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You're one of the luckiest women on earth right now. He knew about your condition, accepts you, and even cares for you to that extent. The fact that he doesn't want you doing heavy work because of your condition shows he loves you. You can start with the light-duty job he suggested.

My advice: Don't lose him and never take him for granted. You'll deeply regret it if you do. Hold him tight and appreciate every single effort he's made or making.

LOL! she didn't give all the assholes she was having sex with probational period but she's giving you.

Well as they say, the easiest way to manipulate or trap a man is through the illusion of sex. Someone like you are the kind of men who spend huge amount of money on damaged products or goods. Well, I trust the lady, she will definitely execute her plans on you.

Starlogo:
I think you should wait after three months , since she assured you that no ne else is knacking the coictus.....
Wait and find alternative

Haha. And you trust someone who isn't a virgin on this?

YoobaNesan:
Machiavellianism has been in existence when Masculinity and Patriarchal system was still solid.
I came across a quote of one Islamic scholar Ibn 'Aqeel (lived in 5th century) where he talked about how the Wise Man Should Be With His Family:

"When the wise man is alone with his wife, he should then leave his intellect in a corner as a respected shaykh and (start) joking and fooling around with her to give her and her soul its rights. And when he is alone with his children, then he should come to them in their shape (I.e. act like them, be like them etc)."

[Manners of the religion, 3/388]

In order words using cunning ways to manage the family. This is why you have to be fluid as water. Don't be straightforward.

davealvaro:
i just want to use this medium to appreciate the op... it's not easy compiling the principles of life ...as i was reading through i was smiling and learning more cause i have been applying all dis rules unknowingly...if you wasn't born with a silver spoon and u went into d street of hustling at early age, d street will naturally impact you with these golden rules of life... i discovered at early age that in order to succeed you mustn't play fair..cause generation wealth starts with one theif or a high risk taker.. if u grew up in d street and still don't know some of this rules sorry you must be coward ...once again thank you very much Op.

You're welcome. Thank you.

You just stated nothing but the truth.

@YoobaNesan, nice points you got there. Good.

They would rather waste their time in the relationship than propose to the man. Factors that would make a woman propose to a man:

- Menopause
- Societal discrimination
- High value man
- Over investment from the lady's part (she has much to lose in the relationship if it crashes)
- Lack of options

Sonnobax15:

Feminists no go take am easy with you

LOL! why should they? Isn't this all about equality? What a man can do, a woman can do better, eh?

YoobaNesan:
@TheUndercover what do you say about Yahoo boys, are they also machiavellian in their way?

To your question: Yes, they are Machiavellians; by using cunning or manipulative ways to exploit or harm unsuspecting victims.

Addendum: Machiavellianism can be said to be "morally neutral". It can be used to achieve good or do harm. I won't be responsible for any of these choices you make. But one should note that, you can't go far if you try to play everything by the book or by being "too moral". For example, if you see an opportunity to jump the queue in a bank, will you still stay behind the queue or use the opportunity? That's a question you should answer.

The knowledge of Machiavellianism is what every man should equip himself with in this cold world. These knowledge isn't necessarily needed to harm others physically, but to sharpen your senses.

Like IM said, "For man, Machiavellianism is predominantly a vocation learned. Few men are naturally equipped with Machiavellianism tendency, let alone apt in employing its devices. Some are raised in challenging environments which imbue these traits from a young age, but rest assured, Machiavellianism is a female instinct and a male art form. If man does not pursue Machiavellianism as an art form, a vocation to be learned and practiced, he can never you hope to be half as cunning as the typical woman.

Throughout human existence, women have been the physically weaker sex. As such they have needed to evolve subconscious strategies to covertly manipulate men in ways that benefit their sole needs. Majority of men are effectively clueless in matters of Machiavellianism. Women on the other hand are Machiavellians as water is wet. You'd be hard pressed to find a woman who isn't Machiavellian. The idiotic man is limited most by morality, the intelligent man, by rationalism, and the woman, neither."

Without the knowledge of Machiavellianism, you can't even fully implement TRP principles. If you're well vast in the knowledge, handling women won't be a problem for you. You'll get to understand how manipulating the average woman can be and how to handle or deal with them accordingly because that's her primary weapon. The phrase "idiotic man" in the above statement can be said to mean someone who sees treating women nice as being equivalent to getting their love. The innate Machiavellian nature of women will make them friendzone him and use him for their own selfish interests instead of reciprocating his love. He ends up disappointed at the end.

This knowledge is needed to scale through life. It makes you understand the human psychology better than even studying psychology itself in school. You get a better understanding of how to interact with people. Also, this knowledge can also be used to harm people, depending on the person equipped with the knowledge of it.

"Machiavellianism is the art of welding power, how it's wielded is determined by the wielder's morality or lack thereof. Don't blame the strategy, blame the soul of its employer." - IM

By being cunning, you will learn not to be too predictable. Being predictable can get you killed. You'll also learn to hide your intentions, because people can use your intentions against you. You'll learn not to trust easily, people can be so fickle minded. You'll learn not to outshine your superior, so as to avoid being devoured by his power or authority. You'll also be able to develop your charming or social skills to manipulate people to achieve a common goal. These are just the least things you can do with the knowledge of Machiavellianism. If you're too moral, you'll think "Let me be a straightforward person", but unfortunately, people will take advantage of your nativity. Machiavellianism is also employed in winning wars or battles. Striking when you have to, retreating when you have to. Most wars in history aren't won by those with the best weapons, but by those with the best strategic planning.

In business, the use of Machiavellianism is employed when creating ads. If business owners were to be sincere with their ads, no one would patronize them. Cunning methods is also use to surpass their competitors. If you think by being moral and trying to play everything by the book will do you good, you'll only be doing your enemies favour. In politics or an organisation, the knowledge is used to remain in power and to keep people in control. This "control" can also be classified as damage control or as a fail safe to protect the people. For example, a mobile phone company might just pretend to change the design and add a few gimmick specs to gain more profit. Nothing can be more cunning than this!

You can gain more from people without having to physically harm or exploit people as the case of internet fraudsters AKA Yahoo boys. By being competent and having valuable skills is enough to make people even pay more for your services. By having a solid reputation is enough to get people patronise and pay you more than your colleagues or competitors. Sometimes by only having great communication or charming skills is even enough. Get what you want, cut corners when you have to but for me, don't scam. But that doesn't mean because you don't scam people, people won't scam or harm you. It doesn't work that way. The knowledge will make you aware of that. "There are many reasons some people make more money than others; crookedness is one reason, but not the only one." - CM

As long as people gets the services they pay for, no matter how much you charge them (even more than the usual price), they won't feel annoyed. But when people pay you for your service and you scam them, that's when they will pounce on you and nothing is more damaging to a reputation than when people begin seeing you as a trickster or a scammer. Don't shoot yourself in the foot. You can get yourself jailed.

So I hope you got the message passed. Thanks. #Modified

Highestbidder1:
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Bro.. you dey fall hand.. Nah so e dey take start, call the guy right away with your wife's phone, warn him that he should never in his miserable life text or call her again, need block the number.. if your wife is not happy with it, tell her what she needs to hear. Do not pet her, cos if you do it will continue...

LOL! The OP is an insecure man, this advice you're giving him will even strengthen the insecurity in him. LOL!

I don't even know what to say. Why will you be telling a woman to block her ex? So will blocking her ex stop her from cheating? You can never fully monitor a woman's movements. A woman will cheat even if no visible communication was made. A responsible woman knows this shouldn't be an issue, but with a slutty woman, it is! OP, your wife even flared up and it's like you're afraid of losing her. She has lost her respect for you and might have already cheated. Do you actually expect her to reveal the content of the message to you? Hahaha

She even decided to quit her job without telling you because of a business opportunity her so-called ex offered her? LOL! what do you need for this handwriting to be bold enough for you to see? Get ready to embark on the single father journey (that's if you've got kids yet, and that's even if they are yours).

Men, trust your instincts when you're dealing with a woman. You don't have to go around checking her phone or monitoring her movements. It just shows the high level of insecurity in you and makes the woman respects you less. Always have options. If a woman keeps doing things that make you question her loyalty, there's a high probability that she is not loyal. Be vigilant, her actions are most likely to give her out.