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I was in a long distance relationship with a Caribbean man. For the longest while we did really good and talked pretty much everyday. It could be really hard and painful because you were missing each other a lot all the time, and even though you're texting or skyping, you're not physically together. We saw each other again after 10 months, but after the first 7 months, the communication had already started to go down. It was hard to fix it when we saw each other again. Plus it was always difficult for me to trust him, because I knew he was a CARIBBEAN man (need I say more) and he was living there while I was here. You don't know what the other person is up to a lot of times.

The main key to a good relationship is communication and loyalty! If you don't have that, you won't get far. But even though my experience wasn't good, I do still believe in international dating.. I have friends who've had good experiences with it too. But one of the reasons why it worked out well for them is because their communication is good and they talk often. You just have to know it takes more time and work than a "normal" relationship. It all depends on how much the person really wants it and it's really important to communicate properly and be able to trust each other..

I'm sure it's mostly gals that are able to reply to this.. Lol. I'm going to Tobago in a month, and I don't know what to do with my hair. I'm afraid if I install my brazilian hair it will eventually get very dry and damaged, because of all the saltwater, as I'll be going to the beach a lot. I don't want to worry about my hair getting wet each time I go swimming. It's a shame to use the brazilian hair if I won't be able to reuse it afterwards cause it got damaged. Wearing my own hair is not something I wanna do either, because I don't want to spend hours washing it and straigthening it everyday.

Some say natural (brazilian) is better cause it's natural so it's not supposed to get damaged that easily. Others told me it's better to use synthetic hair, because I'm only going to wear it for 5 weeks anyways, and it can stay nice for that period of time. But my question is, does anyone know which kind of weave is really better to install for a vacation like this? Natural hair or synthetic hair? I'd like my hair to look nice for the entire trip.

[quote author=Konnektions146][/quote]I know it's most guys. I was just trying to not generalize. That's why I said some guys.

Yes oh.. Ofc, some girls are just hustlers. But for me, if I truly like the guy it's not because of his money. The fact that a guy offers to pay for me is charming and all, but I like paying for myself sometimes. A grown woman shouldn't ONLY depend on her man taking care of her. That's rubbish IMO.

It seems it's because there's not the same "sparkle" anymore that there usually is in the beginning of a relationship. But just chill for a bit, it's only been 2 months. Maybe it's just me, but I myself can't love a guy I've just known for such a short time. Don't wait for too long tho, cause if nothing changes it probably means you should move on, instead of holding on to someone who doesn't appreciate you.

If I were in love with a guy and I was really serious with and he told me that, I would probably be pissed. I'm not all about chasing marriage (I do want to get married someday but I'm not in a rush). But if I were in a relationship with someone I was gonna have a child with, I would only do it if the guy was someone I EXPECTED I was going to be with for the rest of my life. What you are saying is actually as if you already know that, in the future, your children will be living with their daddy and their STEPMOTHER instead of their daddy and their mother.

Idowuogbo: I don't Gerrit! U were saying?

I mean that even if he didn't write this himself, he is just trying to make a point

I think some guys are just scared of commitment. I don't know your case, but maybe he feels that he just needs some space. Some people are like that. It doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested in you. But unlike a lot of gals, guys usually don't have the same need to enter a serious relationship too fast.. Tho I'm a girl myself, I believe guys are better than girls at still holding on to their other priorities, interests or whatever - instead of just sacrificing EVERYTHING for their relationship. Not saying that this is always the case, but it's just how I usually see it.

pendo89: sometimes I want to comment on a thread but on reading through replies,I get lost. I dont know what to post anymore.
It dries me up.

I feel the same way.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Yes paragraph is my problem. . . And i received this on BB and on Facebook 2 months ago. . . Someone must have "stolen" your "work".
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Who even cares if he wrote it or not tho. The point is the message of this "paragraph".

Although they're your friends and they probably wouldn't lie to you, you shouldn't take it out on your relationship - until proven that you actually can't trust her. BUT you should still keep it in mind so that you don't let your infatuation blind you completely. By that, I mean, don't be naive. Just don't accuse her of anything you're not sure of, because that's what usually damages a relationship.