Growingboi:
South Africa

In the case of South Africa, its part of the Apostille Convention (of Hague Convention), therefore, you don’t need to legalize your doc.

What you need is Apostille stamp. (you can check if you already have it on your doc)

If not, visit the SA Embassy in Nigeria, I believe they can help. (Else, you’ll need visit SA for it)
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Growingboi:
Hello team, please is it possible for ministries to authenticate a certificate obtained outside Nigeria? I have mailed MFA and ME I am yet to get any response from them. Please this info will help me understand the next step to take. Thank you in advance.

What country did you obtain the certificate?

Jenkiky:
Please after legalizing with the ministry of foreign affairs do you still legalize with the embassy befor e you visa appointment or you can do that after.. please I need clarifications

As for the embassy legalization, you can Also do that when submitting your visa application. (Without a separate appointment)

And for thoes asking about the clone.

Send me a DM, I’ll reply.

Thank you all for your advice.

I’ll wait to see more comments before I decide on what to do.

You guys are family.

Heloct:
Heartbreak is brutal. The earlier you admit it, the better.

I am weak, but strong.

Bibi294:
Hmmm.... Give her time... If dhrs still persistent with the guy... Then breakup
If you jilt her now, She'll definitely run into that guys handsnd that makes you a coward.... You fight for what you have!

Hmm okay.

But here, I don’t have the patience of time.

ABBkelvin:
She is weighing both of you and playing never put all your egg in one basket game. Please never ever go back to her. I know it's hard but, find yourself a new girl and start all over again.

Moving on is hard! So Hard!

dollyjoy:
SHe is simply using the guy to fill the void your new work created. Don't be so busy to the point of having little time for people you claim to love.

Thanks for your advice.

I’m now a pro in my field and hv made this clear to her and even showing it.

My point is why she still keeps the guy.

All she does is to blame it on the fact that my care reduced.

I really can’t stand it.

She started calling n calling...

I later picked and she was like it’s not what I think and all... note; she has lied about this guy over 30 times.


I clearly told her to cut off the guy that he’s an issue in this relationship but she declined and was like he’s not an hindrance and he’s just a friend she can talk to.


I clearly told her we can’t continue unless she cuts him off.

Again, she declined. And was still begging.


Guys, am confused. I love her.

But can’t stand her confining in another guy.

She blames it on the fact that I stopped caring.


I need your advice on what to do.
Mind the typos.

So I’ve been dating my gf for over 20 months, we’ve been cool, loving and all.

Two months a go, she was down with ulcer( chronic ulcer pains) and have been taking medications since then...

Along the line, she started complaining that I don’t care about her health and all I do is to give her money for drugs and just call to tell her she’ll be fine.

On my part I most confess that the way I call/text reduced solely because I recently got a new job and still in the process of mastering it.(tho i still keep good communication but not as b4)

I explained all this to her but she wasn’t contented.

So there’s this guy she’s been taking to for a while (was just back from his masters). Initially she tells me about how he’s her friend and that he’s doing his masters and all.

I was cool cus it’s healthy if she keep a few male friends.

Along the line, I started noticing how they’re now close and she can how they call n text each other so much!

I confronted her and she lied he’s not the one... not until I found out n she agreed and said they’re just friends.

I was still skeptical about everything and I was fast loosing my trust for her.

Now she does stuff “low key” with the guy, the guy is back in the country and they’ve met a couple of times! Yet she maintains he’s not an issue.


Two days ago, I went to see her in a bit to clear the air and bring her close. She was all cool with the idea and even said she doesn’t have anything to do with the guy again that they don’t even call or text again. I was happy (relived) but one thing was telling me to verify.

So at that point, I cloned her WhatsApp (was a bad idea I guess) and left.


Loll. Just few mins after I left, she texted the guy and was like;

“Hi”,
“how did it go?”,
“John I am so bored and lonely”

I was shocked!

This was the same girl that said she no longer talks to him and all.


And to crown everything, she called me a few hours later and thanked me for coming over with all the love talks etc.


Still in shock.


So she chated me up on WhatsApp and was like she already misses me and she can’t wait to see me again.


I just replied her with the screenshot and left.