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bravoluv83:
i am havin week ejaculation, i dnt stay upto 3 mins wen havin sex. What shud i do to solve this problem ?

enieme:
Kindly refer to this fatwa:

mykohayz:
Thanks for showing interest bro, its so simple, just look around your vicinity for a professional artisan (not the local ones) in that field who deals mainly on paint production, have a minimum of 6month training or more. paint application and special effect will be an added advantage in terms of securing a contract, that's where you apply your formal education, link up and plan your way through. meet you at the top, good evening.

mykohayz:
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I beg to disagree with your assertion sir, how well have you done your statistics to have reach such conclusion as you've quoted up there claiming so many people are now very skilled, chunk of our graduates attention is shifted to the hope of getting a well to do job on the average while less attention is been paid to acquisition of skills due to some certain factors, such as the ageing factor, the egoism factor, the get rich quick syndrome and the time factor, etc are the reasons why most graduate might not want to consider such, until the already sharpened teeth of poverty has eaten deep into the fabric of their pockets will such might tickle and trigger their mind on something productive.

To knock you off in the case of the so called olokadas category, most are not found in there field too, due to laziness, as okada is now perceived by people of their class a lucrative business in the city of Lagos, connection problem, lack of independence, stack illiteracy, semi professional, lack of adequate equipment and so on.

Last Bullet,

By his grace I'm a testimony to this looming predicament trending in our society as of now, had my OND, BSC, Masters, a former bank staff or worker(contract) earning stipend which doesn't make ends meet, non sustainable job and considering the fact that its not promising and futuristic, I had to take a bold step to commit my time in learning painting and special effect after my resignation, now I get contracts in multiples and I assemble other professional painters on huge projects, do my supervision with less stress and i get paid for a job weldone.

My brother stop wailing and entertain less excuse, open your mind and reason beyond, this will go a long way, country in mess or no mess, have this in mind, even when it rained, your feet will still be messed up in the mud.

mykohayz:
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I beg to disagree with your assertion sir, how well have you done your statistics to have reach such conclusion as you've quoted up there claiming so many people are now very skilled, chunk of our graduates attention is shifted to the hope of getting a well to do job on the average while less attention is been paid to acquisition of skills due to some certain factors, such as the ageing factor, the egoism factor, the get rich quick syndrome and the time factor, etc are the reasons why most graduate might not want to consider such, until the already sharpened teeth of poverty has eaten deep into the fabric of their pockets will such might tickle and trigger their mind on something productive.

To knock you off in the case of the so called olokadas category, most are not found in there field too, due to laziness, as okada is now perceived by people of their class a lucrative business in the city of Lagos, connection problem, lack of independence, stack illiteracy, semi professional, lack of adequate equipment and so on.

Last Bullet,

By his grace I'm a testimony to this looming predicament trending in our society as of now, had my OND, BSC, Masters, a former bank staff or worker(contract) earning stipend which doesn't make ends meet, non sustainable job and considering the fact that its not promising and futuristic, I had to take a bold step to commit my time in learning painting and special effect after my resignation, now I get contracts in multiples and I assemble other professional painters on huge projects, do my supervision with less stress and i get paid for a job weldone.

My brother stop wailing and entertain less excuse, open your mind and reason beyond, this will go a long way, country in mess or no mess, have this in mind, even when it rained, your feet will still be messed up in the mud.

thesource:
Here's what happens to you when you borrow money to buy a sallah ram by fire by force:

engrkenny:
What about renting already built shops, preferably on the outskirts (if you live in a major town), at least for now? Most printing press i know even established ones are renting their places. I feel that'd be cheaper than renting a landspace and then putting up a structure. Unless you're getting the space for free.

FunnyDude:
@Op u are confused.

yomi007k:
In one sentence/ less than 12 words, wat exactly is the problem?

For Example;
1. I don't have a good shop?
2 I am not making sales?
3 I need house rent?
E.t.c

Kakayaraznits:
Wa alaikum salam. I feel you beyond your explanation but my advise for you is to shake off any depression and live ur life. Pray and get urself busy. For every difficulty comes relief, insha Allah.

MrOlai:
Amin my brother. May Allah(SWT) bless you too.

Housing:
As Salam Alaikum Waramotullahi Wabarakatuhu. My Brother in Islam, most of the responses earlier were great. It's a very big mistake to believe your wet dream is from witches or your enemies. Do for the sunnah recommended for Muslims particularly unmarried matured Muslims. Fasting on Monday and Thursday will reduce your sexual urge, your eating pattern, don't eat late and avoid certain food that will trigger hormones responsible for sexual urge especially at night. Do you observe your 5 daily prayers regularly? Do you keeps your eyes away from obscene views? How do lay on your bed? Do recites Ayyatal Qurisiyyu, Suratul Iklas, Falafel and Nasi. Kindly treat yourself of chronic pile. If you can do all these I believe your wet dream will be cured. Try as much as possible to get a job no matter how little the pay is. It is the employed that will always get more employment opportunities because of contact and exposure. Finally get yourself the book called Citadel of Believers it not up N200 it will be very useful. Your TAHAJUD most be constant and regular even if it is just for 20Minutes. May ALLAH (SWT) guide us right Ameen. Maa Salam

Laid2001:
Alekum Salaam,
May be you can learn from my situation,

1. I also come from a Polygamous family and I would not exchange my family experience for another one. Coming from Polygamous family is not an hindrance in life!. It enriches our experience in life and make us stronger. Clear your minds of bad thought about your step mums and siblings, they are more often than not trapped in the same situation as you are.

2. Having wet dreams is not unusual for a grown up man that is not married and the fact that you have been experiencing it since puberty only shows that you are sexually active and ok. Nothing is wrong with you. Men body is designed to get rid of sperms one way or the other anyway!. I also used to have wet dreams, even with all sought of witches that my mind could conjourn then. This continued until I got married. Only marriage and fasting can reduce your level of wet dreams.

3. That you are unemployed even after graduation and training in printing press, is nothing. I am a graduate of Mechanical Engineering. After graduation, I bought three 80 leave higher education notebook, (It was a common notebook in those days) and used all of it to apply for all companies that were listed on the yellow page that I feel relate to my field. (That is doing my part). Of courese nothing was forth coming, so I offered myself as a lesson teacher in an afternoon lesson. did that for some time, then offered myself to be giving private lesson to Abdul rahman, the son of a commissioner in Yola where I was serving. Note that, I only got to know AbdulRahman's father in the mosque as i am Yoruba and they are fulani. I only marketed myself to him. After service, I took up a teaching job briefly in a private secondary school. I later moved on to to work in a plastic moulding company, I was the most qualified person in that company with less than 10k as salary. But I was not Idle and I was gathering experience to put in my CV. This was how I started jumping from job to job.

All you need do is to start from somewhere, there is always something to do!. It may not be an ideal job but never be idle, this is the lesson, I learn since I was small. My dad, is an afaa, imam, a weaver, and a mualim (arabic teacher) in a primary school.

4. Top of it all, PRAY and PRAY to Allah with unwavering faith that your prayers will be answered. Perhaps it is your lack of Iman, believing that you are handicapped that has made you unsuccessful. No one is responsible for your predicament, but yourself.!! When you are ready to get out of it, Pray to Allah and He will answer you.

5. May Almighty Allah, grant you wisdom, may he grant you the wherewithal to to see the oppurtunities that are available for you and to strengthene you to be able to take it. I pray that Allah, grant you ailment in whatever ailments that may be afflicting you.

May Allah forgive me and forgive you.

Jimdonnet:
just had to comment on this for you are my birthday mate sir.am 28th August our birthdays on Friday next week.

Sir you are not alone if it's marriage partner I can hook you up with a 31 year old lady she is a teacher.we stay close am at abule egba.


but I am also seeking for jobs that Is my challenge.but I believe in God almighty.sir you can get my number for the hookup

MrOlai:
Hmmm... May Allah(SWT) in His infinite mercy ease all our tasks (Amin). You can take the following steps:

1. Look for a job or jobs that will be earning you income.
Unemployment, unemployment, unemployment... Actually, what we have is under-employment. You can always find something to do to for a living, although, the income may not be enough. Start from somewhere please. The work may not even be related to what you studied in school. You may even take up two or more part-time works. Use that as stepping stone for a better job.

A lot of people are unemployed today not because there are no jobs but because they feel they are too big for some jobs. I'm almost 100% sure that there are things you can do to make a living. I mean halal things. Think of so many things you can do and choose may be one, two or three from them and start from somewhere.

A lot of able men are out there who are bus conductors, drivers, keke marwa drivers, part-time teachers, home lesson teachers, scavengers, 'alabaru', cleaners, petty traders e.g buying and selling of 'pure water'/recharge cards', gatemen, security men, street sweepers, waste packers(Lawma), attendants, etc. In fact, some of them are university graduates! Remember "Dignity of Labour". It is better and more rewarding in the sight of Allah(SWT) to struggle to work for livelihood than being idle and constituting nuisance to the society. Please, start from somewhere no matter how little it is.

2. Plan towards having your own private apartment even if it a single room. Try to save for that from your earning. In fact, you can seek financial assistance from people to get the room. It is not haram. With your little income, you can sustain the pay rent. From there, you will move to a bigger appartment Insha Allah.

3.On the issue of wet-dream, it is a normal physiological process since you are not yet married and you do not involve yourself in boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Alhamdulillah! Remain patient and be prayerful. However, you can start searching for your wife now. Don't wait until you secure white collar job. With whatever income you are earning, your wife will always support and stay by you. Just put it in prayer. If you are waiting for the government to provide job for you before getting married, then, you will be making a great mistake.

4. Seek Allah's guidance on these and it will be well Insha Allah.

kazlaw2000:
Assalaamu alaykum, brother. Just to chip in my thought.
From my own experience, I think the solution is just to learn to be patient with your trials. Also, there is a good reason Allaah is doing this to you. This your affliction(s) has its own huge benefit(s) which I believe you know. Then seek comfort in the benefits. Your problem is/was similar to mine because i can see from your write up that you are most concerned about your financial situation and lack of spouse. Lol. And I know you must have done all sort of things to rid urself of these problems like nakalis, perharps iso oru (church night vigil), Sihr etc. I was great helped by reading books of Sheikh AbdulQadir Jilani and Imam Ghazali. These people are scholars that specialize in guiding the heart to its happiness and contentment by putting this worthless duniya in its proper perspective. pls call 08091277083, if you can for further discussion. And pls forget that dream. I also spent years speculating about the source of my problems referring back to incidences in my childhood. Bro, its an endless, futile pursuit. If u see all as Qul kullun min indi llaah (you can understand this I reckon), then you are on a sure road to peace in this life and next.