₦airaland Forum

sweetkev:
You are beautiful ❤️

Thanks.

sweetkev:
Are you the one in that picture ?

Yes. Why?

Tightpussy2024:
Have you considered that an emergency has occurred or something?

It's not right to conclude if it's the first time.

A pattern is what he needs.

He is being hysterical,maybe because it's his time.

@Op don't take dating too seriously,except it's when you are ready to settle. The point of dating is to spend as much time with the other person,enjoying,knowing each other in other to decide if they are who they want to spend their lifetime with .if you read meaning to everything,you will end up damaged like redpillers


It is likely something came up(she may have left her phone at work or lost it),or she was with another man( or doing hookup),I don't know . My hubby ghosted me before he proposed,like for two weeks. If not for God maybe I will have jumped off a bridge, then some days after the came back he popped the question.

Stop making silly excuses for her, please. The rationale and excuse as to why she ghosted is not sensible or believable. Moody? What does that even mean? I thought we all agreed that our partners should be our safe spaces in times of ups and downs. So, what stopped her from picking up the damn call and communicating that to the guy she calls “boyfriend”?

You don't just shut people off when you deem fit and return when it is convenient for you. Just be gone forever. That's how emotional abuse starts. OP has already given her an inch and she's already taken a mile, it will continue like thus. Since he's patient to have given her the benefit of the doubt, his business. I have seen similar thing like this before, it never ended well. We have seen this played out one too many times.

That it worked for you (which is even up for scrutiny) doesn't make it a justification that it is the right thing to do.

pimplucious:
Well life is not fair.

You were a bad spouse, I assume.

There's absolutely no smoke without fire. Tell us how she stole your peace that ended your marriage in 3 months that didn't make you notice the whole while during courtship. I'm not a believer of one sided truths.

obaidan:
Obviously not much. You are largely ignorant of a lot of things. Low self esteem yen yen yen, d same unnecessary exaggeration of self that made a lot you single at 35 when ur secret goal in life is to get married.

You can bicker for all I care. I said what I said.

wonder233:
Same here, mine also also lasted just 4 months. Choose your peace of mind guys. There is little for you to enjoy in marriage as a man.

Are you not even ashamed to say this? That your marriage lasted for 4 months? You cannot tell me your marriage ended on the premise of lack of peace ONLY. Tell me something else. What and what did you do to have your peace stolen? I'm of the opinion that there's no smoke without fire.

Something must have ignited whatever must ended the marriage. Maybe, you people should start telling us the total truth and not one sided excuses and testimonies. Misery truly loves company.

Emma09:
Bro, U have said it all. My marriage only lasted for 6Yrs. What eluded me then was PEACE. I remarried in 2023, What I now have with my new wife is absolute PEACE. She gives me all PEACE. So, there's nothing, I mean absolute nothing within my power's I can't do for my New wife now. She's all I have ever craved for.

How did your EX wife steal your peace? When you people mention this “peace” thing, it gets me befuddled on what that word means to you people. You don't want someone who will complain or want someone who will bow to your whims and caprices without questions? Someone who would not demand accountability from you?

I'm very interested in understanding what “peace” means to you or men largely.

pimplucious:
I’ve always said this, once a man decides to marry a woman, he does because he loves her. And then, the only thing that woman owes the man is PEACE. Not love, not support but PEACE. No matter his misdeeds, just be his PEACE.

Once that is elusive a man will find LOVE elsewhere and then see if PEACE is there, too.

I hope 2face finds peace in his new found love.

My marriage didn’t last 3 months. Though I love my wife but couldn’t trade my PEACE for love. I bailed eventually.

You're impossible.

Tuface is a low-key opportunist. This one is seeking generational wealth. He will soon dump this one. Give it a few years. He truly knows how to spot them, I must give it to him. Except she can endure his third leg exercise from time to time without complaints like Annie did.

Why would a single, never married, beautiful and highflyer woman like Natasha go for a father of many nations from different mothers like this man? A lack of options or just low self esteem? Because this isn't love. Well, what do I know?

mmadu4:
She went to do booty lift enhancement . Rip my dear sis

How you take know?

All these experiences and requirements for 120k? Hmmm. 🤔

LordBiden:
This thread is a perfect definition why nairaland is a funny place,everyone claiming millionaire everywhere,but let someone decide to do ordinary 2k giveaway you will see same millionaires dropping acct numbers.


Ndi aras.

LOL.

pansophist:
I don think am well again, the thing no follow. Women need love men for the relationship to thrive.

Far back when I think of the women that worried my life and would not appreciate anything, they didn't love me as much as I did, and I was suffering.

The first girl I buy Android nokia phone for, small kiss I no see, and I love her like mad.

But she sell the phone and gave the money to her crush, one guy wey short like Tupac come get sporting waves for head.

She no love me, so my bountiful love was more of an annoyance, if not disgust. Na since High school sha, and that was the last time I simped.

So yes. Women should love more, or else the man will be punished and they will sabotage the relationship or give him bastard.

Nope.

jaksmillioniar:
God bless u my beauty u are real beauty wit brain

Thank you, Jaks. Don't mind that advanceDNA guy. He's just a jealous soul. That's why he still where he is today. Jealous souls don't progress.

Do not marry a man you cannot submit to. It is non-negotiable.

meobizy:
Facebook is 90% bots, autistic people and incels. Leave them to continue life as they know it.

Lol.

Kinzo0917:
Liverpool go knack Dem reach 4 oooo except football happens

Lol. Story.

Carndidlaydid:
Won't ijust leave this club called Man.city like this

Because of a temporal setback? All these fair weather fans sef.

koldrun:
You're so obsessed with good English.

Very much.

You must know me well to know this.

EMIOMOADEOYE:
Sometimes, I wonder where these ideologies stem from.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a woman striving for financial independence—it’s commendable. But the real question is: what’s the motive?

Take a moment to reflect on this.

A financially independent woman faces her own set of challenges. The reality is, as a woman gets older, her pool of viable options in the dating and marriage market tends to shrink. Add significant wealth into the equation, and the options narrow even further. Men in higher socioeconomic classes typically have their own choices, and this dynamic can complicate relationships.

After dedicating so much time to building financial independence, time may no longer be on her side. Unfortunately, this often places her lower in the proverbial pecking order.

Moreover, many men naturally assess their steps carefully when they find themselves with a partner who is wealthier than they are. While some women might dismiss this as insecurity, let’s be honest—every man wants to feel secure and respected in his own home. He’s not looking for potential conflicts rooted in ego clashes with an “independent” woman.

A real man faces immense challenges daily, negotiating a demanding world to provide and protect. When he returns home, he seeks peace—a sanctuary to recharge for the next battle, not a battleground where his position is questioned or his worth diminished.

Ultimately, the essence of a fulfilling partnership is balance, understanding, and respect—not dominance or competition. Financial independence is a great tool, but without the right perspective and intentions, it can easily become a barrier rather than a blessing.

You write very well.

Enjoyed reading through.

Franzinni:
Hehe you go learn ... I have to pity to give.

When I been dey there Omo, I collect wotowoto. Naija is still the best place to live on earth ... As long as you are not afraid to get your hands dirty 😉

I don't mean like wet work o... I just mean cacus things, cabal movement, padipadism

Explain the emboldened.

Habibiie:
Please can you share your plug?

What plug?

jaksmillioniar:
u luk beautiful dear

Thank you, Jaks. 🤗

Hope you're well.

TheOldGods:
exactly why I said you don't have money yet. You buy used items just to save on cost. I don't have time to argue with you. I've already gotten a flat mate, she paid complete, and so far she looks decent. For someone who is looking for an apartment of 450k a year, it's going to be a very old house, plus you'll have lots of painting and fixing to do. For you to settle for 450k house, you can never afford an AC in two months, it's impossible, you can't afford it. Maybe in 7 months you can, after rigourously saving and depriving yourself from eating. I don't need to know you, to already know you don't have money. For you to comment on my post to why you should pay 450k while you could get one tells me everything. No b your mate Dy stay for 2miland above house

LOL.

As I said earlier, I am not house hunting. I stay in a furnished apartment, so I am over that baseless comparison you're bringing forth. Even if I were, this deal would suck a great deal. Look at you trying to be classist because I talked about getting used appliances as opposed to sticking to your deal that offers no value for money. Does your brain really work at all? It is the same classism you have that makes you think your rat hole coming with an AC and fully fitted kitchen is of great value to part away with that sum for just three months. How much will I have to pay for a year then?

Would I rather not use that money to rent a well-serviced apartment away from Ajah? I hope this modest “cashcow” you got stays for long and you don't get tired of her eventually because you sound like one with mental issues. Must be so hard to live with you.

PS: If you ever want to reply again, kindly consider the use of paragraphs. Reading all you wrote gave me a brain drain.

TheOldGods:
which appliances are we talking about? For someone who is looking for house of 420k a year lol. It will take you another whole year to buy a 1.5inverter AC, that is if you won't pay for rent the next year. I'm just chatting with a brokie to be honest. I'm just wasting my time. You can't afford a good life yet, work harder.
Have a nice day.

Lol. I am a brokie because I think your offer is an overkill especially since it offers no value for the money you proposed? Oh, please, I will happily be one.

For starters, I'm not looking for an apartment. You don't even know me, but since I know the terrain of the island, I would rather pick renting a stand alone apartment than live by your funny clause. Your audacity and inconsideration caught my attention and I needed to drop my double cents. Every futuristic person who wants value for their money would pick renting a self-con for 450k rather than doling it out to give to an inconsiderate roomie just to stay for 3 months (which is even under a clause). Your longevity staying with him depends on him liking your company or not. What a clown.

Dude, I would rather pay 450k for a year and save for two more months and get the silly attachè you call appliances than waste over 800k to pay you for a year’s rent. Would cost me half the price to buy if I check on “decluttering pages” on Insta. It isn't that deep. Do the math.

TheOldGods:
selfcon for addoroad for 420k new house, pop with full fitted kitchen and free AC in your room good luck with that. I hope legal, agency and caution is part of the 420k

WTF do I need your AC and fully fitted kitchen for when I have my own appliances to start with? You must be a joke. Yes, POP house for 420k confirm, e dey!

TheOldGods:
I need a flat mate in a 2bed apartment in addo road ajah. You will pay for the first 3 months first, if I am comfortable staying with you after the 3 months then you can pay the rest. You'll pay 420k for 140k per month. I need a female, we only share kitchen. The rooms are very big. You can use parlour only when you are alone your visitors are in your rooms.

With that 420k you proposed paying for 3 months, I will get a standard self-con on that same Addo road with no extra charges as yearly rent. So, what are you onto?

ednut1:
no be fight. She is still fine but looks diff

All boils down to “ageing”. 🤷🏼‍♀️

BTW, wasn't fighting with you.

ednut1:
https://www.nairaland.com/3103346/uju-stella-pregnant-burna-boy
She was fine that year. Just 8 years later she don be like this nawa

She is still beautiful. Only has just aged — just like you have. I bet you don't look the same way you looked 8 years ago. Post your pictures for comparison if you disagree.

obailala:
What kind of irresponsible organisation conducts such an exercise which totally disrupts services without having the basic decency to notify customers?

After a barage of complaints from customers yesterday, their twitter account eventually released a measly apology claiming the disruptions would end by 14:30 yesterday, only for the disruptions to last another 24hrs without a single notification from the bank. What kind of brazen irresponsibility is that?

They notified you people. Unfortunately, Nigerians lack a reading culture and take sensitive information with levity. They sent out messages before October 1st. Just say you didn't see it.