pocohantas:
You have lots of support system, not everyone is this lucky.
You also didn't tell us you most likely have another source of income.
You buy impulsively according to your writeup, who does that with 35-37k salary?

If they say they can't marry with 35k, leave it for them.
Wish them the best...
While they wish you same.



They are not rare. They are everywhere.
OP, is very discerning that's why he could pick her out of all the karashikas. Some of you want a girl with the so called 'slay queen' looks and body ...someone you can flaunt around as high class babe.

That's how you guys end up ignoring the modest babe because she doesn't look overly flashy. When slayqueen slays una pocket, you come to NL and shout all girls are the same.

Start observing pre-wedding pictures henceforth. Watch how modest young men go for modest young women. The best thing that can happen to anyone...male or female, is to know your size, it's not an insult...it's for ones peace of mind.

SaintUlot:
Who else has successfully rooted his m6 here, to put me through, my new gionee m6 hard bricked while trying it, i had to take it to gionee care before it could wake up

cloudgoddess:
Porn & masturbation stimulate our reward centers, because it's a natural part of our physiology & neural circuitry to be attracted to sexual stimuli.

Like anything pleasureful (including food, games, even using the Internet) there is a potential for an addictive habit to form. It's your brain becoming fixated on achieving the reward again & again. The dopamine rush. Chasing rewards used to be (and still is, to an extent) beneficial for our survival, but in the case of addictions, our natural reward centers are hijacked and overstimulated.

Habits/addictions can be difficult to get rid of because of how strongly they can become conditioned in the brain. But an increased awareness of ones inner state, & the ability to observe urges to carry out the behavior without acting on them, are skills one can learn to successfully decondition any unwanted habit (there are many great books on this topic).

I feel like tagging such behaviors as "sin" and insisting that they require "deliverance" only compounds the problem and makes it appear more mysterious and scary than it needs to be. Not to mention it adds an unnecessarily heavy burden of shame. No one needs Jesus or God or any religious rituals to get past these sorts of mental hang ups. All we need is to be educated on how our brains work, and learn how to mold & rewire them in more beneficial ways.

patovicy2k:
VISA approved this morning, around 7am. I was denied on the 22nd June 2017. I then summoned strength to fireback. I actually faced my fear.

I was interviewed by a woman in her 50s. I was the first Person to be interviewed this morning.

My Transcript goes thus:

VO: Good morning
Me: Good morning Ma

VO: Pass me your passport and I-20 Form
I humbly obliged.

VO: What's your highest degree?
Me: B.Sc Geology

VO: Oh! You have B.Sc
Me: Yes

VO: What year did you graduate?
Me: 2013

VO: What have you been doing since then?
Me: I worked with MTN Nigeria Communication Limited immediately I graduated, from 2013-2014, I later moved to Ladoke Akintola University of Technology, where I presently work now.

VO: What do you do at your place of work?
Me: I work in the ICT department as the management information system specialist. She cuts in..

VO: Why MBA?
Me: It's a vital requirement for me to resume a managerial position at my place of work. She cuts in...

VO: Why this school?
Me : I chose Lincoln University because it's a business oriented institution with low tuition fee. She cuts in..

VO: How many schools did you applied to?
Me: 4, she didn't allow me mention them, she cuts in...

VO: How many gave you admission?
Me: Lincoln and Concordia University,

VO: Why Lincoln, why not Concordia University?
Me: I chose Lincoln because of affordable tuition fee and I have contacted professor sergey, who has accepted me to join his research team.

VO: Where will you be staying,
Me: I have actually booked a place at alameda close to the school campus.

VO: How many of you will be staying in the apartment?
Me: 2

VO: How much did you pay each?
Me: $500

VO: What does your parents do?
Me: My Father his a businessman and a mechanized farmer, he's into oil and gas and real estate.

VO: Who is Sponsoring you?
Me: My Father.

VO: I will be approving your VISA, you can pick up your bla bla bla bla....................

I just went blank immediately, all she said did not even enter my head.

I just said thank you ma and left.

I specially want to thank God and Mr Texrem, this guy is just so exceptional, then I want to say a big thank to rash , and others who contributed to my success.

See you all at the top.

patovicy2k:
VISA approved this morning, around 7am. I was denied on the 22nd June 2017. I then summoned strength to fireback. I actually faced my fear.

I was interviewed by a woman in her 50s. I was the first Person to be interviewed this morning.

My Transcript goes thus:

VO: Good morning
Me: Good morning Ma

VO: Pass me your passport and I-20 Form
I humbly obliged.

VO: What's your highest degree?
Me: B.Sc Geology

VO: Oh! You have B.Sc
Me: Yes

VO: What year did you graduate?
Me: 2013

VO: What have you been doing since then?
Me: I worked with MTN Nigeria Communication Limited immediately I graduated, from 2013-2014, I later moved to Ladoke Akintola University of Technology, where I presently work now.

VO: What do you do at your place of work?
Me: I work in the ICT department as the management information system specialist. She cuts in..

VO: Why MBA?
Me: It's a vital requirement for me to resume a managerial position at my place of work. She cuts in...

VO: Why this school?
Me : I chose Lincoln University because it's a business oriented institution with low tuition fee. She cuts in..

VO: How many schools did you applied to?
Me: 4, she didn't allow me mention them, she cuts in...

VO: How many gave you admission?
Me: Lincoln and Concordia University,

VO: Why Lincoln, why not Concordia University?
Me: I chose Lincoln because of affordable tuition fee and I have contacted professor sergey, who has accepted me to join his research team.

VO: Where will you be staying,
Me: I have actually booked a place at alameda close to the school campus.

VO: How many of you will be staying in the apartment?
Me: 2

VO: How much did you pay each?
Me: $500

VO: What does your parents do?
Me: My Father his a businessman and a mechanized farmer, he's into oil and gas and real estate.

VO: Who is Sponsoring you?
Me: My Father.

VO: I will be approving your VISA, you can pick up your bla bla bla bla....................

I just went blank immediately, all she said did not even enter my head.

I just said thank you ma and left.

I specially want to thank God and Mr Texrem, this guy is just so exceptional, then I want to say a big thank to rash , and others who contributed to my success.

See you all at the top.

Sharles:
Pls I am new here, I will love to know if there is any universities I can apply to for masters without GRE or IELTS

femo86:
My Transcript.....I was interviewed in one of the Consulate in Germo between 7.45 to 8am

Me- Good morning
Vo- Good morning, ( spoke deutsche, told him I preferred English) Your passport please
Me- slip in the passport
Vo- How long have you being in Germany?
Me- A year and five months
Vo- What you doing in Germany?
Me- I'm currently studying Blah Blah course and in my blah blah semester....(VO nodding head)
Vo- Tell me your modules this semester...(semester wey don end wey people don go holiday)
Me- Just flowing..............mentioned Statistics and others
(Noticed His smile increased to gear 5...Chai..I don put myself for wahala)
Vo- asked me the name of a bla bla curve in stat.......(Vo stopped typing and was smiling while focusing on me)
Me- smiled (na fake smile ooo) as i don enter one chance...
trying to remember...VO drew the curve on a paper and showed me
Me- I'm sorry I have an idea of the curve but I forgot the name, told him little about the curve
Vo- said good...So why do you wanna travel to the States?
Me- I will be attending an International Conference for bla bla bla
Vo- Tell me about the conference and how will the conference help you?
Me- told him all as I had practised
Vo- Your visa is approved and the name of the curve is Bell Shaped Curve(imagine ooo).....bla bla bla
Me- (I nodded my head saying yea, that's true -Bell Shaped bla bla bla...........
Thank you and enjoy the rest of the day
Vo- and you too....Bye

All this was less than 2 mins.....

I read people's transcripts, practiced, was confident and prayed for favour.
I think its all about "THE TIES", for me it was my studies in germany
Once again, thanks to you all...

webfocus:
Just as lady guinevere suggested that i talk about d ommitted parts of the transcript...
vo ; tell me about the conference
me ; the conference brings together active youth changemakers and leaders in each community all over the world(130countries) to discuss , dialogue and create solution towards achieving a sustainable future using the sustainable development goal as a marker.
VO; tell me wat u stand to gain from the conference.
me ; i get to learn from the plenty sessions and workshops better ways in which youth can be engaged and participate more in achievin the sdg.


Meanwhile...any active youth in the ous wit wonderful experience in leadership and volunteering...can still apply...it ends in in 3 days.
Visit www.Youthassembly.nyc
when filing the form i dont av a travel history so i put nothing...i guess my tie was been a final year medical student and prolly cos my dad is d one sponsoring sha.

oppymit:
my wife and I was denied under section 214 (b) of us nonimmigrant visiting visa on 7th june 2017, the purpose of our trip is visiting my elder brother and his family for a family reunion because we are both on leave. I think the cause of the deny is base on my stammerer, I stammered a lot during our interview, although I answered all the questions currently but much gaps from one words to another, although I'm a stammerer from birth. but I guess is my fault for not informing the consular officer at the beginning of the interview that I'm a stammerer. the first and second question in our interview goes to my wife and she answerd it smoothly and politely. I want to reapply soon but I'm confused on what to do with the way I stammer, the consular might thinks again that I'm afraid because I'm lying and that is why I stammer. pls my brothers and sisters advise me on what to do, your advice will really be appreciate. GOD bless you all.

KaptainAfrika:
1. DO NOT THINK APPLYING WITH AN ELDERLY PERSON WILL IMPROVE YOUR CHANCES. THE ONLY ONES WHO BENEFIT FROM THIS ARE CHILDREN WHO ARE UNDER 18 YEARS OLD. I.E. IF THEIR PARENTS GET A VISA, THE KIDS ALSO GET A VISA AND VICE VERSA. SO AS LONG AS YOU ARE 18 AND ABOVE, YOU ARE JUDGED INDEPENDENTLY.

2. Each candidate is expected to qualify on his/her own merits. So your grandma may get the visa, and you may not. What would be your strong ties? You will be assessed on your own merits and not your grandma's. So your grannie may have visa, and you may not get a visa.

KaptainAfrika:
1. Each candidate is expected to qualify on his/her own merits. So your grandma may get the visa, and you may not. What would be your strong ties?

2. If your grandma is either 70-79, I think, she has a waiver, so she will automatically be given a US Visa with no interview.

3. What is your grandma going to do in the US, and why do you have to follow her, is she disabled in anyway? illiteracy isn't an hindrance, there are a lot of interpreters in the us embassy and Nigerians working in the cbp posts in the US.

4. DO NOT THINK APPLYING WITH AN ELDERLY PERSON WILL IMPROVE YOUR CHANCES. THE ONLY ONES WHO BENEFIT FROM THIS ARE CHILDREN WHO ARE UNDER 18 YEARS OLD. I.E. IF THEIR PARENTS GET A VISA, THE KIDS ALSO GET A VISA AND VICE VERSA. SO AS LONG AS YOU ARE 18 AND ABOVE, YOU ARE JUDGED INDEPENDENTLY.

ALL THE BEST.

KaptainAfrika:
1. Each candidate is expected to qualify on his/her own merits. So your grandma may get the visa, and you may not. What would be your strong ties?

2. If your grandma is either 70-79, I think, she has a waiver, so she will automatically be given a US Visa with no interview.

3. What is your grandma going to do in the US, and why do you have to follow her, is she disabled in anyway? illiteracy isn't an hindrance, there are a lot of interpreters in the us embassy and Nigerians working in the cbp posts in the US.

4. DO NOT THINK APPLYING WITH AN ELDERLY PERSON WILL IMPROVE YOUR CHANCES. THE ONLY ONES WHO BENEFIT FROM THIS ARE CHILDREN WHO ARE UNDER 18 YEARS OLD. I.E. IF THEIR PARENTS GET A VISA, THE KIDS ALSO GET A VISA AND VICE VERSA. SO AS LONG AS YOU ARE 18 AND ABOVE, YOU ARE JUDGED INDEPENDENTLY.

ALL THE BEST.

frugal:
Only a dumb-dumb will mistaken blood group for genotype. We were all taught this in primary school.

DDeliverer:
I don't really know where to post this, but since it all started here, I think i should post it here in this section.
It all started after the "9ja has finished me" https://www.nairaland.com/3210525/nigeria-finished-me thread, 8-9months ago. 8-9months ago, I had nothing but a phone, a fine face and a degree in Biochemistry. No concrete plan, no job, no nothing.


Due to my jobless state I started spending plenty more time in the internet especially on Nairaland. It was on one of those 'lightless' nights that I created that thread. On that thread some guy asked me to reply his PM. On the average I get like 3-4 pms everyday, requests I generally ignore. But in that fateful day, I don't know what happened. I just replied him. It was the reply that changed my life. I replied sucess without realizing it (ALL OF YOU THAT IGNORE PMS, I SORRY FOR UNA).

After I replied, the man sent me a message about how the thread really touched him, how he laughed and cried at the same time while perusing the thread. I thanked him and went to bed. The next morning I woke up to another message. He wanted to discuss something and he needed my phone number. I gave it to him.

He called that morning and introduced himeslf as (name withheld) and that he would like us to have lunch, if it was okay by me. (OKAY BY ME? which kind question be that?) He told me to wait at a particular bus stop that his driver would pick me.

To cut the long story, He was opening a new company and he needed a young person to play a supervisory role. He wanted me to be his new director. I swear, tears dropped from my eyes. He asked if I was interested , I couldn't even talk, I could only nod ( because tears gather for my eyes). He brought out his cheque book, asked for my official name, scribbled something's, tore out the leaf and gave it to me. He asked if the money could cover for my wardrobe, transport and 3months salary, I almost broke my neck nodding. The money was more than enough.

Look at me, broke and hungry the previous night, few hours later, I was rich and I had a job that would make me more money. My case is truly different.

I feel it is only apopriate to pay my tithe to nairaland because I am who I am today because of nairaland. So I'd be giving 20 nairalanders 5k each this night.

God bless seun
God bless lalasticla.la
God bless nairaland

I love you all. Thanks.

Cc 9ja has finished me crew