₦airaland Forum

BBT:
I personally think trying again is the way to go,as your wife might me using that to test you to see if you are sincere with your words and really want to save your marriage.
For all you care, she might not have really slept with anyone else but just trying to gauge your response to see what you'd do if she served u in your own coin. But even if she did, it was just out of hurt and I'd advise you two make amends, dust off your dirty linen, and make your marriage work.
9 years of marriage is no joke, and for those beautiful lol ones you have, your marriage is worth saving. Forgive yourselves first then forgive each other. Life is sweeter when we dwell together in love and peace.
If your wife is a sane lady, she'll come around when you come back begging. You know the codes u used to woo her initially, try some of those

Shams218:
I guess this is a nollyhood movie titled "Mr and Mrs". Maybe she said that to scare u.

If sincerely your story is real, hmmm....

The very first thing I would do if I were to be in ur shoe which I don't pray for are;
1) Take the children for DNA Test.
2) file for divorce for the betterment of both of us.

Besides u sound more like a Casanova to me. u've not resolve one issue u ar already jumping into another. This is evidence in your advertisement for another woman. May be u love taking women for granted probably because of ur affluence or handsomeness. If u continue like like this, u may likely die b4 ur time. The truth sometimes cud b bita.

MizMyColi:
Your marriage sir, reeks of different, but one purposeful shade of abuse........Revenge.
I take it you've blamed yourself enough, I won't add to it.

You two need to take some time apart.
Abi you wan die prematurely?

While at it, a sober reflection and a high resolve to do all it takes to make your marriage work should be your focus.
Where all that fails, please take a walk, whatever it takes.

I doubt you two'll ever be the same again.

Your woman?

Well, I've never really been in her shoes, so I better keep mute.

I can say two things for sure.
- A wise woman builds her home. She is proactive, not reactive.
- Now that she has decided to embark on her own journey of revenge, please remind her to dig 2 graves, 4 maybe.

gede7744:
hmmmm! traitors all over d places.they shld be dealt with severely or even killed so that they can go and meet d soldiers that died untimely because of their betrayals

Gboliwe:
These ones and NOT the ones sentenced to be executed for mutiny are the ones that should be WASTED! These are the ones that have made our army look like an association of cowards. These are the people who have wasted innocent blood through their treachery. They should NOT be spared.

unclejb2:
If Nigeria Airforce is crashing on such a frequent basis, it simply means that the NAF does not have adequate maintanace professionals and capacity. I wonder if we can withstand an external aggression from any serious army. Common fight agianst Boko Haram insurgents have caused the Nigerian Airforce more than 6 aircrafts. Maybe it could still boil down to sabotage. God help Nigeria. We will win this war.

walexsho:
We attend Burial of everyone , but we do not attend any burial ceremony because its not a practice of rasulullah. there is difference between burial and burial ceremony. I've not come across any narration that says burial ceremony was held in honour of the holy prophet.

Chuckdee:
Inverter in 9ja? once you go that way, you will never want Generator again!, ever!!

Yeah, its that good provided you do your calculations very well and you have to be disciplined in the usage thats the keyword here.
I have used a 1.5KVA inverter for the last 3 years w/out as simply as looking at the device for one day, why? because it simply WORKS!!,  The only way I know there is no powere is when the Ac goes off and the fridge stops humming too. I don't even have a gen set cos my area here in Abuja has relatively 6 hrs of Nepa power daily which is very convenient to charge the unit.  My set up consist of:
1 (one) 1.5 KVA Pure Sine wave Inveter (Make is Mopower, an Indian company) Got it for 75k in 2008
4( four) 100 mah Deep cycle batteries-- Got 2 initially at 25k each and months later added extra 2 at 20k each

Thats the set up and the load on it includes a 32'' LCD TV, A 1000Watt  Home theater (you don't blast it at full volume when using inverter oo! ), A Sony PS3, Fans, Laptops, DSTV, about 4 energy bulbs (Buy original OSRAM bulbs, they are expensive, about 600 for a 10watt but they have lasted 3 yrs now, and still going strong!).
This unit lasts through out the day for me, honestly i can count how many times I have heard it bleep and run totally flat! and that is on occasions when there had been no nepa for about 2 days!!!.

Inverters are quite, eco-friendly, Very Efficient, the light is always better than NEPA cos its gives out a complete 220V,  very very cheap when you consider the long term benefits of it. I mean I must have saved more than 200K in the last 2 years if I was still using my 2.5kva gen, which by the way i have sent to the village!!
I can go on and on about the benefits here men!,  you don't have to rush out to go allthe way to the backyard to pull the Gen when Nepa strikes in the middle of that very interesting program on TV LOL!, Its Fully automatic!

The Only downside i see is the initial investment, but come on, some good gen sets cost much more than that! Plus you can do like i did, start with maybe one battery but it most be deep cycle to fully enjoy it- then you can gently be increasing your battery bank b'coos the more battery you have, the more online time you will get out of your setup.

One love people,

ayanbaba2:
Saving lifes rules... Medcine rules.
#irepteamsavinglife.

olayinka63:
is this what your pastor thought you to labell islam? you too suppose think that it is not ideal for a man to kill his fellow man how can islam teaches innocent killings all the wars during the foundation of islam are defensive war go and make reasearch and dont be an hypocrite islam is peaceful bokoharam consist of christian by name and muslim by name human being they are not practising the truth message of islam pls ignore that negative words from your pastor you are being misled

PedroJP:
I thought they are celebrating ? Others planned on killing rams, dez mad fellows had their plans on wasting precious lives.


Y don't Islam change this ideology into killing oneself to inherit d so virgins.

tdayof: NIGERIA MY COUNTRY

Tymax: Age is a BIG issue. It is a number, agreed. But it is the same number that will rear it's ugly head when disagreement springs up.

In Naija, a husband must provide most of the leadership in the home. Also, we ascribe respect or at least some measure of deference to our elders. In this light, you will agree that there is a conflict. Should the man defer to his wife because he is younger or should she submit in all things and respect him even though she is older?

I suspect that even if she decides to marry the young man, she might seek to hide the age factor from her folks. I also believe that the husband certainly would not want to suffer innuendoes (stemming from the age difference) from his wife's friends.

An egoistic African man or woman should avoid such unions.

osjoshua: Depending on the wife dude..just when you have a trouble maker wife and you decide to calm her down but that means you double the trouble...so the next thing to do is turn her to a punching bag...

Drone007: Thank you, but it's becoming a bit difficult to believe Maj-Gen. Chris Olukolade these days, what with the recent saga his announcement and retraction of the Chibok girls' release!

safarigirl: If you're one who has stayed within the female hostel of any Nigerian University, you'll find that most of it's occupants share similar hopes and dreams- and no, it's not to excel in their chosen career paths.

One of the lecturers in my school aptly described women as 'a waste of education'...no, it wasn't an insult, it was just stating the obvious. You find a woman who has hustled through primary, secondary and University education. One who looked set to be a force to reckon with in the world of business or law or medicine, I mean a female with straight A's and you think Nigerian women may be getting things right, only to follow her back to her hostel and hear these heart-breaking words:

"Omo, after school na to find husband marry remain."

In the real sense of the word this is translated to:

"After school, I'll fling my degee inside one iron box in my dad's storeroom, find a perfect mugu that will put a ring on my finger, buy me a car, set up a boutique/beauty saloon for me and all I have to do to get this is spread my legs for him and push out little people with his DNA"

Nigerian women view marriage the same way hustling Nigerian men view the US Green Card- an avenue to escape life's troubles. So in the same way you find 23 year old Nigerian men marrying 56 year old American women, you find young, promising women relegated to some man's priority list.

I don't think most Nigerian women realise that nobody wants to get attached to a leech. If you allow some Nigerian women, they would even want their husbands to carry the babies and birth them as well. And when you ask why they don't want to build wealth with a man, you hear:

"I've already suffered in my father's house. I don't want to continue suffering in my husband's house"

Now unless you're getting married to a no-good leech like yourself, there is no reason why building wealth with a man should be termed 'suffering'

Even on Sun Newspaper's 'Beauty Of The Week' it's the same thing.

Future Ambition: Getting Married And Having Kids

If you think God put you on this earth to make a liability of yourself, you need to think again. There is more to life than being someone's baby mama. There is a purpose for getting an education that lies beyond being able to speak good english whenever you and your man attend social functions

Nigerian women need to sit down and re-evaluate their lives. God sent you to assist a man, not to add to his problems. Men appreciate women who can think for themselves, who want to contribute to the family (and I don't mean churning out kids). There is nothing more endearing than a smart woman who views men as companions rather than money bags.


Don't waste the education your parents worked so hard to provide for you. Break the stereotype, Nigerian women should be more than gold-digging leeches. If the likes of Oby Ezekwesili, Joke Silva, NOI can be successful career women as well as wives and mothers, then we all need to dust up our certificates and CVs and have proper future ambitions.


God Bless You...and don't take this the wrong way

kcpumping: Why oh why...there are real agent of destruction in this country,why is it now we suddenly started to enjoy light that pengashit and nutpeng decided to strike? Why haven't they gone on strike befor now? Same thing happened when nnaji met almost above 4500mw that the clamor for his sack came up?come to think of it why are we so stupid from this part of the world? Tribe,religion and even political party has finished us all. I mean can't we support good thing irrespective of where it is coming from? What is really wrong with Us all?arrant nonsense.......pls Nigerians must wake up cos it seems we are not just sleeping but snoring like heavy odes.abegi

Dayjhihannon01: Chai. Imagine the frustration nah.. The guys are not rotated, neither do you give dem enof food and allowances... The GOC come dey visit them from his safety abode, after embezzlin dia allowances uhm?.. SMH... But dey shudnt av opened fire when the knew the GOC won't be dead nah... Dey shud av targeted him on the head at more close range nah..... .... Who con dey say coup de atat nor still possible for naija....? Proud of you as you walk to the Gallows jere Gallant soldiers... And to GOC; 1 day for d thief and d oda for the owner o...


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Yes they knew the rule I think... But you must remembers what's frustrating them; hugging death in the battle field on empty stomachs, while they knew who is siphoning their $.. Abi nor be d same rule create allowances and rotation or whatever for dem? Where are the others that should be rotated or shifted as per duty roaster basis? Maybe somewhere save cus they are more influential than the un-rotated onez ........ Remember these are humans also.. Meanwhile we shud remember not all dis ppl really wanna becom a soldier in d first place, bt are dia because of unemployment...
Well... God Bless Nigeria