Babe1994:
Hi

I’m a girl in her late 20s, I live abroad was born here but spent most of my schooling years in Nigeria. I came back to do university. I’ve been with a guy now for 7 years who hasn’t paid my bride price properly due to the fact he did an arangee marriage and the divorce process is taking too long. I got with him in my early 20s.. and have a child with him. I believed in him but now I’m at the point where I’m honestly frustrated and tired. I really don’t know who to run to to express myself. We are living together but I really want to run away and start my life afresh but I want to be told the truth. I really want to be married and content, It feels like this guy has reduced me to nothing. Im so ashamed of my situation with him, it’s like I’ve disgraced myself and my family. I’m going to try and list out all the issues we’ve been facing.

1. He’s very confused about his career path. One minute he’s a musician.. then he wants to be a painter.. then he wants to be chef. This is a man in his late 30s

2. He has anger issues. We have tussled on some occasions and he threatens to beat me when he’s angry but so far he hasn’t

3. He has addictions. Betting drinking smoking. To the point where he drank so much that he almost killed himself . I was honestly fooled by the fact that he was a worker in the church and I “believed” I could change him. Young and dumb I guess.

4. Cannot communicate properly. To the point we have not had a proper conversation in almost 2 months but we are living together. I feel so lonely and stuck.

5. He insults me so bad to the point where I question myself.

6. He is not very hardworking and I don’t gel well with his family and friends.

7. None of his family ever talk about marriage or paying my bride price. All they ever ask is when I’m having another child for him. They have reduced me to nothing and I can’t blame them.

I will say that when I’m angry I can be verbally abusive also. He also claims that I’m too reserved and isolated. I feel like I’ve been pushed to the wall and I can’t recognise myself.

I really want to run away.. and start afresh. Where will I start from? I have a son how easy will it be to find love again? All the love I have for this man has gone..I don’t know if it can be rectified. He has really seen me finish.



Thank you .

front page please

Thanks

1. I am confused why you are still talking about bride price and marriage. He hasnt done the needful and life is hell. when he does pay your bride price, nothing will change and things might get worse


2.The fact that he hasnt paid your bride price makes leaving him very easy, the only issue to contend with is your child. Proper arrangement can be made for that

3. At this junction your mental health/self esteem has taken a beating and you need space and time to yourself to heal. you cant heal in this current state and environment. You wont be able to function effectively if you are questioning yourself and having self doubts.

4. You mentioned abroad, is that why he is holding on to you? who foots the bills

Neutral15:
Please when your minimum offer is set at $200 and someone made an offer of $150. Will dan notify you?

Dan system will not allow anyone to make an offer less than the minimum price set by the seller

symbuul:


Funny enough, na my main email I use outbound for sale wey I make.

It's not about sales.

If you outbound with your the email tied to your registrar account and Google bans you.

How will you do password reset to your registrar account?

How will you get notifications that your name has sold

How will you communicate with your registrar when the need arises

When your registrar account us locked for whatever reason and a code is sent to the banned email, how do you go about this

So don't do outbound with the email tied to your registrar account. If you chose to do so, kindly know the risk

Pastor137:
Good day Nairalanders. So for three days, I've been having constant headache like someone is hitting hammer on my head morning and night. Been on some painkillers but they have little or no effect.

Treated malaria and typhoid last week. Please what could be the problem please as It's really affecting my productivity at work.

1. Try to know what triggers it, around what time

What activity were you engaged in when it occurs? Did you eat or drink something

2. Check your BP( high BP can cause this)

3. Go for eye check up(eye strain and other eye related issues can cause this)

4. CT or MRI scan

In all, you must go to the hospital. They will ask you for point 1. Don't take any drug. See a doctor

papalasun:
i woke up to a payment received notification from Dan, unfortunately the name was registered with spaceship and the buyer is asking what to do next .i really don't know how to tell him about the 60 days lock, he seems to want to run the name immediately.
my question is if i convinced the buyer to register with spaceship to avoid the 60 days lock, Do i still have to wait for 60 days before getting paid by Dan

Tell him he will receive further instructions from DAN.

Personally when the registrar is unknown, I wait for the 60days before outbounding.

tollyboy5:
We love shortcut too much in this country. Those blaming the government are with the worst character in their society.
Ordinary meter people have been clamoring for, when nepa bring meter come na every time dem dey catch those who bypass.

In everything we do we must apply stealing and corruption.

It is still government. Those doing bypass are doing so because they know there are no consequences. if they were consequences people will not bypass. Who will enforce consequence? me or the government

When you have a working system, stealing and corruption will reduce greatly.

honestmike:
Email warm-up is a process that gradually increases your email sending volume and frequency to establish a positive sender reputation and improve email deliverability. Here are some benefits of email warm-up:

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Overall, email warm-up is essential for establishing a positive sender reputation, maximizing email deliverability, and achieving better results from your email marketing campaigns. It sets the foundation for successful email communication with your audience

If you are interested in using my warmup service it's 3k per email

Does your warm up service have a name?

3k per mail, monthly or yearly

Where can we get reviews for this warm up service

GuyWise101:

Okay, you know as newbies we tend to always ask some common questions.

What I want to know is, if there is any link given to owners of domain after listing it in Dan.com (for example: If I register a domain and later list it in any market place like Dan.com or afternic will they give me any special link as the authentic owner so that when and if I sell the domain then I will transfer the link to the buyer?

1. Register a domain name on any registrar(Dynadot, namecheap, namesilo are my recommended ones)

2.list the name on a marketplace(Dan, Afternic, Godaddy, Daaz etc)

3. Set the domain nameserver or DNS server for the domain name to your desired one.(This will be done from your dashboard on your registrar account)

each marketplace has its own DNs and this will take any visitor who types in that name to a designated page, the page can have make offer or buy it now price

Dan nameserver is NS1.dan .com and NS2.dan .com(Without the spaces)

4. After you set the DNS to ur desired choice, anyone who types in that domain eg www.GuyWise101:youneedtoreadfrom1stpage .com will be directed to the landing page with either a buy it now price or make offer or combination of both

you have been shown a sample of how DAN landing page looks like

So the "special link" to give to end user is to tell them to visit the domain.

GuyWise101:
Please seniors in the house I registered a domain yesterday but I don't really have a link to the website can someone explain this to me

Your question is not clear at all.

which link dont you have? the link of the website where you registered the name or what?

Oshiofe:
try this bro.


I noticed you might be having issue buying this domain
www.nairaland.com here

Let me know your thoughts on this.
Visit www.GoDaddy.com website, search for the domain name " nairaland.com " and buy from their trusted service

Regards

its best practice to send the Godaddy buy now link(Savy users wont click on it cos they dont know if its click bait or virus or what have you)

The challenge with asking end user to search is that Godaddy will recommend other variants and TLD to them.

They might end up buying the variant instead of yours.

flotwz:
Help!!!

I received an offer for a domain at 300, countered with 600, he didn't reply. After a week I message him to up his offer and add something to it, yet no reply. Then after 2 days again, I asked if he was still interested in the domain for $300. He replied with "yes, how can I pay".
Immediately, I imported lead for $300 at Dan. And as I was typing a message to him that he would receive a mail from Dan(which I later sent), A message landed into my in box from Dan that he had confirmed the offer (this was around 11:00pm Nigerian time).

So I went to bed with the expectation of waking to see payment alert from Dan. The following day, no show.

At 3rd day, I asked Dan what's up? They said the man hasn't paid for the domain.

At 4th day, I mailed the end user, telling him he hasn't purchased the domain. Perhaps he is having some difficulties in going about it or if there any way I could help ,he should tell me.

He replied back with, "Yes please! send me the link to pay please"

I told him that Dan had already send him a message to this effect, he should confirm if he did receive the message.... He didn't reply.

I related his message (his request for payment link) to Dan CS.

Yesterday morning, Dan told me that their account manager had sent the end user the payment link.

Yesterday evening, I informed him about the link forwarded to his mail as he requested. Then I asked him if he did receive the message or not. Yet no reply from him up to this morning.

I am confused about his state of mind.

Why he is ignoring anything that has to do with Dan.

Maybe he wants me to send the Link to him by my self?

And that means 15% off the deal which is too much for me.

I'm thinking of using daaz (which is 10%), then send him the landing page link by myself.

But will bringing in daaz (another escrow) not raise or confirm any suspicion to the end user? ( All this whites could be hypersensitive).

And will it not bring an offense to Dan?


Or perhaps the end user isn't serious?

Pls, what should I do?

Veterans in the house, I'm planing to take the last step on Monday. What should I do?

Thanks

1. Why is 15% too much for you?
Thats the price you have to pay in this business because your options are limited

2. I hope you will be able to salvage this sale because sometimes with these back and forth, the buyer might loose interest or think its a scam.

Please dont attempt Daaz. you have already gotten advice to use Godaddy(I recommend this option too)

Is the name listed on Afternic ?

is the name listed on Dan with Afternic distribution set to ON?


FOR NEWBIES, Americans dont know DAN or DAAZ, all they know is GoDaddy. So always let your outbound reflect Godaddy and Dan.

symbuul:
Does this mean if any of my domains contain "drugs" or "business", I registered a trademarked name?
I asked this question on trademarks before, but someone was quick to think my attitude was off. Sorry to say this but ego too much for this space. Maybe na to kneel and ask.

Please if you know anything about trademarks as regards to domain names, kindly enlighten us.
See screenshots;

Call my name!!

When you ask a question on a public forum and nobody answers, you simply quote that question and re-ask or let people know that you still look forwards to answers. You telling/asking the public that you arent paying the below is insulting and makes you entitled

No one has commented on this. Does it mean no one understands the concept of trademarks with regards to domain names

Your intial question on trademark was ok, it is the this post i was refferring to.

You havent asked yourself why nobody has answered you ?

keep waiting, maybe someone will respond to you.

symbuul:


No one has commented on this. Does it mean no one understands the concept of trademarks with regards to domain names?

Maybe with the right attitude you might get an answer!!

Borntosmoke:


Keep importing that leads of $500 with continuous followup, I could remember for one of my domain I sold. I import leads almost 6 times before the buyer accepted it and continuous message. Na u talk say u dey interested, I will used message to finish ur life until you say you are no more interested. You can let the followup be like interval of 3 days. Not to spam him

I don't advise this. He needs to know why he isn't confirming the leads. If his concern is that of Scam, he will never confirm and that will further fuel his suspicion.

Neutral15:
therealMcCain
I didn't want to act desperate as if the name doesn't worth the $900 (newbie thinking)



Yes I asked if he could pay installments (My bad).


We bargain and he offered $900. I accepted and import lead. He accepted offer but didn't make the payment. The he contacted me about their marketing policy.
He agreed to pay the $500 by weekend. I imported lead again and this time, he didn't accept offer. Its been a month now.

Apart from CEO, founder, owner, chairman, president

The next set of decisions makers is

1. The web guy
2. Marketing team

Most times they are they main decision maker who will either advise the boss to buy or not to buy.

So when he clearly told you the marketing team rejected the 900 offer and proferred 500, you would have taken it without blinking

If you imported lead and nothing has happened maybe he has lost interest or skeptical about DAN platform. Most Americans only know Godaddy

Reach out and ask him why he hasn't bought the name, if he is still interested.

Tell him the name is now listed on GoDaddy. That GoDaddy will handle the transaction from sales to transfers to him at no extra cost.

I suspect this name is an EMD, when dealing with certain price range with an American, put Godaddy 1st

Neutral15:



Yet to land my first sale, I got really close. Buyer accepted offer of $900 but couldn't make payment. Contacted me later that their marketing...... can only approve max $500. Asked if he could pay installments, no reply. After 2days, I said OK pay the $500. He said weekend and it's a month now. Only for mailtrack to email me that he opened the email.

Someone made an offer of $500 after telling you the marketing team recommended that amount yet you decided to stretch the negotiation further instead of closing the deal fast.

And you are yet to make your 1st sale. Why didn't you accept the offer immediately?

Sometimes it's best you close the deal immediately to avoid stories that touch

lanrexdo

You tainted his name, you don't just delete and leave it at that.

Inform us that it has been resolved and offer apologies to the the accused.

I experienced same OPAY to OPaY tx and mine took a week for them to truly credit the reciever

YoobaNesan:
@Domainer1999, I hope you've learnt a big lesson on human nature?

"Don't tell people your lose, they only want to see your gain"

Most of them are rambling about since you lose, if you've reported a sales of £5k, they'd have been shouting Odogwu! Up and down.

Anyone who makes a sale from such practice will be called out!! no exceptions

it is only those with fraudulent mindset, who believes the end justify the means that will be hailing and shouting Odogwu.

You are the only one shamelessly peddling this, cant you let it go?

YoobaNesan:
I'm still not comfortable with this line.

You reach out to a potential end user and make them aware that there's a name out there that'll be very good for their business should they'll like to have it.
If interested, you go on, if not, you back out.
And If it's a wise end user, he reg it and you lose...and if a crazy end user, he still congratulate you for letting him know

I agree it's a very bad practise for a domainer, but calling it fraudulent, I'm very uncomfortable with that.

I think it's just trying to play safe.

What you put up here is fraudulent.

It gives a bad name to the domaining business. Why don't you put up a thread on namepros and see what others will say? I used namepros cos it contains many nationalities

As at the time the name was pitched to the end user, was it stated that the name was available for hand reg ?

The common assumption will be that the sender of the mail is either the owner of the domain or a broker acting on behalf of the owner.

You clearly stated that a wise end user will register it, that is only possible if the name is available for registration

So the question is: why outbound for a name you don't own ? It's fraudulent and gives a bad namento the business in general

MostImportant:


I am very committed to learning this craft.

.

Your attitude is not that of a learner. You made an assertion. you have been been asked to share your thought process so that corrections can be applied and if possible, for others to learn from you assertion, you are dodging.

Since you are committed to learning, start reading from page 1 of this thread or from January 1st 2022 post till date, you should be able to get the rudiments of this craft

MostImportant:


I'm still learning too. Carry me along.

You are not ready to learn.

MostImportant:
Hello guys, I wonder why some perceived good names are still available. Or don't you think these names are too good to still be available?

KentuckyAsset/king
KentuckyHomeAsset/king

We learn everyday

1. why do you perceive these names to be good?

2. which line of business do you see using these names?

lanrexdo:
iykepromotions, BOOKWORMLUX, Sapiosexuality, Learner47, Harllaby, Cashew, , therealMcCain, OCEANS7 ,


Why do people do like that all the time?

Do a couple of business and then boom they will start saying they never saw alert.

Ehn.

Next time you want to drag people into things they have no knowledge of. Give a background story. I was confused seeing this mention.

That being said, MrPADDY why did you allow this get to this point for a Transaction of 4k? somethings are not worth it!

There can be transfer delay even though Opay to Opay shouldnt experience such. I beleive there is a mixup somewhere.

A simple suggestion, kindly reach out to Opay with the screenshot or transaction ID he sent and get confirmation since he has put up screenshot of his chat with Opay.

Neutral15:
Please how do you answer I already have a domain

I can't find the answer online, maybe I'm not using the right word

How do I also check the search traffic of a domain name

He said I should remove him from my list

I asked, may I know what is stopping him

He said he already has a domain

Golden Rule 1
When an end user tells you to
a. STOP
b. Remove me from your list or mailing list
c. Not Interested

You comply immediately, you leave them alone. The only exception is C. There are ways you can ask why he is not interested.

Rule 2
When someone says I already have a domain. you leave that person alone. The exception depends on how your 1st outbound was done and the quality of the domain in terms of search volume or traffic stats.

if it is very obvious that your name is a better upgrade to the endusers name and he still tells you, he has a domain, then you leave him alone.

As for traffic stats, install the chrome extention "Surfer SEO" chrome extention for PC

For android: Install Kiwi brower and then install the above chrome extention too

After installation, when you search for a keyword or phrase on Google, it will display the SV and CPC

You can also use kwfinder, ubbersuggest these are paid plans with very daily limited free searches

Polaris1:

Pardon me for interrupting. What name and model is your TV?

I am not around now, cant get the exact model. its an LG TV. I need to add, when the energy saving feature is ON, the brightness of the TV is reduced. its known as ECO mode in some other TV's

[quote author=obitobe post=123137272][/quote]

1.14 spiral energy saving bulb of 10w each

Try to go for LED, 5w-10w, Consumption is low and kinda of shines brighter, go for quality products, inferior ones don't last

2.Yes I do use Ceiling fan, and its 5ceiling fan but not at once

hmmm, how many at once, Go for DC ceiling fans(Highest speed consumes less than 30w unlike AC ceiling fans that gulps up 120W)
Price range goes for like 30k

3. Does your Television have energy saving feature? I am not sure

Google the model and check, My Tv consumes 120w but with energy saving features(Max setting-20w, Meduim setting-40w, Minimum-60W)
Not so sure of the numbers again but you can see the difference. So in the morning before sun comes out and night, my TV is on Max energy setting. During the day or sunny period, it can be in minimum or OFF.

4. I used both inverter deep freezer and Fridge. it runs from 9am-3pm

For clarity, you power deep freezer and fridge at same time for this duration?

what is the power consumption of the Freezer?

what is the power consumption of the Fridge ?

The timing is ok(9am-3pm)

What make is your 300w panel? low grade panels dont produce what their rating or nameplate says

Is there any other significant load that you power with the inverter?


CC
obitobe

obitobe:
Please I need advise, I have a 24 volt system set up consisting of 300w panels(6), a 2.5kVa 24V afripower inverter, felicity MPPT charge control(60A) and 4 tubular haus strom batteries, but i still have to charge the batteries with generator from 7pm -10pm. How do I improve the system in such a way i stop running the generator.

PS my total watt in my apartment is 1113w


please i need this improvement advise.

1. What sought of light bulbs do you use?
LED, incandescent or spiral energy saving bulbs

2. Do you use ceiling fan? if yes, How many and what type?

3. Does your Television have energy saving feature?

4. Do you power your fridge or freezer with the inverter? if yes, when is the runtime? what is the duration? do you power the fridge/freezer after 4pm on inverter

Neutral15:
One of my potential enduser asked me of the price, I told him $1500 and he went solo and never replied.

Today I emailed him this message

Could you please let me know what you think of this domain name and if you have any reservations?

His reply was

Yes I liked it.

How do I go about this

His response tells me all is not well.

He said "I liked it" not I like it

Past tense. I suspect he has an issue with the pricing.

Suggestion 1
Hello, Do you have an issue with the price? If yes, how much are you willing to offer

Suggestion 2
Import lead(Make Offer) then

Hello, You will get a mail from DAN marketplace(a GoDaddy Brand) they will act as escrow and handle the whole sale process and transfer at no extra cost to you. You will have an opportunity to make an offer, if you arent ok with my asking price.

let me know if you have any question

Xerona:
Hello Nairalanders, there is an issue at hand.
I have two kids and recently gave birth to the third few months ago. It's been really difficult for me since I practically do most of the house chores... my husband is hardly around because of work.

I came down with this strange disturbing headache that doesnt go away. So I went to see a doctor and she said the headache was as a result of postpartum stress and lack of sleep.

The truth is I'm awake most of the time because of the baby or when I'm attending to other household matter. I haven't had a good sleep in a long while. So when the doctor suggested I get a house help so I can find time and sleep when shes holding the baby. I knew she she was on point. But the problem is my husband, he wouldn't hear of it, he doesn't want us to get any househelp...

I even pleaded with him and made him see reasons why I needed help, but he refused... I'm beginning to think I ended up with the wrong person because I dont understand why anyone would deliberately want to subject their wife to this kind of torture.

My kids are age 5, 2 and 3 months... I go to the market, cook, clean, i even do school run too...He's a contractor and will be travelling back to work next week.. yet he doesn't want me to get help...

You dont want solution, I guess you just want to complain.

You have given a background info on why you need a maid but you havent told us the REASON your husband does not want a maid.

The solution lies in knowing why your husband doesn't want a maid. When you know the reason, then you MIGHT be able to address his concerns.

Your husband could have been molested by a maid or knew someone who was molested by his maid

Maybe a maid destroyed his parents marriage or a relatives marriage and he swore never to have one himself

maybe he knows his weakness and as such, doesn't want any temptation staring him in his face daily.

The list goes on

Famundpropertie:


To avoid all this, isn't it better and safer to just withdraw directly in dollars? How long does it take to reflect if you withdraw from Dan to Grey in dollars?

Yes, its better but since the Silicon banking issue in US, most fintech had issues cos their partners were affected.

I dont think Grey $ is functional now.

besides the above factor, Grey $ was off and ON but their GBP has always been stable, thats why most folks use it

Sapiosexuality:
Grey GBP does not accept $? Since when? I remember using it for my last Afternic sale. Or is this peculiar to Dan?

If my memory serves me right, on AFternic, there is a check box or field to indicate the currency of the account you are filling in.

DAN $ to Grey GBP happened to be because i was misled by someone's statement here, I also shared my learning then.

James39:


No issues

Payout was smooth.

Just fill in your Grey GBP and selebank transfer as your Payout they will convert your funds and send to your GBP

PLEASE to avoid premium tears and tantrum, notify DAN to send your payment in GBP before sending to that account, else DAN will send it as $


GREY GBP acc does not accept $. it will take close to 30 working days or more for the money to be reverted if an incompatible currency is sent.