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obontami:
W-A-T-C-H O-U-T!!! THIS IS WHAT
NEWSPAPERS' HEADLINES AFTER FEBRUARY
17TH, 2015 WILL LOOK LIKE: 1. "Jega
declares
Buhari elected with 26.4 million votes! PDP
rejects result" - VANGUARD! 2. "Buhari
declared winner!". "This is the worst
election
in Nigeria's history" (olisa metuh) - PUNCH!
3.
"APC in a historic victory!". "Godswill
Akpabio
flees to Ghana, begs for forgiveness". - PM
NEWS! 4. "This is the most rigged election
in
the world, Jega must be arrested and
imprisoned immediately. We are heading
to
court" (Ruben Abati) - THE NATION! 5.
"South-
south boils as INEC declares Buhari
winner.-
DAILY INDEPENDENT! 6. "APC wins Aso
Rock,
70 senate seats and 65% House of Reps.
We
are studying the results" (Mimiko) - SUN
NEWSPAPER! 7. "National Association of
Nigerian Militants protests Buhari's victory,
demands cancellation of polls in 21 states"
-
TRIUMPH NEWSPAPER! 8. "How Jega rigged
the polls for Buhari . . ." - Premium time 9.
"Obama congratulates Buhari. How many
likes for #Febuhari

twaintoy:
Wowwww, got 100MB.

eleojo23: How often do you see someone have an angry overreaction to a seemingly minor situation, such as a harmless comment from their spouse/friend, getting served the wrong dish at a restaurant, or being stuck in the traffic?
Here's another question: How often has this person been you?
Let's be honest: No one is completely innocent here.
Why do we do this at times?
We all carry a significant amount of tension, with much of it lurking below the conscious level.
Let's look at a scenario:
Suppose you felt that you had a very rough childhood. Your parents weren't supportive of you, you got dumped by the love of your life, and you never wound up getting your dream job. Friends betrayed you. Now, life feels dull and overwhelmingly stressful on a daily basis. While heading to work/school one morning, somebody mistakenly steps on your toes. How do you react? You would most likely vent your inner anger on him or at best boil more on the inside for that singular act. A knee-jerk overreaction to a minor inconvenience is usually not about the situation at all; it's about something much deeper.

We’ve all been hurt. You can’t be an adult — or teen — alive today who hasn’t experienced some kind of emotional pain. It hurts. That is a fact. But what you do with that hurt is probably more important than the hurt itself. Would you prefer to get back to living an active life? Or do you prefer to ruminate endlessly about the past and something that cannot be changed? How do you let go of past hurts and mistakes and move on? Let’s consider the following points.

1. The past isn’t really about the past.
When you look with great clarity, you will see that there is no actual thing called the past. Everything that happens is in the present – it can’t be any other way. Memories of events are thoughts occurring in the present. Anger or hurt about the past is happening now.
Your present moment experience in the now is what keeps the past alive. What is amazing about this understanding is that it shows you that the way out of your suffering is always in the present. You can change your perspective – now, focus on something different – now, feel your feelings – as they are right now.
If you want to heal from the past, put your attention on your present moment experience.

2. Memories are not the problem.
A memory is a thought, and a thought has no power or meaning whatsoever, unless you give it power or meaning.
You have many thoughts about things that happened long ago, and these thoughts cause no problems. But some thoughts are sticky. You have an emotional reaction to them and you think them over and over. You may even have beliefs related to them, for example, “I am justified in thinking this” or “I need an apology so I can move on.” This keeps them very much alive, affecting your ongoing experience.
If you want to be free of the past, lose interest in these sticky thoughts . Know that it doesn’t help you to repeat them and that thinking they are justified only delays your freedom.
Please note, your goal is not to:
-Make yourself forget about the past . That’s impossible.
-Stuff or ignore your feelings. This creates other problems.
-Wait for an apology or acknowledgment. This postpones happiness.
-Wait for time to heal all wounds. You may need more than time.
-Wallow endlessly in your emotions. This is so painful.
-Redo the past. You can’t change what happened but you absolutely can change your reaction to what happened.
Your goal is to neutralize the story from the past so it loses its power over you. It becomes transparent, with no meaning and no effect. You change your relationship to your thoughts so they don’t sit like a dark cloud over you.

3. Stop being the victim. Focus on the present and your happiness.
Somebody did something wrong, or they wronged you in some way that mattered to you. You want them to apologize. You want them to acknowledge what they did was wrong. But blaming someone else for your hurt can backfire, as someone stated: The problem with blaming others is that it can often leave you powerless. For example, you confront the person (your boss, your spouse, your parent, your child), and they say, “No, I didn’t,” or worse, “So what if I did?”, then you’re left with all this anger and hurt and no resolution.
Stop telling yourself that story where the protagonist — you —is forever the victim of this other person’s horrible actions. Being the victim feels good —it’s like being on the winning team of you against the world.
But guess what? The world largely doesn’t care, so you need to get over yourself. Yes, you’re special. Yes, your feelings matter. But don’t confuse “my feelings matter” with “my feelings should override all else, and nothing else matters.”
Your feelings are just one part of this large thing we call life, which is all interwoven and complex. And messy sometimes. In every moment, you have that choice — to continue to feel bad about another person’s actions, or to start feeling good. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness, and not put such power into the hands of another person. Why would you let an event or the person who hurt you —in the past — have such power, right here, right now?
No amount of rumination or analyses have ever fixed a relationship problem. Never. Not in the entirety of the world’s history. So why choose to engage in so much thought and devote so much energy to a person who you feel has wronged you?

4. Release the past by taking full responsibility.
Nursing your grievances and regrets indefinitely is a bad habit, because it hurts you more than it hurts them. Once you see that the ball is totally in your court, you have set the stage for letting go. Your happiness is your responsibility alone, not anyone else’s. You might be very familiar with feeling like a victim. But this is a passive, unempowered position, leaving you waiting for words or actions from someone else, something you cannot control.
Taking responsibility means being open to recognizing how your own internal disposition is feeding your suffering. Express the pain the hurt made you feel. Get it all out of your system at once. Doing so will also help you understand what — specifically — your hurt is about.
-What thoughts make you unhappy?
-How do you make yourself suffer by recycling negative memories through your mind?
Being stuck in the past means that a part of your heart is closed. Take responsibility by going right into those bruised and tender places.

5. Make the decision to let it go.
This is tough but if you don’t make this conscious choice up-front, you could end up self-sabotaging any effort to move on from this past hurt. Making the decision to let it go also means accepting you have a choice to let it go. To stop reliving the past pain, to stop going over the details of the story in your head every time you think of the other person.
Most times these thoughts go through our minds.
“I feel justified in staying stuck because I was wronged.”
“It is someone else’s responsibility to make this better for me.”
“If I let go, I’m somehow approving others’ bad behavior.”
“I need an apology.”
“Life is unfair.”
“It was so bad that it’s not possible for me to heal.”
These are simply more thoughts that keep you distracted from the heart of the matter. Let it go.

6. Forgive them —and yourself.
You may not forget another person’s bad behaviors, but you can forgive. Sometimes we get stuck in our pain and our stubbornness, we can’t even imagine forgiveness. But forgiveness isn’t saying, “I agree with what you did.” Instead, it’s saying, “I don’t agree with what you did, but I forgive you anyway.” Forgiveness isn’t a sign of weakness. Instead, it’s simply saying,’’ You did something that hurt me. But I want to move forward in my life and welcome joy back into it. I can’t do that fully until I let this go.” Forgiveness is a way of tangibly letting something go. And forgiving yourself may be an important part of this step as well, as sometimes we may end up blaming ourselves for the situation or hurt.
While you indeed may have had some part to play in the hurt, there’s no reason to keep beating yourself up over it. If you can’t forgive yourself, how will you be able to live in future peace and happiness?
Concluding…
I can sense someone saying 'it is easier said than done' [ I know that this is hard, that it’s incredibly hard to let go of one’s hurt feeling. If you’ve held onto it for a long time, it feels like an old friend. Justified. It would be sacrilegious to let it go. But it is a burden you have to lay down for your own sake.
Remember, if we crowd our brains —and lives — with hurt feelings, there’s little room for anything positive. Nelson Mendela once said: ‘Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping that it will kill your enemies’
If you define yourself by your past, you will be living as a fraction of what is possible for you. Defining yourself by what happened in the past doesn’t help you now. It’s like wearing clothes that never fit.
You life begins now, in this very moment…and now…and now. You can always start anew.
You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life. When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past. When the past memories creep into your consciousness (as they are bound to do from time to time), acknowledge them for a moment. And then bring yourself gently back into the present moment by saying to yourself, “It’s alright. That was the past, and now I’m focused on my own happiness and doing what will make my life better.”

Feel free to share your experiences on dealing with past hurt or mistakes.

miztola: those gehs are all freshers-wannabe-forming glamorous......... nsukka sun Neva begin nack dia head

glitest: University of ??

glitest: University of ??

himkers: Akanu Ibiam International Sea port, Enugu Nigeria ;

olawalebabs: This thread is created solely for chatting, admission discourse is welcome (scammers and spammers should stay clear), school life and activities are all allow. Let get the ball rolling. ASUU and ASUP strike.

symbian123: Don't you think I deserve a kiss for this piece of work?

oliver badoo: Add pin for any private talk or questions: 331BC7DF

Reason why we fall asleep after having sex:

Is it normal for a partner to fall
asleep just after having sex, and
does the fatigue sometimes
lasts for more than 24 hours?

What can u do to make him more
resistant?

Many women still seek the
answers to these questions. Is it
abnormal to fall asleep after
intercourse?

Not at all. The
tiredness that appears after
intercourse is a natural reaction
of the human body to the effort
it has made.


But most times, if a man does not cuddle up with his
woman after he has had sex, and if he does not talk and
if he simply lays on his back and goes to sleep, it is
natural for a woman to jump to conclusions, thinking her
partner is simply not satisfied.
Their beliefs are wrong. Here are some real reasons men
fall asleep after intercourse:


Fact #1 Sex during the night, especially when the
human body is already tired, becomes the first argument
for the state of sleepiness that occurs after having sex.
The actual intercourse does not even have to be very
'solicitating'. You should keep in mind that sex, by its
nature, is very relaxing.


Fact # 2 Men ejaculate during orgasm, and the
hormones that are set free induce the state of lethargy.
The sleep sensation manifests more intensely than on a
regular basis. Even if the tension of the body is a positive
one, it is also a very big, almost exhausting one.


Fact # 3 Plenty of people tend to hold their breath from
time to time while they are having sex. Its rhythm
becomes abrupt and the pulse intensifies. Therefore,
there is a lack of oxygen, which contributes to the need
to rest - nothing serious, everything comes back to
normality in the postlude.


Fact # 4 The state of sleep should be interpreted in a
positive way, because it proves the fact that you have
reached an orgasm and that everything has gone alright.
In rare cases, men who are exhausted during and after
intercourse, on a longer period of time may suffer from
medical problems. In this case, leave your inhibitions and
self-pride aside and have a complete check-up.


Quick tip # 1 If you are looking for a quick solution,
drink coffee before going to bed with your partner. We
cannot say that it is a long-term solution, but it is also an
effective erotic stimulus. Caffeine can be your main ally
in the fight against tiredness; but it can also harm as it
can affect the nervous system, making one over excited
and under revved.


Quick tip # 2 Really refreshing is a citrus, especially a
grapefruit, very cold, right from the fridge. At the
opposite pole we find alcohol. Do not use it in large
quantities; its effect is exactly the opposite.
On the other hand, women's bodies react different; for
them the sensations during an orgasm are a stimulus.
They could be more willing to go for a second 'round'.
But still, what can women do to make men more
resistant? Don't worry, as men being men, 'refill'
themselves!

hot kaycee: Confident my ASS

NonsoB: [img]http://3.bp..com/-lgniDa4MnlQ/UdvHjnyjAKI/AAAAAAAAMDs/QH_s25g2NKU/s320/%253D%253Futf-8%253FB%253FT2xhbWlkZStteXN0cmVldCttYWdhemluZStjb3ZlcitnaXN0bWV0cm8uanBn%253F%253D-765631[/img]

Hip hop star, Olamide looking dapper on suit at the covers of MyStreetz magazine's latest issue.

Sesan Adeniji, the publisher of MyStreetz magazine said about the new issue;

"With the way Nigerian music industry has continued to evolve, sometimes, one need to ask the question what if? What if, Fela hadn't let go of his tussle with Orlando Julius for the ownership of Highlife Jazz to discover Afro-beat? What if Sir Shina Peters had been content with the music genre he tussled for with Segun Adewale and he hadn't pioneered Afro Juju? What if prince Nico Mbarga hadn't sang "sweet mother" and Tu face never recorded "African Queen"? The answers are not far fetch. Nigerian music wouldn't have been widely recognized and respected as it is today without the record set by these brave hearts who took the road less traveled and refused to join the bandwagons.

We live in the industry where copycat syndrome are the order of the day and the few who dare to do something different are hardly encouraged from the onset except when the beat from the odds to breakthrough. We at the MyStreetz magazine have always stood out to report what is different and just like we once projected with 'Olamide's eyes on the rap throne' which was the first time he graced the cover of MyStreetz magazine. Musically his stock has risen ever since, so much that he became the first artist to grace the magazine's cover for the second time."

http://www.gistmetro.com/2013/07/olamide-on-cover-of-mystreetz-magazines.html

NonsoB: [img]http://3.bp..com/-lgniDa4MnlQ/UdvHjnyjAKI/AAAAAAAAMDs/QH_s25g2NKU/s320/%253D%253Futf-8%253FB%253FT2xhbWlkZStteXN0cmVldCttYWdhemluZStjb3ZlcitnaXN0bWV0cm8uanBn%253F%253D-765631[/img]

Hip hop star, Olamide looking dapper on suit at the covers of MyStreetz magazine's latest issue.

Sesan Adeniji, the publisher of MyStreetz magazine said about the new issue;

"With the way Nigerian music industry has continued to evolve, sometimes, one need to ask the question what if? What if, Fela hadn't let go of his tussle with Orlando Julius for the ownership of Highlife Jazz to discover Afro-beat? What if Sir Shina Peters had been content with the music genre he tussled for with Segun Adewale and he hadn't pioneered Afro Juju? What if prince Nico Mbarga hadn't sang "sweet mother" and Tu face never recorded "African Queen"? The answers are not far fetch. Nigerian music wouldn't have been widely recognized and respected as it is today without the record set by these brave hearts who took the road less traveled and refused to join the bandwagons.

We live in the industry where copycat syndrome are the order of the day and the few who dare to do something different are hardly encouraged from the onset except when the beat from the odds to breakthrough. We at the MyStreetz magazine have always stood out to report what is different and just like we once projected with 'Olamide's eyes on the rap throne' which was the first time he graced the cover of MyStreetz magazine. Musically his stock has risen ever since, so much that he became the first artist to grace the magazine's cover for the second time."

http://www.gistmetro.com/2013/07/olamide-on-cover-of-mystreetz-magazines.html

thegoodjoehunt: Please Mr Maigari. What is the website of the NFF?

Okoro2015: By 2015, he may be in Kuje prison. Let him continue ranting. ACN/CPC Governors forum chairman.

mukina2: http://www.channelstv.com/home/2013/06/25/death-row-prisoner-to-be-executed-by-firing-squad-in-benin/

joel lala: because nigerians are jealous of igbos

noblezone: Kayode, are you serious?
Honestly, if Jonathan can split this fraud of a country if he looses election, then i will campaign against him. I am up for anything that will split Nigeria.

Yet, Mr. Kayode, you are not only heating up the polity to gain cheap popularity. By the way, why are you so scared of a splitted Nigeria?



I want a country free from the menace of Jihardists. It is either the North reform fast and embrace educaton or we shall split Nigeria! I don't have any apologies.

if Nigeria survives 2015, then we have only postponed the D-Day, when we shall go back to our different nations before the unfortunate and disasterous arrival of the Whiteman!

Nigeria reminds me of slavery by the whiteman! Nigeria is a slave camp! Nigeria was just the imagination and creation of the Whiteman who arrogated to himself the sole right to infringe on the rights and freedom of other people.

They forced tneir language on us, took our lands, our recources, our rights, our freedom, our ingenuity and then forced a nation on us.

For almost a 100 years since the evil called amalgamation, we have never made a any progress.

Enough!

Nigeria is a lie told by the Whiteman and that lie must stop. It is time to tell our selves the truth!

Nigeria was never one, Nigeria is not one and Nigeria will never be one.

Consider the blood of the innocent that has been shed to force Nigeria to remain one!

Enough!

mukina2: Nigeria take on world and European Champions Spain in their final group B match

Spain will come into this tournament as the favorite, having won the last two Euro tournaments and the 2010 World Cup. Led by world-class talents such as Andres Iniesta, Xavi Hernandez, Cesc Fabregas, Iker Casillas, Sergio Ramos and Gerard Pique, the Spaniards are the most technically skilled team in the world and are certain to be feared.

More detailed Preview + team lists to be posted later

mukina2: Nigeria take on world and European Champions Spain in their final group B match

Spain will come into this tournament as the favorite, having won the last two Euro tournaments and the 2010 World Cup. Led by world-class talents such as Andres Iniesta, Xavi Hernandez, Cesc Fabregas, Iker Casillas, Sergio Ramos and Gerard Pique, the Spaniards are the most technically skilled team in the world and are certain to be feared.

More detailed Preview + team lists to be posted later

CFCfan: This is the list official list announced by FIFA today:

Goalkeepers: Vincent Enyeama, Austine Ejide, Chigozie Agbim

Defenders: Godfrey Oboabona, Uwa Echiejile, Efe Ambrose, Azubuike Egwueke, Solomon Kwambe, Francis Benjamin, Kenneth Omeruo

Midfielders: John Ogu, John Obi Mikel, Fegor Ogude, Ogenyi Onaz, Emeka Eze, Sunday Mba

Forwards: Ahmed Musa, Brown Ideye, Joseph Akpala, Muhammad Gambo, Anthony Ujah, Michael Babatunde, Nnamdi Oduamadi

I wish our darling Super Eagles good luck.

~Bluetooth:
Where are the ogbunigwes ? Hahahahaha


I hope those soldiers have been given orders to shoot at sight similar to the Adekunle orders and afterwards,we can talk about abuse of human rights by the Nigerian soldiers.


Bunch of hooligans