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Fridud234:
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It is baffling to me that a form of “respect” that can directly subjugate one gender is still so tightly upheld and defended, particularly by men.


And honestly, it makes me wonder about something deeper: **does the average Nigerian man truly understand love as equality, partnership and mutual dignity?**



A culture existing for generations doesn't automatically make every aspect of it good, fair or necessary.

Don't sweat it. This practice of subjugating women is not a culture thing but a class thing. Men are very intentional when it comes to treating a woman right. And that is why some men value their side chicks over their wives because their side chicks appear more sophisticated than their wives.

That said, which man on earth will have the audacity to tell his wife who is a billionaire's daughter how to address her in laws? But they won't hesitate to read the riot act to their wives who is a nobody.

Honestly, I don't blame the men, but the women who condone such mistreatment. You should see how some women go the extra mile to defend a man for treating them badly. With such a mindset, many women will continue to be pawns in the hands of men. So, much of the blame should go to women too for being stupid.

It's a pity many women are struggling with low self esteem. In the meantime, let me just assume she's catching cruise and trying to drive traffic to her page.

nairalanda1:
It still shows that your original point was wrong. Better learn to accept when you are wrong.

Also, what's this fetish about white people being better or something with you? Humans are humans. Same thing in Nigeria happens oversease. It's because they got better money for law enforcement that crime appears low.

Better calm down. AM sure you will abuse me now.

White people are not better, but are more cultured. I don't look at colour or race, but the level of exposure and mentality. A typical black man's mentality is archaic no matter how educated they are. But you can't say the same about a typical white man.

nairalanda1:
Hoo boy, I was expecting a comment like this...

Bobbie Jo Stimment.

Reagan Simmons-Hancock

Marlen Ochoa-Lopez

Google those names, you are in for a very interesting ride. All from the US of A.

I am not in for any ride. The names you posted were victims of some sick women who killed them to steal their babies. There is nothing new about that.

Plus, out of the three women, one was said to have faked a pregnancy to convince her boyfriend that she was expecting a baby. Did you read anywhere that they lived together? Have you thought about the fact that he might have ended things with her, and she did that just to win him back?

Like I said, it is very unlikely in the Western world for a legally married woman to fake a pregnancy successfully, unless the man is slow or never interested in the woman.

kimjessey2019:
Her parents will be so mad. She obviously have a poor choice in men.

You just said it all. Unfortunately, most girls are on the same boat as her. I don't get how any girl with common sense will call that Hakeem guy her boyfriend.

Men no longer have shame or dignity. Imagine a married man doing sex video with a woman he isn't married to.

It is only in Africa, and especially in Nigeria that a woman can successfully pull off such a scam without the husband knowing. Why? Because African men are generally not supportive of their partners during pregnancy.

In the Western world, the husband must accompany her to run ultrasound scan, kiss and rub her belly often. With a man doing these, how will a woman fake her pregnancy?

ogelekpomgam:
I see people on this forum thinking that racism is not real.You will think its a chid's play when you are surrounded by your people in naija.
When you are in a different environment outside your country,surrounded by people outside your race..you will feel that coldness when this racism comes.No matter how you pretend..

See, I can even feel coldness in a simple email, but who cares? There's no denying the fact that racism exists, but the question is, what have you done about the tribalism going on in your country?

Blacks are so quick to scream racism, but can't fix the tribalism going on in their countries. If you can't withstand the heat, please leave the kitchen. Life is not that hard.

EmekaBlue:
Some men like to keep it that way. Not a thing for me also... Just normal low beards i prefer

It looks normal until you see them eating. Men should learn to groom their beards. Beards look better when groomed.

What's with the bushy beards? He even has earrings on. He is not a horseband material.

Weak men everywhere. I guess he was struggling with low self esteem, and thought he's had enough.

AbosedeFalade:
[b]Is this how you talk to your betters offline? [/b]If yes, that's the genesis of your problems.

Yes, since they have refused to buy common sense like you.

Flakky26:
Praise God .... she has been found. she was abducted from Abuja to Niger state for her kidney to be harvested but she miraculousy escaped. Praise God. thank God for your prayers

That's good to hear. If you know her personally, perhaps you should give us the full details of how she escaped.

AbosedeFalade:
It's said that she's been found alive. That's good.

At this point, I must agree with the men who prophesied that she had gone to collect and would be "found" after having enough of the collection.

Just shut up.

Oludiary:
I already stayed back home but the police has been urging me to go back.
Now I have been invited tomorrow

The police cannot decide for you. File a counter accusation that your life is being threatened, and let's see how it goes.

Some people can't think of anything in this life aside sex. God didn't create sex so you can enjoy it, but for you to procreate. No wonder sexual crimes are on the rise because people see sex as enjoyment.

pocohantas:
She never open eye that time, so Mr Obasi was a balling guy to her and her family __a business tycoon. I won't be surprised to find out he trained her in school.

Lol...From what I heard, you are right. I heard he did a lot for her, and she saw him as her shining armour then. But time passed, so did her taste. I can't really blame her.

Sleekfingers:
I have sued and won two cases. I was compensated . But not the amount requested.
But at least I show them pepper.
I am currently working on suing my tenant for damaging and changing part of the structure without any notification.
By the time I am through with him , him body go tell am.

Those two cases must have dragged on for years.

allanphash7:
What's the meaning of the rubbish ads on NL lately Seun

Do something improving about this now


It's getting irritating day by day

If it's getting irritating, then jump and pass. You can't tell someone how to run his forum. He is making money from these adverts, and you want him to stop because it's irritating to you? The audacity!

Judy's ex husband is a clout chaser, and a very local man. Now that Judy is more refined and with a more refined man, she must be cringing with disgust for getting involved with such a man. No wonder she worships the ground that Yul walks on.

Gotocourt:
Yul Edochie put himself in this mess, must you marry her after impregnation .

If you won't marry her, then don't impregnant her.

Has anyone ever sued someone in Nigeria and won?

Na wao! I hope she is found asap.

billsilverman:
He was paraded before the whole church, Beaten and his mother disgraced. Yes, he has been convicted and jailed

Convicted and jailed within how much space of time?

OP, say no more. Some of these men of God are demons in disguise.

Perhaps the problem has to do with the colonial masters. We would have fared better if the US had colonised us.

The man doesn't look like he's had it smooth in life. With all that Psquare have, it's a pity they have a brother that may be struggling financially.

Badadvisor:
Would you let your son marry an igbo lady 9 years older than him at the peak of his career. Abeg make we hear word

If the lady is posh, exposed and educated as Lola, then why not? His twin that married a younger woman, where are they today?

Pikin wey Northern girls dey born like chicken, e reach Toke turn, she turn am to achievement.

I can bet on it that she loves her baby's complexion more than the baby. Despite years of trying too hard to stay relevant, it's a pity she still struggles with low self esteem.

Kajaard:
A married woman should not keep single female friends. They will poison your mind amd make you leave your marriage. A lot of them are not happy seeing you married.

Imagine being married and having a single female friend like kobo.junkie, that means your marriage don finish be that. Be warned.

No problem as long as they don't seek assistance from their single friends when in need.