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Travel / Re: Video Of Lagosians Being Arrested For Failing To Use A Pedestrian Bridge by TONYE001(m): 8:08pm On Apr 21 |
Very bautiful. 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: The Moment Soldiers Were Ambushed By Bandits In The North West. (Video) by TONYE001(m): 5:39pm On Apr 19 |
kenny714433: Reality and Hollywood dey different sha. 34 Likes 1 Share |
Health / The Doctor Consoles, But Who Consoles The Doctor? by TONYE001(m): 3:45pm On Mar 24 |
Oh well, the topic of this thread easily gives away its content. I once had a patient whom I was very close to. Extremely close to. Will call him Mr. S, he was a young boy who we managed for type I diabetes and extensive Fournier's gangrene. S and I were close, in fact, ours was beyond the typical doctor-patient relationship. Even when I was off duty, S would ring me for one issue or the other and I would appear in the ward to sort him out. Was pretty close to his mother and siblings too. During the course of S's admission, he was transfused a number of times. His condition also requires steady antibiotics therapy and the meds were expensive. Of course, financial constraints became an issue. One time, they couldn't provide blood as they had run out of donors and finances for transfusion. I donated a unit of blood to S. As a doctor, I knew S's condition was fast depreciating. He had become septic, his vital signs were screaming for urgent attention. He had an extensive collection of abscess in his urogenital region, thighs, and abdomen. He had become cachectic. Despite these, his family remained entirely positive and very supportive. His mum never gave up. His elder brother was running around for funds and materials for his treatment. His sisters were always beside him, they never left his sight. I was later moved to another unit but this didn't affect my relationship with S. I still found time to visit him and talk. One time, he told me, "doc, when this is all over, you and I will hang out and catch some fun." This statement shot a beam of shivers down my spine. I knew his chances were minimal. I only gave a smile and reassured him. Sometimes, I discuss about God with S and he was pretty happy to hold such discussions with me. One night, or early morning, I got a call. 2/3am. It was S's mum. He had stopped breathing. I dashed to the ward. Saw his motionless body lie in absolute peace, his eyes closed like he was having a satisfying sleep. For some reason, the sight of S's body gave me an impression of a prison whose door had been destroyed by the inmate who had gone on to enjoy complete freedom. S, my dear friend and brother, was no more. His soul couldn't be recalled by the ressuscitative efforts of the workers on duty. S, my dear friend and brother, was gone, he was free at last from the pains of the flesh. When the mother saw me, it seemed she suddenly found strength to fuel her cries. She screamed and hugged me. His sisters sat beside him, their shoulders fallen. Other patients sat on their beds watching and absorbing the episode. I held the mother and consoled her. I spoke the little Igbo I could. The nurses were also there. We all consoled the family. As I left to my room, I could feel an ache expand in my heart's core. I felt the arteries in my head pulsate. I was shattered. Broken. I felt like screaming on the top of my voice. But I'm a medical doctor, and I should be a super man. I maintained my calm and returned to my apartment. The doctor consoles, but who consoles the doctor? I'm still in communication with S's family. I recall they invited me to his burial but I couldn't make it, work didn't let me. I know I'm supposed to maintain my limits while providing care to patients. Professional limits, that is. But right from medschool, I knew this was going to be a problem. I personalize things a lot. If I pick up a task, I'm easily dedicated and immersed in it. I don't see my patients as patients. I see them as humans - fathers, mothers, sons, daughters. I know that life is a weird complex, and tables can turn in an instant. A good number of my patients have invited me to their houses or events (mostly thanksgiving ceremony in their churches after discharge)... though I've not been able to honour any. Because I am quite close to them, if I lose any, it hits me real hard. I know I'm not the only one going through this. There are many doctors like me. I know of a consultant cardiologist who broke down when he lost a patient. That day, he called me and we were on phone for over 10 minutes. This man has got over 30 years of work years up his sleeves. I know of colleagues that cry when they lose their patients. Some just shutdown. Society should understand that doctors are humans. Our work exposes us to hundreds of traumatic experiences that we stand at risk of coming down with a major depressive disorder. One study found that the rate of depression among physicians is as high as 29%. Other studies project much higher figures. Not many doctors would want to talk about this. Perhaps, this may be because they want to protect their images or something. Oh well.... Maybe I should ask my colleagues, all healthcare providers, not just doctors...how do you cope with devastating treatment outcomes? Cc: Dominique, Sissy3, Seun 3 Likes |
Education / Re: The medical students and aspirants thread by TONYE001(m): 9:56pm On Jan 23 |
Rolandq: Thank you very much, doc, for your kind review. Glad you enjoyed reading my story. 2 Likes |
Education / Re: The medical students and aspirants thread by TONYE001(m): 9:48pm On Jan 21 |
SIRS, sepsis, severe sepsis, septic shock. You must have heard of the above terms at some point in your training. I'm currently working on a video where I'll be discussing the sepsis spectrum. Please, follow my channel on YouTube if this video will benefit you. Kindly subscribe to the channel, please, if you're interested in similar content. https://m.youtube.com/channel/UCKZFtKo0vvgwYFZFigdjT5Q 1 Like
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Education / Re: The medical students and aspirants thread by TONYE001(m): 9:38pm On Jan 21 |
SF123: Once again, congratulations, doc. I'll advise you follow your senior colleagues closely. They're the best source of guidance...those in Year 2 in your school...meet them and find out how they maneuvred through your current class. Start your work early, and be dedicated. Low times may come, true, but prepare for them and maintain your focus. Be quick to ask questions whenever you're not sure about anything, be humble, very humble, in fact. Review your past questions, if possible, multiple times before your exams. Above all, if you believe in God, hold Him closely. Stay clean, please. Don't get involved in shady businesses. May God perfect everything for you ajdnyoir colleagues. You can send a mail, please. I'll respond once I see it. 4 Likes |
Education / Re: The medical students and aspirants thread by TONYE001(m): 10:10am On Jan 17 |
SF123: Congratulations, doctor. This is a wonderful piece of news to start the day with. May you have a perfect path through medschool. Best wishes, sir. Cheers. |
Education / Re: The medical students and aspirants thread by TONYE001(m): 8:45am On Jan 16 |
Are you a final-year medical student? Did you just graduate from medical school? Are you in the process of picking a centre for your house job? In this video, you'll find the stories of six house officers currently working in different centres across Nigeria. Their stories may help you make your choice. Please, remember to like, share, comment, and subscribe. Merci beaucoup, mes gars. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rNWaqT_p6ro 2 Likes |
Health / Re: Share Your Experience With An Incompetent Doctor. by TONYE001(m): 12:09pm On Dec 10, 2023 |
Wizuman: Your conclusion is horrible, to say the least. How you arrived at this conclusion from 2 unverifiable experiences is marvelling. Well done. 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: Why Do We Have many Weak Men All Over In This Generation, Let's Discuss Pls by TONYE001(m): 1:00pm On Nov 17, 2023 |
FRANCISTOWN: I'm married, and I say again, marriage isn't that hard. |
Romance / Re: Why Do We Have many Weak Men All Over In This Generation, Let's Discuss Pls by TONYE001(m): 7:10am On Nov 15, 2023 |
Your wife should know how much you earn. In marriage, financial decisions should be made together. How can a wife not know the total income of her husband? Couples should discuss and agree their expenditures....including how much to send to their parents. Marriage isn't that hard. It's as simple as having a close friend who is your roommate.....just imagine how you related with your school/university friend/roommate. Honestly, marriage shouldn't be a big deal. Na this una unnecessary philosophies nai dey make am hard.... I feel for a woman who doesn't know how much her husband earns...or a man who doesn't know his wife's income. What a home! 2 Likes |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Israel Vows To Attack Iran If Hezbollah Joins The War With Hamas by TONYE001(m): 7:37am On Nov 06, 2023 |
shawante: Will do that this week. 1 Like |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Israel Vows To Attack Iran If Hezbollah Joins The War With Hamas by TONYE001(m): 2:27pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
MAMMAN777: One of the most bias stuff I've read recently. How about considering what Hamas did to Israel? |
Health / Re: Why Are Medical Doctors' Handwriting So Difficult To Read?(photo) by TONYE001(m): 4:35pm On Oct 17, 2023 |
Health / Re: Why Are Medical Doctors' Handwriting So Difficult To Read?(photo) by TONYE001(m): 10:59am On Oct 17, 2023 |
Mine isn't. My writing is incredibly clear. These days, sha, most centres have moved on to electronic recording, so the issue of writing is almost outdated. 18 Likes 4 Shares |
Travel / Re: Flood Sweeps Away 13-Year-Old Girl In Awka by TONYE001(m): 8:41am On Oct 13, 2023 |
Terrible. Yesterday, a teenage girl was brought in dead by a crowd. Story was that she was swept away by flood! Most of these mortalities are entirely preventable. |
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