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blue01:
Religion has always been mans creation and has nothing to do with ones spirituality, its just a tool to keep man in bondage, be it Christianity, islam etc.

Jennifer663:
J Jamb question.

Jennifer663:
We have been to Dubai before....

Odinakaibe2022:
abii? That means ur problem dot get solution! [quote

Kobojunkie:
So?

Kobojunkie:
You tell me .... what is wrong with suggesting to a person who finds his or herself in an abusive marriage to seek mental health counseling, move immediately out of harms way, engage the aide of a professional marriage counselor in deciding a way forward for both parties?

Kobojunkie:
Who said anything about feeling sorry for her? Is it only when you feel sorry for someone that you admit that which is right?

Kobojunkie:
Experience is there for us to learn from. Yes, some don't learn but that don't mean others don't. Women are humans and so errant. She made a mistake is all and now she has to deal with it so she can move on from it, something every sane individual does. No big deal.

Kobojunkie:
Scars... we all seem to have them.

Applegirl22:
nawa oo, phone dey wey dem dey call like that?

Jeffy1206:
You're wasting your time answering him or her. Don't you see her name? You de answer stupid questions makes...

Kobojunkie:
This isn't about making an excuse but saying it like it is. Nothing in marriage mandates a woman or anyone be turned into someone else's punching bag. So suggesting she is to blame for the man's violent acts is ludicrous.

Kobojunkie:
So what if some folks are drawn to each other. Does that than absolve the violent one in anyway of responsibility that is his regardless? If the same man had instead punched his kid or maybe a worker of his, would you also had blamed the kid or the worker for the man's violence?

Make we begin dey use our heads to reason these things abeg!

Stevenbright:
And this might be because there are some other underlying issues they need to resolve. She should find these out and make sure they resolve them and stuffs like their present misunderstandings will be easily handled by them if there are no unresolved issues.

Kobojunkie:
Do you know that some psychopaths & sociopaths can also do well in marriage? Traits are not definitive as far as these things go.

For the second time this month, I am reminded of the movie THE ICEMAN.... ***shudders***.

She took a gamble and it turned out against her. That doesn't mean she is to blame. It means her gambled failed. The man is responsible for his actions, in this case, using her as a punching bag.

We need to put an end to this culture of shaming people when they find themselves in failed marriages. You rarely find anyone who goes into a marriage expecting failure at the end of the day. Most everyone goes in hoping for success, but more than half of the time, it ends up a bust. Out of either shame, or inability to accept failure, many hold on and end up living miserable lives in marriage, turning marriage into some sort of prison when it is not meant to be that at all. Most marriages fail for one reason or another - that is a fact. We need to begin to come to terms with this, and end this culture of shifting blame.

Kobojunkie:
Do you know that some psychopaths & sociopaths can also do well in marriage? Traits are not definitive as far as these things go.

For the second time this month, I am reminded of the movie THE ICEMAN.... ***shudders***.

She took a gamble and it turned out against her. That doesn't mean she is to blame. It means her gambled failed. The man is responsible for his actions, in this case, using her as a punching bag.

libertyfather:
The bolded is what ur problem is , but i can tell you not same issue with that man, all i can tell you is stop cooking moi moi for him...shikena

Kobojunkie:
Play with fire? What fire? All she did was take a chance at marriage and it turned out she picked a bad card... that happens to so many folks out there too. What has a fire to do with that?

But she said something, two days to their wedding after they have done their traditional wedding, the guy exhibited his negative trait.

She said she told her family that she won't do the wedding anymore. They all gathered and convinced her that it is the stress of planning wedding blabla.

After the guy apologized, they got married .

Kobojunkie:
So because she saw the signs but still went ahead, thinking to maybe give him the benefit of the doubt, the guy is not to be blamed for using her as a punching bag?

OriOko88:
Its the method she uses in cooking the moimoi. She should spice it up by adding delicious ingredients.

OriOko88:
You too should stop cooking him moi moi if he says he doesn't like it. A Yoruba adage says, A soup which d husband doesnt like,the wife doesn't cook. You can prepare d moi moi for the kids and you,then prepares his own favorite too. That's d why i don't buy the idea of making time table for food. Why must I be eating a particular food for a specified day. Take for example,why must I eat rice on Saturdays because it's what on the time table..like wtf. A man must eat varieties of food when he so desires.

I think he's frustrated by the boring foods you giving him..spice up ur food and see him change. Ask him what he would like the family to eat before cooking..ditch the food time table for nw. How many men dey eat moi moi these days??
Change ur food time table and see u having ur man back

Applegirl22:
ok, he ask if i hv google user dats y, pls is there another play store call google pixel again?