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rinzaugustine:
Same nuisance mahdi shehu that was saying bad things about HE Peter Obi for wanting a better Nigeria. They will give him a dose of his medicine BTW why do the security forces find it easier to arrest civil rights activists than criminals and bandits who own verified social media accounts? I even saw a video of Fulani herdsmen sharing the kidnapping money on a mat and sometimes they do give away without any challenge from the soldiers or police..smh. Why can’t the national security agencies track the phone numbers of soldiers and police on highway patrol, is that rocket science or why is tinubu government hell bent on taking Nigeria 50 years backwards?

Should I answer your question?


Nigeria government fear people that bear arms than those that don't.


Nothing scares the President and the security apparatus than those who wage brutal war against them.


Just like the issue of IPOB, when they were peaceful, security agencies where using them to play sport and also ridiculing them.

Now the table has turned, no one is found again.

Ukraine is now turning into Israel Mossad.

Yaribanzas (APC demonic wing) won't be happy with this news


See them gloating everywhere on Saturday as if they won a trophy.

Wicked and despicable people.

I haven't even watch the video.


Alot of people above have stated complaining, I have already know the girl has fuxvken up.

Righteousness2:
which Target! You de wyne yourself ?

Show me one place on earth where 400 ballistic missiles cause no casualties.

“Behold, He that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep.”

Preach on, Apostle


Do not be discouraged.

janeedema:
It is your lot that has made us sink.

So in Obasanjo and GEJ’s era, people don't respond to SANs?

Because he is a SAN he is unanswerable, right? So he is above the law that he should uphold?

Adeyanju is a lawyer and because he isn’t a SAN, he is a clown.

I’m speechless.

Hello Miss,

Do you know Adeyanju before he read his so called law?

Can you classify Adeyanju as some one with reputable character?

Or do you even know what repute means? When Adeyanju has always been found wanting using foul language repeatedly.


So would also say that Portable can slso respond to someone like Afe Babalola SAN or Olisa Agbakoba SAN if he decides to read law tomorrow.

See what Nigerians have been reduce to?

Look at what we are discussing in this present era.


Making stupid people famous and social media contents become more insane because of contents.


I missed Obasanjo's and Jonathan era..imagine clown Adeyanju replying to SAN Falana.. how low have we sink...Nigeria my qwountry.

Googledotcom:
You don't know military can seize power from government ?

Why will military seize power from government?


Why didn't military seize power from Obasanjo, Yaradua, Jonathan, Buhari and probably Tinubu


Please explain to me

Northerners should leave governance...they are not good at governance. They wasted everybody's years for nothing.


They can venture into other things like Agriculture, Military and Transportation

Don't do something stupid you will regret in the world beyond.


If you truly know how lucky your stars will be tomorrow, you will go to the village Market and dance naked.


In fact you will even be happy that you departed away from your boyfriend.

Carazon:
Guy, are you sure that you will make heaven

This line that we have forgotten for years during Buhari and Osibanjo days ; then, it was the V.p handling the economy while the president handles the security

They decided to switch sides this time around


Maybe next election will be Tinumpu will handle security while Shettima handles economy


Mad people

Shettima will handle security.


Tinubu will handle economy.



Two incompetent buffoons that don't know their left from their right.


Killings everywhere . No place is safe again.


Almighty Abuja is not even left out.


May thunder punish APC supporters.

Tinubu has finishes us

Imagine if the news was LP Primary: Angry LP delegates Beats Up LP stalwart


The whole media would have run frenzy and started dragging Peter Obi, including some morons that have lost their 6th sense because of drug lord calling him all sorts of names.


But here you see, everywhere is quiet. Useless and shameless cretins!

SmartMen:
Not taking her because there is a risk with taking such a lady. A woman who does not consider you as the first option, despite being there long before the one she chose can hardly like, love, or respect you enough because you are not what they wanted in the first place but just happen to be the available one.

As they say: "When the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable"

I am not what she wants and will never be.

She was asking me if I still like her. I scuff

But I thank God for the experience. My life has been wild in the last 1 year with about 5 ladies HOPING I would give them a second chance. I wished I had known this secret long ago.

Make money, take care of yourself. You are only useful to them because of the security that you offer them. No more, no less.

I would have caused the hell out of you has it been you said the opposite.


In fact, I would have named you master simpster.


Well, thank God, you learnt well, and you learnt very fast.


Truly you are a smart man.


Never be an option B...no matter how she deceitfully confessed her love for you, when the time is ripe, she will leave because those who she was worshipping left her.

SmartMen:
My brother, good afternoon. It is about the one I said I met on Twitter as stated here below.



I have always known that the way she was commenting on my pics there was more to it.

We got talking about her status 3 days ago and I told her I would have married her (referencing her status) but she chose coding (her work as an excuse).

She responded with a meme (that Obara Jesus meme if you have seen it around).

Then she said she understood back then but it was just that she was trying to get on her feet back then, it wasn't easy.

That was her usual excuse anyway but I knew there was more, so I probed her further by saying communication is everything and if she had at least tried to ease things for me, I would have understood and that there are guys like me who just go straight to the point and say what they want and also mean it. I added I understand, life is not easy anywhere and I admire her for one thing.

Now, before this, there is something I used to do with her that I no longer do.: I no longer message her or chat with her like I used to. back then I initiate convos almost every day. I no longer called her. The most is that I no longer say nice things about her pictures like I used to when she uploads them. I would just view and move on.

The summary is that if you were a girl and noticed this, you could tell the guy has changed towards you and shifted attention elsewhere or no longer has your time.

This explains why she was now commenting on my pics whenever she saw them or viewed them to get my attention again but I did;t move still.

Back to the current events. After I said this: "I added I understand, life is not easy anywhere and I admire for one thing"

She then quickly said with a WINK emoji that she is expecting my wedding IV soon. I wanted to reply immediately but I paused. I sensed that she wasn't really expecting any wedding IV but those words were to ascertain whether the coast was still clear for her to come in. So I responded with what she had in mind to be sure. I asked if she doesn't want to marry and that it's her I want to marry.

Guess what? She proved me right then she said "but you are in a relationship" This further confirmed what I suspected was playing out.

That was when she confessed that she knew she didn't treat me well back then and that she was sorry.

The apology came as a shock to me, not gonna lie.

Again, when I look at the event as they unravel, I knew something was fuelling this because I have been on this girls case when she just finished NYSC, and moved from Benue to Abuja and it was always one flimsy excuse.

SO WHY IS SHE CONFESSING AND APOLOGIZING NOW FOR HOW SHE TREATED ME?

Note one thing. I said it before. A woman can rubbish you, call you a fool, insult you. Say she is not attracted to you and can never sleep with you.... BUT DEEP DOWN, she knows you are a great guy who would make an awesome partner cos they are not blind and can see ALL your effort.

Anyway, she later confessed that she had something with another guy but unfortunately for her, the guy japa to Europe.

So while she was giving me excuses of not being ready for a relationship or being broke to get into any relationship... there was no excuse for this guy after me.

This further explains and confirms that when a woman does not want you, she will create a stack mountainous obstacle for you but if the guy she wants comes along AFTER YOU, there will be no single excuse for the guy.

So why is she confessing now...? It is that thing I said before. They ALWAYS KNOW you are a great guy. All those times they are misbehaving towards you and not wanting to give you access, THEY KNOW. They may not admit it to you but during their solitude, a time when they all alone by themselves, they will TELL THEMSELVES the truth that SmartMen was really a great guy or TimFisher really cared about me. THEY ALWAYS TELL THEMSELVES the truth. This explains why after a while, they start looking for that great guy they once ignored or rejected when their plan A does not pan out well.

The only thing I did after she revealed all is take her down memory lane of how I was patient enough with her. Even as late as 2023 March I tried again and she still gave me the usual response of being too broke to be in a relationship but here she is now confessing and apologizing. I doubt the guy that japa even spent 3 months before she start considering to have something with him.

I concluded by bluntly telling her that she didn't like or wanted me and that is why she treated me the way she did.

Their problem is that they always have this imagination in their head. What they don't always consider is that hundreds and millions of girls also have that imagine in their head and there are not enough men around to fulfill that fantasy. Also a guy can have those things they seek financially it does not mean they will marry you as a lady either.

She is the second person I found out went with another guy who left her in Nigeria and traveled abroad. No future plans whatsoever , then they start looking for me lol. And that is why she feels remorseful that I was there long enough and she didn't give me a chance and someone comes along that she tried but it led to nothing. Meaning, she has to start searching from ground zero again.

Her case made me unhappy, not gonna lie cos I really like her but I have never taken a lady that considered me as an option cos I would always feel they don't really like or love me like that but I just happened to be the guy available. There is a high risk with that too when you take a lady that consider you as option D OR option E when other options fail.

So what is your option?


Are you taking her back and let bygone be bygone.

SmartMen:
Happy Sunday… I get update for you and others ooo 😂 😆

Should I drop it for you and others?

This women know what they are doing bro.

Abeg drop am as it dey hot

SmartMen:
I agree man. I really agree 😂

But how do you write all these lengthy post without getting tired

SmartMen:
All guys just need to do to pull themselves out of it is:

1. Have an abundant mindset: You should accept the fact that there are thousands of women who can replace one. Do not allow any lady to disrespect you for too long without replacing her.

It is a scarcity mindset that makes many men (myself included) tolerate badly behaved ladies for too long.

How did I cure mine? How did I overcome the scarcity mindset? My cousin, as I said before, helped me cure it by forcing me to go out more, something I rarely did previously.

We as humans are made to be SEEN. You must not deny yourself that purpose. BE SEEN and let the world around you see your light shine so brightly.

You know, as I said previously, I grew up in a family of men (Benin Men) who womanize very well. Benin boys are badass when it comes to this... But my Anambra blood had a strong influence on me. Igbo men just love to spoil women. It is an open secret that if an Igbo man likes a woman, he is hardly stingy. And this is why they call us simp

Anyway, my Benin cousin came and pushed me. He is in Canada now though. And because my uncles used to change women anyhow, IF YOU hear where they are discussing women back then, your jaws will drop.

However, even though I didn't pick the womanizing characteristics from them, I picked one valuable skill and that skill is the ability to spot a gorgeous lady in a split second. I kid you not. I could do this with 1-3 seconds while in a crowd. I learned this even before I was 12 just by listening to conversations of adults. Be careful what you say in front of kids

So whenever I was out, in a crowded environment (something I wasn't doing before) and started seeing at least 1-3 different really pretty ladies in every 10 that past 3-5 minutes, it dawned on me how much disservice I had done to myself. That was the turning point that helped me break off the scarcity mindset.

By then I had rebranded and when I strike up conversations with ladies, the kind of response I got showed I had something women wanted... That was it.

Now, some guys may be shy and find it hard to strike up conversations with women. See, women love to be approached. They expect it, they desire it, they want it and they are often excited when you walk up to them. When you approach them, it makes them feel desired and social currency wealthy.


If your head goes blank when you want to approach a girl, don't overthink it. Find anything around her to start the conversation. It could be her sunshade, it could be her hair, it could be her clothes, her shoes, her nail, or anything at all around her.

I was at a mall last week to get some stuff, on my out I saw 3 pretty but young girls and one of them had a baked cake, supposedly for a birthday. I and my guy had passed when I turned and said "Am I invited?" One of them turned and smiled at me. As simple as that, I could have proceeded to ask for the venue and when it is the occasion happening and then asked for her name and phone number but she is a teenager from my observation and there was no point. I just waved and walked away.

Also use this YouTube channel to help if you are having challenges approaching women or strangers: https://www.youtube.com/@socialanimal

2. I didn't read a lot of books on women. The shege I had received from the school of hard knocks was enough for me. My problem was that I wasn't really paying attention despite receiving so much free lecture from my close friend. Every time he advises, I act like I have heard and discard it when I am with the ladies.

And the reason I did that was that was because I had one fundamental assumption, a fatal one: I had erroneously ASSUMED that women are harmless creatures and this caused me to always let down my guard every time without defense but now.

It was an experience with one Akwa Ibom babe that was the last straw. It was the encounter with her, after revealing what happened to my friend, that I found out there is something called "love bomb" or "love bombing" Damn... Google "Love bombing"

I turned YouTube channels upside down for 3-4 months, I was there. After that, I rebranded and changed everything about me...same Akwa Ibom babe started coming to look for me after seeing new pictures of me from different places, including seeing me with other girls lol.

She eventually begged sha but like all others, I don't forgive them, i DON'T take them back, I don't do second chance.

We need to hold a seminar


Our guys needs to be liberated.

SmartMen:
Like you said in the emboldened: "Well she has been looking for means to connect back that to you. That business plan was just a hoax."

I am glad you saw this and also mentioned it. I didn't want to explicitly say it. It means you can read between the lines.

Let me tell you why she hasn't come out fully like the other ones. She is the youngest among them and she feels because she is still young, she can always get guys, she still has time. That seems to be where her pride is hindering her from doing it like others.

They employ different kinds of tactics when they want to reconnect back to you... like DIFFERENT KINDS. I can smell it from afar, even the most subtle one. I have seen that movie and moves too many times not to be able to smell it.

Why do they always try to come back to me?

The reason is all those times they were rubbishing me, THEY KNEW I WAS A GREAT DUDE. They always knew.

So if you are a nice guy and being reasonable while they are being unreasonable... DO NOT EXPEND more energy trying to make them change. They will never change and it will get worse. In all that madness of disrespect that they are displaying to you, THEY KNOW YOU ARE A GREAT GUY. And that means, they are very much aware of what they are doing. It is all intentional. The best thing to do is PULL OUT of it all.

I always set a limit for every one of them. Once they exhaust it, I am out and never looking back.

Why do they choose to behave that way, even with all your effort of trying to iron out things for peace to reign (I did this with the business proposal babe), it is because they feel that acting that way and you trying to appease them means they are high babe, even when they are nothing. It is like cocaine that makes them high.

So she thought I would continue to feed her that "highness" and it came as a shock that I switched off without a word.

Let me tell you why she hasn't come out fully like the other ones. She is the youngest among them and she feels because she is still young, she can always get guys, she still has time. That seems to be where her pride is hindering her from doing it like others.


Wow you must have read a lot of book or must have had a hard teaching pill from women


You seem to know more about them as they thought they knew themselves.

I like the bolded words of yours.

You also see this one too...is really killing them . it is because they feel that acting that way and you trying to appease them means they are high babe, even when they are nothing. It is like cocaine that makes them high.


Thanks bro. You have done a lot. I wish alot of guys will learn from your indepth analysis and perfect their game and restore the confidence of their manliness rather than sucking around like a sheep.

nony43:
Who Gov is that?

No, I will not. I try not to blow up my cover.

Shollay20:
please name the state don't be shy.

No, I will not. I try not to blow up my cover.

JennyClay is this not inappropriate?

I am not from Abia.


I will give it to Otti. That man is something else.


My own governor na very useless man. He just the carry foreign olosho with our money.


I pray he changes.

SmartMen:
lol, my brother, I don't have the energy, time, or money to waste on such people. At best, na furrk we go furrkkk and move on but ABSOLUTELY nothing to gain from it all.

And sex is not something I rate that much, and neither do I get attached to it.

I am a focused dude, I have always been serious about my life. When I calculate the time, money, and energy that could go into such an escapade, dude, I would rather give that money, especially, to people around me. I have never regretted doing that since I chose that path.

What I mean is that in the past, if you read the first post, you will see where I said I used to gift them but stopped after seeing how they perceived it. I wasn't doing it because I wanted to win them over. It is just who I am. So I started using my money wisely on myself and also helping the few around me.

In all of these, I learned that with women, less means more. You gain better results by spending your money on yourself than giving them.

Again less means more. Let me explain:

You will gain more respect in their eyes when you chat and do less, especially when they have chosen to be unreasonable. For instance, there is one I met in 2022 in my area and made move to date her, everything was going well until I wanted to kiss her.

I don't know when that turned into a crime, my brother. She started being unreasonable, disrespectful, and downright condescending. I didn't bulge. I kept doing things I should. She complained about her power bank, I took a mental note and bought a new one, on valentines day, I got her two solid female bags, on her birthday last year, when she wasn't around, I celebrated with her and got a cake delivered to her at her sister's place along with drinks...

The package got to her before 10am... by 5pm she never messaged me to even acknowledge it or anything until I reached out to her sister and asked if they hadn't received it and the elder sister confirmed that they had received it. I told the elder sister that the birthday babe didn't even reach out to acknowledge it. She promised that she would speak to her.

The birthday babe message me later but if you understand human psychology, you know a forced message when you see one.

Anyway, I knew it will be the last she would get from me after that day. I already earmarked that day as the last day because that is just how I operate. So after that day, I stopped everything, no more messages, no more calls. I just switched off

It is 2024 and her birthday happened a week ago. I saw it through her sister's whatsapp status and so I sent her a whatsapp message like this: "Happy Birthday". She responded with: "Thank you". I read it and didn't engage her further. No gift, no energy and no chat from me.

It is Sunday morning on 24/3/2024 and guess who just message me, trying to be all friendly and chatty? SAME GIRL.

Earlier this year, she messaged me to seek business information I shared with her in 2023. She said she lost it. I said okay, grabbed my phone and sent her Voice note to explain everything. She then said, can I ask something? I said go ahead. She said if I need some assistance on this (the information I gave her), can I reach out to you anytime? In my mind, I laughed and replied "sure"

I asked her how are her parents, and she said they were fine and added "I am around" cos she wanted me she was in our area cos she is doing her NYSC. In my mind, I laughed and said see this one. I didn't ask if you were around, I only asked about your parents. Sure, she had hoped I would say ah, let's meet and hang out but I just read her message and never replied that.

There was a time I asked her why did she block me on whatsapp, she explained that she didn't block me on whatsapp but unsaved my number blaha blah... I asked again why did you block me on tiktok and she said she does not know but just felt like.

Do you know what I what I replied after she said the above? JUST "OK"

Upon seeing my response, she proceeded to give a lengthy explanation for doing that. (I hope you understand what happened there as you read this line lol I can't explain it but it is just psychology at play).

She was expecting me to dwell on that, I just switched and changed the topic to "How are your parents" and that was when she said they were fine and mentioned that she was around but I didn't bother to engage her further bro...

LESS IS MORE!

Why am I not playing them back? As I explained above, it is not worth it and I have had fun shutting the door on them... it that way.

LESS IS MORE!

Happy Sunday bro.

Hmm. I don't know why all these charlatans don't know what they have. You even have the courage to spend all these.


Someone like me, I will smell your hypocrisy within one or two days. I will just place you where you belong, because definitely i kjow you will come back. That's when I will do the finally placing


What I hate in life is those that are not appreciative, for her mind she is just an angel, you will keep worshiping all the time.


I keep telling guys, don't force yourself on any girl that doesn't rate you. Don't think you will win over her. That's pure lie, but even if you do that because of your money power, maybe you did what no guy has even done. Mark me, you won't enjoy that union. At any giving time you will just be collecting insult here and there, because one thing was lacking. ..which was love. She was never in love with you.


So why will I spend my hard earned money on Idiots! God forbid I should do that. I might decide to tempt you in one or two sittings, let me know the kind of person you are.


It won't pass two testing, your entitlement spirit will just pop out. I will now do you the final placing.

Next time, stop spending like this. You are the one giving them this maximum leverage to ride over you.


Imagine the boldness to write to me to ask for business plan, I will just read and not respond. Well she has been looking for means to connect back that to you. That business plan was just a hoax. Person wey no dey serious with her life dey look for what is not there


Na now she wake up to do business.


All these werey girls sef

Junior66:
2002? Abi 2022? Which one?

2002. I think he was the governor of Anambra State.

hafeeanubasy:
Hmm.....LAMBA! 😆

Shove your opinion down your azz man.

You can't hate this man.


P.O has been consistent.


I remember when he visited Islamic scholars in Kano 2002


I want to be like P.O

SmartMen:
I swear. I would write from the heart and them go Dey use me do ye ye.

When I rebrand , all of them begin use style find me but I have moved on, not considering any of them at all.

Man, I suffered chai! But we thank God for everything.

Now you have the money and the swag


Why aren't you paying back?

SmartMen:
HAHAHA... Na so those babe wey show me shege promax dey whyne me that that say I sabi write o.. lmaoo.

Well, I write when I feel the energy to do that.

I am not a lady, I can't imagine the stress the women will be passing through. If they see your message, they will just sigh and say this one Don carry assignment textbook come.


It is very unfortunate that our present generation don't care about beautiful wordings. Instead of writing epistle from your heart, just send mulla from your pocket.


It is well bro.


I thank God you have learned.