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Health / Re: Doctors And Pharmacists Come Lets Talk About This Now by Westniggur(m): 9:43am On Jul 02, 2020
You have a point but in advance communities, there is a way those documents can be linked to other healthcare sectors.
It could be in form of an online documentation, a hand card carrying relevant information for the patient to present anything he/she is going to the pharmacy or any hospital
ChybuzzDD:


Concerning your last paragraph, even if the child already has a well documented file in the hospital, wouldn't he have still developed the same problem by going to the pharmacy to buy drugs?
Were the parents, knowing fully his history of reaction to drugs, supposed to take him to the pharmacy instead of the hospital?
Are pharmacist meant to have patients' records in their shops?
There's parental irresponsibility in this case, and that happens every day in Nigeria.
That child has no business in the pharmacy whenever he's sick.
The normal thing would be to take him to the same hospital that has his records or any other hospital that will be able to access his past medication information from the previous hospital or from the parents, whenever he's sick.


Health / Re: Doctors And Pharmacists Come Lets Talk About This Now by Westniggur(m): 7:46pm On Jul 01, 2020
I copied it from the link thats shy.
KelvinCoaster:
...must we continue reading from the link?
Why not drop your complete submission here?
Romance / Re: Important Reasons Why Guys Leave "Good Girls" by Westniggur(m): 6:05pm On Jul 01, 2020
MrBrownJay1 bro, you are on a long thing honestly. Am not being abusive but the way u talk is making me think you have not experienced anything
you talking movie not real Life
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"respect in certain circumstance"... what the hell are you talking about?! a good woman will ALWAYS respect her man (whether up or down), thats why she is a good woman... if a woman suddenly loses respect for you because you dont have any money any longer (or whatever) then that woman was NEVER a good woman and you only played yourself being with some two bit pay as you go olosho!
Health / Re: Doctors And Pharmacists Come Lets Talk About This Now by Westniggur(m): 5:53pm On Jul 01, 2020
Am glad you have seen that
flyingpig:
There is no synergy in health sector in Nigeria
Romance / Re: Important Reasons Why Guys Leave "Good Girls" by Westniggur(m): 5:51pm On Jul 01, 2020
Respect was not generalized. A woman can be respectful generally but when it comes to some certain areas its either 50% or zero.

Its like writing Jamb, you wrote 4 courses and got a total of 40/50.
Individually u did well in three courses but bad in 1 course but at the end u still passed.

Understand MrbrownJay1
Romance / Re: Important Reasons Why Guys Leave "Good Girls" by Westniggur(m): 5:48pm On Jul 01, 2020
Oga read the message very well again. U are missing everything. You will see where it is written "Respect in certain circumstance" understand very well before u raise any argument please.
MrBrownJay1:


bro let me help you on this issue..
A) a disrespectful woman can NEVER be viewed as a good woman (the fact that you would even bring up respect is funny)... how can a disrespectful woman be viewed as a good woman... to be a GOOD woman you need to respect your partner, duh! what you wrote is like saying: if you dont have a penis you cant be a man, lol!
B) issue of competition in marriage is for men with misplaced ego.. its all about understanding that you guys both work for the wellbeing of the family. if wifey has the means to provide more than the husband then so be it.... married people shouldnt suddenly suffer and live a miserable life simply because husband cant provide as much as wifey does. sadly, deluded men with misplaced ego will automatically see a more successful wife as a "competing" wife because she brings more to the table than him.
Health / Doctors And Pharmacists Come Lets Talk About This Now by Westniggur(m): 5:44pm On Jul 01, 2020
Afrohits
HEALTH
HEALTHNews
The ‘Care’ part of healthcare in Nigeria’s Healthcare system is missing.
June 13, 2020072

Just so you know and understand that I did not just come up with this conclusion, I did my research. Let me start by saying some few things;


Patients go to the hospital when it is practically too late. Most times, they go to the hospital when their health conditions have reached a point of no return. At this point, there is nothing the healthcare professional/facility can actually do for them than to manage their present health condition until God finally calls them home.


This actually means that, there are some illnesses that are actually present in our bodies that we don’t know about and for us to help ourselves, we need to undergo certain tests and checkups. The liver for example is the largest internal organ in the body and it can still be functioning even after 70% of it function is gone. Until when it gets to 80% sometimes before the patient will start experiencing signs and symptoms of Liver failure.
What am trying to say here is that, there should be a system to constantly remind individuals on the importance of comprehensive medical checkups which is very important.

Now, Money is actually a limiting factor to some individuals but I got to understand that with constant counseling on the importance of the medical checkups most patients source the money to do this tests. This comprehensive medical tests are many but individuals can undergo them base on their financial capabilities and can even go as low as doing this tests one after the other.


I was in a pharmacy one day, when a young boy came complaining of mild headache and tiredness. He was given a drug to take and few hours later, the boy was rushed back to the pharmacy with some things on his body like skin eruptions. The pharmacist said he was suffering from hypersensitivity reaction. I was made to understand that the child has inherited the problem from his parents but my question was that, is there no way the medical facility will have that information saved somewhere in order to prevent the occurrence of such in the first place? and also a means in which other healthcare facilities could also have access to that information about the boy so that whenever he goes other healthcare centers, he won’t have to worry about anything anymore. If there was a system to have all our records in check, I am very sure what happened to that boy would not have happened

Continue Reading: https://afrohits.com.ng/the-care-part-of-healthcare-in-nigerias-healthcare-system-is-missing/
Romance / Re: Important Reasons Why Guys Leave "Good Girls" by Westniggur(m): 5:21pm On Jul 01, 2020
Irrespective of all this conditions bro if this three things are not in place it will mever work out.

Even if you are in the right place at the right time it doesn't matter. Both parties have to work together to make things work out
MrBrownJay1:
...unless that babe was GOOD FOR/TO HIM and vice versa, you cant expect ALL men to have a lasting r/ship with ALL good women...thats silly!

many good people dont get together simply because:
- the time aint right
- their life isnt in the right place (at that moment)
- their families
- the charlatan in robe they follow-follow every sunday
- the environment/society they live in
Romance / Important Reasons Why Guys Leave "Good Girls" by Westniggur(m): 4:16pm On Jul 01, 2020
Afrohits
ENTERTAINMENT
ENTERTAINMENTGists
Important Reasons Why Guys Leave “Good Girls”
July 1, 202004




Important Reasons Why guys Leave “Good girls”
We have all wondered why most times guys always tend to leave good girls for other girls despite how good they are.
We have taken a good look into it and we have found out three (3) reasons why guys leave innocent good girls.

[/b]1. Respect[b]

If there is anything a man loves from his woman then that will be respect. Every man wants his woman to respect him in every circumstance, in his weakness and greatness. A woman is a key to her man’s greatness and every lady out day needs to understand how serious this is. No matter how good and beautiful you are, once you can not respect your man then he can never build a life with you.

[/b]2. Competition[b]

Your relationship must have been competitive. A man must never compete with a woman for who will be in charge in a relationship as it will make him feel less of a man. This should be kept in mind as it is very important.
This does not mean that the man should take 100 percent control of the relationship as it will seem not fair to both lovers. A good and successful relationship has mutual understanding where both parties have control in certain areas. If this level can not be attained, then there will always be competition and by the end of the day the relationship dies.


[/b]3. Pressure[b]

Continue Reading: https://afrohits.com.ng/important-reasons-why-guys-leave-good-girls/
Romance / Re: 6 Types Of Girls That Guys Run Away From Every Time by Westniggur(m): 7:07am On Jun 29, 2020
Really true, I will add this to the write up. Thanks
Oluromantic Ipost=91183879:
The emotional manipulator

When you stand ur ground or remain unbothered over a commonsensical decision, she'll start shedding tears or walk out on you threatening to leave for her daddy or her friends house to make you feel bad or look wicked.

The marriage Desperado

These ones usually don't agree they're desperate, but the pressure on them for marriage will make them unusually nice or unusually stubborn only to show up their real character after traditional wedding.
Romance / Re: 6 Types Of Girls That Guys Run Away From Every Time by Westniggur(m): 7:06am On Jun 29, 2020
Laugh want kill me aswear
Oluromantic:
The emotional manipulator

When you stand ur ground or remain unbothered over a commonsensical decision, she'll start shedding tears or walk out on you threatening to leave for her daddy or her friends house to make you feel bad or look wicked.

The marriage Desperado

These ones usually don't agree they're desperate, but the pressure on them for marriage will make them unusually nice or unusually stubborn only to show up their real character after traditional wedding.
Romance / Re: 6 Types Of Girls That Guys Run Away From Every Time by Westniggur(m): 7:05am On Jun 29, 2020
True talk my brother
cbrezy:
Naija girls are the worst when ever you asked one out she'll start having financial problem undecided

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Romance / 6 Types Of Girls That Guys Run Away From Every Time by Westniggur(m): 1:02am On Jun 29, 2020
1. The Controller

A typical ''Bubble Buster' always seeks control of the relationship by putting her partner where he is meant to be.... every single time
She sees herself as a problem solver but sometimes she has good intentions, always telling her partner his way of doing things is the wrong way. This is not so noble as it is and it is most times very annoying.
You are undermining his thoughts by trying to control him. You are successfully making him feel less of man.

2. The Slay Queen

The Slay Queens do not really care about Love, but instead worry about being adored and worshipped. The girls that sees themselves as slay queens always want to marry a man who will see them as a trophy. A man who will worship and adore them but at the end, they end up depriving themselves of love and connection in their relationship as their relationship is basically for show off.

3. The Accountant:

This type of ladies focus more on equality in a relationship. They keep account on who pays the bills where, when and how, how much their partners earns, and so on. The issue here is that relationship is not a business, it needs to be enjoyable despite there are trying times but still intimacy will fall apart and Love will disappear if it is seen as a business.

4. The Princess in Distress

The principle here is very simple; Boy meets girl, boy sees girl in need or in trouble, boy rescues girl, boy and girl both fall in love and live happily ever after.
The problem here is that a princess can not always be in distress and a man can not always be there to save her. it become too tiring and sometimes unrealistic.


Continue Reading

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Family / Sex Education For Children by Westniggur(m): 11:26pm On Jun 20, 2020
Dear oldsters (Parents), because of increase of youngsters (kids) we tend to beg that our kids ought to be educated and enlightened from home and it’ll be concretize in class.
Our children ar dying in silence and experiencing emotional trauma

Children’s substance : Follow-up orient statutory offense
——————————
kindly raise your youngsters these queries queries

1. Mention the 2 varieties of body components.

Answer: � Public components & genitals.

2. What ar genitals

Answer: �Your personal body components. ( Your own) That nobody ought to bit, look into or play with.

3. What components of the body structure every ?
Answer: � Boys: member, scrotum, anus, lap, buttocks….lips
Girls : canal, breast, lap, buttocks, anus..lips

4. Mention the 2 varieties of touches.

Answer: �Good bit & dangerous bit

5. what’s a decent touch?

Answer: � barely on any of the general public components.

6. what’s a foul touch?

Answer: �A bit on any of the genitals (or areas around them)

Continue reading;
https://afrohits.com.ng/sex-education-for-children/
Romance / Sex Education For Children by Westniggur(m): 11:21pm On Jun 20, 2020
Dear oldsters (Parents), because of increase of youngsters (kids) we tend to beg that our kids ought to be educated and enlightened from home and it’ll be concretize in class.
Our children ar dying in silence and experiencing emotional trauma

Children’s substance : Follow-up orient statutory offense
——————————
kindly raise your youngsters these queries queries

1. Mention the 2 varieties of body components.

Answer: � Public components & genitals.

2. What ar genitals

Answer: �Your personal body components. ( Your own) That nobody ought to bit, look into or play with.

3. What components of the body structure every ?
Answer: � Boys: member, scrotum, anus, lap, buttocks….lips
Girls : canal, breast, lap, buttocks, anus..lips

4. Mention the 2 varieties of touches.

Answer: �Good bit & dangerous bit

5. what’s a decent touch?

Answer: � barely on any of the general public components.

6. what’s a foul touch?

Answer: �A bit on any of the genitals (or areas around them)

Continue reading;
https://afrohits.com.ng/sex-education-for-children/

Religion / When You Are Distressed, Where Do You Go To? by Westniggur(m): 4:42pm On Jun 18, 2020
I want to use my personal story here to encourage someone to run to God, church when in distress.

Last year on the 8th of January, right in front of my house, my new phone was stolen, it was given to me as a gift on my birthday, November the previous year, barely 2 months. I did not cry, infact I was not emotional about it, though I was greatly hurt. My mum and siblings were surprised at my composure and calmness....

The following month, February, the serious relationship I was into for over a year came to an end. I thought I was going to to run mad, I cried day and night, I fell sick times without number. I was hurt beyond what words can express.

The following month, March, I saved up and bought another phone, the following month April, just after our yearly Easter Retreat, I went to school to write my semester exam, while in the exam hall this new phone was stolen again. I shed a few tears in school and came back home from Kaduna. . When I got home guess the first thing I did.

I went on my knees and said "I love you Jesus; I know that the devil is just trying to use all this to make it look as though you don't love me, but I know that you do love me and I love you too". I stood up and called a friend who came and drove me to an eatery and bought me shawarma and that was the end of that pain. Lol, you won't understand.

Then my kid sister wrote her jamb exam, she prepared for it but then when JAMB results were released, hers was withheld. It was another pain in my heart cause I love my kid sister as though we share same life. On Sunday, I went to church and cried and cried until my eyes were swollen, I cried out my heart to God to save her from pain. That too passed.

May 2019, same year, I got a Job with a pharmaceutical company as a Sales Rep. And even before I was paid my first salary, I got a new phone. The following month the new phone crashed, it went off and refused to come up, I called CarlCare and handed over the phone to them. I was back to square zero again. Then the company I was working for, experienced some hitches and as a result crashed.

The day I got the news that the company had crashed, my phone was brought back to me. I was suddenly filled with fears, thought of what to do next. Although I had been paid a good amount twice. I was broken this time, broken beyond words, but i kept calm. Nobody knew my job had come to an end.

Continue reading;
Source: http://afrohits.com.ng/when-you-are-dis%E2%80%A6ere-do-you-go-to/

Romance / Hoe Stories Trending On Whatsapp Tv's (pictures) by Westniggur(m): 10:48pm On Jun 17, 2020
There is a latest trend on social media TV's. This particular one is called @Uniilorinhoestories

Lately most TV's on Whatsapp particularly have been posting hoe stories of different individuals randomly from different locality in Nigeria. They talk about everything about romance and sex and it seems most young individuals are actually enjoying every bit of the this trend on social media.

Below are some of the images.


Continue viewing the rest of the image from the source: http://afrohits.com.ng/hoe-stories-tren…-on-whatsapp-tvs/ ‎

Health / Re: The 'care' Part Of Healthcare In Nigeria's Healthcare System Is Missing by Westniggur(m): 5:49am On Jun 14, 2020
Well spoken. Everything you have said is true. Thanks for a good contribution. The responsibility should be stretched across.
TONYE001:
People often refer to teaching hospitals as "burial grounds" (forgotten the exact term I heard). They often say most patients admitted by teaching hospitals end up dying.

One time, I told a guy I was discussing with that there's little or nothing healthcare workers can do when a patient presents too late. I mean, what magic can be done in a patient with widespread metastasis, for example?

Thing is, most Nigerians (Africans?) are careless about their health. A lot of people would rather patronize the pharmacist instead of seeing a doctor. There are PREGNANT women that would walk up to a drugstore and buy any OTC they like.

Recently, a certain man I know was told by a lab scientist (certainly a quack) that his insomnia was because his prostate is enlarged. The scientist asked for N7000 for a test to confirm this diagnosis.

I think the first thing to look at is our orientation. This is where the government, community health workers, educated family members, school teachers and pastors have a lot to do. We need to improve on our orientation. People should be taught the normal pathway to accessing healthcare. People should be taught how to make the doctor the first point of call (primary health centres) and not the nurses, pharmacists, labscientists, etc. Nigerians must be taught how to seek REGULAR medical checkups. This is even cheaper, if you look at it deeply.

The next thing is our healthcare system. This needs a complete overhauling. We trully lack facilities and manpower. It's almost becoming chaotic in our hospitals (the regular DOCTOR-JOHESU fights, etc). Government must decide to come up with long-lasting solutions to incessant strikes. The salaries of healthcare workers (doctors, nurses, pharmacists, etc) should be reviewed.

We are just careless in this part of the world. Sometimes, the things I see leave me shocked! Many of us only use our seat belts when we see policemen/Road Safety officers on the road. Recently, I was in a bus. Most of the occupants had their face masks but they didn't put it on. As we approached a police checkpoint, everybody got his/her mask and wore it. Imagine!

OP, your submission is true but I think the blame should stretch across both sides of the divide. Why we are quick to point our fingers at the government when bad things happen, we should understand that a certain degree of responsibility is expected of the citizens.

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Health / Re: The 'care' Part Of Healthcare In Nigeria's Healthcare System Is Missing by Westniggur(m): 2:23pm On Jun 13, 2020
Your point is reasonable and clear but my point is; what if all this things you have said are not in proper place, who will make sure of it? The community health workers have failed to do their Job and the individual doesn't have access to all this vital informations. I think maybe you need to travel round and see what am talking about.
ChybuzzDD:


The individual, family(nuclear, extended), community, friends, peer groups, religious leaders, community health workers, schools, hospitals(only when patient has made himself available after being properly directed by any of the previous groups).

Health / Re: The 'care' Part Of Healthcare In Nigeria's Healthcare System Is Missing by Westniggur(m): 12:34pm On Jun 13, 2020
You need to understand that is not all illnesses that a patient will go to the hospital.
ChybuzzDD:


It's not only about the system, but the citizens' level of enlightenment and health-seeking behaviour need to improve too.

As the OP rightly noted, Nigerian patients only go to the hospitals when there conditions have already become irredeemable, compared to their counterparts abroad.
That's not the fault of the healthcare system.
The boy in the write up, for instance, has no business going to the pharmacy as his first point of call when his condition hasn't been properly diagnosed and documented.
Even abroad, there's no way that pharmacy would have access to his medical records.
The health seeking behaviour in Nigeria is very poor, and I think poverty and ignorance contribute majorly to that.
All in all, both the citizens and the system are to share the blames equally when it comes to the very poor health indices in Nigeria.
Health / Re: The 'care' Part Of Healthcare In Nigeria's Healthcare System Is Missing by Westniggur(m): 12:28pm On Jun 13, 2020
Who will enlighten the citizens?
ChybuzzDD:


It's not only about the system, but the citizens' level of enlightenment and health-seeking behaviour need to improve too.

As the OP rightly noted, Nigerian patients only go to the hospitals when there conditions have already become irredeemable, compared to their counterparts abroad.
That's not the fault of the healthcare system.
The boy in the write up, for instance, has no business going to the pharmacy as his first point of call when his condition hasn't been properly diagnosed and documented.
Even abroad, there's no way that pharmacy would have access to his medical records.
The health seeking behaviour in Nigeria is very poor, and I think poverty and ignorance contribute majorly to that.
All in all, both the citizens and the system are to share the blames equally when it comes to the very poor health indices in Nigeria.
Health / Re: The 'care' Part Of Healthcare In Nigeria's Healthcare System Is Missing by Westniggur(m): 12:27pm On Jun 13, 2020
Who will enlighten the citizens?
Mrkcee:

Exactly, I totally agree!
Health / Re: The 'care' Part Of Healthcare In Nigeria's Healthcare System Is Missing by Westniggur(m): 11:10am On Jun 13, 2020
Thanks
Mrkcee:

Exactly, I totally agree!
Health / Re: The 'care' Part Of Healthcare In Nigeria's Healthcare System Is Missing by Westniggur(m): 10:43am On Jun 13, 2020
Honestly
Health / The 'care' Part Of Healthcare In Nigeria's Healthcare System Is Missing by Westniggur(m): 10:36am On Jun 13, 2020
Just so you know and understand that I did not just come up with this conclusion, I did my research. Let me start by saying some few things;


Patients go to the hospital when it is practically too late. Most times, they go to the hospital when their health conditions have reached a point of no return. At this point, there is nothing the healthcare professional/facility can actually do for them than to manage their present health condition until God finally calls them home.


This actually means that, there are some illnesses that are actually present in our bodies that we don’t know about and for us to help ourselves, we need to undergo certain tests and checkups. The liver for example is the largest internal organ in the body and it can still be functioning even after 70% of it function is gone. Until when it gets to 80% sometimes before the patient will start experiencing signs and symptoms of Liver failure.
What am trying to say here is that, there should be a system to constantly remind individuals on the importance of comprehensive medical checkups which is very important.


Now, Money is actually a limiting factor to some individuals but I got to understand that with constant counseling on the importance of the medical checkups most patients source the money to do this tests. This comprehensive medical tests are many but individuals can undergo them base on their financial capabilities and can even go as low as doing this tests one after the other.


I was in a pharmacy one day, when a young boy came complaining of mild headache and tiredness. He was given a drug to take and few hours later, the boy was rushed back to the pharmacy with some things on his body like skin eruptions. The pharmacist said he was suffering from hypersensitivity reaction. I was made to understand that the child has inherited the problem from his parents but my question was that, is there no way the medical facility will have that information saved somewhere in order to prevent the occurrence of such in the first place? and also a means in which other healthcare facilities could also have access to that information about the boy so that whenever he goes other healthcare centers, he won’t have to worry about anything anymore. If there was a system to have all our records in check, I am very sure what happened to that boy would not have happened.

Continue reading from the source:

https://afrohits.com.ng/the-care-part-of-healthcare-in-nigerias-healthcare-system-is-missing/

Music/Radio / Re: Upcoming Artistes. . . .discuss Here by Westniggur(m): 12:07am On Jun 01, 2020
The name is westside and am new on board.
Just dropped an EP and would like ya'll to listen and give me feed back. Thank you

http://afrohits.com.ng/music-all-for-love-the-ep/

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Romance / Re: Sister, There Is An Ideal Brother For You. (great Minds Only) by Westniggur(m): 6:18am On May 29, 2020
Walahi ��
Naija246:
Make una dey there dey wait for prince charming grin
Alot of you women will enter menopause single undecided
Romance / Re: Sister, There Is An Ideal Brother For You. (great Minds Only) by Westniggur(m): 10:16pm On May 28, 2020
Thank you
Romance / Sister, There Is An Ideal Brother For You. (great Minds Only) by Westniggur(m): 9:51pm On May 28, 2020
AUNTY, THERE IS AN IDEAL UNCLE FOR YOU.

For a young aunty looking to settle down the challenge is usually in choosing the ideal uncle from the barrage of men trying to get your attention. Since it is almost impossible to know for sure what a person’s true intentions are, it becomes a daunting task to sift through the list of seemingly qualified bachelors to choose a sincere one to spend the rest of your life with.
It is possible that a good number of them may appear suitable for marriage, great care must be taken to ensure that you do not fall prey to the many dating fraudsters out there masquerading as potential husbands.
There are three categories of bachelors out there today, these are,

�Those who come to pay, get what they want and go..
�Those who come to play, get what they want and go and finally..
�Those who stay because they have gotten what they want.

In preparing to make a choice, you have to be clear on what you want, do you want a paymaster, a boyfriend or a husband? you will definitely either get paid, get played or get hitched, one of the three must happen.
The most difficult thing is to differentiate between the three because their approach is almost deceptively identical. However with a little concentration & the ability to discern, you may be able to differentiate one from another.

The one who comes to pay is very easy to detect, for him it is business as usual, he lays his cards on the table and is not afraid to say what he wants. The challenge is differentiating the one who wants to play and the one who wants to stay. They have almost the same approach, initially overly nice and appears genuinely interested. However, one of the things that differentiates them is patience.
The one who wants to play is usually impatient to sleep with his target and move on to the next, all his long sweet talk, excessive show of affection and scheming revolves around one thing only, Sex, and once he gets it, he starts planning his exit strategy, this may take a few weeks or even a couple of months depending on the man.

On the other hand, the one who comes to stay is in no hurry, he is willing to stretch it because he believes it will be his own one day and therefore does not see the need to rush. One other thing you have to look out for is the direction of his discussions with you. Pay attention to whatever the uncle will be saying. Pay attention to his actions.

The ones who come to play discusses superficial things with no real substance, most times making promises that are bogus and unrealistic, he promises you the world when he cannot even afford to offer you his time or full attention. It is easy for one to get tricked in his very advanced mind games, if he finds out you are desperate to get married, he may throw in a fake marriage proposal to further convince you he is real. A ring or a fake commitment to oppose other serious suitors.

The one who wants to stay discusses long term plans with you, he doesn’t want to be involved in your social vices, they are sometimes not your spec. He’s more interested in your future, takes pleasure in discussing your career and your family, those in this category are usually serious minded, dull and uninteresting, making them attractive only to the serious minded women.
Now, an immature and inexperienced auntie will go with the one who comes to play, they are usually more exciting and fun to be with but this is usually very short-lived. Men in this category lack the ability to remain in a long term relationship for longer that 4-5 circles of clubbing and partying.

Most Aunties get stuck here, they get carried away with glitz and glamour and spend months trying to make him stay, desperately attempting to change someone whose intentions was not to stay. This is like fitting a square peg in a round hole. Even when you succeed and get them to settle down, it becomes even more difficult to get them to stay committed. They are so inconsistent with you.
It is important you make up your mind on what you want out of a relationship from the beginning, it will help you choose wisely. If it is money you want, don’t complicate matters by making it look like a proper relationship, you will confuse the man and yourself as well and you will probably end up having neither the relationship nor the money. If you want the fun boyfriend, partying clubbing and the good life, these are easy to identify and shouldn’t be a problem since most guys these days fall into this category.
When you decide to settle down, you must avoid the first two categories of men. Focus on the serious minded man who comes to stay and not to play or pay. Their packaging may not appeal to you, their lifestyle may be too dull for you, always remember that the criteria for choosing a boyfriend and a husband are completely different, not all boyfriends will make good husbands and not all husbands were good boyfriends.
In making a choice, consider your happiness and peace of mind over wealth, while wealth cannot guarantee happiness, a peaceful and happy heart will ensure a long and fulfilled life.
I pray you understand my point.

#DREALZ
#39SPIRITS
#IAMZAZIKARISHIMA’SISHA-BIGCARE

Source: https://afrohits.com.ng/sister-there-is-an-ideal-brother-for-you/

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Career / Re: I Struggled With Being A Musician And Becoming A Pharmacist In The University. by Westniggur(m): 6:42am On May 27, 2020
Thanks man
@Trollkiller
Career / Re: I Struggled With Being A Musician And Becoming A Pharmacist In The University. by Westniggur(m): 12:03am On May 27, 2020
Very true
FlordFlorez:
Case of one stone to kill two birds.
Career / I Struggled With Being A Musician And Becoming A Pharmacist In The University. by Westniggur(m): 11:47pm On May 26, 2020
By Westside

Ever since my secondary school days, I have always been a lover of music. Not just any kind of music but good music.

Back in those days, my number one mentor was Michael Jackson. I knew every song, every dance moves and you won’t believe that I could actually do most of those dance moves. I grew up listening and imitating that man. I went as far robbing white powder on my face just to look white like him. After a short time, I fell in love with Tupac Shakur, the popular black American rapper. The rap vibe was awesome and I was beginning to become more into music. At that very young age, I began to write my own songs, dance and also imitate other top artist in Nigerian music industry and abroad.
Now, it was time to say good bye to secondary school and that was the period in my life when I had to select what I would like to study in the university.
Finally, I wrote Jamb and was giving provisional admission into Ahmadu Bello University Zaria, Kaduna State to study Pharmacy.

I was just in 100 level when I continued my music carrier forgetting the fact that I was a pharmacy student too. Doing music in school was so cool, seeing that other boys and girls like me actually love doing music was encouraging. Going for music shows, parties and so on. That was a feeling that anyone in my position would pray never to go away.

I failed to understand that in the university, it is about knowing thyself. I failed to understand that I was suppose to look for a balance between my music and my carrier so as not to end up leaving pharmacy school. But what do I know, I was just a young boy trying to have fun and be a pharmacist at the same time. How difficult could that be?

My first semester results came out and my result was barely on average. When almost everyone was scoring very good grades, I found myself swinging on average. I took a step back and asked myself a question; how can I balance this whole thing together? how can I study pharmacy and still be a musician. Damn, that was a very hard question. The difficult part was that I could not even think of telling my parents because I knew they won’t be in support of that. Another problem then was that; there was no any course in school that would encourage or teach you how to do this things. Despite the fact that there were others that do music together with their various carriers like me, it was difficult to see someone who could guide and put me through the whole procedure.

Despite my average grades in school, I couldn’t stop doing my music. Infact, I went for shows and still went back home to study my books. Tired from the stress of shows and parties and most times there were tests to write the next day. Those were really difficult moments for me but at the same time, I could not stop doing both. I struggled and struggled, failed so many test, failed so many exams but still couldn’t stop doing my music.I was now in 400 level and my grade point (GP) was not looking good as I was suppose to maintain a Cummulative grade point average (CGPA) of 2.4 in order to reamain in Pharmacy school. Do you want to know what my CGPA was at that time? I guess not.
I finally made a choice. Yes, you heard me right. I finally decided what I was going to do in other not to let my music and pharmacy carrier go down the drain. At 400 level, I was grown and I definitely had quiet moments to think of my future. With everything going on, I got to realize that my music carrier could actually wait. I got to understand that I could actually become a Pharmacist and continue my music carrier later.

I finally gave my studies all the attention it needed and in no time I found my GP (grad point) going up. I was happy that I didn’t make this choice when it was already too late and that was a blessing to be thankful for. So, my music was on hold and my pharmacy carrier was fully activated. I thrived and graduated from the school of pharmacy, though I added an extra semester but I didn’t see that as a problem. I love every bit of my profession and as days went by I got to understand more and more of the profession.

I got to understand that there were actually people that did both and never had any problem. My friend Muktar Pakama, poplularly known as EMKAY is one of the best dancers of my time. He did school and his dancing carrier and never had any issues.

All am trying to say is that everything balls down to understanding and knowing thyself. Once you find yourself in that circumstance, take a step back and think. So many people fail to understand that knowing thyself is very important in some important decision making. I have seen many that made their choices at the wrong time and I have also seen some that did not make any choice at all.

Presently, I am a pharmacist and an artist too. I have time for my profession and still have time to do my music. At this point, it is even better and sweeter for me.
Share this message to someone that needs it. I believe there a many people out there in their various schools thinking on how to make that important decision. Help someone before it’s too late.

You can listen to some of my songs below;

http://afrohits.com.ng/music-all-for-love-the-ep/(opens in a new tab)

Please, you guys can comment here after to listen to all the songs above.. Thank you

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