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Please how do I go about my cgpa. I don't have my transcript yet

KAYSANTOS:
Try to move more closer to God more than before and continue to commune with him through his words(Bible)

On this. I love to be close to God. Sometimes I try. but this thing ( draws me back). I then feel like I am deceiving myself when I try to move closer to God. Then I would stop. it's affected every other area of my life and I am not happy about it

MrAnele:
I feel your pain... I was once in your shoe.. How i stopped it i can't remember.. But i remember watching it one day and wanking at the same time then i stopped and asked myself.. What am i even doing?... Why am i purposely konjifying my mind and subconscious... And since then till today.. I never watch porn.. Whenever i get the urge i tell myself.. Remember say on how you watch am you go begin regret, so why bother...

Thank you.

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OAM4J

Please help. I love God but I am in a scourge of addiction to porn. Ever since my 100 level days.



I feel far away from God. But I have tried all I can to stop watching but I still go back. Please help
I am a Christian I can speak in tongue but I am addicted to watching porn and mastubating.

What can I do before I destroy my eternal life please help

Perhaps I won't get to know how to stop from here. I however really need to STOP this acts

I really need to stop this. I am too addicted

Biglittlelois:
Easy, just stop watching it.

It's not easy. I have prayed fasted over it. At time I break my fast with porn and mastubating(bread and butter

Kennyubah:
Hey bro

Hello

it's almost 6 years since I have gotten addicted to watching porn and 2 years and 3months that I have been addicted to watching porn and masturbating. It's a combo that's like bread and butter for me.

I and this kind of gentle melancholic guy that loves his privacy.

During my school days( 2013 100 level) I started watching porn eversince then I find it difficult to halt this addiction. Then I will leave my room to go in search of free WiFi around the school and I will spend a lot of time(with the slow network) downloading porn movies. I could stay within a WiFi station around physics, Arts, or accounting dept.in my university downloading porn movies expending close to 12 hours. I am not kidding here. I was out of control undisciplined. Once I leave my room as early as 5 in the morning it always till evening I return. I would tell my roommates I went to read.

I am a Christian and people know I am. but I am addicted to porn. till now. Sometimes I cease watching after about two days i return to the porn.

This porn addiction really affected my academic performance. Thank God I didn't graduate with the worse result. But my result was bad.


This porn addiction as led to me wasting money. I will buy data and consume within days. and then delete the porn I downloaded because of regrets and repurchase another data to download the porn... that's how this cycle as been.

I know virtually all indecent stars names ( black most especially)...

This addiction as led me to have low self esteem, low communication skills, lack of confidence shyness,lack of self discipline lack of financial intelligence etc.

I need to be delivered from this addiction before it ruin my life.


please help

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I got off the phone with a friend yesterday. He left me more confused than I have ever been.
I have been in search of a job for the past 8 months now but haven't been able to get the job. Though I teach in a school for now.
The thing now is that the friend told me that i should have gone for masters rather than just wasting precious time as it is better to do the masters early. Tho I thought of it. but as of when the form for masters in my school was available I didn't have much on me.

I now feel sort of regret/confusion. am I doing the right thing waiting for a good job

eunisam:
Take a brake

Na it's not what it

Please I havent gotten the help I need oo

Hello

I have heard of people getting their problems solved here on Nairaland.
I have a big long time challenge of not knowing how to chat with people. I don't initiate chat with anyone. My what's app is full of group messages.

Please some1 shd help I am a kinda introverted person tho. But this has to stop. We live in the 21st century now that things are done on SM.

And I need to know how to chat with girls also. Because I am engaged in a long distance relationship right now. Andy chat with her has always been how are you fine thats all for weeks now.

I believe all problems can be solved inc. this I just need to know how to solve this problem

People keep saying don't create WhatsApp group this and that. Okay!

Please can someone post the past questions here

Wyrax:
I started to follow this thread last year november.
I read some the drills.
I was 25 then n i never had a girlfriend.

I summoned the courage to get one. I gót one and my first try was a hit a former classmate of mine in the university fortunately we were posted to the same state for NYSC.
I got her number during the rural rugged and began to communicate with her via whatsapp. We went to our convocation. I demanded we meet she refused.
After the convo we returned to our differaent local govt in the same state.
It dawned on me that i loved her. I then sent a love message to her on whatsapp. I asked if she feels the same way she said she doesnt know yet until she knows me better that we only know each as classmate. She called me n was asking all sort of questions like if i wanted her jst a gf or more i said more she asked for my extra hussle aside from nysc i told her she asked for my age i tld her and all other questions like that. I was already feeling on top of tha world.
A week later she called me and asked for an amount of money tha she needed it for her training i instantly sent it to her

I went to her place a day before christmas we discussed and i left. And i called her severally after tha day she didnt pickup her phone i sent whatsapp message to her on christmas she didnt reply i sent new year's message she didnt reply. I had given up on her until she called and said that she missed me. I was excited.
She started investing more in the relationship i informed her i was broke. She called me and we discussed for hours.
I went to her place again this time for the weekend she told we should visit one of her fathers we went there. It was like a mini introduction i was feeling excited.

on sunday she suddenly said i shoud leave i felt what is freaking happening. I left to a friend's house was just bored there. She then called back that i should return to her. At this point my mind became calm went back to her tha night was a sleepless night tho. She was pushing for sex(raw) i wasnt ready for that i told her i had a condom she refused she said she doesnt like it dat way. She then said if so i should lick her i almost but I withdrew i felt it was awkward.
On momday sha i left her house n i went back to my place.
I caled her she didnt pick again when she eventually pjcked she said i shouldnt called more than twice that she was busy(angrily) i promised i was gonna buy sth for her i forget i sent the money small amount tho to her.

She then found her voice again. We started contacting each other. I told her to come down to my place she did. I spoke to her mum. Her mum said we should come and visit her.
That night again was long she wanted it raw again i refused she asked y that am i scared. I didnt talk sje said i should lick her again i almost but i withdrew.
The day broke and friend visit who i am suggesting has a mental disorder. She knck i opened the door n saw she was the one i felt somehow. Then she started saying whos this i said shes my fiancee she said ooo you? Wey no dey allow female enter your room? Wey dey always do shy shy. She left sha . And she cameback she said she wanted to see her in camera i didnt was her to go but she went anyways. I asked her waht she said she replied nothing i kept troubling her she insisted nothing. She bursted out that i like panicking too much that she doesnt like it.

The week of my pop, i got a job test invite for a day after my pop. I was excited i called her n told her about it she started cryingshe the said theres no one to help her. Her dad just got a bad divorce her dad is a doctor in the USA.
I told her to touch down at my place before the pop she did. I asked her if she knew a former roomate of mine she said yes. She was somehow n then i asked wah is wrong she said she had an affair with him. He sexed her, he den left after. I was unhappy but waht can i say i jst said she shouldnt bother its no prob.
Inshort, i did the test i was successful i told her she calmed me thảt better opportunity awaits. But me i know say na suffer they wait. I was scared that i am about to lose her because she got a job unknown to her n i its gnld she rented an apartment(i was expecting tha after service she will go to her mother)
I applied for the gnld job too i never knew it was gnld tho until she told me we would have to pay 18k i was curious after i had paid 4k i researched d company here on nairalamd and i got to know its gnld. She had already paid all the sums she was lamenting. I became childish tho i was laughing and making jokes. Tho i was laughing at myself and waht thr mess i have gotten into in terms of work and finances. She became annoyed saying all sort that i am using her for experiment and she will just breakup with me if i am not careful that she cNt leave with someone with dat kinda attitude. I realised i sent a wrong impression i apologised to her. Because i loved her so much
I was triply scared by rhose statment. I left to lagos. I was so depressed (because of my family her going thru abject poverty, my mother was ill, my father was jobless, my sister needs to pay her school which i support, my bro needed to go to camp in the north iam jobless too) to the extent tha i said we should go on a break till i get a work amd get settled. She warned me tha break do lead to breakups i told her it all depend on her. She then agreed.
2wks later i realised i made an error i called her she said she aint coming back I asked her why she said she has been in relationships b4 tho i am GOOD person oo tha we hv different ideas cannot be together we can be friends tho. I was mad already i told my mother, my father my brother to talk to her. She alluded that i am always laughing when she not happy, and that i am always panicking. Rhat she cant live with me.

I called her mum her mum told me she will talk to her tha she already new it smal thing tha will cause or sepation.

I begged her, she blocked me in whatspp, telegram n facebook i went to her place she insisted.

I kept texting her until it dawned on my after 3 months she never comeback. I jst had to move on.

I made mistakes tho. I have always known my first trial to love will be a hard on. Because of the kinda relation i have with girls.

I sure didnt use the drills here because i was complacent and in love.

Some of my mistakes
Sending whatsapp love message

She kept me to feel a gap in her heart, she wasnt fully in love with me but i tht all her axns were love

She controlled me like a puppet

I was scared of losing her

I was insensitive

I showed childish attitude
I talked too much
I showed lack of confidence etc

I wrote this for future reference and to ensure some dont fall in same pit

@hardon here it is.

i posted this clumsy writeup last month
Don't mind the clumsiness. pls read through.
I got a call from her mother last week. she told me she has spoken to her. I should call her(the girl).
I haven't called her and I don't think i shd until she(the girl) calls.
I noticed sth she's unblocked me from all platform within which she did block me.
She sent me a whatsapp message asking how's work and all sort I gave her one word answers.
I feel she's looking for friendship tho.
Unfortunately or how do I say this. I am still in love with her what to I do to either completely get over her or get her back.
I'm on the verge of getting my dream job tho.

[quote author=Wyrax post=70580524]I posted this clumsy writeup last month
Don't mind the clumsiness. pls read through.
I got a call from her mother last week. she told me she has spoken to her. I should call her(the girl).
I haven't called her and I don't think i shd until she(the girl) calls.
I noticed sth she's unblocked me from all platform within which she did block me.
She sent me a whatsapp message asking how's work and all sort I gave her one word answers.
I feel she's looking for friendship tho.


Unfortunately or how do I say this. I am still in love with her what to I do to either completely get over her or get her back.
I'm on the verge of getting my dream job tho.

hello
I got an invite from Gtb for entry level assessment on Tuesday next week. can some help with a study material
?

harry2sexy:
can't comprehend. D grammar's so bad and clumpsy

Yea it is

Hello pls i need genuine info on how to go about travelling to these countries.
I am graduate from a top notch uni. In naija but i don dey search for work i neva see
Money no dey
I have relatives in this countries but they dont wanna help.
Will student visa be advisable for a second class lower graduate?

Or waitin i fit do o

Hardon thanks for this great thread. I am currently reading this thread from page zero

I started to follow this thread last year november.
I read some the drills.
I was 25 then n i never had a girlfriend.

I summoned the courage to get one. I gót one and my first try was a hit a former classmate of mine in the university fortunately we were posted to the same state for NYSC.
I got her number during the rural rugged and began to communicate with her via whatsapp. We went to our convocation. I demanded we meet she refused.
After the convo we returned to our differaent local govt in the same state.
It dawned on me that i loved her. I then sent a love message to her on whatsapp. I asked if she feels the same way she said she doesnt know yet until she knows me better that we only know each as classmate. She called me n was asking all sort of questions like if i wanted her jst a gf or more i said more she asked for my extra hussle aside from nysc i told her she asked for my age i tld her and all other questions like that. I was already feeling on top of tha world.
A week later she called me and asked for an amount of money tha she needed it for her training i instantly sent it to her

I went to her place a day before christmas we discussed and i left. And i called her severally after tha day she didnt pickup her phone i sent whatsapp message to her on christmas she didnt reply i sent new year's message she didnt reply. I had given up on her until she called and said that she missed me. I was excited.
She started investing more in the relationship i informed her i was broke. She called me and we discussed for hours.
I went to her place again this time for the weekend she told we should visit one of her fathers we went there. It was like a mini introduction i was feeling excited.

on sunday she suddenly said i shoud leave i felt what is freaking happening. I left to a friend's house was just bored there. She then called back that i should return to her. At this point my mind became calm went back to her tha night was a sleepless night tho. She was pushing for sex(raw) i wasnt ready for that i told her i had a condom she refused she said she doesnt like it dat way. She then said if so i should lick her i almost but I withdrew i felt it was awkward.
On momday sha i left her house n i went back to my place.
I caled her she didnt pick again when she eventually pjcked she said i shouldnt called more than twice that she was busy(angrily) i promised i was gonna buy sth for her i forget i sent the money small amount tho to her.

She then found her voice again. We started contacting each other. I told her to come down to my place she did. I spoke to her mum. Her mum said we should come and visit her.
That night again was long she wanted it raw again i refused she asked y that am i scared. I didnt talk sje said i should lick her again i almost but i withdrew.
The day broke and friend visit who i am suggesting has a mental disorder. She knck i opened the door n saw she was the one i felt somehow. Then she started saying whos this i said shes my fiancee she said ooo you? Wey no dey allow female enter your room? Wey dey always do shy shy. She left sha . And she cameback she said she wanted to see her in camera i didnt was her to go but she went anyways. I asked her waht she said she replied nothing i kept troubling her she insisted nothing. She bursted out that i like panicking too much that she doesnt like it.

The week of my pop, i got a job test invite for a day after my pop. I was excited i called her n told her about it she started cryingshe the said theres no one to help her. Her dad just got a bad divorce her dad is a doctor in the USA.
I told her to touch down at my place before the pop she did. I asked her if she knew a former roomate of mine she said yes. She was somehow n then i asked wah is wrong she said she had an affair with him. He sexed her, he den left after. I was unhappy but waht can i say i jst said she shouldnt bother its no prob.
Inshort, i did the test i was successful i told her she calmed me thảt better opportunity awaits. But me i know say na suffer they wait. I was scared that i am about to lose her because she got a job unknown to her n i its gnld she rented an apartment(i was expecting tha after service she will go to her mother)
I applied for the gnld job too i never knew it was gnld tho until she told me we would have to pay 18k i was curious after i had paid 4k i researched d company here on nairalamd and i got to know its gnld. She had already paid all the sums she was lamenting. I became childish tho i was laughing and making jokes. Tho i was laughing at myself and waht thr mess i have gotten into in terms of work and finances. She became annoyed saying all sort that i am using her for experiment and she will just breakup with me if i am not careful that she cNt leave with someone with dat kinda attitude. I realised i sent a wrong impression i apologised to her. Because i loved her so much
I was triply scared by rhose statment. I left to lagos. I was so depressed (because of my family her going thru abject poverty, my mother was ill, my father was jobless, my sister needs to pay her school which i support, my bro needed to go to camp in the north iam jobless too) to the extent tha i said we should go on a break till i get a work amd get settled. She warned me tha break do lead to breakups i told her it all depend on her. She then agreed.
2wks later i realised i made an error i called her she said she aint coming back I asked her why she said she has been in relationships b4 tho i am GOOD person oo tha we hv different ideas cannot be together we can be friends tho. I was mad already i told my mother, my father my brother to talk to her. She alluded that i am always laughing when she not happy, and that i am always panicking. Rhat she cant live with me.

I called her mum her mum told me she will talk to her tha she already new it smal thing tha will cause or sepation.

I begged her, she blocked me in whatspp, telegram n facebook i went to her place she insisted.

I kept texting her until it dawned on my after 3 months she never comeback. I jst had to move on.

I made mistakes tho. I have always known my first trial to love will be a hard on. Because of the kinda relation i have with girls.

I sure didnt use the drills here because i was complacent and in love.

Some of my mistakes
Sending whatsapp love message

She kept me to feel a gap in her heart, she wasnt fully in love with me but i tht all her axns were love

She controlled me like a puppet

I was scared of losing her

I was insensitive

I showed childish attitude
I talked too much
I showed lack of confidence etc

I wrote this for future reference and to ensure some dont fall in same pit