happney65:
Just like what I wrote on Instagram a while ago

I support this 100 percent. Infact they should make it ten years sef . The same with Doctors and Dentists. This should however be mostly applicable to graduates of government tertiary institutions funded through subsided education

However the government should also do better for medical personnel in Nigeria. Increase their pay and employ more hands not this nonesense government does every now and then

You sound like a crab in the bucket.
Nursing education in the government schools was the most expensive. When I studied nursing, it could conveniently train ten doctors through UI that year.
Have you ever paid 698k for a post basic course minus the exam fees and every other thing?
No one acquired nursing education cheap in Nigeria

Angelfrost:


That brainwashing part just makes no sense...!

No matter how much you grow to hate your former husband or wife, why sow the seeds of that hatred in the kids' hearts against him or her?!!

Why disorganize and conflict their lives like that?!!

A broken home doesn't have to produce broken, angry and conflicted children.

A lot of these men and women didn't go through these with their own parents, yet they put their kids through it.

It's selfish and unfair.

That marriage lasted for 12 years, which means that boy witnessed Emeka ike beating his mother.
After that, Emeka had custody of the children and kept the boy away from his mother.
Why’ll you stop your children their mom, because you are so bitter.
That woman had no chance of brainwashing the son. Emeka did it all by himself

eliwa47:


The mother is always hold responsible for what happened between the children and father either good or bad. The issue of not knowing what actually happened is out of line. The father have role to play, while the mother have a bigger role to play.

Emeka Ike ex wife had kept quiet for the longest. Most people don’t know what she looked like sef.
But Emeka on the other hand has been doing media rounds for a marriage that has ended over a decade and has all the documents online.


That narrative that women should be blamed for either good or bad is part of the patriarchal system Nigeria operates where women are blamed for men’s mistakes; it needs to stop.
That boy lived with his father for the longest, he has seen everything

eliwa47:
Fear women, am sure she had poison the mind of all her Children against their father.

Emeka Ike had the custody of the children. One of the children doesn’t recognise the mom as she was taken away from her mother at a young age.
So how will she brainwash him, when they’ve been separated since divorce.
When this son was having surgery Emeka did not inform the mother, she had to hear it from other happy.

I’ll advise you to subscribe, don’t lay false accusations where it’s not due

luminouz:

Exactly why I quoted you. You are high on your own octane. No woman who married her husband with love will ever need to 'seriously talk with my husband before bringing him to the UK' it shows your pride and ego, telling us you brought him ON YOUR OWN TERMS and even after being in the UK, you still are having issues. Shioor.

Exactly why I also posted my story of the nurse. You are both sisters!!

I actually wanted to put context to the “concerns” but like my husband had told me before we were married “Never discuss our issues with family or friends, whatever we going through and we can’t resolve it between us then that means there’s no solution “


Not to talk of you a known nonentity on here. You lack insight plus intelligence. To just assume that things are black and white and put label on situations or just a version of what you read shows you do not understand how relationships or the world work.

I’m not interested in engaging you. You’re not worth it. Direct your preconceived anger towards women elsewhere

luminouz:

You don't love that husband biko. You had to have conversations with the man you married for naija...for what? You married an abusive man or what? Unless you married him from the UK and una never date for naija.

I thank my stars for the redpill. A nurse who got sponsored visa moved heaven and hell to marry me and kept dangling 'i will take you to the UK' before me. I refused and told her NO. She is rude, classless and lousy. Someone who abused her own mother in front of me won't change when she gets to the UK. And I am no woman's bîtch. She is still single as we speak and I am onto better things.

The point is, if you can't be submissive to your husband even while in the UK and expect him to do what's right by you, that marriage has failed already.

One of the failed students of Ubunja.
You have an anger addiction and you are not enlightened. What married folks do not have conversations time to time? What married people do not have ongoing issues or new ones that they need to talk about?
You don’t know the context of the conversation I had with MY OWN husband before and when I traveled so we won’t be among the statistics of people who got here and divorced and you’re here spewing nonsense.

Why’s that women start acting like they don’t need a man when they start earning


Well, I have always had money. I have never been in a relationship where I wasn’t earning more or equally. It’s not only men that make money in Naija, that narrative needs to stop

joebeckz:
Firstly, no amount of magic will give you paper next year. You don't need to exaggerate to get quick solutions cos we have good knowledge of student pathways even for In-demand professions. Except you are switching Visa type to COS or it's like. That being said.

You should double your efforts to make more money at the moment.
Your wife can't do anything now cos the hours she is getting for work won't sustain her should she chase you out of the UK.
She needs you at the moment to survive UK bills but might have plans to deal with you when the time is right. Therefore do not relent also.
Save for that time.
Look for a pathway that will make you independent.
Look for good direct streams of COS.


MUST DO
Get a USA visa
Get a Canadian visa
Get other visas. (NOTE You will be granted these tourist visas easily from UK cos of your status)

Why do you need these Visas?
You will need them should the need arise.
If she decides kicks you out.
Fall back to Canada or USA via student route or other pathways.
All you need to do is fly into these countries with your visa, look for a school and apply for a certificate program of one year and and migrate legitimately using the various streams available for students.
Therefore do these things quietly.


Don't forget to be a good husband to your wife.
Some women have seen shege from Nigerian men and when they get to societies that have their interest at heart. The quest for revenge sets in.

OP.
WHERE YOU A GOOD HUSBAND BACK IN NIGERIA?

I like how you ended this. Everyone just wants to make it seem like women are always the problem every time. The patriarchy system in Nigeria has cuddled men so much so that when they move to another climate they start thinking the world is against their gender. We all are humans and there’s something called human rights even though it’s not practiced in Nigeria.
When I wanted to bring my husband to UK, I was very concerned as well. I had to have many conversations with him. But he is here and it’s still not that easy as well.

I hope OP and his wife will be able to navigate their issue. I like the advice of that visa thing

Seniors in the house please I need an advice. I was planning to get a mortgage next year. But the recent policies they are about to make is kinda scary. Skilled workers will not be allowed to come in with partners. Citizens has to start working, no more benefits etc.

Let me not bore you. So my plan is getting a mortgage, rent it out and move to the USA. Can that work? Is it reasonable?

TemplarLandry:
Great one.
I dedicate “Obodo” by Mr. Raw feat. Klint Da Drunk to them. Great jam!

Was thinking of this song yesterday. Had to Google the lyrics “Obodo well Welu o😂😂”

LagosismyHome:


I have a British passport and if you have a naija passport then yes visa for sure is needed.

Paris was peaceful and was lovely, no sign of trouble

Thanks. It’s late already to get a visa cos I just found out

If you’re 40, go for men in their 50s, be a second or third wife

LagosismyHome:


I am scheduled to go as well in 2 weeks with my family so been monitoring it. So far it appears to have calmed down

The UK government’s advice to holidaymakers as of 10 July advises, "While the situation is now calm, you should monitor the media, check the latest advice with operators when travelling and follow the advice of the authorities."

https://www.euronews.com/travel/2023/07/13/is-it-safe-to-travel-to-france-right-now-country-recovers-from-sixth-night-of-riots

Did you apply for a visa in France?
I just realised I needed one over the weekend

FBS:

Yes.

Major thing would be getting your family to Australia. Once done, the rest will sort itself out.

Thanks so much. The part I wanted to highlight is that the guy is not literate. I was looking into UK for them but it’s difficult to get in with family now.

FBS:

1- Any city in Australia is a good place to live, it depends on what you like.
Tasmania is an Island and smallest state in Australia - rugged mountains with natural beauty at its finest. see here and here for more info on Tasmania

2. Cost of living is high (in Australia generally) but much lower when compared to places like Sydney (I always think of Sydney as Lagos )
Again it depends on your family size, your standard of living etc.
Rent from $AUD300 per week

3. Which of the 186 visa steam is it? Direct, Labour or Temporary residence?
Usually with a permanent visa, primary/secondary education should be "free". Childcare/Kindergarten is not.
Medicare appears to be also covered.

4. Can't speak of this one (as I don't know what your husband does) but he who searches shall find. All about giving it your best shot.

Hope that helps.

Can you please help bro?
So basically this family o know; wife is educated(OND) & hubby is a secondary school dropout (mechanic). We were planning UK but it’s tough now. Can such family survive in Australia?

LagosismyHome:


I am scheduled to go as well in 2 weeks with my family so been monitoring it. So far it appears to have calmed down

The UK government’s advice to holidaymakers as of 10 July advises, "While the situation is now calm, you should monitor the media, check the latest advice with operators when travelling and follow the advice of the authorities."

https://www.euronews.com/travel/2023/07/13/is-it-safe-to-travel-to-france-right-now-country-recovers-from-sixth-night-of-riots

Alright, thanks

Same way you were married and didn’t tell anyone for more than a decade before you decided to post the pictures yourself. If you’re hiding your kids I wouldn’t be surprised

eniola1010:


What if you shift it forward to a tjme you want to actually go for the holiday or ask if you can transfer it to someone else

I tried o. Airline is saying I will pay £98 to change date/destination. With this unrest in France, I don’t want to go.

Will be happy to transfer to someone if they can bear other costs like. It’s a 2 person holiday

Hi guys,

I’m stuck with a non refundable holiday/ flight ticket. If I cancel I’ll lose 351£. Dunno what to do

One thing I wasn’t certain of about BAT is if he can treat people’s fvck up; like terminating their contract, evicting and jailing. I’m happy with this news

Parachoko:
Person wey dey earn 30k in a month no need generator

See eh, subsidy is gone for good

Person wey dey earn 30k and get car and generator should sell them or stop using them. So he or she will have enough money to spend on transport fare

Why will you say this nonsense if you really want this administration to succeed?
People who earn minimum wages in UK and US can afford a car not Ferrari on 2023 cars but they can buy car.
Increasing salary is not the solution.
Govt should subsidise food and transport….that’s all

Temioolajide:
Pls how do i deal with my junior brother?

I'm 19 yrs old and he is 17
He is very spoilt and stubborn
I just finished having a confrontation with him because i locked the window in our room cus the breeze entrying was much and it was making the cotton to fall.

He came in the room where i was reading and started shouting that the room is smelling calling me insultive name like olorun,obun room that isn'tsmelling at all.a new room.

When my mom intervened he starts saying she's always supporting me which he always says..

He thinks he can fight me but i don't just want to destroy that his mouth that is running like tap so i had to control my temper because he is a slim person and I'm more muscular.

Imagine when he had a surgery my mom spent over 120k on the surgery yet he still has the balls to talk any how to her.

Pls how do we bring him to order
Note: Our dad is late

Thanks much

You both should watch Andrew Tate. That way he’ll understand why you guys have to unite as brothers

She would have been on Bimbo Ademoye’s level but no auntie started with her lies that she was a virgin and the statement “ Jennifer's diary made me popular not rich”.
No one in the industry mess with her. Just wasted her prime on top following “my pastor said”

I have googled UK immigrants nairaland buying cars and read it all.

But I have a question regarding copart uk; is it good to buy cars from there? Someone wants to help me buy one but I am not sure if that’s a good one.
Kindly help. Thank y’all

koonbey:


I swear I thought this exact thing yesterday and it was quite disheartening for me. I almost talked here but figured I should keep quiet before it becomes like my own is too much.

Your 'friend' is at the point of divorce, and you came here to ask for advice. People shared different perspectives and your contribution was to start speculating that the friend was abusing his wife - and you egged that on with others with laughter and 'catching cruise'.

Now that you found that the matter is a more basic disagreement, you have said you've washed your hands off and even said you will not even share the responses people gave here to try and help them. So why did you ask in the first place? To bring drama to the thread and not to help your 'friend' at all, clearly. The story is not quite as salacious anymore so you're washing your hands.

Omo may God guide us on who we choose as friends and confide in sha.

Honestly, i don't see how this is my fault.
But then: life's is all about different perspective.
This friend of mine only cares about if he'll be deported or not.
Not even saving his marriage.
As much as I said I have washed my hands off, he still called to know if I made research for him.
I frankly told him to remember how he was living in Ondo.
Told him it'll cost him nothing to work things out with his wife: seeing as that lady as made the most effort.
How I am being blamed sounds crazy. Judging me without even knowing the efforts I have made.
Till now he hasn't even stated the reason he asked if the police will arrest him.
He hasn't stated why he agreed to the divorce.
But he affirmed that the wife is an enemy of progress who doesn't want him to pursue his dream.
Agreed wife paid all of his travel expenses.
Did not deny he only contributed half of the rent.
I jokingly asked if his wife beating him or cheating and he said no.
So what’s the reason why divorce is the only option?
So what else do you want for a 35 year old man?

Jlaw1:


Hi, Ms Thastie.

Kindly permit me to comment on your post. It's very lengthy, but I hope it's not too boring or intellectual.

POINT 1:
Let me start by narrating a short story. A few years ago, a professor demonstrated an experiment by showing me a sketched picture of a woman on a book. He explained the physical characteristics of the picture, and from his explanation, I could clearly see with my own "koro-koro" eyes that the woman in the picture was an old person, possibly in her 70s.

He showed the very same picture to 2 other people, but described the picture to them completely differently to the way he described it to me. Surprisingly, these other 2 people looking at the very same picture said the woman in the picture was a young woman in her 20s. This started a debate between us. I argued that the woman in the picture was old and they totally disagreed, because according to them, the woman in the picture was not an old woman but a cool babe. And yet, we were staring at the SAME picture, but we were seeing different things. Unbelievable, right?

Check out the two images of two young classy ladies that I have attached below (originally from a book called "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People). Can you see the two classy babes?

Now check out the two images that I attached to my next post, and then you will discover that these ladies that you thought are fresh babes are infact NOT fresh or young at all, but are OLD WOMEN with big ugly noses.

What made me see differently from the 2 other guys was simply because I was given a certain description of the picture, but those guys were given a different description of the same picture. So we saw differently and reached different conclusions. In reality, the picture could be viewed as depicting an old woman or a fresh babe, depending on the type of description you may have heard from the professor, which may in turn shape your perspective.

The point I'm trying to make here is that judging the situation solely from what the wife told you may paint an incomplete picture. As the old cliché goes: there are at least two sides to every story. Also hearing events from the husband's sides may paint a more balanced picture of the true reality of things.

POINT 2:
I want to assume that you sought permission from your friend before posting about her marriage on Nairaland. In my opinion, it will be wrong not to seek her consent before sharing. So I will assume that you did the right thing by getting her green light, before tabling the matter here.

Having said this, I feel like you did not present the issue in good faith. It appears to me that your biggest motive is to bring "gist" here and to disparage her husband, rather than to genuinely help your friend. I may be judging you wrongly and I am open to correction. But at this moment, this is how I feel after reading a couple of your comments about the issue.

Fair enough, this platform is largely anonymous. Nevertheless, I believe that we should exercise some degree of caution, empathy and restraint when sharing our friends' private/personal/intimate/matrimonial struggles on a public forum. Again, it is possible that I may be wrong in my criticism of you, dear Ms Thastie, and you can correct me if you believe that I've judged your intentions wrongly.

Cheers.

The husband is whom I know, ok?
I literally chatted his wife up on IG.
The guy as even refused to share what he did wrong in the marriage with me; especially when he asked if he’ll be arrested.
Not like he needs to share stuffs with me; but his attitude shows he doesn’t want to be helped.
The wife mentioned he only works 3x a week as Support worker;
- Not contributing money for her to get help from a private gynaecologist as nhs is slow.
-sending money home while only paying half of the house rent, while she covers the other bills(water, gas etc)
-Doesn’t care about her even when she’s sick. He wouldn’t call cos he forgot.
-claims he wants to pursue his acting dream, hence works 3x a week.

See, I don’t want this post to be long honestly.
I’ll not lie to you cos I’m actually pissed on the wife’s behalf. Plus I know how he was struggling back home & he’s ruining the good things he has now. The guy is 35 o. Wife is 27

Lagosismyhome
Justwise
Zahra29
bigtt76
dustydee
mimilyrics
gergeman
rinzylee


Thank you guys for responding.

I spoke with the wife; she said she’s tired of everything and also whenever they have an issue, her husband will call her dad cos he knows she’s scared of her dad.
Also, the guy has never pushed for a reconciliation, it was always her.
She brought the guy into UK; all expenses paid by her. He was a teacher back home (30k salary).
They’ve got no kids; married for almost 2 years.

To me I feel the guy is like that because he didn’t invest in the relationship.
I’ve hands off and not telling him the advises I got from here. Whatever wants to become of him should be.

bigtt76:
Possible say baba no wan hustle instead sidon de play PS5 or de look woman yansh here

He’s not coming out with the truth.
He asked if he’ll be arrested, I guess domestic violence is involved

mimilyrics:
His visa will be revoked and he will be given about 2 months to switch to another visa or leave the UK.
He's at risk of incarceration and deportation.

Hmm
Is the 2 months enough time to get CoS?

justwise:


Is he working hard to support his wife financially while she study full time?

The wife brought him here.
The wife said she's not feeling supported in all ways.
He agreed to the divorce. He just wants to know if he'll be deported.

Guys,

Please I need your perspective.
So my friend came in last year November as Dependent spouse .
Now having issues with his wife.
Like, the wife wants a divorce. He said she's taking step.
He's worried if he'll be sent back to Nigeria.
Honestly, I don't know too. Cos I'm new as well.
Please respond

mirinder:
what about oats? I fúck on daily basis and I don't want to have issues ejaculating.

Oats is perfect especially when you add groundnut or any nuts

IyaebeTheGreat:
Shior, a man is supposed to go fo garri or pap, stop taking feminine food

For real, cornflakes was made to reduce male testosterone, it’s not a good breakfast choice