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Romance / Re: Sex With My Wife Is Very Very Boring, I Need Help by Whiteheartbit(m): 8:07am On Jun 09, 2022 |
opeyy: @opeyy thanks your contribution make sense, I'm also seeing things in a different perspective now - educating. @opeyy I've asked her questions on things I'm not doing right and shown her my willingness to improve and make it right and be a better man for her and father to the home yet she says I'm doing things right. But you comment just stroke a cord as I read through, if she manages to say anything she'll say 'i don't send her text messages the way I used to'. As for hygiene I keep myself very neat, I also try to help her to be neat the way I want her to be. My problem with her is she doesn't speak, and I creat room for that always because I want everyone to be free in the home. Her love language is attention, but have been in a situation where you give the required attention as needed but the person doesn't respond as required rather as transfers the attention to the children. Okay some days ago she said it's been awhile we saw a movie together, I obliged to do so with her she downloaded the movie of her choice we freshened up go set to be see the movie 10minutes into the movie she slept off. I just smiled and continued enjoying my movie, till today she has not said anything about it. I'm so sensitive to her that any negative comments she points about my attitude towards her which I see may affect our relationship I quickly start working on it and adjust. I bound myself to a rule that once I'm at home I'll not stay over the phone for more than 30mins so I could give everyone attention both in the day and night but guess what countless times we may be gisting and playing and laughing suddenly the next thing I notice is that she has slept off I'll take your advice to work more on myself, hygiene and others. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Sex With My Wife Is Very Very Boring, I Need Help by Whiteheartbit(m): 9:37pm On Jun 08, 2022 |
Thanks to you all... Please permit me to answer some of the things that some person's pointed. 1) I'm a neat guy, I'm too neat to a fault that I I'm very sensitive to dirt any kind of dirt around. I don't have mouth odour at all nor body odour. From the time we got married till date I personally go shopping for the groceries and toiletries for the home and and personal effect. I personally buy her underwear's take out time off office hours to accompany her when she asks to join her select underwear's that are appealing to me. Neatness is my thing. 2) My approach towards her when I'm on are usually tender, although I try to put her on key before arrival. 3) I've pleaded, I've cautioned, I've revealed everything she need to know about men (me) when it come to sex. 4) I can't cheat, even though I get advances from women, even married women, I don't keep it for a second thought. I'd love to hear from more Ladies |
Romance / Re: Sex With My Wife Is Very Very Boring, I Need Help by Whiteheartbit(m): 4:09pm On Jun 08, 2022 |
Chuknovski: Thank you sir. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: Sex With My Wife Is Very Very Boring, I Need Help by Whiteheartbit(m): 4:06pm On Jun 08, 2022 |
czarr: Thanks man Very insightful... |
Romance / Re: Sex With My Wife Is Very Very Boring, I Need Help by Whiteheartbit(m): 3:52pm On Jun 08, 2022 |
Patented: Relationship and dating was good, I read and research alot, I prepared before venturing into marriage with her, we dated for 1yr 8months. There were boundaries of no sex dating. But we were emotionally attracted to each other and romantic. We were not living together. But we saw almost everyday after work and we spent good times together. She came visiting the house maybe 4 - 5times throughout the dating period. |
Romance / Re: Sex With My Wife Is Very Very Boring, I Need Help by Whiteheartbit(m): 3:31pm On Jun 08, 2022 |
The first 2 year of our marriage was all good, she was sexually active and hot. But the kissing part was still an issues. I was not really available as I supposed to be in the second 2years due to the nature of my work, I was not meeting up at all sexually and emotionally. Things got better I was transferred, I'm now in charge, which give me a lot of time to spend with the family. As for the lesbian part I don't think so. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Romance / Sex With My Wife Is Very Very Boring, I Need Help by Whiteheartbit(m): 3:13pm On Jun 08, 2022 |
Hello naira landers. I really need your advice on what to do about this. Sex with my wife has become so so boring that after it i most often time regret leaving whatever I was supposed to do for it. I mean the feeling of it was not worth it at all I've tried all I know, I've read books and bought some for her to help out for our sexual life, yet the improvement is short leaved. We've been married for Six years with two kids. Yet from the day we got married I can count how many times I've kissed my wife during or not during sex. I've called her attention to it, if I managed to kiss her I must have begged my way through. Like a secondary school chap. ------ I enjoy kissing -------- which she knows, she'll promise making a change yet no Change. Okay, I've come to understand with her that maybe kissing is not her thing as it is for some women. Fine I don't go to that area any more. All of a sudden, she's not interested in fore play of any kind, which I love to engage in no matter how badly I want to get in because I want the satisfaction to be mutual, but She just want me straight in. Many times I'm filled with wondering thoughts while making up with her. Peradventure she agrees to a pre-intimacy after much bagging and persuasion, it's not more than 5mins with restrictions to some parts. GGGGGGGGGGod! I'll just be like what is this. I've called her on serveral occasions if something was wrong, if she was going through any emotional stress or something I could help out with or change, response always negative. Yet no improvement. I don't know who to talk to, because I'm a very private person and respects privacy. I'm doing my best to make her and the kids happy, to the best of my ability as God is helping me. I'm a very charming and romantic dude, the best I know about myself in that area, which she has also told me. I've never cheated on her, not once and I don't intend to and she knows. I had to come up here to seek for help because it's getting out of hand. To the point that I seek her consent if we can make out for the night ( it's not the top priority in our lives though, but it's necessary) she sometimes come up with an excuse which I'll understand or she agrees but ends up disappointing ( i.e sleeps off or not in the mood) and I get pissed off, because I'm left ganging and she doesn't care. My God! For about a month it's been dry sex and it's making me feel as if I'm violating her, forcing her against her will. The very last time it was as if I was making out with a dead body, no sound, no moves, no connection. Mahn o Mahnnnn I'm at the verge of taking the selibacy way, because that was my vow before I married her. This sex thing is distracting me. I need advice, is there something about women I don't known because I've read and researched about women. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Poems For Review / Don't Forsake Her by Whiteheartbit(m): 5:16pm On Mar 19, 2022 |
DON'T FORSAKE HER A Letter to my Brother in diaspora by Whiteheartbit The world you see a future in Never saw a future in you The land you run to seek for butter and honey Never lend you a hand when you needed it She took of your honey and gave a bee to sting She took of your butter and gave you a fire to quench She watched her own burned before her eyes for your sake She will watch you burn before your eyes for her sake Times and seasons has past the wounds remain on healed Yet you find solace in her for the wound she watched you bear Cry no more to her Call no more to her Run no more to her Hope no more in her Come my own, come my blood, come my brother Our house, our own father house is in ruin My heart bleeds that in her you labour and build for her rest Yet your own, your blood, your brother is in pain Posterity will speak of her cruelty towards your father house Soon the veil with which she hid behind will burn with her own cruel did Soon her ship of merchant with which she loot from our treasury will sink See, my own, my brother, see what she has done There be no more milk in the breast for our young to drink Our strength is drained from us that our women find no pleasure in us Come now my own, my brother Let us build, let us build with that which is left Let our breast be full again Let our young drink and be full Let our women be satisfied with our great strength Come now my own, my brother let us build Let our streets lighting up again Let our virgins be bold again Let our doors be opened again to our brothers Let the flute of our father be blown again with pride Let the square be filled again with dancing Come home my brother, don't forsake her. 1 Like 1 Share |
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