Imagine if the news was LP Primary: Angry LP delegates Beats Up LP stalwart


The whole media would have run frenzy and started dragging Peter Obi, including some morons that have lost their 6th sense because of drug lord calling him all sorts of names.


But here you see, everywhere is quiet. Useless and shameless cretins!

SmartMen:


Not taking her because there is a risk with taking such a lady. A woman who does not consider you as the first option, despite being there long before the one she chose can hardly like, love, or respect you enough because you are not what they wanted in the first place but just happen to be the available one.

As they say: "When the desirable is not available, the available becomes desirable"

I am not what she wants and will never be.

She was asking me if I still like her. I scuff

But I thank God for the experience. My life has been wild in the last 1 year with about 5 ladies HOPING I would give them a second chance. I wished I had known this secret long ago.

Make money, take care of yourself. You are only useful to them because of the security that you offer them. No more, no less.

I would have caused the hell out of you has it been you said the opposite.


In fact, I would have named you master simpster.


Well, thank God, you learnt well, and you learnt very fast.


Truly you are a smart man.


Never be an option B...no matter how she deceitfully confessed her love for you, when the time is ripe, she will leave because those who she was worshipping left her.

SmartMen:


My brother, good afternoon. It is about the one I said I met on Twitter as stated here below.



I have always known that the way she was commenting on my pics there was more to it.

We got talking about her status 3 days ago and I told her I would have married her (referencing her status) but she chose coding (her work as an excuse).

She responded with a meme (that Obara Jesus meme if you have seen it around).

Then she said she understood back then but it was just that she was trying to get on her feet back then, it wasn't easy.

That was her usual excuse anyway but I knew there was more, so I probed her further by saying communication is everything and if she had at least tried to ease things for me, I would have understood and that there are guys like me who just go straight to the point and say what they want and also mean it. I added I understand, life is not easy anywhere and I admire her for one thing.

Now, before this, there is something I used to do with her that I no longer do.: I no longer message her or chat with her like I used to. back then I initiate convos almost every day. I no longer called her. The most is that I no longer say nice things about her pictures like I used to when she uploads them. I would just view and move on.

The summary is that if you were a girl and noticed this, you could tell the guy has changed towards you and shifted attention elsewhere or no longer has your time.

This explains why she was now commenting on my pics whenever she saw them or viewed them to get my attention again but I did;t move still.

Back to the current events. After I said this: "I added I understand, life is not easy anywhere and I admire for one thing"

She then quickly said with a WINK emoji that she is expecting my wedding IV soon. I wanted to reply immediately but I paused. I sensed that she wasn't really expecting any wedding IV but those words were to ascertain whether the coast was still clear for her to come in. So I responded with what she had in mind to be sure. I asked if she doesn't want to marry and that it's her I want to marry.

Guess what? She proved me right then she said "but you are in a relationship" This further confirmed what I suspected was playing out.

That was when she confessed that she knew she didn't treat me well back then and that she was sorry.

The apology came as a shock to me, not gonna lie.

Again, when I look at the event as they unravel, I knew something was fuelling this because I have been on this girls case when she just finished NYSC, and moved from Benue to Abuja and it was always one flimsy excuse.

SO WHY IS SHE CONFESSING AND APOLOGIZING NOW FOR HOW SHE TREATED ME?

Note one thing. I said it before. A woman can rubbish you, call you a fool, insult you. Say she is not attracted to you and can never sleep with you.... BUT DEEP DOWN, she knows you are a great guy who would make an awesome partner cos they are not blind and can see ALL your effort.

Anyway, she later confessed that she had something with another guy but unfortunately for her, the guy japa to Europe.

So while she was giving me excuses of not being ready for a relationship or being broke to get into any relationship... there was no excuse for this guy after me.

This further explains and confirms that when a woman does not want you, she will create a stack mountainous obstacle for you but if the guy she wants comes along AFTER YOU, there will be no single excuse for the guy.

So why is she confessing now...? It is that thing I said before. They ALWAYS KNOW you are a great guy. All those times they are misbehaving towards you and not wanting to give you access, THEY KNOW. They may not admit it to you but during their solitude, a time when they all alone by themselves, they will TELL THEMSELVES the truth that SmartMen was really a great guy or TimFisher really cared about me. THEY ALWAYS TELL THEMSELVES the truth. This explains why after a while, they start looking for that great guy they once ignored or rejected when their plan A does not pan out well.

The only thing I did after she revealed all is take her down memory lane of how I was patient enough with her. Even as late as 2023 March I tried again and she still gave me the usual response of being too broke to be in a relationship but here she is now confessing and apologizing. I doubt the guy that japa even spent 3 months before she start considering to have something with him.

I concluded by bluntly telling her that she didn't like or wanted me and that is why she treated me the way she did.

Their problem is that they always have this imagination in their head. What they don't always consider is that hundreds and millions of girls also have that imagine in their head and there are not enough men around to fulfill that fantasy. Also a guy can have those things they seek financially it does not mean they will marry you as a lady either.

She is the second person I found out went with another guy who left her in Nigeria and traveled abroad. No future plans whatsoever , then they start looking for me lol. And that is why she feels remorseful that I was there long enough and she didn't give me a chance and someone comes along that she tried but it led to nothing. Meaning, she has to start searching from ground zero again.

Her case made me unhappy, not gonna lie cos I really like her but I have never taken a lady that considered me as an option cos I would always feel they don't really like or love me like that but I just happened to be the guy available. There is a high risk with that too when you take a lady that consider you as option D OR option E when other options fail.

So what is your option?


Are you taking her back and let bygone be bygone.

SmartMen:


Happy Sunday… I get update for you and others ooo 😂 😆

Should I drop it for you and others?

This women know what they are doing bro.

Abeg drop am as it dey hot

SmartMen:


I agree man. I really agree 😂

But how do you write all these lengthy post without getting tired

SmartMen:


All guys just need to do to pull themselves out of it is:

1. Have an abundant mindset: You should accept the fact that there are thousands of women who can replace one. Do not allow any lady to disrespect you for too long without replacing her.

It is a scarcity mindset that makes many men (myself included) tolerate badly behaved ladies for too long.

How did I cure mine? How did I overcome the scarcity mindset? My cousin, as I said before, helped me cure it by forcing me to go out more, something I rarely did previously.

We as humans are made to be SEEN. You must not deny yourself that purpose. BE SEEN and let the world around you see your light shine so brightly.

You know, as I said previously, I grew up in a family of men (Benin Men) who womanize very well. Benin boys are badass when it comes to this... But my Anambra blood had a strong influence on me. Igbo men just love to spoil women. It is an open secret that if an Igbo man likes a woman, he is hardly stingy. And this is why they call us simp

Anyway, my Benin cousin came and pushed me. He is in Canada now though. And because my uncles used to change women anyhow, IF YOU hear where they are discussing women back then, your jaws will drop.

However, even though I didn't pick the womanizing characteristics from them, I picked one valuable skill and that skill is the ability to spot a gorgeous lady in a split second. I kid you not. I could do this with 1-3 seconds while in a crowd. I learned this even before I was 12 just by listening to conversations of adults. Be careful what you say in front of kids

So whenever I was out, in a crowded environment (something I wasn't doing before) and started seeing at least 1-3 different really pretty ladies in every 10 that past 3-5 minutes, it dawned on me how much disservice I had done to myself. That was the turning point that helped me break off the scarcity mindset.

By then I had rebranded and when I strike up conversations with ladies, the kind of response I got showed I had something women wanted... That was it.

Now, some guys may be shy and find it hard to strike up conversations with women. See, women love to be approached. They expect it, they desire it, they want it and they are often excited when you walk up to them. When you approach them, it makes them feel desired and social currency wealthy.


If your head goes blank when you want to approach a girl, don't overthink it. Find anything around her to start the conversation. It could be her sunshade, it could be her hair, it could be her clothes, her shoes, her nail, or anything at all around her.

I was at a mall last week to get some stuff, on my out I saw 3 pretty but young girls and one of them had a baked cake, supposedly for a birthday. I and my guy had passed when I turned and said "Am I invited?" One of them turned and smiled at me. As simple as that, I could have proceeded to ask for the venue and when it is the occasion happening and then asked for her name and phone number but she is a teenager from my observation and there was no point. I just waved and walked away.

Also use this YouTube channel to help if you are having challenges approaching women or strangers: https://www.youtube.com/@socialanimal

2. I didn't read a lot of books on women. The shege I had received from the school of hard knocks was enough for me. My problem was that I wasn't really paying attention despite receiving so much free lecture from my close friend. Every time he advises, I act like I have heard and discard it when I am with the ladies.

And the reason I did that was that was because I had one fundamental assumption, a fatal one: I had erroneously ASSUMED that women are harmless creatures and this caused me to always let down my guard every time without defense but now.

It was an experience with one Akwa Ibom babe that was the last straw. It was the encounter with her, after revealing what happened to my friend, that I found out there is something called "love bomb" or "love bombing" Damn... Google "Love bombing"

I turned YouTube channels upside down for 3-4 months, I was there. After that, I rebranded and changed everything about me...same Akwa Ibom babe started coming to look for me after seeing new pictures of me from different places, including seeing me with other girls lol.

She eventually begged sha but like all others, I don't forgive them, i DON'T take them back, I don't do second chance.

We need to hold a seminar


Our guys needs to be liberated.

SmartMen:



Like you said in the emboldened: "Well she has been looking for means to connect back that to you. That business plan was just a hoax."

I am glad you saw this and also mentioned it. I didn't want to explicitly say it. It means you can read between the lines.

Let me tell you why she hasn't come out fully like the other ones. She is the youngest among them and she feels because she is still young, she can always get guys, she still has time. That seems to be where her pride is hindering her from doing it like others.

They employ different kinds of tactics when they want to reconnect back to you... like DIFFERENT KINDS. I can smell it from afar, even the most subtle one. I have seen that movie and moves too many times not to be able to smell it.

Why do they always try to come back to me?

The reason is all those times they were rubbishing me, THEY KNEW I WAS A GREAT DUDE. They always knew.

So if you are a nice guy and being reasonable while they are being unreasonable... DO NOT EXPEND more energy trying to make them change. They will never change and it will get worse. In all that madness of disrespect that they are displaying to you, THEY KNOW YOU ARE A GREAT GUY. And that means, they are very much aware of what they are doing. It is all intentional. The best thing to do is PULL OUT of it all.

I always set a limit for every one of them. Once they exhaust it, I am out and never looking back.

Why do they choose to behave that way, even with all your effort of trying to iron out things for peace to reign (I did this with the business proposal babe), it is because they feel that acting that way and you trying to appease them means they are high babe, even when they are nothing. It is like cocaine that makes them high.

So she thought I would continue to feed her that "highness" and it came as a shock that I switched off without a word.

Let me tell you why she hasn't come out fully like the other ones. She is the youngest among them and she feels because she is still young, she can always get guys, she still has time. That seems to be where her pride is hindering her from doing it like others.


Wow you must have read a lot of book or must have had a hard teaching pill from women


You seem to know more about them as they thought they knew themselves.

I like the bolded words of yours.

You also see this one too...is really killing them . it is because they feel that acting that way and you trying to appease them means they are high babe, even when they are nothing. It is like cocaine that makes them high.


Thanks bro. You have done a lot. I wish alot of guys will learn from your indepth analysis and perfect their game and restore the confidence of their manliness rather than sucking around like a sheep.

nony43:




Who Gov is that?

No, I will not. I try not to blow up my cover.

Shollay20:
please name the state don't be shy.

No, I will not. I try not to blow up my cover.

JennyClay is this not inappropriate?

I am not from Abia.


I will give it to Otti. That man is something else.


My own governor na very useless man. He just the carry foreign olosho with our money.


I pray he changes.

SmartMen:


lol, my brother, I don't have the energy, time, or money to waste on such people. At best, na furrk we go furrkkk and move on but ABSOLUTELY nothing to gain from it all.

And sex is not something I rate that much, and neither do I get attached to it.

I am a focused dude, I have always been serious about my life. When I calculate the time, money, and energy that could go into such an escapade, dude, I would rather give that money, especially, to people around me. I have never regretted doing that since I chose that path.

What I mean is that in the past, if you read the first post, you will see where I said I used to gift them but stopped after seeing how they perceived it. I wasn't doing it because I wanted to win them over. It is just who I am. So I started using my money wisely on myself and also helping the few around me.

In all of these, I learned that with women, less means more. You gain better results by spending your money on yourself than giving them.

Again less means more. Let me explain:

You will gain more respect in their eyes when you chat and do less, especially when they have chosen to be unreasonable. For instance, there is one I met in 2022 in my area and made move to date her, everything was going well until I wanted to kiss her.

I don't know when that turned into a crime, my brother. She started being unreasonable, disrespectful, and downright condescending. I didn't bulge. I kept doing things I should. She complained about her power bank, I took a mental note and bought a new one, on valentines day, I got her two solid female bags, on her birthday last year, when she wasn't around, I celebrated with her and got a cake delivered to her at her sister's place along with drinks...

The package got to her before 10am... by 5pm she never messaged me to even acknowledge it or anything until I reached out to her sister and asked if they hadn't received it and the elder sister confirmed that they had received it. I told the elder sister that the birthday babe didn't even reach out to acknowledge it. She promised that she would speak to her.

The birthday babe message me later but if you understand human psychology, you know a forced message when you see one.

Anyway, I knew it will be the last she would get from me after that day. I already earmarked that day as the last day because that is just how I operate. So after that day, I stopped everything, no more messages, no more calls. I just switched off

It is 2024 and her birthday happened a week ago. I saw it through her sister's whatsapp status and so I sent her a whatsapp message like this: "Happy Birthday". She responded with: "Thank you". I read it and didn't engage her further. No gift, no energy and no chat from me.

It is Sunday morning on 24/3/2024 and guess who just message me, trying to be all friendly and chatty? SAME GIRL.

Earlier this year, she messaged me to seek business information I shared with her in 2023. She said she lost it. I said okay, grabbed my phone and sent her Voice note to explain everything. She then said, can I ask something? I said go ahead. She said if I need some assistance on this (the information I gave her), can I reach out to you anytime? In my mind, I laughed and replied "sure"

I asked her how are her parents, and she said they were fine and added "I am around" cos she wanted me she was in our area cos she is doing her NYSC. In my mind, I laughed and said see this one. I didn't ask if you were around, I only asked about your parents. Sure, she had hoped I would say ah, let's meet and hang out but I just read her message and never replied that.

There was a time I asked her why did she block me on whatsapp, she explained that she didn't block me on whatsapp but unsaved my number blaha blah... I asked again why did you block me on tiktok and she said she does not know but just felt like.

Do you know what I what I replied after she said the above? JUST "OK"

Upon seeing my response, she proceeded to give a lengthy explanation for doing that. (I hope you understand what happened there as you read this line lol I can't explain it but it is just psychology at play).

She was expecting me to dwell on that, I just switched and changed the topic to "How are your parents" and that was when she said they were fine and mentioned that she was around but I didn't bother to engage her further bro...

LESS IS MORE!

Why am I not playing them back? As I explained above, it is not worth it and I have had fun shutting the door on them... it that way.

LESS IS MORE!

Happy Sunday bro.

Hmm. I don't know why all these charlatans don't know what they have. You even have the courage to spend all these.


Someone like me, I will smell your hypocrisy within one or two days. I will just place you where you belong, because definitely i kjow you will come back. That's when I will do the finally placing


What I hate in life is those that are not appreciative, for her mind she is just an angel, you will keep worshiping all the time.


I keep telling guys, don't force yourself on any girl that doesn't rate you. Don't think you will win over her. That's pure lie, but even if you do that because of your money power, maybe you did what no guy has even done. Mark me, you won't enjoy that union. At any giving time you will just be collecting insult here and there, because one thing was lacking. ..which was love. She was never in love with you.


So why will I spend my hard earned money on Idiots! God forbid I should do that. I might decide to tempt you in one or two sittings, let me know the kind of person you are.


It won't pass two testing, your entitlement spirit will just pop out. I will now do you the final placing.

Next time, stop spending like this. You are the one giving them this maximum leverage to ride over you.


Imagine the boldness to write to me to ask for business plan, I will just read and not respond. Well she has been looking for means to connect back that to you. That business plan was just a hoax. Person wey no dey serious with her life dey look for what is not there


Na now she wake up to do business.


All these werey girls sef

Junior66:


2002? Abi 2022? Which one?

2002. I think he was the governor of Anambra State.

hafeeanubasy:

Hmm.....LAMBA! 😆

Shove your opinion down your azz man.

You can't hate this man.


P.O has been consistent.


I remember when he visited Islamic scholars in Kano 2002


I want to be like P.O

SmartMen:


I swear. I would write from the heart and them go Dey use me do ye ye.

When I rebrand , all of them begin use style find me but I have moved on, not considering any of them at all.

Man, I suffered chai! But we thank God for everything.

Now you have the money and the swag


Why aren't you paying back?

SmartMen:


HAHAHA... Na so those babe wey show me shege promax dey whyne me that that say I sabi write o.. lmaoo.

Well, I write when I feel the energy to do that.

I am not a lady, I can't imagine the stress the women will be passing through. If they see your message, they will just sigh and say this one Don carry assignment textbook come.


It is very unfortunate that our present generation don't care about beautiful wordings. Instead of writing epistle from your heart, just send mulla from your pocket.


It is well bro.


I thank God you have learned.

SmartMen:
Thanks, man. It was nice having this chat with you as well. I enjoyed it.

Welcome man!


I recommend you start writing articles.


I like your long epistle, I thought I do write long epistle, but I have seen someone better than me.

SmartMen:


I would disagree with you here. It depends on how you go about it and the kind of girl. While I was going through the roller coaster with those girls and experiencing heartbreaks, I know a guy who dated his babe.

In all their dating years, I can tell you the babe didn't get up to 100k in total from him, while me on the other hand was losing money (not a lot of money though) to all the girls making a fool of me lol. He wasn't financially buoyant like that either. And this his babe is pretty o, so much that a guy with car can easily snatch her from the dude. But despite the guy not having much, they stayed together and they are married now.

It depends on how you handle the girls too. This very guy does not call the babe often, he does not pet her, they could go weeks without seeing each other, despite living in the same LGA.

He is someone close to me and so I know.

I totally agree with you. We still have good girls that still love a man who has nothing. But the percentage is very minimal.


And which you know if we are taking statistics, they won't be considered, because their number can not influence the truth on what women are truly.


Well, I am happy that you got who you understand and you are happy too.

What you passed through all these years would have made you a monster, but you did not.


I wish you a blissful union all together.

SmartMen:


Lol... Man, if I told you I came from a family of chronic womanizers, you wouldn't believe it. I mean I saw my uncles changing women like clothes.

My immediate elder brother and his friends once caused a serious fight with some guys in our street years back in Benin. The reason? They had almost successfully furrrked all the pretty girls in our street and these girls who had brothers became angry. In fact my brother's friend banged the sister of one of those guys.

Despite seeing all these, I would tell myself that that is rubbish way of life and not a good way to live life with women.... I always wanted to do things the right way and i was a bookworm too, who stumbled on some kind of books that deceived me lol...

It never works... I don't know which person it has ever worked for lol.


Gbam... You see the love movies along with some books? They contributed to my mumuni years... LMAO.

Yes, it is normal to feel that way. I once hated women for 3 years plus because of what one did to me more than 8 years ago... funnily enough, the same girl came back trying to minder her way back into my life. I just told her to FURCK OFF and buried whatever past image of me she has because that person no longer exists. He is dead and buried. She has been trying to get back to me for more than 8 years now but me no want her at all...

You don't need to hate or dislike them. You just have to learn how to discipline them like a stern father would. You deal with them with love but with some level of strictness as well. You can actually deeply love a woman like you used to and at the same time not have your emotions spilled all over the place. It is possible.

Some people can love you, like really, but hardly show it to you. The only way you will know that they love you is through their actions. If you are waiting for words of affirmation, it may never come. You can be like that. It is possible.

Previously I used to talk too much like I said but now, I express it all by actions. That is how I deal with my current babe. I don't say it but I act it.

Like the silly things she did twice, I never had a word of confrontation with her. The second one sef, she was seriously worried. I just dealt with it with no words from me to her but my actions. She has never repeated it till today.

Remember I said my babe is a tough person. She belongs to the category of women who act like men. For me to do something that shook her twice means I am operating at a higher level and at that level, you are a no-bullshit man.

In one of those cases, I made her see that I would do what a man should, I would say and act like a responsible man should and I don't care whether 100 guys are tickling her fancy. If she blows things up, it's all on her, which means I would walk away if it comes to that. And women fear you when they know you can easily replace them if they mess up.

I recently showed her a message from the lady I talked about above who is trying to get back to me. I did it intentionally. Just know how to deal with them and you will be at peace.

Bro, don't think you are more tougher than her


Do you know why she always codedly obey your instructions even though it is always hard and painful for her to endure?


It is because of the dough, and you are calling the shot.


Imagine if you don't have backup, she would have reduce and fling you out to where you belong(not us) but them


Well, in everything, Dough is a prerequisite for every man. It get why.


But it very hurtful that those who don't have will not experience true love, that's the situation we found ourselves.

SmartMen:




My brother,

I saw Shege Banza and Shege Pro Max.

It was so bad that it affected my selfesteem. May God bless one of my friends who stood and tele-guiding me all through it all until my cousin came to fix it properly. The irony is that this friend of mine would give me counsel, I would listen and discard it after but only to come back to him with my broken heart lol. Why? I didn't realize how dangerous it was to assume that women are harmless creatures and I was constantly letting my guards down.

Because I was more about chasing money, I learned everything I could about business and making money and had zero for learning how to handle women.

I paid DEARLY for that error. It is good to make money but at the same time, learn how to handle girls and ladies.

Some years back, one of those girls told me something profound. She said: "you don't understand women and if you don't learn you will continue to have problems with ladies."

I actually brushed those words aside and thought that she was talking nonsense. I thought that just being a nice guy was enough. I thought being a good guy was enough, I thought that being the romantic dude was enough and boy, I was wrong.

Don't get me wrong, I am an upright, focus and responsible dude, the kind that would make an awesome husband to my wife and great dad to my kids but to succeed relationship with women, you need to be much more than that.

The mystery about women is that they expect you to be a man, not a boy but they never accept that responsibility as theirs to teach how to be a man, hence when you act like a crybaby, a sissy, a boy instead of being a man, nature designed women to break hearts of such men until they grow into being a man. When you begin to act like a man around women, your heartbreaks are reduced drastically.

There may be a few heartbreaks here and there, but it would be nowhere near or compared to guys that behave like a boy or sissy. This is where the acclaimed "Bad Boys" or "Alpha Male" takes the lead and one common denominator about them is that they are less emotional about women and when you are less emotional, you have TOTAL control over your relationship with any woman.

When you are less emotional, you can see a guy banging your baby right in your presence. You will feel hurt about it but you will move on without a word and women fear you when you are in control of your emotions. They respect you more that way.

One of the things that ruined me and my chances back then was that I had emotions spilled all over the ground for these women to walk on.

You said something about not loving... Well, I still love but not the way I did in the past. It is possible to love a woman and not have your emotions spilled all over the place. Currently, I don't care if a woman loves me or not. I have a babe now and we are moving towards tying the knot but guess what? I don't care if she loves me or not. I don't worry my head with that anymore. It makes the job easy and I can move on if she messes up.

Do I care about her? I do

Do I want the best for her? I do

Do I value her? I do.

But in all of these, if she messes up right now, I will walk away without looking back. This is why I said in the post you quoted that I fixed her up without saying a word when she did something silly and she has never repeated it till today but if it was my older self, I would be writing epistle, calling, and all that nonsense.

That is the power of not being emotional about women. My babe is a tough person to deal with and I know that the older version of me couldn't or wouldn't be able to handle someone like her. You need to be at a higher level to deal with someone like that.

Since I found myself, I have walked out of 5 or more ladies. Unlike before when I would be "trying to make it work, begging, sending long messages, calling and talking for hours and days". Now if you mess up, I will just observe for a while and walk away without saying anything to you.

We have same similarities


Everything you mention was just me, but they only thing I didn't share with you was been a sisi. I learnt on time not lower my self on women maybe because of the area I was brought up. I learnt the art of O.T when I was young, not until I entered school, I said No. That child of man has a lot of love. I started looking out for love.i was very sincere and open. It cost me a lot. I couldn't even get one. Before I now realise myself and changed tactics . No be today our girls learnt that there is nothing like love.


Guys should not be deceive by the rubbish love movies they watch,nothing come out, they are just passing away their time and trying to confuse the gullible ones that their love. No woman on earth believe in love,except your pocket is preaching love.

But I am in a serious dilemma because it has hardened and toughened my heart, I see women on a different perspective other than the beautiful lovely souls I thought they were.

SmartMen:
Throw away emotions and look at things logically. Attraction is very important in a relationship. Can you date or marry someone that looks like a monkey? be sincere and answer that question.

IF your answer is NO, it is not because you hate the person it is just that you don't find them attractive.

Also, attraction is relative and it can be that the man here does not have a good fashion sense which makes him look unattractive to women. I used to be in this category, not that I am ugly or have unattractive features, I had those features (height, broad shoulders, nice hairline, well-shaped red lips, but I didn't give it much attention.

I paid dearly for that error for years. It was rejection upon rejection to the point that I thought less of myself when it came to women because it affected my self-esteem.

I was more interested in making money so much that I didn't give much thought to how I presented myself to the opposite gender. And like this OP here, I would give money to girls that I am trying to woo... BROTHER, IT NEVER WORKED and you can see the OP is already saying that despite the man giving her money, she didn't find him attractive. MONEY CAN NOT BUY A WOMAN.

Though, I wasn't giving money cos I wanted to use it to buy love (though the ladies back then thought I was doing it cos I wanted to buy them). It is just who I am cos I love to give. I had to stop doing it (giving money) to ladies I am interested in when I sensed how they perceived the gesture.

I will tell you what worked for me as you read along.

If you are struggling with ladies or constantly being rejected, you should read this to the end.

Then my cousin came from Benin and stayed with me for one year. He gave me a complete 360 orientation that changed EVERYTHING.

Before he came, I used to expend so much energy trying to win a lady, I talked too much, explained too much, and professed emotions that were counterproductive.

There was even a Nairaland lady too that I tried to woo then but it didn't pan out well, na fight end the matter sha. I am just stating this so that you know it is not some made-up shit.

Whenever I talk about my experience with Nigerian ladies, you will hardly hear anything good. It was that bad. lol.

Now, to change this, most of what people share here is secondary... First, get your attraction game UP and the rest will come.

Anyway, my cousin didn't share any of those red pills stuff. He just told me to upgrade my physical look and watch. His method was more effective than anything I have ever read and he also demonstrated it for me to see.

I rarely went out and he forced me to change that...Not going out more often is why I even used to focus on just one lady for months while repeatedly getting rejected like a plague. .

When my cousin forced me to go out more, he forced me to go to church more (Lukily, we have the biggest church in my local government close to my house), and one thing that did to me was seeing that there are unlimited supply of pretty ladies, more gorgeous than what you could be chasing previously.

If you find yourself spending months on one lady, or a year trying to win and still get rejected, my brother, it is because you narrowed your vision. Change that and attend any big church or even be at a busy place like Shoprite mall, events, weddings. I give you just 5 minutes and the number of pretty women you will see or meet will rewire your brain so much that you will curse yourself for spending unproductive time on just one when there is an unlimited supply of prettier ladies out there.

The only downside is that if you don't have discipline and control, it could destroy you by making you sleep with numerous women. This is the major reason some men sleep with many women out there. It is like stumbling on so much money and then losing control by spending it recklessly.

To tell you how potent attraction is, by the time my cousin had helped me rebrand and I started uploading my pictures on WhatsApp status,(previously I didn't), one lady who had never seen me more upload my picture more than 4 times in 5 years confessed... she said and I quite "Smartmen, is this you? Is this really you?"

Another lady whom I met on Twitter but that one also reacted to my picture for the FIRST time in about 3 years we have known... and she has been doing that since then till now, even on Sunday here, she reacted to the one I posted.

People tell you that women are moved by what they hear... That is false. WOMEN ARE MOVED BY WHAT THEY SEE. If they don't see it, they don't move.

Now, I have had to start rejecting them back as they lurk around me. Na me dey reject them now... I know one who rarely checked my status previously but now does so everyday, commenting on everything I post.

If you are getting rejected by women or struggling, just UPGRADE: Spend that money on new clothes, buy iPhone and hold... tusssh up your apartment, get a good barber for a nice haircut, take nice pictures, and upload... ATTRACT, don't chase. na you go tire.

You only speak too much English and long paragraphs when you don't know how to attract. I used to write long epistles to some of these girls like one expired substandard Wole Soyinka as if I am writing a novel... They will even subtly tell me I talk too much by saying "wow you can write o" and I will be smiling and raising shoulder like I have made it in life, not knowing I was fooling myself.

Now, I don't even know the last time I wrote a long epistle... even when my current babe did something silly, I fixed her up immediately WITHOUT SAYING A SINGLE word. Unlike before when I would be writing long letter like apostle paul to the church in Damascus.... foolish me.

You must have seen Shege


Anyway i like how you remodelled yourself


Money plays a major role in men's life. Look attractive, don't talk too much..all those ones that were doing you shege will bounce back. But the only disadvantage you will have is * Lovehatred* I mean you won't love again. Any lady that comes with love will just be repulsing you

If you are scared to start. You are bound to fail!


I understand people's fear. But you won't continue lamenting because of people's dishonesty. You will not achieve anything, you will end up squandering the 2m.


I took time to read people's comments, No one gave you an alternative...this is to tell you the decline and depletive ideas of black people. No creativity! Give them 500k, they won't know what to do with it.


My friend, This is my honest advice. It is a good thing you have a passion for it, which is an added advantage.


What kills business is, if you don't have passion for it, Go for what you have passion for even if the business is an odd business. As you will develop joy doing the business.


Start up the business, and involve your cousin, since she has ideas and is knowledgeable about the business, she should be involved in the procurement of all salon equipment and accessories. Two of you can do that.

Once procurement of equipment is done. You should have a meeting with her, not only a verbal meeting, it must be a written agreement, and the meeting must centred on the blueprint of how the business is going to run.


You must also include a day-to-day briefing on the progress, successes and failures of the business. She must be giving you daily briefings. with this approach, you will be a strong pillar of the business, and you can be able to be in charge while she runs the business.


You must also employ a creative lady who will support her, let it not be your girlfriend or your sister, her job is to support your cousin, she can be able to handle the job and do all the things your cousin is doing. This method will eliminate any form of gap that will arise if your cousin should have an emergency to travel.


All other direct workers will be recruited by your cousin, she knows how many hands she needs due to the strength of the business.


Make sure that there is a chain of command. You don't have any business talking to other direct workers, if there is a need for them to talk to you, they can report to the second in command while, she reports to your cousin, who in turn your cousin reports to you. With this, there will be confidence and respect, and everyone will sit up.


If the business starts and is getting up to 6 months or one year and peradventure you notice dishonesty from your cousin due to inconsistencies and dubious means, you can easily lay her off, while her second takes over, but if not, continue with her, until the business booms which will yield more salons to be opened in future.


This is also an added advantage "Never sleep with your workers, not even your second in command"


I wish you success as you succeed!

yarimo:
ALEX OTTI is the worst and the most unserious governor in Nigeria

Mkpi!

Brighton1:
Nose mask 😷 no dey work jare.
During Covid-19 period, person mess inside danfo bus nd i smell the mess loud and clear even as I wear nose mask
E get another scenario wey happen again for God is Good park during dat Covid-19 period, one lady open her food na once I knw say na ewa-agoyin she dey eat evn as I wear nose mask
Shey dis nose mask dey work like dis?

Jennyclay answer him na

chopnaira:

Epe is in Yoruba land. People do voice over in their local languages in their own regions too. If you don't like it, you can always mute your video.

I thought Awolowo introduced education in the West


Why are you guys behaving uneducated Sri Lanka.

Shettima carries bad luck. Everything Tinubu touched is always on destruction.


God forbid!

Bluntguy:

While your husband is grateful to God for giving you to him as the wife of his youth, you are here on Nairaland regretting up and down on why you did not multiply your body count before settling down. You see the reason why a lot of men talk down on Nigerian girls? Spits!!!

Are you advising someone her name is Horney22


Me too I spit on your bald head


Don't you know someone's name follows the person.

Na Atiku i blame


For not spotting fake friends around him

Horney of Ife viewing this thread.

churro:
the Father couldn't find his phone same time his son went missing.

What of the mother?