₦airaland Forum

Worryingly:
Una matter just tire me for this country. Everything is about money and thats why crime is on the rise.

Its a shame how increasingly commercialised relationships have become in Nigeria. Yes, money matters. Financial hardship can create enormous pressure in a marriage, but the idea that if a marriage loses its spark, the man simply needs to make more money is a shallow diagnosis of a complex problem.
Money can pay rent, provide comfort and reduce stress, but it cannot automatically buy love, intimacy, respect, trust, loyalty, communication or sexual compatibility. Yet we are increasingly creating a culture where every relationship problem is treated as a financial problem. The marriage is struggling? Make more money. There is no intimacy? Make more money. Your partner is unhappy? Throw more money at it.

It's like how the Nigerian government throws a bag of rice at every problem.

This mentality allows people to avoid the difficult work of being better partners. Nobody examines their behaviour, communication, emotional availability, selfishness or contribution to the marriage.
The truth is, financial provision and relationship competence are not the same thing. A person can be an excellent provider and a terrible spouse. There are wealthy people in miserable marriages, just as there are couples with modest means who have genuine friendship, love and peace.
I am not romanticising poverty. Love cannot pay bills, feed children or solve financial irresponsibility. Money is important. But it should be a tool for building a better life together and not a substitute for effort, emotional maturity and genuine partnership.

We need to stop teaching people that becoming rich is the cheat code to a successful marriage. Make money, absolutely. But also learn how to communicate, show affection, resolve conflict, respect your partner and build together. Otherwise, we risk creating marriages and relationships that are financially comfortable but emotionally bankrupt.

You get sense. Men need to learn from you.

Is Odogwu Asaba even aware that he is married? I'm surprised someone is identifying as his wife. He once said in one of his videos:" the woman wey dey my house now, the first day she come visit me, we knack."

Imagine talking about your so called wife in such a disrespectful manner. But trust women to take shit from men in the name of marriage. A man that doesn't respect you don't deserve your loyalty.

Serves him right! Some guys are so arrogant and don't respect boundaries. A lady will visit a man and that makes him think he has the right to sleep with her. You will hear statements like: "we are all adults", "stop pretending like you don't know what I want", bla...bla...bla...

I'm sure he went to the UK with that mindset and look at the mess he's got himself into. Tbh, Nigeria is such a lawless country that people get away with lots of things. Let him rot in jail even if he just groped the woman and didn't go all the way with her. Next time, he will have common sense, and learn how to respect boundaries.

I don't like identical twins because their wahala is more than Nigeria's problem. They feel just because they are identical, people should treat them like royalty.

She left her line inactive, knowing full well it was linked to her bank account. What did she except from MThiefN?

lailo:
That means say na abnormal women full town wey men dey marry be that.

Then blame men for hooking up with abnormal women.

Take away sex from this world and some people won't survive for a day.

Olyver007:
Is everything ok at home?

Is everything okay with you?

AbosedeFalade:
If this is the same brain you do use to cross roads, my thoughts and prayers are with your loved ones in advance.

At least I still have some brain left to use. The question is, do you? 😏😏😏

lailo:
She can not stomach a disrespect from her daughter but will load her baby daddy with disrespect. Reason she ended back in the street as a single mother. She would never believe this day will come. The daughter had been watching her ridicule her own father and husband. Women will never think the children are watching how they treat their husband. The day of recorning will always come.

No normal woman will disrespect a good and responsible dad. You can't be a deadbeat and still demand to be respected.

frankblinkz:
Lolz.... Okay so now you realize that she has her father which you have all this years denied her fatherly Love.
She's tormenting you now and you feel it's the right time to allow her go and stay with her Dad, you can never be tired ma.


My own blocked me and took my daughter away from me since last year till now.
I recently went to my daughter's school which someone told me secretly where she was schooling, if you see the excitement on her face , she's 3 and still recognized me so much.


All this witches of a single mother, you will never know peace in your entire lives.

No normal woman will deny her baby's father access to her child if he is a responsible dad.

Samantha125:
No good mother would expose her minor daughter to be publicly dragged by social media bullies just to pass a message to the world about her ordeal, she could've just made a video explaining the entire ordeal without humiliating her child like other parents normally do.

One thing about the internet is that it never forgets.

This isn't her first video berating her daughter. I have watched a couple of her videos on Tik Tok and it appears that's what her content is centred around.

Zonefree:
Can you prove this? Just because he's loud does not mean he's into fraud.

I can't prove it, love, but I know it.

Thugger0147:
The way this lady go take dey kpansh after her release go mad gan ooh... I can't help but imagine. Lol

That's the only thing on your dirty mind.

Next in line to be exposed. A family man with kids acting like a teenage yahoo boy seeking for social media validation. They will do fraud, invest in real estate and start forming online billionaires.

That's nice, but don't disturb Nigerians for financial assistance in the event of a health challenge. I don't know why these actors feel so entitled to think that they deserve our assistance because they keep us entertained. Are they not working for their pockets?

Incase you didn't know... she was married for almost 60 years, didn't have any kids because she chose not to, but still lived a fulfilled life.

Why are men spoiling little girls and act as if it's nothing?

Girls are endangered species in this world. It takes the grace of God for a man not to sexually assault a vulnerable girl.

Nigerians are the dirtiest on the continent. Poor hygiene, dirty environment and poor sanitary practices when handling edibles.

Once, there was no light and I needed to blend beans urgently. I Located a grinding machine within the neighborhood. The plastic bowl the woman was going to use was very dirty. Imagine a black plastic bowl showing visibly signs of dirt.

I told her she couldn't use that bowl to grind my beans and insisted to use my food flask instead. She picked offence and refused to grind the beans. I walked away! Just because others haven't been complaining doesn't mean I should follow the crowd. How can you be dirty and still be arrogant about it?

You people should leave SM for now and mourn your father. How people grieve and still find time to come on SM is baffling.

Where I used to live, I didn't even know some of my neighbours. Abuja na waoh!

Eya...This woman is jobandvacancies great great grand ma.

This lady has different faces. She keeps confusing me.

Social media couple. When the attention fizzles out, the marriage will become boring.

Disgusting! Nigerians are crazy people. I'm sure if they were women, the sick men would take turns to rape them.

Was it not this woman that was sacked on corruption grounds?

Mumben:
This generation no longer has respect for elders, it is quite unfortunate. Even me, a married woman with children wouldn't even dare call Mr elumelu by his first name, I mean, the name would be too heavy in my mouth, how much more a girl that should still be in her early twenties.
I also expected her to apologize immediately she was corrected, but no, she carried on as if nothing happened. May God help us

Calling someone by their first name has nothing to do with marital status. Marriage does not make you superior.

Unless you are a strong willed woman, falling for someone like Shegz is very easy. Aside his good looks, he is also a smooth talker, the type that will convince you to empty your account balance for him. He will beat you in the morning, and at night, he will apologise with flowers.

He will manipulate you, emotionally blackmail you and gaslight you into believing that it's your fault that he hits you. As a woman, avoid men like Shegz if you don't want to see shege.

Marriage is not difficult, but Nigerian men are the ones making it difficult. Majority of them have a conditioned archaic mentality that they are superior, and women are meant to be under their authority regardless of their bad behaviours and philandering. Tbh, most women have bad marriages, but are just enduring.

anslemarinze52:
I think una jus de make this thing look like a big sin!! E de pain most of una say he de successful in the business. [b]Drug trafficking isn't a big sin na... It's not a big sin or crime compared to murder, rape, [/b]false accusations etc. so why una de make it look like a big deal when it's actually not!!!!

If only you know that drug traffickers are murderers as well, you won't be saying this.

Much ado over nothing! The girl called him by his first name, and he corrected her politely. The truth is, even though I am a 'first name' calling advocate, I was surprised she called him Tony given that they were in a professional environment.

I think she must have watched his previous interactions and heard people call him by his first name. So she thought it was okay to call him Tony.