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Dpsychologist:
she will indirectly frustrate you and when you get tired and decided to break up with her , she will cry she and blame you for using and dumping her.

That my friend is a classic power move.

Of course, she will show you in her actions sef. Only if you can't see it. Most of the time when she continues the relationship with you after having her mind made up, it's because the other guy she has in mind hasn't clicked yet. Once it clicks, she moves!

LIVINGICON:
I disagree with your second paragraph. I believe moderation is key. For me, i relax with women and i play video games too, even at my "old" age. But i don't engage in gambling in whatsoever form. Am i successful?? YES. Am i a winner? YES. It is when a man can't draw the lines between business and pleasure, that a problem sets in.

Yeah, moderation is key, I agree on that. But Pareto Principle is distributed almost everywhere. 80% work and 20% play. But the mindless entertainment is taking 80%, that's why the Rich keeps getting richer and the Poor keeps getting poorer. You won't find a dedicated man engaging in all these.

While one is busy wasting time on Netflix, his competitor is somewhere working his ass off.

SweetVibe:
when you say “losers" what category of people are you referring to?
Is it people who are not successful? sick? or poor?

please enlighten me

"People who do nothing but consume are basic people who have no real value, most of their interests (and thus what they talk about) is vicarious and based on the achievement of others. Losers live through other people, winners live through themselves; losers invest in nothing, winners don’t stop investing. Winners invest in themselves before investing in others, losers are interested in everything, but have no actual value to invest." - IM

Losers are those that don't utilize their time. Losers engage in degrading activities that confers them no benefits e.g. gambling, smoking, gaming, wasting their time on entertainment, living their lives around women, complaining etcetera.

If you always spend your time with these set of people, you won't grow and their lifestyle will indefinitely affect you in the long run. It's better you cut them off now or drown with them. The choice is yours.

The common fact among successful people is that they know how to steer clear from people that offers them no benefits. In summary, they know how to steer clear from losers.

If you have done those good deeds earlier instead of lavishing that on your so called girlfriend (not even wife), you would have been rewarded much better.

But the charity was done out of anger. SMH. I would rather spend that amount of money on my personal development, my family or friends instead of a girl who wouldn't care about you the day things turn sour.

If you don't respect yourself, how do you expect girls to respect you?