Do you face peer pressure ? When you cave in to peer pressure, you become like a mindless robot because you allow other people to control you. Peer pressure is strong among young people, ie. they want to be like other people of same age.
What is Peer Pressure ?
Peer pressure is a situation where we know something is wrong but we are being confronted with the situation of accepting it in order to become people pleasers. Appearance and attitude are changed and not for better. Resisting peer pressure is a challenge to our present day youths – as they would be seen as social rejects and that hurts. Many youths give in to peer pressure to be liked and accepted.
What You Should Know
a) Peer Pressure Can Make Good People Do Bad Things
Most youths know that certain courses are wrong but when confronted with the situation (peer pressure) their emotions take over and they become people pleasers.

b) Peer Pressure Is Not Just Pressure Put On You By Peers
The pressure that most youth feel often come from them; really, they are the ones that desire the things that their peers are talking about and that they make seem so exciting.

c) Facing Up To Peer Pressure Is An Accomplishment You Can Be Proud of
At one time, it may be difficult for youths to face up to peer pressure, but now they are not afraid to be different and firm in their decisions.
How To Resist Peer Pressure
When faced with peer pressure to do wrong, try the followings:
1. Weigh The Consequences
Ask yourself, “What if I give in to the pressure and then get caught ? What will my parents think of me ? What will I think of myself ?”

2. Strengthen Your Conviction
Ask yourself, “Why do I believe that this course is harmful, either to myself or to others?” Well, be firm in your beliefs regarding right and wrong. The answer should come from you and not anyone else.

3. Think About Your Identity
Ask yourself, “What kind of person do I want to be ?” Then think about the pressure you are facing and ask “what would that kind of person do in this situation?”
Be content with who you are, so you don’t care as much what others think of you. Be your real self.

4. Think Beyond The Present
If you are in school, in a few years or even months, the very people you are trying to impress may not even be in your life and their opinion will not matter to you and you would stay to your true beliefs.
Conclusively, if you have low self-worth, you might strive to fit in with others just to feel good about yourself. How you feel about yourself has a huge impact on how you deal with peer pressure. If you have self-confidence, you don’t care what about you and peer pressure suddenly becomes unimportant and therefore it is easier to recognize peer pressure for what it is and then ignore it.


Written by Victor Okoro
Editor-In-Chief
http://isopreneur.com

Do you face peer pressure ? When you cave in to peer pressure, you become like a mindless robot because you allow other people to control you. Peer pressure is strong among young people, ie. they want to be like other people of same age.
What is Peer Pressure ?
Peer pressure is a situation where we know something is wrong but we are being confronted with the situation of accepting it in order to become people pleasers. Appearance and attitude are changed and not for better. Resisting peer pressure is a challenge to our present day youths – as they would be seen as social rejects and that hurts. Many youths give in to peer pressure to be liked and accepted.
What You Should Know
a) Peer Pressure Can Make Good People Do Bad Things
Most youths know that certain courses are wrong but when confronted with the situation (peer pressure) their emotions take over and they become people pleasers.

b) Peer Pressure Is Not Just Pressure Put On You By Peers
The pressure that most youth feel often come from them; really, they are the ones that desire the things that their peers are talking about and that they make seem so exciting.

c) Facing Up To Peer Pressure Is An Accomplishment You Can Be Proud of
At one time, it may be difficult for youths to face up to peer pressure, but now they are not afraid to be different and firm in their decisions.
How To Resist Peer Pressure
When faced with peer pressure to do wrong, try the followings:
1. Weigh The Consequences
Ask yourself, “What if I give in to the pressure and then get caught ? What will my parents think of me ? What will I think of myself ?”

2. Strengthen Your Conviction
Ask yourself, “Why do I believe that this course is harmful, either to myself or to others?” Well, be firm in your beliefs regarding right and wrong. The answer should come from you and not anyone else.

3. Think About Your Identity
Ask yourself, “What kind of person do I want to be ?” Then think about the pressure you are facing and ask “what would that kind of person do in this situation?”
Be content with who you are, so you don’t care as much what others think of you. Be your real self.

4. Think Beyond The Present
If you are in school, in a few years or even months, the very people you are trying to impress may not even be in your life and their opinion will not matter to you and you would stay to your true beliefs.
Conclusively, if you have low self-worth, you might strive to fit in with others just to feel good about yourself. How you feel about yourself has a huge impact on how you deal with peer pressure. If you have self-confidence, you don’t care what about you and peer pressure suddenly becomes unimportant and therefore it is easier to recognize peer pressure for what it is and then ignore it.


Written by Victor Okoro
Editor-In-Chief
http://isopreneur.com

Do you face peer pressure ? When you cave in to peer pressure, you become like a mindless robot because you allow other people to control you. Peer pressure is strong among young people, ie. they want to be like other people of same age.
What is Peer Pressure ?
Peer pressure is a situation where we know something is wrong but we are being confronted with the situation of accepting it in order to become people pleasers. Appearance and attitude are changed and not for better. Resisting peer pressure is a challenge to our present day youths – as they would be seen as social rejects and that hurts. Many youths give in to peer pressure to be liked and accepted.
What You Should Know
a) Peer Pressure Can Make Good People Do Bad Things
Most youths know that certain courses are wrong but when confronted with the situation (peer pressure) their emotions take over and they become people pleasers.

b) Peer Pressure Is Not Just Pressure Put On You By Peers
The pressure that most youth feel often come from them; really, they are the ones that desire the things that their peers are talking about and that they make seem so exciting.

c) Facing Up To Peer Pressure Is An Accomplishment You Can Be Proud of
At one time, it may be difficult for youths to face up to peer pressure, but now they are not afraid to be different and firm in their decisions.
How To Resist Peer Pressure
When faced with peer pressure to do wrong, try the followings:
1. Weigh The Consequences
Ask yourself, “What if I give in to the pressure and then get caught ? What will my parents think of me ? What will I think of myself ?”

2. Strengthen Your Conviction
Ask yourself, “Why do I believe that this course is harmful, either to myself or to others?” Well, be firm in your beliefs regarding right and wrong. The answer should come from you and not anyone else.

3. Think About Your Identity
Ask yourself, “What kind of person do I want to be ?” Then think about the pressure you are facing and ask “what would that kind of person do in this situation?”
Be content with who you are, so you don’t care as much what others think of you. Be your real self.

4. Think Beyond The Present
If you are in school, in a few years or even months, the very people you are trying to impress may not even be in your life and their opinion will not matter to you and you would stay to your true beliefs.
Conclusively, if you have low self-worth, you might strive to fit in with others just to feel good about yourself. How you feel about yourself has a huge impact on how you deal with peer pressure. If you have self-confidence, you don’t care what about you and peer pressure suddenly becomes unimportant and therefore it is easier to recognize peer pressure for what it is and then ignore it.

Today, sex is everywhere – on television, in movies, and plastered all over advertising. It seems that the only place the subject is still considered taboo is in conversation between parents and children. According to a teenager, who wants to remain anonymous, wished parents knew the nerve-racking and embarrassing it is to talk to them about sex. This teenager says it’s easier to talk to a friend. Often , parents are just as reluctant as their children to broach and demystify the subject. In her book Beyond the Big Talk, health educator Debra W. Haffner says” “Many parents have told me that they bought their child or children a book on sexuality or puberty, left it in the children’s room, and never discussed it again. Haffner says that the message to children is clear: “we want you to know about your body and about sex; we just don’t want to talk to you about.”
If you are a parent, you need to take a different stance. Indeed, it is crucial that you personally talk to your children about sex for the following reasons:
1. The sexual landscape has changed: There is no longer the quick definition of sex - a husband and wife having intercourse. Now, there is MouthAction, anal sex, CyberLove, etc.

2. Your Children will likely be confronted with misinformation at an early age: Children will hear about sex as soon as they start school and they will not get the viewpoint that you want them to have.

3. Your Children have questions about sex but are not likely to initiate a discussion with you: It is usually difficult for children to initiate conversation with parents about sex. Really, talking to your children about sex is part of your God-given responsibility as parents. It may be awkward, both for you and for them. On the positive sides, it is a universally accepted idea that it is better to learn about sex from parents than from teachers in school or television programmes.
Then the next question is “How then can you talk to your children about this important yet admittedly awkward topic ?”
According to their age: Unless they live in total isolation, children begin hearing about sex at an early age. Even more disturbing is the fact that these days, criminal-minded men have advanced from bad to worse. Sadly, many children are exploited by adults for perverted sexual purposes. It is therefore important for you to start educating your children while they are still quite young. If you wait till they are nearing their teens, they may not want to speak openly because of inhibitions that come with puberty. The key is to give children information that is appropriate to their age.
a) For Nursery/Preschoolers: Focus on teaching the proper names of the sex organs, and emphasize that no one should touch these organs. Train your child or children to respond firmly if anyone attempts to play with his or her sex organs. For example, you might teach your child to say “stop that ! I’m going to report you”. Assure your child/children that reporting is always appropriate even if the person promises gifts or makes threats.
b) For Primary School Children: Use these years as an opportunity to add to your child’s knowledge gradually. Don’t force the discussion. It will come naturally if you regularly spend time with your children. Have frequent, short discussions instead of one big talk. This way you will not overwhelm your children. Furthermore, as they grow up, they will have the information they need in accord with their maturity level.
c) For Adolescents: Now this is the time to make sure that your child has sufficient knowledge of the physical, emotional and moral aspect of sex. Teens may hold back from asking questions because they fear that their parents will suspect them of improper conduct. But make it clear to the child that discussing these subjects, is not tantamount to suspecting him of anything; that the discussion is intended to equip him or her to handle bad influences around him or her.
Conclusion: Granted, talking to your children about sex may be one of the most awkward parenting tasks you will face. But it is well worth your effort. Over time, the awkwardness fades, and talking to your child about sex can actually become a bonding opportunity. It becomes easier to discuss awkward topics like sex if you establish a routine of being open about whatever subjects that present themselves in the family. The awkwardness never completely goes away, but open communication is the lifeblood of a healthy Godly family.

Written by Victor Okoro
Editor-In-Chief
Isopreneur
http://isopreneur.com

dankol:
I have thought over it several times myself. For me its complicated. But I blame the society at large especially the rigidity in the way we hold on to certain irrelevant values.

Really, I may be forced to concur with you.

eph12:
It's not same reason for every case of a wayward child. It could be parents, teachers, environment, social media, TV. I have seen parents that brought up their kids with daily devotion every morning and night but the kids still go astray. There's only so much the parents can do in this present time.

Whoever wants to be bad will be bad irrespective of what both the parents and teachers do.

The issue of who is responsible for the moral decadence in the society today, especially among youths, is indeed difficult to say. A lot of people believe parents are to blame, while others have apportioned blame to teachers. I however wish to say that from the way I look at it, I have every reason to believe that moral decadence among our children, has its roots in parents. In the first place, parents have failed in their duty to bring up the child the way he should, in utter disregard of the Biblical injunction that they should train a child the way he should, so that when he is old, he won’t depart from it. Parents are the child’s first teachers. They, therefore, have a lot to do in training the child before he joins the formal school. But the economic situation in the country today, has made most parents abandon their duty in pursuit of material wealth.

Besides, house helps and maids have now assumed the role of parents. Very early in the morning, both parents leave for work, leaving the child to the care of the house helps. By the time they return in the night, the child has already gone to bed. The child will still be asleep by the time his parents will go out in the morning. When then do parents stay with the child to train him and correct him? Some parents are known to support the child when he goes wrong. Some parents go to the extent of harassing teachers for flogging the child at school. This encourages the child to do even worse things. At home, the child does bad things and the parents support him, so that he will not take offence. Some do not care to flog the child who has done something wrong, so that he won’t die, thereby sparing the rod and spoiling the child. This is as it should be.

Some parents are known to have perpetrated so many immoral things to the glare of the child, forgetting that the child sees his parents as a mirror and copies virtually all they do. When such immoral things as stealing, insult, fornication, bribery and others are done in the present of the child, how then can anyone, especially, the parents turn round to punish him, when he copies these? Though teachers cannot be totally absolved from the blame of youth immorality, parents should not forget that the child only spends about six hours at school. The rest of the time is spent at home. Sometimes, teachers fear to punish the child when they remember that his parents may organize an offensive against them. These days, teachers do their best to train the child but they fail because the child has already imbibed so much immorality from home, that the teacher can’t change him.

Parents encourage immorality among their wards by not querying them when they return late in the night or when they bring home expensive materials as gifts. This is common among girls, who sometimes, bring home boyfriends whom the parents receive warmly. Most mothers even make use of those gifts with their daughters. The boys also do this. Some parents fail to look into the company the children keep. All these are roads leading to immorality.
I am convinced beyond doubts that parents are to blame for moral decadence among youths, not teachers because, as earlier mentioned, parents fail in their duty of building the child and charting a good moral path for him in these early ages. At these pre-school ages, his mind is blank and if the mind is filled with immorality, the child grows with it and it will be very difficult to correct him afterwards.

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Editor-In-Chief
http://isopreneur.com