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I have googled UK immigrants nairaland buying cars and read it all.

But I have a question regarding copart uk; is it good to buy cars from there? Someone wants to help me buy one but I am not sure if that’s a good one.
Kindly help. Thank y’all

koonbey:
I swear I thought this exact thing yesterday and it was quite disheartening for me. I almost talked here but figured I should keep quiet before it becomes like my own is too much.

Your 'friend' is at the point of divorce, and you came here to ask for advice. People shared different perspectives and your contribution was to start speculating that the friend was abusing his wife - and you egged that on with others with laughter and 'catching cruise'.

Now that you found that the matter is a more basic disagreement, you have said you've washed your hands off and even said you will not even share the responses people gave here to try and help them. So why did you ask in the first place? To bring drama to the thread and not to help your 'friend' at all, clearly. The story is not quite as salacious anymore so you're washing your hands.

Omo may God guide us on who we choose as friends and confide in sha.

Honestly, i don't see how this is my fault.
But then: life's is all about different perspective.
This friend of mine only cares about if he'll be deported or not.
Not even saving his marriage.
As much as I said I have washed my hands off, he still called to know if I made research for him.
I frankly told him to remember how he was living in Ondo.
Told him it'll cost him nothing to work things out with his wife: seeing as that lady as made the most effort.
How I am being blamed sounds crazy. Judging me without even knowing the efforts I have made.
Till now he hasn't even stated the reason he asked if the police will arrest him.
He hasn't stated why he agreed to the divorce.
But he affirmed that the wife is an enemy of progress who doesn't want him to pursue his dream.
Agreed wife paid all of his travel expenses.
Did not deny he only contributed half of the rent.
I jokingly asked if his wife beating him or cheating and he said no.
So what’s the reason why divorce is the only option?
So what else do you want for a 35 year old man?

Jlaw1:
Hi, Ms Thastie.

Kindly permit me to comment on your post. It's very lengthy, but I hope it's not too boring or intellectual.

POINT 1:
Let me start by narrating a short story. A few years ago, a professor demonstrated an experiment by showing me a sketched picture of a woman on a book. He explained the physical characteristics of the picture, and from his explanation, I could clearly see with my own "koro-koro" eyes that the woman in the picture was an old person, possibly in her 70s.

He showed the very same picture to 2 other people, but described the picture to them completely differently to the way he described it to me. Surprisingly, these other 2 people looking at the very same picture said the woman in the picture was a young woman in her 20s. This started a debate between us. I argued that the woman in the picture was old and they totally disagreed, because according to them, the woman in the picture was not an old woman but a cool babe. And yet, we were staring at the SAME picture, but we were seeing different things. Unbelievable, right?

Check out the two images of two young classy ladies that I have attached below (originally from a book called "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People). Can you see the two classy babes?

Now check out the two images that I attached to my next post, and then you will discover that these ladies that you thought are fresh babes are infact NOT fresh or young at all, but are OLD WOMEN with big ugly noses.

What made me see differently from the 2 other guys was simply because I was given a certain description of the picture, but those guys were given a different description of the same picture. So we saw differently and reached different conclusions. In reality, the picture could be viewed as depicting an old woman or a fresh babe, depending on the type of description you may have heard from the professor, which may in turn shape your perspective.

The point I'm trying to make here is that judging the situation solely from what the wife told you may paint an incomplete picture. As the old cliché goes: there are at least two sides to every story. Also hearing events from the husband's sides may paint a more balanced picture of the true reality of things.

POINT 2:
I want to assume that you sought permission from your friend before posting about her marriage on Nairaland. In my opinion, it will be wrong not to seek her consent before sharing. So I will assume that you did the right thing by getting her green light, before tabling the matter here.

Having said this, I feel like you did not present the issue in good faith. It appears to me that your biggest motive is to bring "gist" here and to disparage her husband, rather than to genuinely help your friend. I may be judging you wrongly and I am open to correction. But at this moment, this is how I feel after reading a couple of your comments about the issue.

Fair enough, this platform is largely anonymous. Nevertheless, I believe that we should exercise some degree of caution, empathy and restraint when sharing our friends' private/personal/intimate/matrimonial struggles on a public forum. Again, it is possible that I may be wrong in my criticism of you, dear Ms Thastie, and you can correct me if you believe that I've judged your intentions wrongly.

Cheers.

The husband is whom I know, ok?
I literally chatted his wife up on IG.
The guy as even refused to share what he did wrong in the marriage with me; especially when he asked if he’ll be arrested.
Not like he needs to share stuffs with me; but his attitude shows he doesn’t want to be helped.
The wife mentioned he only works 3x a week as Support worker;
- Not contributing money for her to get help from a private gynaecologist as nhs is slow.
-sending money home while only paying half of the house rent, while she covers the other bills(water, gas etc)
-Doesn’t care about her even when she’s sick. He wouldn’t call cos he forgot.
-claims he wants to pursue his acting dream, hence works 3x a week.

See, I don’t want this post to be long honestly.
I’ll not lie to you cos I’m actually pissed on the wife’s behalf. Plus I know how he was struggling back home & he’s ruining the good things he has now. The guy is 35 o. Wife is 27

Lagosismyhome
Justwise
Zahra29
bigtt76
dustydee
mimilyrics
gergeman
rinzylee


Thank you guys for responding.

I spoke with the wife; she said she’s tired of everything and also whenever they have an issue, her husband will call her dad cos he knows she’s scared of her dad.
Also, the guy has never pushed for a reconciliation, it was always her.
She brought the guy into UK; all expenses paid by her. He was a teacher back home (30k salary).
They’ve got no kids; married for almost 2 years.

To me I feel the guy is like that because he didn’t invest in the relationship.
I’ve hands off and not telling him the advises I got from here. Whatever wants to become of him should be.

bigtt76:
Possible say baba no wan hustle instead sidon de play PS5 or de look woman yansh here

He’s not coming out with the truth.
He asked if he’ll be arrested, I guess domestic violence is involved

mimilyrics:
His visa will be revoked and he will be given about 2 months to switch to another visa or leave the UK.
He's at risk of incarceration and deportation.

Hmm
Is the 2 months enough time to get CoS?

justwise:
Is he working hard to support his wife financially while she study full time?

The wife brought him here.
The wife said she's not feeling supported in all ways.
He agreed to the divorce. He just wants to know if he'll be deported.

Guys,

Please I need your perspective.
So my friend came in last year November as Dependent spouse .
Now having issues with his wife.
Like, the wife wants a divorce. He said she's taking step.
He's worried if he'll be sent back to Nigeria.
Honestly, I don't know too. Cos I'm new as well.
Please respond

mirinder:
what about oats? I fúck on daily basis and I don't want to have issues ejaculating.

Oats is perfect especially when you add groundnut or any nuts

IyaebeTheGreat:
Shior, a man is supposed to go fo garri or pap, stop taking feminine food

For real, cornflakes was made to reduce male testosterone, it’s not a good breakfast choice

T

The ibos were supporting Zakyzaky that year.....their posts in this thread will definitely be similar

Ekpeitit:
After Tinubu wins,don't be surprised to see meth people demanding for Senate President even though they never voted for Tinubu.
The people are useless.

This aged well

@raumdeuter, really enjoyed your write up. You're good.
What do you think about Osibanjo contesting in the primary election? Was it planned? Or he's just a betrayer?
And who's the worst betrayer among Osinbajo, PMB and Aregbe?

shogsman:
If you had any Sense you won't expect a well travelled, educated individual like me to vote for some nuisance because he is from the same tribe, it is useless tribalistic people like you that should be disenfranchised not real sensible voters.
Ori e daru

Well travelled indeed. And you don't understand the advantage of homogeneity. The advantage of a single voice. The Israelis practised it and they succeed. The British practised it for centuries and here saying you're well travelled.

Tunedey0001:
They've the right to support any candidate that they want but they should do it with caution because the ibos now are already telling it to their face that they own Lagos and will remove sanwo olu
Ibo man don win for eti osa in Lagos already before you know it they will feed another Igbo for governorship and convince this same woke yorubas to vote him and tell them how TINUBU have been pocketing their future, does one's too don't think like SE is paradise to any state in SW the should keep going this way, I pray is not too late for them.

Like that eti Osa is so annoying.....we should keep forming woke till they enslave

oluplus:
Which lie lie inheritance?
Why don't you present a credible candidate and see if we would not support the person?
You have some as vibrant and credible as Osibanjo, and you want to impose Tinumbu on us?
Ko le work jor

Better shut up before they cart you away like they did in Ilorin.

Tunedey0001:
If truly you're Yoruba as you claim don't forget that's the same way Ilorin was lost till date.
Read history to be educated not forming woke.

RONU

Only a foolish ba$tard will support Peter obi, especially that useless spaghetti and falz, you'll know that their father's sperms were mixed with one Okoro.
Like have they forgotten 2011 so soon?
I will never forget how tribalistic they were when GEJ was the president.

safarigirl:
How many Nudity dey the film wey na that one you focus on?

Some of you are so weird. What is in nudity that jars you so much? It was a very good movie, perhaps you were to excited by seeing breasts to acknowledge the brilliant performances of the actors.

Cos it is allien to our culture, that's why!
We can't even enjoy a regular Netflix movie without being exposed to that nudity nonsense.
If you're cool with that then you must have lost it as a well brought girl from a rich African culture.
I'm sure you were given a Christian name, and you go to church once I a while. Supporting sexual immorality on Friday & Christ on Sunday.

larrypourl:
Words of motivation. I'd like to ask, did you migrate via student route or which of them? I'll see that wifey apply come February next year once that teachers application starts.

Nope.

Migrating as a student is difficult. I'm a Nurse

hustla:
The £1,300 is minus POF right?

I didn't need that cos my company covered that.

Konjiboii:
Where is here, you when dey look for 30k phone?

30k phone in 2016. Don't be stupid.

The only regret you'll have moving abroad is not doing it earlier. But then I won't advise anyone to sell valuable things to move here

bonnyhope:
Good

Are you in medical field?

Yes

franchasng:
Don't mind Nigerians jareh.


For anybody living in Nigeria and earning less than 1million a month, UK is far better for that person.



Unless you are earning above 1million in Nigeria, then I can say migrating to the UK is not a smart decision, but for those earning less than 1million monthly in Nigeria, please if you can, migrate to UK legally, e get why

The money you earn in UK is very useful back home and you can leave a meaningful life here as far as you're not into drugs and you no dey do pass yourself, so if you can just japa.

And you understand that some of our parents spent their earnings on our education and are left with the house and shops they own. Healthcare is not free in Nigeria and you don't know when those disease will come, only God can safeguard us. I'm just so glad that I could help. Even though I wished the money was sent foe their pleasure.

I have only been in the UK for 3 months and I have sent 1.2m naira home. If I was still in Nigeria I wouldn't have been able to send anything with my 95k salary. My dad n mom would still be sick and we would have to beg rich relatives to assists.
Also I have spent £1300 in bringing my spouse here so don't be naive.
Just migrate in the right way.

justwise:
If you are buying from national express then the ticket will be sent to your email, so you just forward it to your friend

Thank you so much

Hi guys.

I want to buy a bus ticket for a friend travelling from Heathrow airport to Manchester. Will I snap the ticket and send to her on WhatsApp or what?
Please help

Lexusgs430:
This thing dey chop electricity, like tinubu dey chop all our naira..........

Curry?
Chai, and I have a voucher from them worth £800 to purchase electronic gadgets

Exactly what Andrew Tate said.
Now killer Robots, how will that change anything

@kaylov12
@STENON

I saw your post about teaching jobs.

Please I do have a question. My partner has BSc in Accounting education and TRCN. He has Masters as well in Administration and Planning. I was so hopeful he would get a job cos of his high GP but now going through the thread I am worried.
He will be here late December, I will appreciate whatever information you can help us with.

@kaylov12

I saw your post about teaching jobs.

Please I do have a question. My partner has BSc in Accounting education and TRCN. He has Masters as well in Administration and Planning. I was so hopeful he would get a job cos of his high GP but now going through the thread I am worried.
He will be here late December, I will appreciate whatever information you can help us with.