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Minemrys:
n0t if he's made to think it was all a dream or a hallucination. Its n0t like any0ne would believe him. And, it was halloween night. It could just be a meek little kid letting his fantasy dictate how he sees reality. That kid would grow beyond that with time and with time the mem0ry would repress and get so c0nfusing.

on point

em.....if u put it this way

but u remember, would he really think they were superheroes...u remember they dddnt exist @ that time...for him they might as well be big hefty guys who wore costumes to save his life

barackodam:
5 superheroes saved your life?

One is a robot
One is capable of shooting fire
One is always the voice
They all made you let go of your only real friend and promised to be your friend, even bullied your bullies on Halloween night


Yeah, I'll easily forget that, it'd fade away with time

u knw i thought about that but i think there wouldnt have been an issue....why? because HIS YOUNGER SEF did not realise he was talking to his older sef....nothing really would v happened really

assuming time travel was/is possible....can u really remember all the memories of ur childhood....can u remember what happened to u specificslly on june 20,1990 or aug 4,1992.or march 22,1996...or oct 26,1998.....etc how do u even know that the kind man who psid for ur bus fare while u were coming back from primary school one day in december wasn't U from d future? or the kind old man eho encouraged u and talked to u the day u were
caught fighting in ur school playground wasnt U from d future... same way ray advised hus younger sef towards d end?
all these would fade as hazy memories for the young one...he would probably remember nada by the time he's grown up

barackodam:
See, that's the problem. How can ray interact with his younger self, even touch him and spend almost a day with him without repercussions?

LoT is going the way of flash these days....Season 1 was the most reasonable, now, they're bending scientific facts, which is now logic to some of us sha.

Take a look at season 1, when the guy who created Star Wars was killed, how Ray lost his super suit. Now imagine Ray interacted with his younger self, isn't that supposed to affect the present Ray?

noblebookshop:
Agent Sharpe I think she's over reacting, her role is annoying

shes a bitch...and i hate using that word...
well this episode of legends of tomorrow is one of the best ever...this small ray palmer episode

congrats Adeola!!!!!God bless ur new path

you are hopeless.....as per ur reasoning

Biety:
Nonsense,why must the reporter add the name of the church?

Why attaching the name of a whole church to the sin of one person who probably might not even be a true member of Rccg he claimed to be.
The church is so big that anyone can claim to be its member/ deacon.
Also, why did EFCC not tell us the names of mosques, churches and religion of looters it caught in the past?

May God almighty punish anyone satan is using against the church of God.

SenatorJChris:
My thought was that it should have been 45 questions for 1hr or 50 questions for 1hr. Horrible indeed with lots of incomplete info.

very horrible....could do only 42

wow...ddddnt knw this thread existed....the test was horrible.....im pretty fast but this was on a whole level.
50 questions. 50minutes

Reenoch:
U will know them by their utterances. Educated illiterates. Just go and watch National Geographic channel on DSTV to learn more about your ecology. ...........Odenson

huh...he's a game of thrones lover...its important t burn d dead cos of d night king

greatwhite:
Dude don't just kill it. Burn it fast.

because of d white walkers?

i owe u 2 bottles bro

selflessmaya:
when ppl say never hit your wife, they mean never become the aggressor. what is happening to to you is domestic violence and your wife is abusing you emotionally and physically. you need to leave that woman fast. she's poison! don't try to change her, don't blame yourself for anything, just, cut her loose!

EDIT: so I just read the old article you included in the link, i change my mind. with more insight to this:
OP, I dont mean this in an insensitive way, your wife has some deep issues and must have suffered some intense psychological trauma to cause her to feel a lot of bitterness and act out in sadism when angry, the knife, the fork, hitting you with a shoe on your head and not stopping when you didnt even react!! this last one is a huge red light, something is really wrong with your wife, she loves to inflict pain and if her personality is as contrast as u say, that everyone thinks she's this sweet girl, then whatever is wrong with her runs really deep, it's not normal at all to keep hitting a person with a shoe on the head when they're not fighting back, she wants to hurt you, she wants u to feel pain.

I'm honestly convinced your wife has suffered sexual assault at an early age that led to a break in psyche, she's mastered suppressing her feelings, her nice girl act is not an 'act', she's actually that nice. but when she's angry, all the bitterness buried beneath the surface emerges and she finally deals with all the buried emotion in its magnitude, it overwhelms her and she wants to act out to hit something or punch a wall etc. when she's alone and unhappy, even when she lived with her parents, u really dont want to see/imagine what your wife does to and says to herself, this anger she shows you, she's lived with it for a long time, she's been her own victim till now when she made u her victim. there is nothing she has done to you that she hasn't done to herself times hundred.

if you choose to for better for worse it, find a psychiatrist or psychologist and go with your wife for counselling, your wife, with or without you will never change till she finally begins to work on whatever buried bitterness she's had to live with for years. try to get help together as a family or get a divorce if u would rather not go through it. it's really that simple, your wife will live with whatever has happened for the rest of her life but how she manages the accompanying emotions, her anger and abandonment issues can all be taken care of with a good psychologist and emotional support on your part. educate yourself on the topic of sexual assault and learn the necessary sensitivity training and triggers. counselling will teach you all this.

no, i'm not thinking too far, your wife ticks a lot of boxes:
-extra charming cos of distorted/low self image and need to be accepted
-her over-religiousness is for closure that she needs and like u said her prayers are always for her god to attack ppl for her. even her relationship with god isnt healthy, it's a coping mechanism. the idea of a protector that will attack on her behalf.
-she talks from 12am to 4am alone when you're asleep, OP, your wife is full of a lot of buried emotion, she really wants to talk to someone about something.
-despite being a nice girl, before you married her, she had no friends
-she's very quiet, hardly finishes her words (withdrawn personality, mastered suppresion)

you should never have raised your hands to hit this woman, when she froze for 5 minutes, it's not that she was thinking she overstepped her boundaries, she was actually coming back to her senses, when your wife gets angry, she loses her mind and forgets who she's dealing with. even worse when the person who angered her is male, she reacts with more venom cos subconsciously he represents her aggressor and she wants to hurt him to make him feel pain. she probably has conversations with herself and imagines herself confronting her abuser and being able to hurt him back and make him regret his actions and cries alone cos it's only in her imagination that she can deal with him. when a man makes her defensive in her personal space, she attacks. till u actually hit her, u just represented something that she has bad blood with and now you've added yourself to the list of men that have ruined her.
she has stopped hitting u cos she has buried the incident of the slaps too but OP, the same place it's buried is the same place her demons she's battling are buried, she wont touch you but when her bitterness surfaces when she's alone, this time you're one of her enemies. the resentment is growing and when she sees u, she's filled with such bitterness she shoves u. if u do not intend to fix this marriage OP, walk away NOW. a lot of bitterness is brewing in this woman and if you add yourself to the list, we will read about u in the news the day this woman snaps. the same way u never saw her eyes so red the day she yelled, u will never believe she has it in her to go the extent she'll go, your wife will surprise you.

nigeria does not have a good support system for ppl who have had to deal with the trauma of sexual assault, society takes it lightly too but this is 2017, ppl should educate themselves on this, when we read here everyday '6 yr old girl raped in lagos by 43 yr old man', that girl is someone's future wife and she will NOT just be like everybody else, the scars of her trauma will show one way or another and she'll need extra sensitivity cos she's a "special" case. your wife is not a naturally aggressive person, that i can tell u and it's sad that another human being created this monster in her. OP, this is really not your battle, it's not you she wants to fight, you did not give her all the bitterness she's carrying, so let the slaps u gave her be the last, you wife is a very very bitter scorned woman whose hurt has taken years and years to germinate, the person who hurt her isnt dealing with it, u are. if u add to her bitterness and it gets too much, the person who created 99% of this mess will not be the scapegoat, again it will be u. i haven't dealt with sexual assault personally or with a family member but i have met closely with some of the victims and the effects of sexual assault are too underestimated. ppl should be killed for damaging another human like that.

if u do choose to save your marriage:
apologize profusely for hitting her and become super sweet, if u choose to undo this mess, u have to be ready, sensitive, patient, very educated about this issue and strong for the both of u. if u choose to walk this path, u will watch her fall apart and u have to be ready to help her reassemble.
don't let her hit you, hold her hands and keep holding it and talking to her till she calms down. your wife is actually a very sweet person, the person you knew her to be when u married her exists, just buried under layers of bitterness. i dont blame u at all for hitting her, there's nothing illogical in hitting someone who came at u with a knife, i can understand why u snapped but let it be the last time. your wife wants to talk to you, listen to her, she talks when you sleep, when you leave she follows you, it's annoying but it's her subconscious, she really wants to reach out. listen to your wife! make out time and let her rant, she will talk about so many things, no matter how messed up it sounds, keep listening. then talk back about whatever and if she interrupts and tries to talk, let her talk, just listen. u can stop the midnight talks by changing it to day time. stop sleeping in your sitting room, move back to your bed.

when you're ready to make the move, try pulling it out of her, on top of your new sweetness, be extra extra sweet to her for the whole week like her sh!t dont stink, on a friday(so if she spills, you'll both have the weekend to grieve), make sure she's in a nice awww darling mood and when you're holding her, just brush by a conversation u heard at the office that made u really sick "about a dude that assaulted some teenage girl and how mad it makes you that men like that are still walking around breathing and if they ever dared it with someone u care about, u'll deal with them and how no matter what she was wearing or where she was, no one has the right on another person's body without consent and the worst part is there are girls out there who have experienced this and told no one and the animal didnt get caught"
stay on the topic of sexual assault and follow body language, dont change the topic, be gentle, when she cracks, try to get her to talk, say what u have to "she can tell u anything, u wont judge, u love her from here to japan, if it affects her it affects you, u are both one and she can confide in u etc" when she talks, encourage her to keep talking, show that you're listening, console her all you can, cry with her even if u have to force the tears though i doubt you'll have to force them, make her see that whatever sunken place she's in, you've somehow gotten there too but dont cry more than her haba. tell her that both of u will go for counselling together, find a good therapist and go with her till she makes progress to go alone. make sure u find a therapist before u try to get her to talk about this and once she talks, the upcoming monday, begin therapy. and dont expect to work this out in 2 days, give yourself time like 4-6wks to build the emotional environment of trust and zero judgement to be able to access her when the time comes. note: she has to open up to you before you can go for therapy.

-u can expect her to go into depression for a while, she might need anti-depressants, sleeping pills too, she will be dealing with a lot of emotion once she finally lets someone in.
-NEVER EVER make a joke about her incident or say something mean to her about it... NEVER EVER!!! NEVER EVER!!! I MEAN IT OP.
-if u want to divorce her and not work through this, which is honestly the easy way out for you, then pls dont bring up anything i just told u here, dont taunt her over this, dont ask her about abuse or anything, just let the marriage end and pretend u didnt even read this. she will still live with herself so she has it heavy already.

i really do sympathize with you, u have found yourself in a very unfortunate position and no decision u make will be easy. sadly enough, i feel sorry for your wife too, she's really lived her hell and she's putting you through it. both of u dont deserve this. i also applaud you for all the grace you've shown, it's very hard to break the cycle of abuse, abused ppl mostly pass it on to others, maybe not in the form they received it but they leave their mark, so i can imagine how strong a person u were to endure all the emotional & physical abuse. and no, slapping her back was not abuse, u defended yourself full stop! dont feel sorry for yourself, just do what u have to do: stay & do the work to mend this if u can or leave if u cant.
u have to accept that your wife has issues that cause aggression when it flares. in time, u will also notice she's protective of children or animals or things she pictures as defenseless, it'll show in her mothering, not wanting your kid to go out, being too clingy to the child, convinced the big bad world is out to get her child, all that u will both work through in due time. once you can get your wife to show you the dark place she's in, it'll not be her safe place anymore, she can't hide there anymore, whatever comes to surface will be dealt with by both of you and u will finally live with the smiling smiling girl u married. good luck OP

Tolexander:
are you both twinies?

nah

im older by 2yrs

me and uzolexis

maclatunji ur thoughts

cc ammyluv2002

ebuka1511:
It might sound off to you, but that is the truth, infact, it should be No. 2 on the list. the state currently have more than 30 international NGOs. When i was job searching and was in PH searching, nothing, I mean nothing came out, then most Oil firms were all down sizing,this was late 2016, it was only when i learnt that as a job seeker, you have to be mobile and chase the openings where ever they are situated. Hot.nigerian.jobs.com then made it easy, together with other job search engine , I discovered that almost 80% of all openings were in the North East, Borno mainly. I changed my view by applying to those openings and guess what? One of the INGOs, shortlisted me, Scheduled me for an online test, after the test, skype interview was conducted, and Oluwa been by me, I was given an offer x3 what is obtainable in PH.
All these happened in a day, I mean the Test, Skype interview and Offer. I was then asked when to resume which I gave them, to my surprise, they reserved a flight ticket for me on that day, that saw me to the Land of the Shehus, on Arrival, had a warm reception as I was picked from the airport, taken straight to a 5 Star Hotel, and asked to resume next day. On my arrival, I was told i will be staying in the Hotel for a month, but if i can get an accommodation within the month, I will be paid in cash, balance of the days I did not stay in the hotel.
As s sharp guy, Got my accommodation within 2 weeks, and the cash was more than enough to pay for my rent and also furnish it. For all searching, please beam your searchlight here in Borno, to give you a rough picture, cleaners where i work earn around 80k per month, drivers earn 150k and these are jobs that the minimum qualification is FSLC. If your opportuned to work with any of the UN agencies scattered across the state, you are made, for example, In the UN, A driver earns a minimum of 257k excluding over time allowances of 90k per month and DSAs for missions. Please give it a trial, the lowest level in INGOs which is Assistance earns a minimum of 150k as basic salary . Yes there are incidences of Bombings, but follow all security briefings and you will be fine. Oxfamnovib Nigeria, Thanks for the opportunity.

Lol

realmindz:
wait let me get this, Mohammed rode a donkey to heaven??

huh

kelechi50:
That girl is yoruba and that's their method. [center][/

lol...u r a cow

congrats

my idea of a slay queen

fabulous85:
Am I the only one that feel listing the names of all her ex is disrespectful to her Fiance.

you are right

MaziOmenuko:
That was autocorrect. Thanks though.

dnt mind me bro....like u i campaigned and gingered for buhari as i wannted our naija to move from the mediocre to a better level...but i v been left disappointed...seriously

MaziOmenuko:
You are just trying to appeal to sentiments. You've got nothing to offer than empty rants. You lost the plot when you decided to attack my person rather than focus on the msg; it's called red hearing and it shows you have no point. All you typed there is balderdash and I didn't bother reading any of it.

red herring

on point

Raziii:
I did a thead on NBC shutting down a show for talking about the Asaba Massacre and after reading over 4 pages of this post, I wish I didn't make it, because as usual it derailed off the point.

The Biafra civil war was regrettable. Both sides suffered regrettable casualties and let us all pray it doesn't happen again.

If you watched the platform, you'd realise something, the speakers were very convincing. One reason for that was because of their knowledge of the past. Alot of youth know nothing of this past but will argue about it with so much confidence. That's called IGNORANCE!

The killings that happened in Asaba on October 1967 shouldn't be equated with anything else. It shouldn't be used to throw cheap shot at Buhari, or continue your never ending backlash on the Igbos or Muslims. That's insane!

That massacre is barbaric. It was a pre meditated massacre. It was done for the fun of killing and not because they were retaliating or anything.

If you tell me we shouldn't discuss it because the nation is currently tensed, I can see sense in that but to say we shouldn't because its a war and there were casualties on both sides, you need to watch it, politics is eating deep into that thing that makes you HUMAN! This is not Ipob, this is not GEJ vs PMB, this is man's inhumanity to man, and no one, I repeat no one should try justifying that massacre.

sleaze and more sleaze

how can you leave ur eyes open for an hour without blinking

lucrownt:
Serving in the Nigerian Army has been one of my life dreams. I love the zeal at which the Nigerian soldiers perform their constitional duties. Apart from being a 6ft 5" man, I possess, OND and B.Sc. My question is "how can I be drafted into the Army with connection but God?. Nairalanders that have one or two persons in the Army should please help a brother.. Thanks in anticipation

disappointing

Lawlahdey:
We know it's not his face you wanna lick..

how do u know?

1 more day.
cant wait

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