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Why do we wait for 7 days to make public names of our new born babies? Elsewhere, an American makes public a baby’s name before or at birth.
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Do you know?
Why do we wait for 7 days to make public names of our new born babies? Elsewhere, an American makes public a baby’s name before or at birth.
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You already are familiar with what the Spices of Love, otherwise called conditional love is all about (see our last post on https://www.facebook.com/twosamonline). This post focuses on the other type of love - the Blind or True Love, otherwise known as the unconditional love.

Before Birth
Every human undergoes identical development process in the womb of a mother. The body parts and organs, and all senses of sight, taste, smell, hearing, survival, commerce, etc develop the same way as in the other human. Then God’s spirit of life is breathed into you to be able to live and relate with other creatures. These processes all take place inside the womb of your mother and predate your birth into this world. Your body structure (container) and the spirit breathed into you (content) are unconditional – have no consideration for whether you will be a good or evil person on earth, rich or poor, accept or reject God. These gifts are completely blind to your would-be personality on earth.

After Birth
Having arrived on earth and grown, you make choices some of which could be to indulge in evil, become a terrorist, kidnapper, persecutor of men of God, etc. and break God’s heart. But whatever His mood, true love requires He fulfills His duty and commitment to you. These gifts are not denied you or withdrawn from you. Your good sense of commerce that can make you become a millionaire or billionaire, your good looks, fame, sense of humour, good health, etc that have been given before birth are not withdrawn or denied you. They are given unconditionally - not on the condition that you would be a good person, serve God or be loyal to Him.

The Implication and Application
1. True or Blind love demands you do not take back, withdraw or destroy whatever you have given or committed to doing towards someone because of differences of opinion.
a) Greetings: Many of us deny people who we hitherto have good relationship with, greetings and courtesies just because things have gone awry between us.
b) Sex: Spouses deny their partners sex and sometimes their smiles when they have misunderstanding or when certain requests are not met.
c) Help: For many of us, to enjoy or continue to enjoy our favour or assistance you must be submissive and loyal.
d) Harm: Blind or True love understands that the spirit (content) must be developed and the body that carries it (container) must be protected. If the body is weak or diseased, the content cannot but leave it. You have blind love in you when you recognize that every human (irrespective of color, tribe, religion, class, education, sex, etc) has a right to this content and container, and you would not engage in any act to destroy. You need not know him/her to protect the container from harm, damage, injury and diseases, and the content from spiritual indolence. You have developed this love when the human body (yours or others) is safe with you. You are to oppose anything, any action that attempts to cause physical harm, injury or weaken this container such as beating, flogging, murder, suicide, diseases, smoking, drugs, etc.

2. Blind love is not selective, has no consideration for your personality. It is extended or given to all humans irrespective of sex, tribe, color, religion, social class, education, or any class distinction.

It s evident that we choose our friends, spouses based on what we can see (conditional/Spice of love), and this is okay. The spice (beauty, religion, family, education, tribe, color, etc) is the aroma that must attract you to someone. But like you know, spice is not food, it is to spice a love that’s already in existence. After the attraction, you must ensure your partner understands the concept of blind love, and visibly manifests it during courtship. If there’s no blind love in the person, this spice cannot stop your union with that person from crumbling, even after six children and 30 years together with a spouse.

Most people’s good deeds or generosity are based on their mood and recognition of class – e.g because they are happy, because you are of this faith or the other, because you belong to this society or the other, because you are of this tribe or family, etc, and therefore would do anything for you. Blind love demands that these deeds are sustained even when there are changes to the conditions. Blind or True love is constant, never changes, never depreciates.

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The Spices of Love

The aroma, appearance (eye appeal) and taste of a meal attract you to want to eat a meal. This attraction is made possible by the spices or seasonings used such as cooking oil, salt, maggi (or other brands), curry, thyme, onions and other seasonings. They (spices) also determine the satisfaction you derive from consuming the meal.

They’ve all come to cook the main food such as Rice, Beans, etc. There is no (need for) them if there’s no main food. In the order of preference therefore, the main food comes first. It is when you find the main food that the need for spice or seasoning arises.

None of these seasonings or spice can be eaten to fill the stomach. They cannot hold you. They only condition the main food and attract you to it. They are the ones that require regulation (control) regardless of how much you love or hate them because too much can harm or spoil the broth, too little can make the meal tasteless and unattractive. It’s the main food that fills and can hold the stomach. It is the foundation on which the spices or seasonings are built. In the worst scenario, the main food without them can hold you but they without the main food cannot hold you (for long).

They are the spices of food.

In the same vein, the beauty (looks), behaviour, dressing, religion, wealth, tribe, family background, education, kindness, sense of humour, selflessness and other attributes of a person are what attracts and make you choose that person as a friend or spouse.
They’ve all come to spice up that love that ought to exist as foundation. These attributes cannot sustain life. Like the spice of food, they are all reactionary or conditional. You are attracted and love that person based on what you know or see. If these attributes are withdrawn, your love for that person cracks. Many of us have made choices for marriage partners based on this emotional love only.

They are the spices of love. They are the love that needs control (how you react to them).

But there’s the other love, the one on which these attributes must be built, the one that stands when all else falls, the one that does not need control. It is that love that’s not reactionary, not conditional. It is the core, the foundation of love. It is called the Blind or True love.

Keep a date with on on www.facebook.com/twosamonline for our next post on The Blind Love.

Do you consider yourself responsible? Are you honest, righteous, a liar, wicked, corrupt, or promiscuous? What’s your value?

In the spirit of justice, every human regardless of sex, tribe, religion, color, class is created with the same number of values (standards of behaviour). There are tens of hundreds of these values in each person some of which include selflessness, kindness, forgiveness, mercy, patience, tolerance, endurance, justice, etc.

You have no choice (of refusal) of this gift of God. What you have choice over is on which of these values to activate (bring to life). You can choose to activate them positively or negatively.

Selflessness, activated negatively becomes Selfishness
Love > Hate
Patience > Impatience
Tolerance > Intolerance
Justice > Injustice
Freewill > Force/Compulsion
Kindness > Cruel, etc

This choice is what makes us different from the other person and accords us our value (worth).
To lack value as a person is saying you have chosen not to activate the values or have activated them negatively (wrongly). To have value is to activate these values positively. The more you activate positively, the more your value, the more enduring you become, and can avoid any fall. Adam and Eve fell because they lacked value to endure stay in the Garden of Eden. There were values they activated wrongly. Our purpose here is to develop these values to fall no more.

Your value (worth) is in your values (standards)

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Yes, which of these would you prefer or want to come first?

The Grace of God allows you access to favours and blessings of life such as long life, marriage or a particular spouse, children or a particular (sex of) child, employment or a particular job, wealth, victory or appointment, awards, etc.

The mercy of God brings you recognition of what you are doing (wrongly that can sink you spiritually) or how (wrongly) you are doing it, and a re-direction on how to go about it rightly.

Read more at: http://twosam..com.ng/2016/02/the-grace-of-god-and-mercy-of-god-choose.html

Salvation is the severance from darkness. Severance means pulling away or tearing apart from something.

What is darkness and what keeps you in it?
Darkness is any activity or action that KEEPS YOU AWAY from recognizing and achieving your purpose here on earth. You are here on earth due to a fall (your inability to sustain the values required to live in paradise – zero tolerance for selfishness, injustice, use of force, intolerance, impatience, inconsistency of actions, etc),and you are here to develop these abilities, mature, go back to fall no more. This is purpose discovery. When your actions and activities are laden with selfish interests or considerations, discrimination, unfairness, injustice, forceful actions on people, you are in darkness, and we are here and still here because we are guilty of these.

What this tells us is that we have been travelling in the same direction with darkness. You would not experience pains because we are not opposed to it (we agree with it). Salvation starts with the decision to discontinue the journey and move in opposite direction and this comes first from recognition (of your purpose). Recognition brings conviction that strengthens you to fight on. The pulling away is ascent.

Severance from darkness or salvation is not achieved by prayers but by your activities and actions towards other creatures of God. It is achieved by adding true value to them. There are two types of prayers – prayer of requests and prayer of gratitude. Prayer is a request, and therefore is receiving or attracting. Prayers can earn you more blessing or abundance, mercy (recognition), healing and protection from evil (harm) but not salvation. Your relationship with or disposition to other creatures in creation brings you salvation.

Salvation is achieved through dispensing. But more importantly is that the dispensing is done rightly. This is the bane of humanity. Our dispensing is characterized by selfishness, injustice, inconsistency and without freewill, and it ends up not adding true value to life. The dispensing that brings salvation is not measured by the size of a charity or what is dispensed (food, money, cars, wealth, etc) but by the motive, the spirit of selflessness, justice, freewill behind it.

Darkness will revolt against salvation,
PERSEVERANCE – consistency of action, your resolve to keep at it will see you through
Darkness will inflict hardship, sufferings, denial (withdraw from you all benefits/favours), persecution, etc
ENDURANCE – will see you through
Darkness will fight to let go of you, certain things you desire may not come readily or happen speedily
PATIENCE - will see you through
Darkness will pair you with very unfavorable conditions and difficult people
TOLERANCE – will see you through

The only way to salvation is to pre-occupy yourself with thoughts and activities that pull you away from: Selfish interest – thinking only of yourself or putting your interest ahead of others
Discrimination – emotional attachments to what divides such as color (racism), tribe, religion, sex, class
Rather than what unites. Injustice or the loss of life should hurt you whether to a Black/white, male/female, Jew/Christian/Muslim, rich/poor, educated/illiterate, Hausa/Yoruba/Igbo. God created them all and His spirit resides in them. Imagine the work that had gone into a creation. God is pained at the destruction of any of His works.

Force – getting people to do things you want by force, compulsion, coercion rather than by conviction

SALVATION - YOU KNOW IT WHEN YOU GET THERE
1. You no longer become emotionally attached to things that divide such as sex, color, tribe, religion, class but to things that unite. Your eyes become blind to what divides.
2. Your prayer changes from prayer of requests to prayer of thanksgiving
3. You are willing to give up credits for anonymity – you just want it done not minding who takes the credit.
4. You become very purposeful. Your eyes are set on your goal here on earth – mature go back to fall no more. You no longer take interest in what wouldn’t further this cause. You are willing to let go of some infringements against you. Only a purposeful person will turn the other cheek to a slap, because you see it as a distraction.

TWOSAM is a Value Orientation Organisation

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As humans we have expectations of other people, animals, plants, everything around us including life in itself. We get disappointed when they are not met because they are expectations - we believe they should.

The only justification for our disappointment is that we have made commitments. For most of us unfortunately, this is not so.

Realistic expectation is selfless in nature – You meet the interest of the other first. It is Justice driven – demand based on (nature of) what you give, there must also be freewill – don’t force result for realistic expectation responds based on input, and finally consistency – result depends on consistency of action. This rule applies to all aspects and activities of human life.

Do We Have A Lead?
1. Selflessness
God created us for a purpose – as vicegerents or deputy to sustain (add value to) His creation (what He has created). To do this, we require certain (levels of) values or qualities. He created us in His image, devolved these requisite qualities to us all, equally irrespective of sex, color, tribe, wealth, religion, etc.


In His proactive nature (still in selflessness), God did not create humans until He created the earth with seas, oceans, rivers, sunlight, moon, rainfall, seasons and everything we would need to sustain life in order to develop these qualities. He did not create fish until He created water. What if a meal becomes monotonous? He created species of animals, crops and fruits. Everything was created and ready before our arrival.

He gave all these without reservation or recourse to our commitment or willingness to meet His expectations.

2. Justice
His expectation of us is based on what is universally or equitably given to humans – his qualities or spirit. Wealth (money), children, long life, good health, color, sex, tribe, education, class, religion are not equitably distributed or common to all humans. His expectations of us to add value is not based on those. Whatever you do with money for instance, His interest is the spirit (of selflessness, justice, freewill, etc) that drives it. This cannot be bought or monetized.

The same applies to Freewill and Consistency of action

So He has an expectation of us, to:
1. Develop these qualities (first to maturity), and then
2. Sustain (add value to) creation

And His expectations are realistic. Therefore to make your expectation of your friend, spouse, employer, nation or your creator realistic, you must first:
1. Meet his/her expectations, and without recourse to whether he/she would be able to meet yours (Selflessness)
2. Be fair in your expectations (measurable based on your input) - Justice
3. Be consistent in fulfilling your own obligation - Consistency
4. A forced value cannot endure. You must not force an expectation - Freewill

TWOSAM is a Value Orientation Organisation

http://twosam..com.ng/2016/01/are-your-expectations-realistic.html

There's a healing process in everything. It starts from denial before acceptance. For now she's still in denial - she can't believe it happened. So give it time. Don't force it, don't rush her, with time she'll accept and life would move on. Learn to practice self-restraint, its a virtue. You don't have to do anything extraordinary, just let her see you have learnt a lesson from the incidence, because she has too.

Everything in life comes with a responsibility. Responsibility is the act of caring for somebody or something. You would not create or buy it if it has no purpose to fulfill for you.

If you own a car, you have a responsibility to fuel it, change the oil, service the engine, keep it clean, and away from theft. If you default in this responsibility, the car’s days are numbered. The car has a responsibility to make life less stressful for you by moving you and your goods around. If it is just parked in your garage or at the mechanic workshop unable to fulfill this responsibility (because of unserviceable engine), no matter the quality of its seats, tyres, etc, its days are numbered: it is doomed for destruction. The car and owner both have their respective responsibilities. However, even where the owner defaults, the car makes way.

If you own a mobile phone, you have a responsibility to keep it away from liquid or moisture, charge the battery, not to sit or place heavy object on the screen. If you do not live up to this responsibility and regularly drops it in water or hot objects, its days are numbered. You acquire the phone to enable you talk remotely with others, store your contacts, provide news and entertainment. If it cannot do this due to poor signal strength, bad screen, bad charging port, board, and mouth piece, it is doomed for destruction. Both phone and owner have their respective responsibilities. However, where you default, the phone makes way not you.

God created you for a purpose and has a responsibility towards you. Notwithstanding whether you are a good or evil person, Christian, Muslim or pagan, male or female, illiterate or educated, poor or rich, black or white, you have a right to life: what he gives others you have, food digest when you eat it, plant a seed in your garden or farm it germinates, etc. he does not default in his responsibility. You have a responsibility to sustain or add to the value of what He has created without bias or prejudice to sex, color, tribe, religion, class. Value is the (level of) quality in our action, product or service. To add true value is to improve on this quality selflessly, in justice (without discrimination) and willingly. Our inability to sustain the value of life in the Garden of Eden led to our fall to earth to develop (these abilities), mature, go back to fall no more. Like the immobile vehicle parked in the garage, glorifying the creator everyday and not doing his will is an exercise in futility. It’s a matter of time before the owner would decide its fate (destruction).

TWOSAM is a Value Orientation Organisation

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Would you as a primary school head teacher issue a testimonial or first school leaving certificate to a child who has not sit and passed classes 1-5/6 promotional exams?

To become a holder of the Senior School Certificate, you must have sit for and passed various class tests and terminal examinations associated with the JSS1, JSS2, JSS3, SS1, SS2, SS3 classes. You want to be promoted from lower class to higher class and therefore willingly subject yourself to hardships and challenges with reading for tests and examinations.

In the same vein, it is absurd and unthinkable to expect to live life without being subjected to tests, challenges and temptations (which you must pass). These tests include lack, discrimination, persecution, hardships, temptations, betrayals, hate, etc. It will help you to know that these tests or challenges are intended to make you grow stronger and more matured.

Avoiding them, seeking an escape route or terminating them abruptly only postpones them and cannot help you, for whatever comes your way has a purpose. It would not come your way if it is not needful.

The more a particular test or challenge keeps at you the more you develop resistance towards it (if you do not give up). Sooner than later, it no longer scares you. You no longer become a slave to it but a master. At this stage, you have outlived it because it no longer threatens you. To be in class 5, you have passed through and passed the tests of class 4. They no longer scare you. Rather than despair when you encounter challenges, you should be glad that an opportunity to be promoted or move to next class has come.

TWOSAM is a Value Orientation Organisation

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