The owners of such buildings will lobby to take it back after sometime, either through political means, or secret society affiliation, or money exchanging hands. It happens in Nigeria even when assets are seized for corruption reasons. Demolition is the best thing to do.

kettykin:
Why not seize it and convert the good ones to houses for police , law enforcement officers like soldiers. This demolition mentality is not a good one

Usher: Lessons for lovers

BaddieFreak:
I have heard a lot of people talk about heartbreak songs, songs that they sing and listen to when they are jilted by their lovers or recently experienced a heartbreaking breakup. How many of you have been jilted by your lover or have a heartbreak song.

I don’t have a heartbreak song so don’t ask me for one

"Dilemma"
Nelly featuring Kelly Rowland should have replaced "Ride with me"- my opinion though.

Rapmoney:
Back then, romance was a different thing entirely (90s to early 2000s). After this era, things changed drastically in our social life. Then, relationship was characterized by style and doings. Today, everything centres around money, sex and material things. Females of this generation want money while the males want sex. These are now the two pillars on which almost every relationship stands on.

Na these songs we take dey do romance that year. Don't forget that modern Nigerian pop music was not around then, in case you were born in the decade after 1999.

Let's go!

1. Bow Wow ft. Omarion - Let Me Hold You


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CX2Acz35XWY&pp=ygUXbGV0IG1lIGhvbGQgeW91IGJvdyB3b3c%3D

2. Smilez and South star - Tell Me


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_wwEglFUb4&pp=ygUcdGVsbCBtZSBzbWlsZXogYW5kIHNvdXRoc3Rhcg%3D%3D

3. Ja Rule ft. Ashanti - Mesmerize


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VcP96KbFIIU&pp=ygUTZmF0IGpvZSB3aGF0J3MgbG92ZQ%3D%3D

4. Nelly ft City Spud - Ride With Me


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RtSDWq6HsJE&pp=ygURbmVsbHkgcmlkZSB3aXQgbWU%3D

5. Wyclef Jean ft Mary J. Blige - 911


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KiNRIR8tjFc&pp=ygUcOTExIHd5Y2xlZiBqZWFuIG1hcnkgaiBibGlnZQ%3D%3D

6. Mariah Carey - Touch My Body


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9b8erWuBA44&pp=ygUUdG91Y2ggbXkgYm9keSBtYXJpYWg%3D

7. Sean Kingston - Beautiful Girls


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MrTz5xjmso4&pp=ygUdc2VhbiBraW5nc3RvbiBiZWF1dGlmdWwgZ2lybHM%3D

8. Angie Martinez ft Wyclef Jean - Coast To Coast


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijvGoaUJfU4&pp=ygUdY2x1Y2sgY2x1Y2sgd3ljbGVmIGplYW4gdmlkZW8%3D

9. Busta Rhyme ft Mariah Carey - I Know What You Want


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WDaNJW_jEBo&pp=ygUeYnVzdGEgcmh5bWVzIGFuZCBtYXJpYWggY2FyZXkg

10. Ja Rule ft. Ashanti - Always On Time


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tcDXJfAFVw&pp=ygUWYWx3YXlzIG9uIHRpbWUgamEgcnVsZQ%3D%3D

We're talking about the man at Langley! In my opinion as a criminologist, I believe the meeting is for all the heads of security communities. It's a privilege for all of them. So many things to learn from the parley.

God1000:
Not bad, but why should our president and all his security chiefs gather for a meeting with the head of government agency in US, I find it a little demeaning though

A UK court on Thursday jailed a man for removing without consent a condom that he was wearing during sex, in what London’s Metropolitan Police called a “milestone” legal case.
Guy Mukendi, 39, of south London, was sentenced to four years and three months in prison after being convicted in April, the London force said.
He had been arrested in May last year following a report of sexual assault made by a young woman in Brixton, south London.
The Met, as the capital’s police force is known, said the woman had consented to have sex with Mukendi on condition that a condom was used.
But during sex, he removed the condom without the victim’s knowledge.
Non-consensual condom removal — sometimes referred to as “stealthing” — is classified as rape in England and Wales.
The Met said such prosecutions are “very rare” due to under-reporting but that they are dedicated to pursuing “justice” for victims.
“This milestone case comes as the Met continues its pledge to be more suspect-focused in their approach to crimes that disproportionately affect women and girls,” the force said in a statement detailing the prosecution.
Mukendi was found guilty on April 2 at Inner London Crown Court, and was sentenced at the same court on Thursday.
“Throughout this investigation Mukendi denied any wrongdoing — but our officers built a compelling case against him to leave no doubt in the jury’s mind,” said Detective Constable Jack Earl, who led the investigation.
“We were dedicated to securing justice for the victim and will continue to raise awareness that this crime is a form of rape.”

SOURCE: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2024/06/man-sentenced-in-uk-for-removing-condom-without-consent/

BigBelleControl:
The bank, formerly known as Société Generale Bank was rumored to have owed JJ Okocha $1m as at then when it went bankrupt. But there were reports that he eventually got his money back.

Even their ATM will not drop money.

Some couldn't get their money till date. There were unconfirmed reports that J.J. used his influence to get his money back.

We've been enjoying free WiFi (Starlink) at the Akure Airport since last December.

dominique:
Ondo people and all these lengthy surnames

It's not always true though... my surname is a five-letter word.

Movies... I sleep off thirty minutes into a movie at night.

ObalendeCMS:
Me, I put on white noise on my phone & voila I'm in dreamland!

I also have this app that plays different rain sound, I love the sound of rain on the roof.

What about you?

Same way a family friend was shot dead in Ontario on the eve of New Year (31st December 2023) by a cop while minding his business.

This is hilarious!

Truvelisback:
Good day, fellas. Have you ever lived in a Street that their transformer always explode or develop mysterious fault? As in ehn! You would start wondering whether it is witchcraft.

The street rarely have power because when power becomes stable, the transformer would mysteriously develop fault and this could last for months.

Who can relate?

I bought mine N950 during promo. My mobile number then was 0702 745 0146
How time flies.

money121:
The days of running a phone call business centre
Time passes quickly
Do you make calls with this phone?

For me Yes

I'm a combination of hard work and talent.

Attending parties, clubs and keeping a large circle of friends. I think I drifted away from these because I'm extremely busy with work.

Your eye go soon clear... Never trade your current girlfriend for the other girl. Leave her amusement park and stop thinking about her...The feelings will pass with time. I'm talking from experience and you'll come to understand what's best for you. If you're romantic and creative, they're so many fun things to do with your girlfriend.

StylesX:
She was the first girl I ever had amorous feelings for, I was in secondary school then, I asked her out with all the courage my being could muster, and she turned me down, we stayed friends for over 10years, I would try to move on, and it would work for a while and all the feelings will come back all over again especially when I see her, I don't see her often as she lives in another state.

We both did well for ourselves, I concentrated on making myself a better guy, worked hard to make something of myself, she did the same, and over the years we were just friends and I went ahead and dated only 4 girls, I don't womanize, I realized I always looked for her in every girl I dated, and I mostly dated girls that looked like her, I have been lucky with love in the sense that all the girls I dated loved me, I'm currently in a relationship with a decent girl too.

So fast forward to last week, she came visiting all of a sudden, haven't seen her for over two years and here she is, we connected and spent time like best friends, shared and talked about our lives and joked about how she put me in friend zone in the past, throughout her stay she stayed in my apartment, we slept in same bed and everything yet nothing happened, she kept talking about how I am a good guy that most guys will sleep with a girl that come under their roof, sometimes she would change her clothes in my presence and I won't make any move, she said being a good guy was what she hated about me back then, that she thought I was weak, and now that she's matured she sees that quality differently now, I didn't read meaning to any of this as I have zeroed out the thought of anything happening between us for years until she started doing strange things, like kissing me without warning, cuddling at night and pressing me to her Bossom etc,

One night she did that and I got aroused, I lost control and we got intimate, it was intense, but before we could have actual sex I came to my senses and made her stop, it was super awkward, we didn't talk about it because she has a partner and I do too, I thought we'd just pretend nothing happened and move on so we wouldn't sabotage our relationships, then the next day we were alone at home in my living room, she wore my Tshirt with undies and we were binge watching movies, suddenly she started kissing and touching me, and I lost it again and this time we had passionate sex, she left the next day, and ever since then I've been confused and guilt ridden, she told me it was a mistake she rejected me in the past that we can still start something if I want, that she is ready to be with me, but I wasn't buying it, I am confused because a part of me feel something fishy is up, and the other part wanted her but I don't know how to tell my girlfriend nor do I want to hurt my girlfriend, I don't love her like I loved this old time crush of mine, but she is a loyal girlfriend and I can't look her in the eyes since the sex thing happened, and every nerve in my body is telling me to confess and ask for forgiveness or keep quiet and move on with my life, what do I do?

I'm sure you don't wanna hear...
It was my second year at the university. The first time we had it on the beside refrigerator in my kitchen (advance missionary)... A few times in the shower. Her beauty was enough to miss an Award Show. Thank God for whoever gave her that(her mom was beautiful too) I called her Asian Eyes and she called me Candy. And thereafter we smashed over and over again for about three years. She got the juice and I got a good magic stick because there ain't no fun without a good magic stick.

Ma'am, I feel your pain. Obviously the dude didn't clear his browsing history. Maybe God wants him to change, reason for your discovery. Try to talk to him about your findings. Make sure you have evidence (screenshots) to back your claim in case he wants to deny it. But I'd really love things to work between you both.

It's a public knowledge that gangs in the States are more terrific or dangerous than the UK gangs. From the East Coast to West Coast down to the Hispanic and other tribes. Even their Mexican affiliations is not helping the war against drug-gang related activities.

People are really surprised about this... Failed accreditation has been happening for years with big universities on the list and with law and medical courses on the lists of those universities. That's what the Nigerian educational system has turned to. It's indeed bad. There was a similar report I read sometime ago in a federal university in the south south where pharmacy was not accredited.

People are really surprised about this... Failed accreditation has been happening for years with big universities on the list and with law and medical courses on the lists of those universities. That's what Nigerian educational system has turned to. It's indeed bad. There was a report I read sometimes ago about a similar development in a federal university in the south south where pharmacy was not accredited.

He was a disciplined and organized man. He practiced good hygiene
and had keen interest in public affairs.

My best guess...the guy went OD. Recently, drugs have become an urban culture in Nigeria. A dose of any of those substances can get you addicted. May God give the bereaved family the fortitude to bear the loss.

IconicR:
TIV boy how come sex did not distract you because you can't be a Tiv and be sexually disciplined
Oya begin explain yourself I'm waiting

Kilode

lalalista:
really? Wow

yea

I have been fascinated by the story of Ajala the Traveller since yesterday.

He travelled the world in the 1960s, on a scooter! Marrying about 5 women during his journeys too!

"With his tremendous charisma and eccentric nature, he was the golden boy loved by the ladies, many of whom he met on his journeys. In his trip around the world, he married 5 women; an Australian lady, an American, a British model, a Nigerian woman in London and also another Nigerian in Nigeria."

So, who is Ajala?


"On April 27, 1957, in London, a 26 years old student of psychology, Mashood Olabisi Ajala embarked on a trip across 40 countries in Europe, Asia and Africa on his Vespa scooter wearing his full conspicuous agbada regalia with a cap to match. As a pre-medical student, Olabisi has previously undertaken a similar jaunt four years ago in the USA pedalling from Chicago to Los Angeles on a bicycle covering 3,800 miles in 35 days over ten cities. His journey which he nicknamed “This Safari” will cover 30,000 miles across 40 countries in nine months and return to London afterwards."


Moshood Adisa Olabisi Ajala, also known as Ọlábísí Àjàlá, was a Nigerian journalist, travel writer, actor, and later Lagos socialite. He is famous for being a globe-trotter, with escapades in Israel, Egypt, Palestine, India, the United States, and elsewhere.

His only published book, which covered his travel adventures, was titled An African Abroad published in 1963. His name, in Nigeria today, is synonymous with 'travel'. His name is used as a slang today in Nigeria to tease people who cannot seem to stay in one place. They are called ‘Ajala the traveller’.

He died in 1999.

Trivia: He was born in Accra, Ghana, before the family moved to Nigeria whilst he was still an infant.

There have been frauds in history, but selling an airport to an international client without physical site seeing for verification and legitimacy of the deal is rather bizarre.

Emmanuel Nwude Odinigwe, famously known as Owelle of Abagana, pulled one of the greatest frauds in banking history. His scam is the third largest in banking history in the world. Nwude is regarded as one of the smartest criminals in history.

The banking frauds that are a step ahead of Nwude’s stunt are the looting of the Iraqi Central Bank by Qusay Hussein and Nick Leeson’s trading losses at Barings Bank.
Emmanuel Nwude’s top-notch fraud of $242 million. Nelson Sakaguchi, the director of Brazil’s Banco Noroeste based in São Paulo, was the victim of Nwude’s gimmicks.

To perpetuate this huge crime, Nwude needed to appear in the robe of an influential Nigerian. The easiest personality he could wear at that time was that of Paul Ogwuma, then Governor of the Central Bank of Nigeria.
This personality was easy for Nwude to wear because he was the Director of Union Bank of Nigeria then. So mirroring the personality of any banker will come in a handful for Nwude.

Aside from wearing Paul Ogwuma’s personality, Nwude needed other accomplices to facilitate the fraud. So he employed the expertise of Emmanuel Ofolue, Nzeribe Okoli, and Obum Osakwe, along with the husband and wife duo, Christian Ikechukwu Anajemba and Amaka Anajemba, for the smooth execution of the operation.

Appearing in the figure of Paul Ogwuma, Nwude convinced Sakaguchi to “invest” in a new airport in the nation’s capital, Abuja, in exchange for a $10 million commission.
The total deal was a $242 million deal with $191 million in cash and the remainder in the form of outstanding interest between 1995 and 1998.
Sakaguchi fell for the bait, costing Banco Noroeste a huge loss.



HOW WAS NWUDE'S FRAUD EXPOSED?

In 1997, Banco Santander, a Spanish multinational financial services company, moved to take over Banco Noroeste Brazil. While at a joint meeting to facilitate the takeover, a large vacuum was uncovered. The vacuum looks so massive that it was given a proper look.
It was uncovered that a huge sum of funds was lying fallow in the Cayman Islands untouched. This fund is about two-fifths of the bank’s total value and half of its capital.

This led to the set up of a criminal investigation team in the countries where the individuals involved are residents. The countries are Brazil, Britain, Nigeria, Switzerland, and the United States. The newly constituted anti-graft agency, the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC), hunted Nwude in Nigeria.
Nelson Sakaguchi was arrested at New York’s John F. Kennedy airport and offloaded to
and dispatched to Switzerland to stand trial on charges relating to setting up bank accounts there as part of the fraud
But to buffer the situation, as damage control, the Simonsen and Cochrane families, who own the Banco Noroeste, paid the $242 million. One would think that this should be enough to to save the situation, but the bank collapsed in 2001
As for Nelson Sakaguchi, he was arrested at New York’s John F. Kennedy airport and offloaded to Switzerland to stand trial on charges against him relating to fraud.

NWUDE'S TRIAL


At the request of former Nigerian President Olusegun Obasanjo, the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission was created by the Nigerian Parliament in 2002.
In 2004, Nwude and his accomplices were arrested by the EFCC and charged 86 counts ranging from bribery and fraudulently seeking advance fees at the Abuja High Court. They all pleaded not guilty to the charges. However, the judge, Lawal Gumi, alleged that there was an attempt to bribe court staff.
Years later, the case was thrown out by Gumi, who stated that the crime wasn’t committed in Abuja as the offence was committed in Lagos, miles away from his jurisdiction.
Nwude and his cohorts were arrested outside the courthouse and taken to Lagos.

This case was one of the major cases of the EFCC after it was constituted. The then chairman of the agency, Nuju Ribadu, alleged that Nwude tried to bribe him with $75,000 cash.
This further made the case complicated for Nwude as charges of attempted bribery and the attempted kidnapping of a prosecution witness added to his existing case.
One of Nwude’s cohort, Amaka Anajemba, admitted to the crime and was sent to two and a half years in prison and ordered to repay $25.5 million.

Later, Emmanuel and one of his accomplices, Nzeribe Okoli, pleaded guilty to the offence after testimony from Sakaguchi. He was then collectively sentenced to 29 years in prison, with Nwude receiving five concurrent sentences of five years, totalling 25 and Okoli receiving four.
This was accompanied by the confiscation of all of Nwude’s assets. It was returned to the victim.
Nwude was released in 2006.

AFTERMATH

In 2006, Nwude filed a lawsuit to recover his assets after he was released from prison. Stating that some of the assets were acquired before he committed the offence.

He was, however, able to recover $52 Million of it
In a court hearing of the case in 2021, Nwude
reportedly stated that he didn’t know about the $242 million airport scam. He said he was convinced by his legal team, led by Dr Chris Uche (SAN) when he was in prison, to make a plea bargain agreement with the EFCC.
In his words, Nwude said, “I told him that I’m not responsible for the 242 million dollars. That I’m not responsible for this money, I don’t know anything about it.

“The EFCC should check all the remittances that came through my accounts, though I have my friend, late Christian Anajemba’s (husband of Amaka, his co-defendant) various bank accounts.
“As money came to my accounts, I gave it to one of my Indian friends, Mr Naresh Asnani, who has contact with a Swiss bank, who in turn does the exchange for me.
“When the money comes in, he (Asnani) took his commission and I’ll take my commission and I give the large sum to Christian Anajemba, ” .

Money will get you power...

DaveHarry:
Between power and money which one is greater. For the deep thinkers!

Op, the truth is that she knows you're the only one that can take her bullsh*t. That's the reason for asking for forgiveness. Aren't you scared of STDs or knowing the fact that you could father a bit*h-made child? It's best you walk away. You're being manipulated emotionally. I wish you luck.

Nonywendy:
I have been dating this my girl friend since 2017. She made me fall and believe in love, she ticked all the qualities I desire in a woman. When I we started dating she was in her 200L, and everything was going on smoothly. Now this is where the issue lies,
When she went for service in another state, I started noticing some changes, wen she comes back home during holidays I used to go through her phone.(note: she has access to my phone and I too).
So one of those period I realised she is seeing another guy in the state where she is serving. I confronted her and she opened up to me and confessed. I forgave her.

Then after like 4months again, I later noticed she is also seeing another guy different from the initial one I noticed, she denied that but I had to do my deep investigation and got an evidence, she opened up again, at this point I broke up with her and moved on. After like one month she came back begging for forgiveness, It took me time to heal and I forgave her.

Then this last one that broke the camel's back, I noticed she traveled to the state where she did her youth service for something and all this while I thought she was staying with her sister, not knowing she was staying with the first guy she dated while serving whch she apologised. She stayed with her for three good weeks. How I realized was, I called her line one early morning arnd 3am and a guy picked the call asking me who I am. At first, I froze cos I haven't been in that kind of situation, I calmed down and explained everything to the guy, and the guy also told me she has been with her for the past three weeks and that's the girl friend too. I was shocked. I have broken up with her finally cos I don't think forgiving a cheating partner is worth it.
The first time she cheated, 90% of my friends advised me to dump her ass and move on but I had to forgive on the basis of nobody is perfect, but this third time is a no no.
Now she has been begging and asking for forgiveness that she has really learnt her lessons. At this point I'm just so mad that I don't want to forgive her.
Now the big problem is that I'm always seeing her in my dream, I have not really moved on cos it's not easy for me. I have loved her for solid 6 yrs plus.
Note: all the family members from my side and her side are fully aware of our relationship and have approved but they are not aware that I have broken up. If you are my shoes will you forgive her for this very last time or will her cheating continues?
Your advise and suggestions will be well appreciated. Thank you

You know all those stories you read online and you say, ‘eiyahh, stories that touch.” Hmm, my sister, that is my story, o!
This man, yes, I will refer to him as this man. When I met him years back, I was already working and driving a small car, you know those Picantos that flooded Lagos in those days? Yes, I was one of those who owned one. I was lucky to have landed a good job but aside from that, na sharp Ibo babe I be na, I know how to do market well.
I started a shuttle bus business on the side; for a church. I got my younger brother to run it for me. After about two years, we got another one; at this time, my husband and I had begun to court, he was doing business in Dubai then.
Then Dubai was a very hot destination for Nigerians and I honestly thought his business was doing good.
What was he doing? Buying and selling na? What else? All kinds of stuff; computer parts, female wears…stuff, sha!
Ok, when the matter got to the point of Marriage, he went to know my people in the village. They met with his, you know the rest how these things are, we had our Igba kwu and church. A few years later the kids began to come, we have five children!
Along the line, his business just began to crumble and this happens when you are fraudulent; you cannot sustain good business on fraud, you just can’t!
To be honest, I began to suspect he wasn’t doing genuine business shortly after we got married. He was dodgy about certain things, certain monies coming in, you know, I would ask him for certain papers and he was quite dodgy about them. I decided to mind my own business, after all he had been doing his thing before we met, so which one be my own?
I also knew I had to separate my business from him. I continued to use my maiden name in all my transactions on my own business.
Then he ran into customs wahala in Dubai, his goods were seized and that marked the end of things for him. Naturally as his wife, I encouraged him to be positive, I told him he had to get the right papers, organize his business in such a way that he would not raise red flags every time he passes through customs.
At that time, my job and businesses were thriving, I had five buses in my fleet, I had two schools and the church as clients; also, I had already bought a land from doing cooperative in my office.
Now, that land was bought with the mind that at least, I would be able to give my sons something to inherit. Land is a surer investment; transport business is good but buses always run down, break down, need fixing with you spending money…you get?
So, I first got a piece of land which I bought in my maiden name. That one became wahala for oga at home. He hala me tire, we had long quarrels. He wanted me to put his name on the papers for the land, me kwa, I refused, instead I put the name of my first son; we have three boys and two girls.
I then purchased a second land, again I used my second son’s name….I was just doing business as per say, e dey my blood and this job may not last. I wanted something to retire to as well; I am not the type of woman who waits for a man to provide everything for her and in a way, yes, I wanted to support my husband’s hustle, if he was unable to provide for us, would I fold my arms but no bi say make I kuku carry the load of provision for my head.
But even before the wahala of his business, I was paying school fees, rent, fueling our gen, paying house helps, lesson teacher, driver…Nne, I was Mrs Man in the house o!
Things got bad and my husband just became a degenerate!
You know, he would faff around and go to the club in the evening and come back at past 3am! Biko which kind wahala be dis?
So, I decided to help out, na, isn’t that what a good wife should do?
I swear, I regret it to date!
What did I do? I asked my brother, who I run the businesses with, I mean the one who manages the fleet of buses and over sees the new business we began, to allow my husband to join him, so at least he would have a sense of responsibility, instead of him parading night clubs like a male prostitute!
Abi? As he goes to clubs, no bi my money e dey go spend there?
Husband joined my brother and after a few weeks, na so so complain e dey complain; my brother did this, my brother did that, wahala every day… ol Gehl, I had to ask my brother to leave!
Because the quarrels were everyday and for my peace of mind, I just begged my brother, biko move to the other things we are doing; I asked him to focus fully on the nylon business we had just begun because all I heard every day was my husband complaining and my brother calling to tell me to tell my husband to back off!
Hummn. My sister like I told you, I still had my job and I had five children to raise, so my mind was most times not on the bus business or nylon business.
Then under my husband, who claimed he was helping me save cost that my brother was squandering, the buses would develop fault more often than before; yes, during my brother’s time, the buses too had problems, so it wasn’t a new thing for me.
The difference was that the cost of maintenance skyrocketed! My husband fired the old drivers and hired new ones then he would bring mechanics and his new drivers to me and they would complain about this and that and ask me to bring huge sums of money. At first, I would just sign the cheques for payment of these parts but after like six months, I began to document the things being repaired.
It was just on a hunch; I discovered I was being fleeced by the drivers and mechanics…they were fixing the same things they claimed had been fixed earlier.
Na every six months dem dey repair fuel pump? Gear box? Shocks?
I vexed, one day, I accused one of them of being a thief and cursed him and told him because of this thing he did to me God would punish him. Do you know what the man told me? He said, ‘Madam, na your husband dey do am, na hin tell us to increase price then he will pocket it!’
Nne, I shock but to be sincere, I no too shock because my brother had said the same thing months back.
The driver dropped the bus key and stopped working for us.
So, I had to call my brother, I told him and he told me some of the drivers had called him to tell him the same thing but that he didn’t want to ruin my marriage so he kept quiet after the first time he told me.
Chineke! I said which marriage? Marriage that I had been the one managing since the day we got married. I paid the rents, paid the hospital bills for delivery of all five children, paid the maids, the drivers, bought the land and…and yet he squanders what he gets on ashis at clubs! Abi you think I don’t know that he meets with ashis? Or is he meeting his aunties at the club?
Biko shift o!
I told my brother, enough is enough!
So, I am telling you the same, I no do again… to your tent o Israel!

Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahoo-yahoo/

You know all those stories you read online and you say, ‘eiyahh, stories that touch.” Hmm, my sister, that is my story, o!

This man, yes, I will refer to him as this man. When I met him years back, I was already working and driving a small car, you know those Picantos that flooded Lagos in those days? Yes, I was one of those who owned one. I was lucky to have landed a good job but aside from that, na sharp Ibo babe I be na, I know how to do market well.
I started a shuttle bus business on the side; for a church. I got my younger brother to run it for me. After about two years, we got another one; at this time, my husband and I had begun to court, he was doing business in Dubai then.
Then Dubai was a very hot destination for Nigerians and I honestly thought his business was doing good.

What was he doing? Buying and selling na? What else? All kinds of stuff; computer parts, female wears…stuff, sha!
Ok, when the matter got to the point of Marriage, he went to know my people in the village. They met with his, you know the rest how these things are, we had our Igba kwu and church. A few years later the kids began to come, we have five children!
Along the line, his business just began to crumble and this happens when you are fraudulent; you cannot sustain good business on fraud, you just can’t!

To be honest, I began to suspect he wasn’t doing genuine business shortly after we got married. He was dodgy about certain things, certain monies coming in, you know, I would ask him for certain papers and he was quite dodgy about them. I decided to mind my own business, after all he had been doing his thing before we met, so which one be my own?
I also knew I had to separate my business from him. I continued to use my maiden name in all my transactions on my own business.

Then he ran into customs wahala in Dubai, his goods were seized and that marked the end of things for him. Naturally as his wife, I encouraged him to be positive, I told him he had to get the right papers, organize his business in such a way that he would not raise red flags every time he passes through customs.
At that time, my job and businesses were thriving, I had five buses in my fleet, I had two schools and the church as clients; also, I had already bought a land from doing cooperative in my office.

Now, that land was bought with the mind that at least, I would be able to give my sons something to inherit. Land is a surer investment; transport business is good but buses always run down, break down, need fixing with you spending money…you get?
So, I first got a piece of land which I bought in my maiden name. That one became wahala for oga at home. He hala me tire, we had long quarrels. He wanted me to put his name on the papers for the land, me kwa, I refused, instead I put the name of my first son; we have three boys and two girls.

I then purchased a second land, again I used my second son’s name….I was just doing business as per say, e dey my blood and this job may not last. I wanted something to retire to as well; I am not the type of woman who waits for a man to provide everything for her and in a way, yes, I wanted to support my husband’s hustle, if he was unable to provide for us, would I fold my arms but no bi say make I kuku carry the load of provision for my head.

But even before the wahala of his business, I was paying school fees, rent, fueling our gen, paying house helps, lesson teacher, driver…Nne, I was Mrs Man in the house o!
Things got bad and my husband just became a degenerate!
You know, he would faff around and go to the club in the evening and come back at past 3am! Biko which kind wahala be dis?
So, I decided to help out, na, isn’t that what a good wife should do?
I swear, I regret it to date!

What did I do? I asked my brother, who I run the businesses with, I mean the one who manages the fleet of buses and over sees the new business we began, to allow my husband to join him, so at least he would have a sense of responsibility, instead of him parading night clubs like a male prostitute!
Abi? As he goes to clubs, no bi my money e dey go spend there?

Husband joined my brother and after a few weeks, na so so complain e dey complain; my brother did this, my brother did that, wahala every day… ol Gehl, I had to ask my brother to leave!
Because the quarrels were everyday and for my peace of mind, I just begged my brother, biko move to the other things we are doing; I asked him to focus fully on the nylon business we had just begun because all I heard every day was my husband complaining and my brother calling to tell me to tell my husband to back off!

Hummn. My sister like I told you, I still had my job and I had five children to raise, so my mind was most times not on the bus business or nylon business.
Then under my husband, who claimed he was helping me save cost that my brother was squandering, the buses would develop fault more often than before; yes, during my brother’s time, the buses too had problems, so it wasn’t a new thing for me.

The difference was that the cost of maintenance skyrocketed! My husband fired the old drivers and hired new ones then he would bring mechanics and his new drivers to me and they would complain about this and that and ask me to bring huge sums of money. At first, I would just sign the cheques for payment of these parts but after like six months, I began to document the things being repaired.
It was just on a hunch; I discovered I was being fleeced by the drivers and mechanics…they were fixing the same things they claimed had been fixed earlier.

Na every six months dem dey repair fuel pump? Gear box? Shocks?
I vexed, one day, I accused one of them of being a thief and cursed him and told him because of this thing he did to me God would punish him. Do you know what the man told me? He said, ‘Madam, na your husband dey do am, na hin tell us to increase price then he will pocket it!’
Nne, I shock but to be sincere, I no too shock because my brother had said the same thing months back.
The driver dropped the bus key and stopped working for us.
So, I had to call my brother, I told him and he told me some of the drivers had called him to tell him the same thing but that he didn’t want to ruin my marriage so he kept quiet after the first time he told me.

Chineke! I said which marriage? Marriage that I had been the one managing since the day we got married. I paid the rents, paid the hospital bills for delivery of all five children, paid the maids, the drivers, bought the land and…and yet he squanders what he gets on ashis at clubs! Abi you think I don’t know that he meets with ashis? Or is he meeting his aunties at the club?
Biko shift o!

I told my brother, enough is enough!
So, I am telling you the same, I no do again… to your tent o Israel!

Nigeria Series written and edited by Peju Akande and based on true stories

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/07/chai-my-husband-has-been-doing-me-yahoo-yahoo/

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Naija na wa! "

lalalista:
August 7

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