have met a lot of learned and ambitious grannies like justice mrs pemu and I'm still meeting many yet these people are in their husbands house cooking dishes and enjoying it... Why am I even still here sef...cooking, yes, some people enjoy doing it, but dude, seriously, who enjoys doing dishes? also the term HUSBAND'S HOUSE is redundant. i know what the general definition is but coming from you it sounds like a dungeon, with you as gate keeper. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 9:49pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
PocketEconomist: Well, times have changed, you're right. My sister lemme shock you... Do you know that in the 21st century, many mothers are still training their daughters? I overheard a conversation while at a family gathering last year (no this year, the year is not over yetwhat does back to sender mean? |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 9:27pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
PocketEconomist: Thank you. To be truthful, many of the ladies here disgust me. You meet a lady today and tomorrow asks you to pay 20,000 for hair? And you exchange sex for money and you expect to be respected by the man? Indeed. I'm gonna say this without apology... Some Naija women DESERVE THE YEYE MEN THEY MARRY. A woman who no value herself will not be valued by any man. Simple.you are right, although you were kinda harsh. women need to learn how to be independent financially. as long as men hold the purse strings, there will always be undue influence. its not easy as we were taught not to be ambitious. home making was the ultimate goal. times are changing though cos even when the society needs and wants us to be home builders, it doesnt want us to be ambitious, but needs us to. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 9:16pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
koyes: We all have different personalities that directly influences our preference in life. People are not the same and cannot reason the same way. However,from what i observed on this thread,women who are educated and exude self confidence where ever they go have no business with domineering men cause they would always be confused as extreme feminists no matter how humble she is. There are respectful men who don't have a problem with such women. For the men with domineering traits,please look for your kind. Don't use your past experience and generalise all women cause that's irresponsible and learn not to be intimidated and make complaints when you hear or see a woman express her views. You'll get nothing out of it.nicely put. to each his own. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 7:59pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
warrior101: The man you marry would be seen to be a whimp by the society and a victim of bully... You can never think or act like a man. He's a coward and that's what has attracted him to you because its a mugu you will be comfortable with as your subject...WIMP? he is considered that cos he is cool headed? COWARD? cos he decided to marry an aggressive lady. actually it takes a lot of guts to be with someone like me. MUGU?cos he doesnt need to oppress me to validate his masculinity? where is Bully coming from? strong words but i completely understand. any man that chooses to be with someone like me is a threat to a guy like you. the society made up of people like you. well im sorry to dissapoint you. im engaged to a great guy. he likes cooking. i can cook too. i always complain he is making me fat, so i insist on making meals, cos mine are healthier. he is very cool headed and is the best guy for me but im gonna say this, a wimp or coward he is not. so he treats me like an equal, you have no idea how much strength that takes. there will always be those like you who will call him names but he is the strongest man i know cos no matter how aggressive i get, he just ignores me and i feel ashamed and calm down. i have never heard him raise his voice, not even once, but there is unimaginable power in silence. i jnow im a better person with him in my life and most importantly, i know thats the man i want to father my children. yes, it only matters what he thinks about himself and what i think of him. i guess you are married or will be married to the society, since what they think is all you care about. its not by force, by all means, be with the type of woman you want. its your choice but dont bash men who end up with women like me cos you have no idea what they are enjoying. never judge a book by its cover cos with my aggression and views of the world, there are so many things he finds wonderful about me. the strength of a woman is immeasurable and it baffles me when some men measure their strength by how the world perceives how they treat their women. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 7:30pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Ngokafor: Interesting thread...first of all,i think the op wrote this piece from his perception of women in America,whose overall attitude in relation to men is different from the way women are here.Women in this part of the world has done and is doing their fair share of the humility/submissive ish so how much more subservient do you guys mouthing off endlessly here want them to be huh??...you want them to roll over and die or what??.. I just dont get where all these whining,complaining and nagging are coming from honestly.well put. even though i claim to be a feminist, there is nothing i wouldnt do for a man who is worthy of my love. everyone deserves respect and adoration from their partners. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 7:23pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
njokusboy: Scared of what... I aint scared of jacksh1t, aggressive women don't bother me, I don't even care about them, I pretend they don't exist but they also know better than to bring their "hot head" close to me...guys stop walking away. take it as a challenge. like taming the shrew. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 7:18pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
njokusboy: Scared of what... I aint scared of jacksh1t, aggressive women don't bother me, I don't even care about them, I pretend they don't exist but they also know better than to bring their "hot head" close to me...ok o. what about aggressive men? i take it you walk away too. i dont know if its low self esteem or the fact that people are just people. if thats the case, fine. by the way im a feminist and extremely aggressive and im certain the man i will marry has to be cool headed not because i want to try and take advantage of him but i know he will teach me humility. everyone is capable of being both aggressive and cool headed. it takes the right partner to inspire and bring out the good traits in you. it takes a special kind of man to be with an aggressive woman and be happy with her. my mum used to say, we all cannot be sugar or else the world will lick us up. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 6:29pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
[quote author=bukatyne]Only feminists have anger issues? im a feminist starting today and im very angry. lol one thing i noticed about naija guys is they like it when women pretend. so we pretend to be humble. pretend to be so many things they think an ideal woman should be. im advising guys, its better a woman shows you her true self before you marry her. also since when did humility become a woman's thing. people are either humble or they arent. everyone has their flaws and pride is one of them, for both men and women. as respect is earned and cant be forced. all this talk about head of the family is giving me a headache abeg. dont mind them. it seems they dont teach how to earn respect in how to be a man school. apparently, they have no idea. some of them have no clue how to be a man unless a woman makes them feel like a man. whats the word used when a woman undermines masculinity? EMASCULATION. funny, there's no word to make women feel less feminine. its enough, its no longer a man's world, we are here too and the world is big enough for all of us to coexist without oppressing each other. for the guys out there, i dont want to rule over you. i have absolutely zero interest in that but dont i have a right to contribute as i please. you are not my head or my savior and you have failed to protect and show good examples to your children. enough. step aside cos im tired of walking behind you. you can hold my hand sha. lol |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 6:13pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
PocketEconomist: That's good to know. There are still sensible women arround. I gotta say, i respect women like youyou know what. i think people decide the kind of relationship they want to have and she is very lucky her husband loves her enough to make the right decisions that best suits her needs. i respect the fact that women should choose the kind of relationship they want to have. however when you say sensible, does that mean others are stupid for not living by the same philisophy? cos when i was growing up, the word sensible woman was always used in the most horrible situations. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 6:01pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
PocketEconomist: i agree with some of your points... But a wife still needs to submit to ber husband. I think the problem is the percieved dèfinition of submission. Submission is not being his foot mat, submission is different from subservience. Submission is not becoming a punching bag, or a house maid, or not airing your opinions on family matters. Submission is simply recognising the husband as the HEAD of the family, respecting his decisions on family matters. Every institution has a head, be it country, court, kingdom, religious organisation, school and so on. The family is an institution, and it has a head. The husband. This is where feminists got it wrong.i still dont agree that a man should be seen as the head based on the simple fact that when a leader can no longer perform his or her functions, they need to step down. granted i shouldnt generalise but its clear when you look at the society today. women are trying to find their place in a man's world. should we really allow you make all the major decisions? decisions we should be making together? im using logic here, not religion or culture or any other precedents passed down from generations. we dont need a head, we need a partner and submit to each other. |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 4:23pm On Dec 26, 2013 |
Elevation: Ladies have to do the needful,no sane man would love to enslave the woman he truly loves,Women it is a necessity to submit to the man in all humility the worldly system might say otherwise but the Word(Holy book) supports it Ephesians 5:23-25...Wives submit unto your own husbands as unto the Lord,because he (Husband) is the head of the wife,the wife should be subject to the husband in every thing,Husbands,love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it.Guys let us love the Ladies,who knows our love might help in renewing their minds.I'm just not sure we like that word SUBMIT. Sorry it gives me chills. On the other hand, let both of us agree we are equal for peace to reign. Times have changed, you guys should try to evolve. Why insist on living in the past. Its very simple. Women can literally do anything you can and more, is it logical to ask that we call you master. Battle of the sexes will go on and on until men realise that women are human beings too. Why won't you accept that we simply can't comprehend submission and the question we should be asking is how do we relate to each other knowing the status quo has changed. 2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: Humility: The Lost Female Art by TDN: 4:08pm On Dec 26, 2013 |
Nuzo':Well to each his own. You probably should have let your friend decide. Opposites attract and often times bring out the best in each other. |
| Education › PRESSID Candidates Take Aptitude Test by TDN(op): 7:50pm On Dec 20, 2013 |
The First Class graduates, shortlisted for the Presidential Special Scholarship for Innovation and Development (PRESSID) Scheme, on Monday, 9 December, 2013, sat for a computer-based aptitude test conducted by the Implementation Committee on the scheme, at Chams City, Abuja, to select best brains for sponsorship to study at the top 25 universities of the world. It would be recalled that a similar test for candidates took place last year, after which a total of 101 graduates were selected and sponsored to the top 25 universities in the world, where they are currently pursuing postgraduate studies in specific fields. While on a monitoring visit to the venue of the test, the Chairman, Implementation Committee on PRESSID and Executive Secretary, National Universities Commission (NUC), Professor Julius A. Okojie, OON, said that the exercise was meant to select the best among the best and to ensure that the selected candidates met the minimum requirements for the scheme initiated by President Goodluck Jonathan, GCFR. He explained that no fewer than 2,000 candidates applied for selected programmes in Engineering, Technology, Sciences, Basic Medical Sciences, Medicine and Economics, among other emerging fields where the country was experiencing shortfalls. Out of this, about 629 were shortlisted for the test. Professor Okojie explained that the essence of the scheme was to train the critical mass of professionals required to drive the Transformation Agenda of the present administration and the goals of the Vision 20:2020. The plan, he added, was that the candidates, upon graduation, would return to Nigeria, to work for the Government for 5 years before taking up any other appointment. The aim was to ensure that they graduated a set of students in their various fields, thereby developing the tertiary education system. The Executive Secretary, while explaining the selection criteria, disclosed that the test was for graduates with First Class honours, between 2010/2011 and 2011/2012 academic sessions, who were below 30 years, possessed basic requirements of Senior Secondary School Certificates, local government identification, Bachelor’s degree certificates and had completed the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) scheme. He stressed that the exercise was purely based on merit and not quota system, saying that only those who met the criteria were shortlisted. The PRESSID committee comprises representatives of the NUC, Federal Ministry of Education, Petroleum Technology Development Fund (PTDF), Tertiary Education Trust Fund (TETFund), Federal Scholarship Board, as well as some Professors with First Class honours from across the country. Others in the NUC delegation were the Deputy Executive Secretary, Mr. Akinbode Agbaoye; Director, Quality Assurance, Professor Chiedu Mafiana; Deputy Director, Protocol, Mr. Chris Maiyaki and Deputy Director,ICT Projects, Dr. Joshua Atah.
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| Education › FG, ASUU Sign Agreement To End Strike by TDN(op): 7:12pm On Dec 20, 2013 |
The Federal Government and the Academic Staff Union of Universities (ASUU), on Wednesday, 11 December, 2013, signed a Resolution to end the strike, which had shut down public universities in the country for more than five months. Briefing newsmen at a meeting between the parties, the Supervising Minister of Education, Barr. Nyesom Wike, said: ‘‘Today, I am very pleased to announce that all contending issues between the ASUU and the Federal Government have been resolved to the satisfaction of the parties.’’ Barr. Wike remarked that both the Federal Government and ASUU were partners in progress and that there was no victor, no vanquished in a struggle of this nature, adding that the goal remained noble, not motivated by parochial interests but targeted at moving the nation forward. He, on behalf of President Jonathan, thanked Nigerians, the National Assembly, the labour unions, traditional rulers, parents and students for their patience through out the period of the strike. Responding, the ASUU President, Dr. Nasir Fagge, said that the Resolution was a response to a letter which the Union wrote to Mr. President, through the Supervising Minister of Education. He commended parents, students and other stakeholders in the tertiary education sub-sector for their understanding and patience, stressing that the struggle was to ensure that Government put the Nigerian University System (NUS) in order. The Permanent Secretary, Federal Ministry of Education, Dr. Mac- John Nwaobiala, signed the Agreement on behalf of the Federal Government, while the ASUU President signed on behalf of the Union. The President, Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC), Comrade Abdulwahheed Omar, signed as a witness. Also present at the signing were the Executive Secretary, National Universities Commission, (NUC), Professor Julius A. Okojie, former Executive Secretary, TETFund, Professor Mahmood Yakubu, Vice-Chancellors of Bayero University, Kano, Professor Abubakar Rasheed, Tafawa Balewa University, Bauchi, Muhammad Hamisu Muhammad, University of Ibadan, Isaac Folorunso Adewole, University of Port Harcourt, Professor Joseph Ajienka and University of Lagos, Rahaman Bello who played mediatory roles throughout the negotiation process.
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| Education › FUNAI Holds Second Matriculation Ceremony by TDN(op): 2:19pm On Dec 12, 2013 |
The Federal University, Ndufu- Alike, Ikwo (FUNAI), Ebonyi State, on Friday, 29 November, 2013, held its second matriculation ceremony, where it received 494 students. Welcoming the new entrants, the Vice-Chancellor of the University, Professor Oye Ibidapo-Obe, stated that the matriculants were entering the University at a time when higher education was undergoing rapid and dramatic transformation throughout the world. Nigeria, he said, was also undergoing seismic shifts and challenges, while facing extraordinary pressures. “As technology evolves and as familiar boundaries shift on the map of knowledge, educators are being pressured at every level to adapt in response. “Technology is also giving rise to new educational models and to a whole new field of competitors who seek to redefine what it means to go to university”, he said. Professor Obe told the guests that, as a result of a difficult economy, the job market had been weakened and this had, in turn, made more persons to see education in increasingly narrow terms and question how education could get students on track and land them their dream jobs, rather than asking how it could help them learn what was necessary to shape them to live meaningful and valuable lives and contribute to national development. According to the Vice-Chancellor, FUNAI was about possibilities. At FUNAI, he said, it was possible to change a person’s perception of education. It was possible to meet and to become entrepreneurs, who would build future businesses and cultural enterprises. At FUNAI, it was possible to unlock the promise of a better future for the country, because entrepreneurship was an integral part of the University’s curriculum. It was also possible for students to grow, develop and become relevant in any field of their choice, as they were equipped with 21st Century knowledge. As part of efforts to achieve worldclass status, the University was currently discussing with Hiroshima University, Japan, with a view to making FUNAI a Centre for the Study of Space Science and Astronomy, while plans were on course for renewed Life Science programmes, with emphasis on Biotechnology. The Institution had also embarked on partnership programmes, on staff and student exchange, with selected universities in the United States, such as Rice University, Harvard University and Texas Southern University. As part of its Corporate Social Responsibility, FUNAI was proposing a linkage with the Folk Technical College, Ikwo, to kick-off the University’s entrepreneurial strategy for total training. The 494 matriculating students, of which 256 were in the Sciences and 238 in the Humanities and Social Sciences, were spread across the following Departments: Anatomy, Physiology and Medical Biochemistry (55); Biology, Microbiology and Biotechnology (55); Chemistry and Biochemistry (54); Mathematics, Computer Science, Statistics and Informatics (52); Economics and Development Studies (44); Accounting, Business Administration and Entrepreneurial Studies (42); History and Strategic Studies (16); Languages, Linguistics, Literary Studies and Visual Arts (57) as well as Political Science, Sociology and Psychology (79). The Executive Secretary of the National Universities Commission was represented by the Director, Lagos Liaison Office, Barr. Victor Onuoha. |
| Education › FG Orders Vcs To Reopen Federal Universities by TDN(op): 10:27pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
FG Orders VCs to Reopen Federal Univerrsities The Federal Government has directed Vice-Chancellors of federal universities to, immediately, reopen their institutions for academic and allied activities.Government also charged them to provide an enabling environment for staff to carry out their lawful duties.The Supervising Minister of Education, Barr. Nyesom Wike, who conveyed these directives at a press conference, held on Thursday, 28 November, 2013, in Abuja, said that any academic staff who failed to resume by 4 December, 2013, ceased to be a staff of the institution. Consequently, Vice-Chancellors were directed to advertise vacancies (internal and external) in their institutions. The Minister said that Government had reviewed the situation and come to the conclusion, that the continuation of the strike by the Academic Staff Union of Universities (ASUU) was an attempt to sabotage Government’s efforts to address their grievances, noting that no responsible government would allow the continuous closure of her public universities for this length of time. He recalled the various meetings held with the leadership of ASUU and the initiatives taken by the Federal Government to address the grievances of ASUU since it went on strike on 1 July, 2013. Barr. Wike explained that, as part of efforts to demonstrate Government’s commitment, President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan, GCFR, had met with ASUU executives and other union leaders from Nigeria Labour Congress (NLC) and Trade Union Congress (TUC), on 4 November, 2013, where all the issues were resolved and firm commitments made to address the lingering issues. He stated that it was amazing that three weeks after the meeting with Mr. President, ASUU responded by giving new conditions for suspending the five-month old strike. The Minister wondered, if Mr. President’s gesture was not more than sufficient to guarantee the commitment of Government to address all issues as resolved at the meeting. He appealed to all stakeholders to appreciate the position of Government, which was in the best interest of the nation. Barr. Wike described as unfortunate, the tragic death of former ASUU President, Professor Festus Iyayi, who lost his life in an accident on his way to Kano, for the Union’s National Executive Committee (NEC) meeting and expressed Government’s sympathy to the family of the late Iyayi and ASUU. In a similar vein, the Committee of Pro-Chancellors of Nigerian Federal Universities rose from its meeting, held in Abuja, on Tuesday, 26 November, 2013, where it discussed wide-ranging issues affecting the Nigerian University System (NUS), including the ASUU strike, and resolved that all federal universities should re-open in the overall interest of all stakeholders. A communiqué issued by the Chairman of the Committee, Professor Kimse Okoko, read in part: “The Committee noted, with satisfaction, the outcome of the referendum conducted in all branches of ASUU nation-wide which voted 60:40, in favour of the suspension of the on-going ASUU strike. Consequently, based on the outcome of this democratic exercise by ASUU and the negative impact the strike has had on the university system, the students, parents and the nation at large, the Committee of Pro-Chancellors unanimously agreed that all federal universities should re-open their universities immediately in the overall interest of all concerned.” The statement commended the Federal Government for its efforts at addressing the major issues involved in the action, including the bold and supportive intervention by Mr. President himself in the matter. The Committee also directed Vice-Chancellors to comply with the Committee’s decision. |
| Education › FG Disburses N148bn Intervention Fund To Benefitting Institutions by TDN(op): 10:14pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
The Federal Government of Nigeria, on Tuesday, 26 November, 2013, disbursed the sum of N148 billion as intervention funds to public universities, polytechnics and colleges of education, for the year 2013. Presenting letters of allocation to benefitting institutions during the Tertiary Education Trust Fund (TETFund) 2013 Strategic Planning Workshop, held at the National Universities Commission (NUC) Secretariat, the Minister of Education, Barr. Nyesom Wike, said that TETFund provided intervention funds to 70 public institutions, as against 58 that were catered for in 2011. Barr. Wike explained that in 2011, intervention to universities was N395 million each, while in 2013, the figure increased to N646 million for each university. The interventions to each polytechnic also increased from N240 million, in 2011, to N443 million, in 2013, while those of the colleges of education rose from N190 million, in 2011, to N390 million, in 2013. The Minister noted that these interventions were outside the statutory budgetary provisions for each institution and other interventions, such as the High-Impact Fund, which the institutions benefitted from in phases. https://www.facebook.com/pages/National-Universities-Commission/153655261473222 |
| Education › Press Briefing By The Minister On ASUU Strike. by TDN(op): 9:54pm On Dec 04, 2013 |
Press Briefing by the Minister On ASUU strike. 28 November 2013 https://www.facebook.com/notes/national-universities-commission/press-briefing-by-the-minister-on-ASUU-strike/218512014987546 |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 1:07pm On Nov 28, 2013*. Modified: 1:35am On Dec 01, 2013 |
Uchiha Itachi: Really?She will never get this letter. I'm unmarried. Not blessed with children yet. I will be a mother someday and this letter is a reminder of the tasks ahead of me. I saw a film a while back. Women in America fighting for the right to vote. They fought hard. Some of them imprisoned, tortured and humiliated. A troubled husband pleaded with his wife to desist from her protestations. She looked at him and said "what do we tell our daughters when they grow up and have no voice, I'm doing this for them" I do not wish to change the status quo because I feel like it, I need to change it because we cant afford not to. Fortunately for me, I do not know what physical abuse feels like personally but there are different kinds of abuse and I digress. This isn't about men abusing their wives. Its about women not taking charge of their destinies. Not realising how much potential they possess. Not seeing that the world of men is broken and we have to fix it, first of all by fixing ourselves. In my opinion a serious deprogramming is needed and I don't mean to spell doom but what happens when the world of men crumbles? They will take your fathers, your husbands, they will take your sons to resolve their conflict the only way they know how. Its sometimes hard to see the connections or small solutions to cater to a much larger problem but we have to evolve from our traditional roles as women. We have to realise our full capabilities and recognise that the things that the world says makes us weaker is not weakness after all. World peace might be a pipe dream but who is in a better position to achieve that? I can already hear someone say "oh women cannot handle power or tough decisions". We handle tough decisions every day and somehow convinced ourselves our contributions are of no consequence in the grand scheme of things. They are of the greatest consequence. I subscribe to the school of YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK. I apologise in advance for this epistle. Women have to break the chains that have bound them for so long. Get out of that head space that constrains you and before you go to sleep at night remember each day that passes that we refuse to fufill our purpose, there are dragons out there building bigger bombs. |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 11:14am On Nov 28, 2013 |
Nonso23: I don't understand.Feminist has become such a dirty word. I do not hate men, although its hard not to. If I believe in gender equality maybe I'm a feminist or maybe I just love myself too much and detest injustice in any shape or form. I was brought up to believe I was inferior as a woman, grew up and I didn't feel inferior or less than. Am I a feminist if I refuse to tolerate the justication of immorality by comparing oneself to animals? Perhaps I'm more feminist than I thought, however male bashing is too easy as I discovered its not men who hate women. There is a strong possibility that it's women who hate themselves or simply do not love themselves enough. No fault of our own. This is how we were taught. To be selfless and stand behind, leave you to take care of business. Take care of us. The world is changing and however this plays out in my lifetime, it will be tragic if the next generation of women inherit our weaknesses and out dated philosophy. We are rich in culture, one of the things every nigerian should be proud of but we all know certain aspects of it do not work anymore. They have become repugnant, yet we cling to them. They benefit one gender, while discriminating against the other. Men and women alike, we cling. This is not a complaint, its a call for self realisation for nigerian women. This is how much I love my unborn daughter. She will have challenges in life but this will not be one of them. She will not fight the battles that mummy should have won already. We as women will have failed if we do not love our children, while taking a hard look at ourselves and the world that surrounds them so we can find ways to improve it. |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 11:15pm On Nov 27, 2013 |
Iaz93: You shouldn't allow yourself fall.No man or woman is a saint and whether we care to admit it or not, in our society dragons are the general rule and the saints maybe are the exception. The reverse would be the case in an ideal world and I fear we do not aspire to fight for such an ideal. People call me naïve. I think its sad. No man or woman is an island. No person prospers without help both physical, emotional and psychological. Its not about 1 person standing when everyone else is falling. Its about having people around you who will catch you when you fall and you do the same for them. |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 9:08pm On Nov 27, 2013 |
Iaz93: OP, is yourUnfortunately I don't think eduaction has anything to do with it. I do not have a husband yet but let's say I find myself in the dragon's lair and I fall? Who will lift me up and stand with me? Let's support our sisters. |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 8:55pm On Nov 27, 2013 |
Caracta: There is nothing to apologize for, OP.The few that do are are not heard over the deafening silence of those that do not realise they have a voice. |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 8:51pm On Nov 27, 2013 |
Screwface: Like you rightly postulated, those "dragons" exist only in our (your) minds. And until you break yourself from those mental shackles, you'l continually live in fear of them.It is not my story yet, unfortunately its true for so many women I look up to, women I love and respect. I wrote this letter for them. I fight everyday to find a partner who will be an example to my kids. I have none yet, but when I do I owe it to them to provide them with an honorable man who will lead by example. A man that is strong enough to improve his environment and contribute his quota in making the world safe for future generations. Everyday I hear all men are dragons. You must find a way to coexist with the dragon who aims to oppress and destroy your psyche till you cease to have any sense of self. I watch the news and I wonder if the unimaginable evil we witness every day fell out from the sky. Who are these people. Do they not have mothers? Has our silence gone on for too long? There is beauty in the world and also unimaginable horrors and women remain spectators. We have convinced ourselves of the roles we are meant to play while the ground crumbles beneath us. Do we face judgement in the after life for our inaction? Its hard and I pray to keep my resolve for there will be no dragons in my home and I will not stay silent when one passes me by. Thanks for your kind words an I'm sure it will encourage lots of women to change their situation when they realise they are their own worst enemy. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 11:52am On Nov 27, 2013 |
taiwolawal13: whats all this crap. MtchwwThe first word that comes to you is somethiing vulgar. I'm open to arguements. Please stop by again when you have one. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 11:43am On Nov 27, 2013 |
ojingbe: OP.get a job..mtcheew na u b dragonThat's all you have to say? |
| Romance › Re: A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 11:20am On Nov 27, 2013*. Modified: 11:59am On Nov 27, 2013 |
Johnfavour: Whats your point. Moti fi data mi jonaI'm apologising in advance for my failures as a Nigerian wife who has no voice in a lot of issues. Its a vicious cycle and if nothing changes for the better, our daughters will be fighting the same ridiculous battles. |
| Romance › A Letter To My Unborn Daughter! Mummy Failed You! by TDN(op): 11:05am On Nov 27, 2013*. Modified: 1:21am On Dec 01, 2013 |
Dear Unborn Child, By the time you read this, I hope you live in a country where you are respected, appreciated, and loved beyond comprehension by the man whom you have chosen to give your heart to. I pray you find happiness in this life even when your reward is in heaven. I hope he makes you smile, makes you feel like the most desirable woman in the world. Showers you with adoration for he is the luckiest man to have you by his side. Quietly says a prayer when he gazes upon the precious children you bore him. You see as little girls we dreamt of a man who would sweep us off our feet. Fairytale of a magical love that would conquer all. Dragons and all scary things, he would protect us with every passing breathe. I got my knight in shining Armour, he turned into a dragon soon after we were wed and I would be trapped forever. My fairytale became a nightmare. They said my prince charming had always been a dragon who hid his true identity from me. They said all men were dragons underneath and only disguised themselves so we would birth their children. So I would birth you whom I love with all my heart. The day I had you I wept because you were not a dragon and I feared one day you too would be trapped and I had not made the world safe. I was prisoner to a culture that had disdain for me. That had no comprehension or tolerance for my needs. That ridiculed and penalised me for any ambition or opinion. I shared my imprisonment with women who had grown accustomed to their jailers. Who worshipped and feared them. I too grew to do same. I was weak and I failed you and this is what I bequeath you. A life of pain and suffering. Shame and the inevitable acceptance of your fate as the dragon's slave. I fought hard but I was betrayed by the very people I was fighting for. They did not feel worthy of true men. They had embraced the dragon's way. He had convinced them there were no real men in existence and they believed his lies. They were comfortable as long as the dragon gave them shiny things. They had grown attached to the dragon. He was their lord and master, right or wrong, his word was law and he would rule with an iron fist. Soon after we had no needs except to please and obey our captors. They would love us for this and when they could no longer love us, we were cast aside and shunned, forced to roam the earth alone as no other dragon would have us. We heard rumours that there were real men in lands faraway, a Few amongst us who were in hiding for the dragons would slay them as they were a threat to draconian rule. You see the dragons could not exist without the women. We made them stronger, they thrived in our presence. What we didn't know was they only existed in our minds and we made them real. We gave them the power to keep us in chains. The world was no longer safe and at the time when we needed real men the most, we did nothing. A time when in the absence of real men, we could have taken control of our homes, our land, we stood by and said nothing, confining ourselves to a prison passed down through generations of women. I have failed you for this is my gift to you above all else. I pray you find the strength to do what I could not, to train your dragon. The spell can be broken only if they remember they were once real men. Never stop teaching them, nor should you indulge their bad habits. God gave us sons, we made them monsters and our sisters suffer for it. Our homes and our lands are in ruins because of it. The unconditional love showered upon these dragons we have created will be our demise and although we are here, it will always be like we never existed. I failed to fight for mine, my wish if for you to be who you are supposed to be my beloved child. You deserve a life fairy tales are made of. To go through life with a real man who will love and protect you until that day comes when dragons no longer exist. 1 Like |
| Education › NUC Launches Biomedical Science Development Portal by TDN(op): 12:48am On Oct 30, 2013 |
The Executive Secretary, National Universities Commission (NUC) and Chairman, Action Committee on the Promotion of University Biomedical Science Development (PUBSD), Professor Julius A. Okojie, OON, on Wednesday, 23 October, 2013, launched the Biomedical Science Development Portal,which would serve as a link among universities and host research findings on Biomedical Science in Nigeria. Launching the portal, during a twoday workshop for the Action Committee on the PUBSD, the Executive Secretary stated that, when functional, it would, not only provide access to world-class research findings, but also encourage joint research proposals and widen the scope of researchers in Biomedical Science. He added that the portal would also enhance resource sharing in the Nigerian University System (NUS) and serve as a guide for the implementation of Biomedical research findings as well as encourage the accreditation of Biomedical programmes. Professor Okojie observed that the level of interaction among the six initial participating universities (University of Ibadan, Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria; University of Benin,Usmanu Danfodiyo University, Sokoto; University of Ilorin, University of Lagos and Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka) would develop a good outcome for the system. He promised that NUC would support the project for the overall benefit of the system and maintained that funding was not the major challenge of the NUS but rather the judicious utilisation of allocated funds. He noted that the pioneer universities were privileged to have been chosen and advised them to justify their selection. The Executive Secretary emphasised that the relevance of Information and Communication Technology (ICT) in the advancement of knowledge could not be overemphasised, as interconnectivity and visibility on the globe were preconditions for international ranking. He promised that NUC would utilise the outcome of the workshop, to develop and promote the programme, to actively engage Nigerian Biomedical scientists in their different institutions. The National Co-ordinator, Professor Eugene Okpere, disclosed that the programme became necessary, following the dwindling nature of Biomedical research in Nigeria, noting that the workshop would boost research in the NUS. He said that the portal would help members to upload research findings that would serve as data for others in Biomedical Science. Several far-reaching decisions were made at the end of the workshop, some of which included: • Encouraging collaborative interdisciplinary research among Nigerians, so as to generate high quality research that would be accepted internationally;Boosting Biomedical research in Nigerian universities, through the enhancement of international recognition so as to improve Nigeria’s world ranking; • Populating the database for domestic/ foreign scientists for a greater international recognition and global rating; • Encouraging Vice-Chancellors to continue to support Biomedical research ; • Providing a maximum of 15 relevant publications per members for easy access by interested collaborators on the web-portal; • Encouraging participating universities to identify specific multi-disciplinary Biomedical research proposals that could involve foreign collaborators; • Ensuring that membership of the local PUBSD Committee is spread to all relevant disciplines/departments; • Expanding the tenure of the university central working committee to three years, renewable for another three years; At the event were the International Co-ordinator, PUBSD Proessor. Joseph Igietseme, from the Centre for Disease Control, USA; Deputy Director, Postgraduate Accreditation, Dr. Modupe Adeniran; NUC Co-ordinator of the programme, Dr. Chinelo Nwosu and representatives of some universities. |
) And the woman asked her daughter that when is she gonna move to her husband's house, not when are you getting married, or when you are establishing a family. I was dumb founded. Another told her daughter she doesn't want back to sender mission (my Igbo people know what this means 
