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update.

He texted me a week ago, wanted to meet up cuz he missed me. I did not encourage it. I ran into him at a party a week later. He said he missed me a lot, he's in love with me. That i left him just like that. He was like how could you let me go so easily without even trying to hold me back? i was like was i supposed to come after you? heck no. He went on and on about feelings. Hugged me and would not let go. My neck was hurting. I was not moved by him at all. Said i was the best that ever happen to him blah blah blah,

I felt sorry for him. I lead him on. I could not tell him that i'm engage.

hahhahaha. Funny how life is. Now that i'm engaged all my exs are trying to get back with me with love stories. I reject the devil.

My guy has a lot of female friends also. From experience i know guys cannot be ONLY friends with a female. At some point, something is going to develop either from the guy or from the girl. The outcome of the new development usually depends on if both parties want to pursue it. I have been on both sides of the coin.

Therefore i specifically told my future hubby, in a very serious no nonsense voice. I'v been there done that. I do not like the idea of keeping single female friends who all like you. It is either u go with them or u come with me.

he choose me. At a certain point, when a man knows what he wants, he parts way with what he does not need.

@ sista

I thought no one was being honest with this white chick until i came across your post. Most nigerians have inferiority complex, they worship the white man's feet. Anything the white man does is better. Nigerians are the worst at kissing their butts. That is why major roads in the Capital of NIgeria are named after White men who could care less about "African Animals". I constantly have to defend the honour of that continents against their ignorance.

I have not seen a lot of succesful interaccial couples in MA where i live. 99% of those marriages/relationships are for papers. Damn, Nigerians discriminate against their own people based on ethnicity let alone race.

@
Cucchi, Enjoy this relationship while it last. Please come back and tell us when it ends. It always does at least 99% of the time. Now this is the truth.

@ sweet T

I Have the last laugh. I'm happy he played me!!!

After weeks of telling me he's busy, i went to my bf house (now ex) only to see his ex. he begged for a minute then asked ME to give him sometime to sort himself out. i was devasted.

fast forward. he called last week, i told him i'm engaged, he thought i was joking!!!!!!!!!!

I am driving KIA RIO, the worst mistake ever. AND it cost me $9,000!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish i got a toyota instead. It hurts as i'm still paying for it.
I cannot imagine driving KIA in nigeria

Life is very funny. I will not be surprise if this almond of a girl lives in some subsidized housing unit in the states. people like her are so quick to make mouth like i'm raising my kids outside nigeria as if the states is 100% better than Nigeria. United States of America is the worst place to raise your kids as a nigerian young lady. so do not rant as if you have it better than anyboby.

If only the leaders had just an ounce of consciense, nigerians would not be leaving our GOD's own country to this white man' land.

@ romeo
I'm guilty of some of the things you said. My parents were outstanding to our helps, we had a lot of them because of that. When we eat they eat, when we did not eat they did not eat either. However i remember we use to sleep on the same bed. I use to be mean to one of our helps. I can see the picture clearly in mind and it makes me sick. I use to make her sleep on the foot of the bed. I would not let her sleep next to me. I would do something and then say she did it. I was a bad little spoiled kid. I don't remember her reporting it to my parents. i think i was about 7 to 10yrs old, Not quite sure though.

Anyway, when i was 13 my parents left for the states. my siblings and i were handed over to my REVEREND uncle and the wife. WE became the maids. Woke up at 5am no matter what, we were always hungry, treated like second class citizens. I would cry each time i left my younger sister with them. I was always the first to land in my dorms and the last to leave. I never went home on holidays,  i dreaded school breaks.

Why i'm writting this? these people writting nonsense forget there is karma. I suffered for 6years before reuniting with my parents

@ David

AS you can see, I was not refering to you. But your point is still well noted.

@ almondjoy

It's me oh ooo, just trying to help a sister out by being as honest as possible. I have two satisfied and happilly married girlfriends who were IN THE SAME POSTION as me. They are the ones who talked sense into me.

Well David, this forum is for MATURED minds, if you cannot handle me making HONEST contibutions, i suggest you check into another forum.

Your post are closed minded. What is wrong with someone enjoying sex. Africans like you are the ones chasing everything in skirts and pants and doing holier than thou even behind a computer with an annonymous name.

@ Kconfused

Of course i'm gonna be honest with you. We had phone intimacy before we had physical sex. I've never met someone who could completely turn me on by just TALKING to me. Just hearing his voice and the things he's gonna do, would like to do, gets me dripping. He is very open, he's NIGERIAN TOO, so i was pleasantly surprised.

We do everything together from masturbation(me doing it, with him watching), to MouthAction. he went down on me the first night and drove me wild. After all these escapades, my eyes became tender towards him. BUT REMEMBER, I WAS ABOUT 80% sure of him, with the sex, it became a 100. If yours is less than 30% and the sex drives you wild, please don't stay with him cuz when the sex goes away, you'll regret it in turn making your life and his misearable. Good SEX sure does bring two souls together who were meant to be in the first place.

How does he treat you? this guy treat me like a queen, takes me home to family all the time, tells mom ahead of time to cook my favourite meal for me, i speak with his siblings and get advice from the sisters with regards to him. i am a part of his family even though i have not formally introduce him to mine's yet.

Put all these into consideration and make a decision, do not base everything on sex.

@ Kconfused

I remember praying to God for a good man. I just got out of a third straight relationship with Mr. perfect. I was walking when i made that i'm tired lord prayer. When i met my guy, i had that feeling that he might be the one. I was like heck no. I forgot to ask God to make him Taller. I'm almost 5" 5' and he's 5" 6'. i wrestled with that for a while, but then realized IT WAS NOT HIS FAULT, it is something he couldn't control. I even told him i had a problem with his height. He replied that he unfortunately cannot do anything about it.

When once you look past a particular feature that is bothering you, you'll one day realize the beauty that only you can see in your man. It helps to bond with him though. Talk about everything from your future plans, career, number of children to sex. You're gonna feel like you've known him for a long time.

Do not listen to all those girls who are telling you he's ugly. it is very Hard to find a man anywhere who has integrity, who is responsible, who has morality and is ready to commit. Do not let anyone take the cake from your hands. if you leave him, you'll find him in the hands of a BEAUTIFUL woman.

This poster is based in Nigeria.

@ Kconfused

I connected with him on the phone before i met him. I am a professional, with a very good paying job. I never thought i would meet someone in that category, let alone better. So when we started talking i realized that he's better than me.

I LIKED HIM before i met him. He was perfect. IT was on meeting him that i started having all these issues. I was not attracted to him at first, but i saw potential. I knew if he was a little bit taller, he would be perfect. Then i realized there's no one perfect out there

So please focus on all the positives.  It was not difficult to have sex with him. He use to tell me in explicit tantalizing details what he'll do to me sexually when he sees me. It was awkward the first night, but on the 3rd ,4th night, i was the one coming on him. Everything felt so right, then i knew i was going marry him. maybe you should have phone intimacy with him, that eases things up. But remember I CONNECTED with him on all levels before sex.

He talked about marriage weeks into our dating, proposed after two months. I kneel down and thank God everyday that i did not throw him away for the taller guy. I'm not inlove with him yet, but i see us growing together inlove. he is someone i know i'll be happy with, someone i'll be at peace with. Someone who wants to love me and make me happy.


The other guy  i was on fire for ran away when i asked what he wants. On the other hand, my guy was here telling me what he wants for me, for us . isn't that beautiful? Sometimes we women are our own worst enemy. I think we like to go for guys who don't want us, or only want us for a moment. I'm glad i did not make that mistake AGAIN

@ Kconfused.

I was in the same situation. When i met my guy, i thought he was too short, too big(muscular), fingers to short. But he was perfect in all other categories, i choose to focus on those three things. Especially because the other guy that was asking me out was dreamy, JUST the type of guy i'm usually attracted to. But i decided to close that chapter.

Guess what, he has proposed to me, I thank God i didn't let him go because of physical characteristics he had no control over. Having sex with him also helped. cuz like it or not guys, sex is very important in a relationship. Aside from money, sex is the major cause of divorce.

@ bolddy

How can you say that a woman's "worth" and "Value" is her virginity. There are ten commandments, if you break one you break all, someone had sex, the other killed, the next one lied, guess what, they are all going to the same place if you believe in the bible. Sin is sin, no one sin is bigger than the other, at least with God.

All these nonsense talk about a woman's worth being based on what is between her legs is total buttocks. You need more education to understand a true woman's value

@ scopium
u need to advance your mind. why should an ordinary beads scare you?

@ niceuzor
i love wearing it, especially when i'm dancing

i have three on my waist, my ex use to drool if he mistakenly saw me flash it. most guy find it sexy and it's a huge turn on

you is the one

I'm from Akwa ibom. Both parents from there too.

@ IKOM
ado ata idad, iwod mfang. ebod.

ayin ka mmi idioko.

@ IKOMI

I"m not stupid, i know where u were going with "yampion" so i decided to play along with your stupid, dumb stereotypical mind.

Afo ado ata nton, unam ikot. Iwot mfo ifono. Nton mfo iniehe level. ubaha ke level mmi, ado idad. uma ukapa ata owo then nya uboro iko. ebot. ikpaha eduok.

greedy

lack of temperance

well, it is champion, why not start pronouncing that English word first, and then we'll go from there, unam ikot, ayem itie mi nsong eyin.