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Maybe she wanted to start pure water business or manufacturing business with the barrels...

Come naija if you like buy 100 Gp tanks put inside your living room. We no send.

Good Morning All.

When i posted this topic i never imagined i will get this level of replies.

I want to thank you all most sincerely for your advice and encouragements, i read closely every single post word after word. Thanks those who share there similar experiences indicating am in same boat with someone, ie am not alone.

One thing is clear in order to break this evil association and extreme fear my wife hv for her Aunt, i can no longer be the man i once was, i must become someone ease, i must become something ease.

Although my wife is to blame i judge her less becos only God can imagine what she went through those years, the fear ,intimidations, just imagine like trending boy killed in school by bullies. They plant fear in you to wont act normal.

Aunt and co. are getting desperate i found out their new strategies is to keep sowing hate into her heart against me, ur husband is this , his that, ur husband hates us , keep loving someone that hate us, he does not call us , his tribe is evil , etc.
Those that cud not under the write up well i never intend to cut her off her relatives, Please clarify that misconception, i only wanted her to "Know herself no be curse" I gave this much space and time thinking my wife will show understanding.

At this point i am left with no option than to act decisively, already i have put calls across to key members of her family informing them.i got something cooking short Aunt will not see it coming until it hit her.

eazzzy1:
I know you and your wife’s aunty do not like yourselves, and you are allowing it affect your relationship with your wife. Your wife lived with her for 18 years, she practically raised your wife and can be referred to as your mother in law.

Treat her with respect as you would treat your own mother or let your hatred for her remain your hatred for her, stop forcing your wife to have issues with her, don’t put her in that position where she has to choose between her ‘mother’ and you, it’s unfair to her.

Thanks for your view. this is exactly my wife view on the issue. But what am seeking advice for is not saving me from her Aunty, but how saving her from her Aunty.
She has accused my wife for taking the shine off her children, ie taking their destiny, what mother will say that?
What i dont understand should i allow it simply becos she stayed there of 18yrs. 18yrs of serving her and her children. Dont even want to talk about that.
Worst of all my wife relationship wit her biological mum who i term the best mother inlaw ever!!! is near zero, out of fear how the Aunty wont take it.

I love ur contribution but is not the case here.

jaeyking:
Therefore a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to a woman to become one

If your wife is not ready to go.
She can go back to her aunt

Sometimes we see red flag at early stages but we let stupid love to blind our eyes and refusing to ask ourselves on HOW LONG CAN I BE TOLERANT.

I pray it's ends well for u guys

Thanks my brother u nailed me.
I saw all the red flags...yes.
During the dating/marriage plans all i hear is My Aunty , My Aunty ... My Aunty... I then told her after this marriage i will be First not last!!

Worst of all ...during the pre marriage she will hastening leave my house fearing what the Aunty elder daughter will say when she get home. A classical Cinderella story.

I honestly thought it will end when we get married.

What u cant handle during courtship u cant handle in marriage.

InTheCloudySky:
1. Move your family far away from them (the aunty and her children) so they will no longer have access to you or to visit you.

OR

2. Be a man and take control of your home and family. They see you as a mumu they can treat anyhow but you can put a stop to all that.

True i have been my gentle about it. Maybe is truly there view.

Akwaibomdude:
If you try moving away from them(the aunty)and your wife doesn't agree...tell her to go and marry them

That is were the attack is strong becos, when i caution my wife she flares in anger and we could start a week long fight....

aog:
Please pray about it and God will give you victory. Tell your wife about leaving and cleaving to you.

Thanks God bless

Just to add that initially there was nothing i did not do humanly possible to please these people name it. All to no avail.

Good day,
Pls help me with ur advice , i know u wont be shy to tell me if am wrong.

I got married to my dream wife, she lived with a relative for 18yrs who she also called mummy, she have a biological mother, who saw her through school (university level) though she was living with this Aunty.

Problem started when i came to marry her , the Aunty was hostile, she kept coming up with issue to paint me bad. I was repeatedly called to come and explain irrelevant provocative issues sure as why i travelled to inform my wife biological mother of my wedding plans. After the bride price payment and rites duly performed, She still made me perform an additional party which she called a traditional marriage outing party in her compound. All these i did for peace sake. No one including family members, husband children or even my wife ,dear opposes her to caution her ..In all these my wife kept on saying *she stayed with her for 18yrs.*
Worst of all u latter gathered from friends that this said Aunty was laying curses on us during the marriage, that the marriage will fail and my wife will return to her with tales of martial wows.
Then she warned me to stop calling her mummy. In all these my wife was always in tears through the honeymoon.
I ignored just becos i knew after the marriage things will change. This Aunty feed my wife with all forms of manipulative desires to set us up. and even requesting feedbacks from her in some case, words here are not enough to explain all.

To my surprise two yrs into the marriage this said Aunty and her children are still key important figures in my wife live, they have access to her and my home at will, somethings they plan visits when am at work.

Each of there visits leave us in weeks of quarrels . now its me my wife blames.

Friends what do i do now, my wife insists that because of 18yrs of living with them so i should let go and pretend nothing ever went wrong.
Pls advise me.

Dstv keeps showing us south Africa matches even there league matches, yet they cant show Nigeria their host country match...

What a shame, yet Dstv is the sole cable channel in Nigeria...

I think we should be ashamed of ourselves.

Why is Dstv not showing the Nigeria match.
Were can i watch the match live .

Do you have any idea of the percentage to be paid monthly?

My loan offer is 210,600 Naira. 9% P/a How much do you think I will be paying monthly?

Say it here

If Pope sacrificed Italy , who sacrificed China?UK?USA? Who sacrificed France, Spain , who sacrificed other cities of the world with death cases

What's this small girl own self..... The nor go reach river before she fetch water o.....

with all due respect sir, all the above are time wasting shit! I have tried all none works, the only real money making on the internet is forex, though not recommended becos of its high risk.

May God save the poster and all of u from poverty! 500k is no big deal, when u earn in millions

mineANDurs:
Very good if there were really any girls missing.

May d souls of the slain boys RIP, Amen.

How dare u say there are no missing girls

sparcolette:
Some girls sha
My dear"move on" is d word
Shits do happen, buh in all,Life goes on..
It hurts yeah,its nt gona be easy getting past this
Buh u hv to try,see it as one of those dark sides of life

true talk, pick urself up and move on,there is nothing u can do about it

anuma1:
clap for urself

LWKMD

If I am you. I won't give room for such nonesense. She either stop or we end the marriage.

It is really pathetic that you find yourself with such woman.
I don't like divorce but I won't advice you stay with such woman who is so money centered.
It's just like sleeping in same room with a snake.
If you ain't careful. It will harm you one day.
I am 90% certain that your wife will abadon you when things goes awry(God forbid) and she strike me like a person who may cheat or betray you.

You need to seek your inner self and ask your self,if you wanna build your future with such insensitive woman.
If it comes out yes.then talk to her about such attitude and it effect on you. If she continues.

I strongly recommend you leave that woman. Even you don't feel the effect now. you can't escape it when you get past your productive days.(When you turn old man).

Please be careful with that woman. She is a potential snitch.






THIS IS THE BOMB

This is the 2nd of Jan.
Pls guys when will the trading platform come alive My trading platforn is saying trading is disabled

One goat with two head?
That simply means double Ise Ewe...

plssss help oooo.
i registered successful ,varified with the code sent to my phone , BUT I CANT LOGIN WITH MY EMAIL AND PASSWORD .any suggustions please?

sounds great.....wats the price

then you are paying for sex? is not cool at all

In line with the spirit of the season, i must warn you guys that this is NOT the right time to start a relationship or ask a girl out.
The postive answer u will reciv will come wit a great price TAG. with only few days to christmas and N/year celebrations Girls have thrown cautions to the winds. THEY ARE SIMPLY AFTER YOUR POCKET NOT YOUR LIPS SERVICE LOVE.
BE WARNED!