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lalasticlala:
It's one year already.

Happy birthday to my twins - Delight and Destiny.

#Ejima #Ibeji

Snake Master General of Nairaland

Happy birthday to your daughters

Compliments of the day, house.

I have a relocation to Ekiti State coming up very soon for a work engagement tied to Ikogosi-Ekiti, and I need some real ground updates. We all know how tricky moving to a new environment can be if you don't have the right information. I want to know the current reality on the ground regarding peace of mind, basic utilities like light and water, and how accessible the Ikogosi axis is for daily living.

I need your guidance on the right neighborhoods or nearby towns to look at for housing that will make commuting easy. Which areas are secure, serene, and have decent amenities? Conversely, please tell me the places to avoid completely—whether due to security, terrible roads, or constant blackouts. Are there any specific pitfalls, common agent scams, or local issues I should completely steer clear of so I don't make a costly mistake in my first few weeks?

Please drop your advice below.

Thanks in advance!

It is staged

I think they want to introduce NDLEA K9 unit into operations soon

datola:
Nna.. this seriously serious!

Kudo to NDLEA and the expert dog. Thought it might have been staged to create awareness.

It is true

Kobojunkie:
I am not in some way suggesting it be restricted to only Yoruba indigenes. Rather, I am suggesting that a thorough background check and numerous tests be run to ensure non-Nigerians and non-Islamic terrorists are not recruited. After all, there are probably individuals local to Lagos who may be sympathetic to the cause of the Islamic terrorists ravaging Nigeria. You don't want them to make it into the State Police force, even as we know they have fully embedded themselves into the National Police force.

For instance Amotekun I haven't seen a non-yoruba as an Amotekun Operative unlike LNSC (Lagos Neighbourhood Safety Corps) that has a minuscule percentage of their workforce as non-yorubas/non-indigenes

Kobojunkie:
You forget that the northern Fulani who now occupy many of the security posts in most local communities are also acquainted with the terrain? If they also occupy many of the posts in the local police, imagine what that would mean for this local militia then.

painfully true

Kobojunkie:
The two-tier policing you have at the national level will trickle down to the state level, given that Sharia remains enshrined in the constitution. What this means is that there will remain one law for Islamists and terrorists and another law for non-Islamists even at the state level.

You better hold on to your local militia groups until you are sure you have completely removed Sharia from the Constitution of the nation. Otherwise,...

Ebube Agu
Amotekun
Lagos Neighbourhood Safety Corps

But where I am concerned is
HISBAH POLICE

e shock me walahi
And he is pointing his hands at Tinubu

Mrchippychappy:
Took him almost 2 weeks. Sad

Kalulu44

Hit me up on a "dead thread"
you need to move to a better hospitality facility (if you are in Lagos)

dawnomike:
You did your job perfectly well... and you write well also

Please, do you reside in Lagos? Let's talk if you do. You deserve a better job my brother

he has the aarin Ibadan/agbo'le Ibadan movement

unlike the elites

Bobodee09:
They love his program.....he doesnt have grassroots support politically.

ThompsonJoo:
https://tribuneonlineng.com/full-list-identities-of-abducted-oyo-school-teachers-students/amp/

Source

Mrs. Oladeji is a friend's wife

Olympus Has fallen comes to mind

Mattswaggz:
JUST IN :-

Suspect killed after shooting at Secret Service agents, officials confirm

A person has been shot and killed after they opened fire outside the White House, the US Secret Service has confirmed.

Here is their statement in full:

Shortly after 6 p.m Saturday an individual in the area on 17th street and Pennsylvania Avenue pulled a weapon from his bag and began firing.

Secret Service police returned fire striking the suspect who was transported to an area hospital where he was pronounced deceased. During the shooting one bystander was also struck by gunfire.

No injuries were sustained by officers. The President was in the White House during the incident, however no protectees or operations were impacted.

This incident remains under investigation and additional information will be released as it becomes available.

Penkelemeesi
Olokunkun birimu birimu 1 of Okunkun Land

iwaeda:
Olokunkun birimu birumu of Idi Ape lost. Peculiar mess.

George HW Bush father (Senator Prescott Bush) was a US Senator
He was a Member US House of Reps, an Ambassador and President of the US
His son George W Bush Jnr. was a Governor (Texas) and President of the US
George W Bush Brother Jebb Bush was also a Governor (Florida)

So, if you have a flourishing business, don't groom your children to take over the business when you retired/die/grow old. Use a complete outsider

phemray:
All Na same, pastors keep their children to lead Thier church branches and several civil servants put Thier children in Thier ministry before retirement. So, politicians are also ok to support their children growth.

It is not only applicable in Nigeria
Prescott Bush - Grandfather; He was a former Senator

George Herbert Walker Bush Snr. - Son of Prescott Bush; He was a former Vice President and POTUS

George Walker Bush Jnr. - Son of George H.W. Bush; He was a former Governor of Texas and POTUS

John Ellis "Jeb" Bush - Son of George H.W. Bush Snr. and Brother to George W. Bush Jnr.; He was a former Governor of Florida "NOT TEXAS"
Over there, their political parties/ideologies is not different like belonging to a secret cult. And if in the US, families runs like that, will it now be in Nigeria that it would be different

So, my brothers and sisters, just be VERY SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE, because your success and the name you've made will be the open card/key/passport your children will use to climb faster; especially, join a political party (in the words of anonimi in his signature)

WowSweetGuy:
Same old names and faces all the time. Dem no dey tire to rule forever?! Because Government here is to be served as in the people and the country wealth serving them not them serving the people and money too attached to the job is too much... It's suppose to be sacrifice and low income so only real leaders mind will contest

Nigeria Democratic System needs overhauling

you people that copy an paste


mek una dey use una sense now

you copied JIBITI GPT but you can't edit it

essentialone:
*“Men were created to start a family not to join”* – that line goes viral every month because it hits 3 raw nerves: ego, biology, and culture.

Let’s break it down without Twitter insults or simp/defender energy.

*1. What the man is really saying*
1. *Territorial instinct* – He wants to be “first.” His name, his bloodline, his story from chapter 1. Raising another man’s child feels like “joining a movie halfway.” For some men, that’s a dealbreaker. It’s not logic, it’s primal.
2. *Risk calculation* – Stats: Stepchildren homes have higher divorce rates. Baby-daddy drama is real. Child support, custody battles, ex still in the picture. He’s saying “I don’t want extra complexity I didn’t create.”
3. *Cultural script* – In Nigeria/Africa, lineage + “blood” is huge. “Who go bear my father name?” Marrying single moms was historically stigmatized – “used goods,” “another man’s leftover.” That mindset still runs deep, even in 2026.

*2. Why the statement is flawed/incomplete*
1. *“Start a family” ≠ “start from zero only”* – Family is people who choose each other. Adoption, step-parenting, marrying widows – all valid ways to “start” something new. Jesus wasn’t Joseph’s biological son, but Joseph “started” that family.
2. *It assumes the child is baggage, not human* – The kid didn’t ask to be born. Reducing them to “joining another man’s project” dehumanizes both mom and child. A man can choose not to date single moms, but the framing matters.
3. *Men “join” families all the time* – You marry a woman, you join her family. Her parents, siblings, problems become yours. In-laws are literally “joining.” So the line is selective.

*3. The reality for single moms*
Most men who say “no” aren’t evil. They’re honest about capacity. Single mom dating pool is smaller because:
- *Fewer men willing* → she has less leverage → some hide the kid → trust issues → cycle continues.
- *The good single moms* – left abusive men, widowed, or made a mistake young but now stable – often make the _best_ wives. They’ve seen life, less delulu, grateful for a real man. But they get lumped with “hookup single moms” from Badoo.

*4. The reality for men who say “no”*
Valid reasons:
1. *You want your own biological kids first* – Fair. Resources are finite. Diapers are expensive.
2. *You don’t want baby-daddy drama* – Also fair. Some exes are weapons-grade problems.
3. *You’re not ready to be dad yet* – Parenting in 1 day vs 9 months prep is different.

Bad reasons:
1. *Ego: “I can’t raise another man’s seed”* – But you’ll raise a company another man founded. Pride, not principle.
2. *Slut-shaming* – “She had sex so she’s damaged.” Meanwhile you’ve had your own body count.

*5. Nuanced take: It’s about standards, not slogans*

*You can say “no” without the quote.*
“I’m not open to dating single moms because I want to experience fatherhood from day 1 with my own child, and I don’t want the complexity of an ex in our lives. I wish them well.”
That’s honest. No one can drag you.

“Men were created to start not join” sounds like you’re speaking for all men. You’re not. Plenty men married single moms and built great families. Odell Beckham Sr, Russell Wilson, even in Nigeria – many pastors, businessmen. Their legacy didn’t shrink.

*6. If you’re a single mom reading this:*
1. *Don’t hide the kid* – The right man won’t be scared. The wrong man would have left anyway. Hiding = starting with lies.
2. *Vet harder* – Any man who accepts your child has passed a huge character test. That’s rare. Don’t waste him.
3. *Your value isn’t “damaged”* – You’re a mom, not a charity case. You bring maturity, multi-tasking, loyalty. The man who sees that wins.

*7. If you’re a man deciding:*
Ask yourself 3 questions:
1. *Can I love the child like my own?* If no, don’t try. Kids know. You’ll damage them.
2. *Can I handle the ex being in our lives forever?* If no, don’t start.
3. *Am I saying no from wisdom or ego?* Wisdom is peaceful. Ego needs to announce it online.

*Bottom line:*
“Start not join” is a _preference_, not a commandment from heaven. You’re allowed to have it. But framing it as universal truth makes you look insecure, not alpha.

Marriage is already hard. Adding step-parenting makes it expert mode. If you’re not built for expert mode, stay at beginner level. No shame.

But don’t insult people who play the game on hard and win.

AfDapone:
Other pending court judgements will still be used to gun down the ADC, dey play. Why do you think he is called Gajavan? You forgot how they made Obi to win at Lagos guber and failed woefully at presidential election. It is call Jaga Electioneering.

Me kuku enjoying the dramas as they unfold.

God bless you

sadly though, they will come for your head

May 10 2026 for Register Submission
May 31st 202 for Party Primaries

and they still have the lower court to contend with.....

Bosman17:
lol… many Nigerians are just too simple minded… there is nothing to celebrate here, you can’t see through this APC gimmick? Lose a battle to win war? This is to douse tension. There are too many legal huddles for ADC. The best thing is to push for an extension of party register submission from May 30 to Sept 30… Use the window to form a party and migrate en masse.
The SC as asked ADC to go back to the high court, there is the case of state chairmen there..

Here we go with the picture

chicfarmer:
All speculation. There is absolutely no indication that they held talks to sign osimhen.

However, if we can pull it off I'll be over the moon 🌝🌝

Where are the nairaland Ai specialists? Abeg make pictures of Osimhen in Arsenal jersey and post here immediately make Chelsea fans get heart attack sharp sharp

Oga everyone knows how to use Chat-JIBITI or im other brodas

essentialone:
You just described a whole demographic that nobody wants to talk about because it makes everyone uncomfortable.

*“Involuntary single ladies”* — fine, educated, stable, ready… but still single. Not by choice. By market failure.

And you’re right: they’re everywhere. Hospitals, banks, law firms, tech companies, church choir, weddings. The complete package with an empty ring finger. And it’s not because “men are intimidated” or “their standards too high”. That’s lazy gist.

*Why it’s happening — the ugly truth about the dating market now*

1. *Too many options, zero filters*
Dating apps + Instagram + LinkedIn = everyone is accessible. So men keep “shopping”. Why commit to 1 great woman when 10 “maybes” are in his DM? He promises today, disappears tomorrow because tomorrow brought a new option. Women do it too, but men drive the ghosting stats.

2. *Serious men marry early, unserious men stay in circulation*
The guys ready for marriage at 28-32 lock down fast. Who’s left in the pool at 33+? Mostly: players, wounded men, perpetual “I’m not ready”, and broke men looking for a sponsor. So these solid women keep dating from a pool that’s already filtered for non-commitment.

3. *Timeline mismatch*
She’s 29-35, educated, stable. She wants kids + marriage in 2-3 years. She dates intentionally. The guy she meets is 35, “still finding himself”, “not under pressure”, wants to “see where it goes”. He can waste 2 years because his biological clock isn’t ticking. Hers is.

4. *She adjusted expectations, but the bar is on the floor*
These women already lowered standards: “Just be God-fearing, have work, and want family”. That’s bare minimum. Yet they still meet men who lie, cheat, can’t communicate, or want her to be mummy + girlfriend + ATM. So “adjusting” doesn’t help when the market is broken.

5. *Strong women get punished, not rewarded*
A doctor/nurse who paid her own bills, has her car, no drama, gets called “too independent” or “masculine”. Meanwhile, the high-maintenance, jobless babe gets chased because she “needs saving”. Some men don’t want a partner. They want a project. So the stable woman gets ignored.

6. *Women don’t approach, men don’t propose*
Culturally, she still can’t say “I like you, let’s date seriously”. She has to wait to be chosen. But the men choosing are unserious. So she’s stuck hoping the right one finds her in traffic.

*What happens to these women?*

You listed it:
*Some settle* – Marry the barely-available guy because “better than nothing”. Resentment later.
*Some give up* – “God when” turns to “God abeg”. Career, travel, cats, God.
*Some still hopeful but tired* – They’re dating but numb. Every new guy feels like another interview that will end in “we’ll see”.

And the worst part? *It’s not their fault.* They did everything “right”. School, career, character, prayer. But the market rewards vibes, not value.

*What the market isn’t saying out loud*

1. *Men are scared of responsibility, not strong women*
Marriage, kids, bills, in-laws — many men in Nigeria are running from that. So they date the stable woman, enjoy her peace, then run when she asks “what are we?” Because she represents adulthood.

2. *Attention is cheaper than commitment*
It costs a man ₦0 to say “you’re wife material” in DM. Costs ₦5M+ to actually marry her. So he distributes free compliments to 20 women and commits to none.

3. *Many women are involuntary single, many men are involuntary unserious*
He’s 38, still in situationships, telling people “good women don finish”. No, bro. You met 4 good women. You wasted 6 months each because you can’t choose.

*So what’s the way forward for these ladies?*

Because “just pray” isn’t a strategy.

1. *Stop dating in the general pool* – If every guy in your DM is 33+ and “not sure”, your pool is contaminated. Meet men through married friends, professional networks, places where commitment is pre-screened. Farmers market vs Night club.

2. *Time-box ruthlessly* – “I’m dating intentionally. In 3 months we should know if this is heading to marriage. If we don’t, I exit.” Say it early. Unserious men will flee. That’s the point.

3. *Stop adjusting, start requiring* – “God-fearing + has job” is not enough. Add: “Can plan a date, communicates daily, introduces me to friends in 2 months, talks about future without sweating”. If he can’t, next.

4. *Date younger if values align* – Many 28-32 year old men are more ready than 38 year olds. Age isn’t maturity. Stop capping yourself at “must be older”.

5. *Consider location arbitrage* – Harsh but true: Nigeria dating market is brutal. Some women find serious men when they relocate to other locations in Nigeria, or even to abroad. Different pond, different fish.

6. *Build life without waiting* – Buy the land, freeze eggs, travel, start business. So you choose marriage from abundance, not desperation. Men can smell desperation and they run.

*What men need to hear too*

If you’re a serious guy reading this: These women are not scarce. They’re just tired of auditioning for clowns. If you meet one and you’re ready:
1. *Say it early* – “I’m looking for a wife, not a vibe.”
2. *Move with clarity* – No “let’s see how it goes” for 1 year.
3. *Match her effort* – She’s stable. Don’t come with chaos.

Because right now, the best women are going single while the worst men stay in rotation. That’s how a society collapses.

*Bottom line:* The dating market don change, yes. Less clarity, less commitment, more options. But options without character = poverty.

These women aren’t “unlucky”. They’re in a rigged game. Solution isn’t “try harder”. Solution is “change the game or change the players”.

Law No. 15 in 48 Laws of Power

AceRoyal:
Seems Eye-NEC is a political arm of A-Pee-See.

The real question is why is the ruling party scared?

Dshocker:
When PDP was in power, they respected the rule of law, and gave every other political party the opportunity to operate freely, without interference.

APC is busy destroying political party opposition, through the help of Inec and the judiciary, while fueling chaos through funding to cause internal crisis in another party.

You and your wife are having arguments in the house over soup money and you are accusing your next door neighbour (who is also a man) of stealing your wife's attention and instigating her against you

as how now