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Yes, you were looking for a maid and mooch. These are your own words below in one of your previous threads. She did not even want to stay with you, it was you who talked her into it.

Afodot0022:
.... , I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are there..
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2... She works and earn a decent salary which I think will be an added advantage for me by her supporting by we both sharing bills together, it will lessen by burden. Though I haven't discussed this with her yet but hope to soon cos I can't let her depend solely one me while she works.

3.... Ever since I separated from my wife, it's not been easy living alone as a man, the cooking ,washing ,cleaning and loneliness has not been easy, so we living together will atleast help me in these area.

To be candid, the girl is a good girl and I was the one that disvirgin her, she is submissive and respect me, but you know you can really say of a person character until you live with them.

Do you think it make sense I share bills with her or I should should all financial responsibility even though am not capable of that now..

https://www.nairaland.com/8171243/should-allow-girlfriend-live-me#down

Afodot0022:
I am not expecting any wifey duty from her. I can do all my chores and don't find it an issue. Ever since I divorced, have been doing things in my own way and have peace of mind. Even though she is not my wife, she shouldn't make herself useless and a liability, she doesn't do chores neither does she support or contribute. She just want to live free while eating free food. Even wife's contribute despite doing all the chores at home so I don't know what you are clamoring about

Yes, you are. Stop lying.

If you're not married to someone, you've no business moving them in and asking them to play housewife, househelp, and atm. Take care of yourself and pay your own bills. You're just one man, therefore there's no reason why your laundry should be piling up. As a man, you should likewise know how to cook your own food. You were previously married and have kids, which makes me think your wife was doing all the chores in the home while you didn't lift a finger or didn't want to. From your other threads, you were obviously looking for a maid and someone's money to mooch off on. However, your plan has backfired because the girl is no dummy. It's time to look in the mirror at the common denominator (you) because every woman seems to be the problem but you.

Deport them all. Some of them can barely speak or understand English, especially Indians.

The thousands of intelligent and prominent individuals and groups who have endorsed Kamala Harris: federal executive officials, senators, municipal, substate and local officials, international politicians, organizations, Lawyers, academics, activists and public figures, business executives and leaders, influential celebrities, and more, all know what they're doing. But an irrelevant nonentity like Deji Yusufu who supports a liar, incompetent candidate and criminal like Trump thinks he knows better, smh. As a Nigerian pastor, I'm sure he's armed with these qualities, hence no wonder he's pro-Trump. The majority of guests on CNN sef find Trump appalling and can't imagine him returning to the White House due to the many risks involved.

Sexyjigga:
This is Art 🥰

Thanks.

Welcome back!

Neptunium:
Rich food. You too like salmon chai . Na you go finish all the salmon for there.

I just might, lmao. We've them in abundance, though!

armyofone:
White chocolate mocha and blueberry scone are calling me now that I read yours.

Starbucks and sweet mouth drinks!

Eating breakfast at Starbucks - you too get sweet mouth

Lols. They're delicious, but not too sweet at all. The dragonfruit-mango-lemonade drink/refresher, for instance, is not sweet. I can barely taste the sugar in it, but at the same time I find the taste very enjoyable and soothing.

As much as I love to eat, I'm not a fan of salty or sugary food/drinks (and cook & bake with little salt and sugar, or use alternatives). I've a Vitamix for a reason and drink kale and broccoli smoothies almost daily 😅🤣

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Smh

Brb

It's possible she sees you as a friend and nothing more. You're the one thinking too much into this.

Then move away from there

Considering you've been found to break privacy laws, smh....

Is her mother now off the streets and in a psychiatric hospital?

If she's keeping or using the money for herself and not to take care of her mother, then I would agree with the Women Affairs Minister. But if she's using it for its intended purpose (for her mother's treatment and care), then she's doing right by the woman and doesn't deserve any backlash.

I don't like her saying, "It has been destined to happen. It was happened". Umm, maybe it wouldn't have happened if he had a life jacket on. That's another possibility. She should just apologize and ask for forgiveness without making absurd statements.

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Na wa

Where's the mom now?

Some people are just senseless with the rubbish they spew. If they haven't found the right person, they should just marry anybody, huh? It's better for them to be single and childless than to be divorcees and single fathers.

Hallelujah. Jesus is Lord.

Wonderful

Disgusting, and him playing Christian music too, smh. Gotta be those Christian men hiding under the guise of Christianity. Not to mention the fact that there was a minor in the car, smh. This is actually a crime, therefore he should be charged, but Idk about the laws in Nigeria. What a perverted man.

Fantastic. She's a very strong girl. May God heal her mother, IJN. Amen.

You can report him and his other pages to FB. That's a start.

It helps to write things down. If you're trying to decide between two choices, for instance, make the pros and cons of A, and the pros and cons of B, then use that as a guide. One tip is to choose that which will be best for you months from the present day and/or in the long run. Don't make decisions based on the now but always look at the future implications. You can also do the same if it's one thing you're trying to decide on. Las las, pray about it. Prayer never fails when it comes to gaining clarity.

It doesn't compare to the crowd at Harris' DNC that was packed and I believe there were people outside who couldn't get in as well.

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Sit her down to communicate, or seek marital counseling to find out what the problem is.

What was the rush? The driver was obviously very careless. The impact alone speaks volume.

It seems she was unconscious during that time. The hospital did not tell you the cause?

Omg. What a monster

Nobody cares where you did your masters. The UK isn't the only country in the world. The U.S and Canada also exist and are actually better for industries like engineering. Please refrain from quoting me again.

jorion:
You know dey ever hear word, I did my masters at the University of Aberdeen and I can tell you for a fact that those guys don't care about your AFRICAN CERTIFICATES (there are exceptions though, like IT and medical sectors). But there's no harm in trying, as long as you are very intelligent because there're no short cuts over there.

I AM JUST GIVING YOU MY 2 CENTS.

jorion:
Lower your voice abeg, because there are no jobs in Nigeria and foreign jobs would require a foreign university certificate and work experience.

Why don't you lower yours or why're you coming at me with this tone? So my saying the OP should try applying for jobs abroad is a problem for you or wetin be your own? Because I don't understand the discouragement you're trying to cast in here. There are engineering jobs abroad that offer visa sponsorships. In fact, I just looked up some now and the first posting I'm looking at is for a position in the U.S that says, "Hiring multiple candidates" and "We ARE willing to offer visa sponsorship for the right candidates!". I won't make a suggestion for the OP if I know it's not possible, but of course this is dependent on other factors of his (e.g. finances). If his results are good (they will likely ask for his transcripts) and he can gather some money that he'll need, then this could be possible for him. In any case, this is merely a suggestion, and he can either consider or ignore it. Either way, I wish him good luck!