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I pray you don't come across a highly deceptive and manipulative woman. Amen.

drmikeadams:


Love make am miss red flags,,now flag don turn pink,him eye just Open

My brother the fear of SARS is the beginning of wisdom. My brother this is Nigeria and I wouldn't want to be arrested and tagged a yahoo boy. We all know whats is happening in Nigeria[quote author=drmikeadams post=90624668][/quote]

Second wife is out of the equation completely. With what my eyes have seen and the trauma I have had to endure, never in my life would I ever contemplate marrying a second wife in my life. I have come to realized that once a bad woman realized that she has had children for you, she would do everything to frustrate your life using the children as a shield. This category of women I considered as either possessed or witches as it only a witch that would want to destroy you even when you are doing everything possible to make her happy

drmikeadams:
I repeat second wife will complicate his life..e be better if he wan divorce make he divorce train em children..

He no need second wife..

He never come out from d frying pan with hot oil,,u want make e enter another fire wey matches and fuel dey beside am

Thank you for the advice. I will do just that

Eketem:
Please leave for a while,dont let anyone convince you to manage, her mom is abusive as is she.
If you stay they will push you to hit her use the pictures online to cost you your job and everything. Please move out, take care of your kids report to social welfare and pay the allowance through them via her bank account so you have documentation

My mother-in-Law once threaten me in my own home. The woman is actually a bad influence on her daughter

AFONAMARO:
You willingly surrendered your manhood (your symbol of authority) on the alter of being a Mr nice guy. Believe you me, you can only reclaim your manhood when you put your foot down and take charge of your household.

No long talks here. State how things are to unfold in your home and ensure to follow it through. If your mother in-law interferes, ensure her presence (both verbal communication) is limited to her husband's house.

Take charge of your home and stop running from pillar to post when the goal post is before you

The woman once threaten to kill me and take the children away once I am dead. I did not have the opportunity of seeing any red flag before she got pregnant outside wedlock. I had to marry her because I thought she love me as much as I love her

Queenserah26:
You yarn better

My brother I am not the kind of person to beat a woman. For your information my wife has serious High blood issue (HB). It is not just my thing. Second, I loathe a dirty environment and that explains why I cannot stand a dirty bathroom or toilet or environment

Bossjakande:
guy u be man or u dey see period. if u are a man act like a man. I blame u in d first place for marrying a bad woman.I think u got carried away cos of sex any woman DAT aint submissive can Neva be a good wife or mum. it is wrong for u to do house work were ur wife is.even if shes working housework is not for u but now she Neva even got work.she sit Down and watch Tv. did u think ur children will Eva respect u as dey see how she treat u.why u go let woman insult ur parents.dey Neva born DAT person.wen she insult ur parent did u dicipline her? na one slap first she need to reset her Brian. am not saying is right to beat ur wife but I think now dats the only solution to let her know ur the man in charge of ur home. is a love beat u beat her to correct her I promise u she will thank u later. am saying it from expirience. dont let a woman ride u cos she didnt married u or pay bride price is u who did DAT. u cant go on like dis and have bp.also Neva let her mum visit her again. and watch cos she might be cheating on u.

It would interest you to know that my wife once threaten to kill me and take the children away. It will also interest you to know that she is a product of a broken home. This shouldn't have been a major problem. However, I later got to realized that her mummy is a very troublesome woman and sometimes behave abnormally. At a time, she actually left the house after a misunderstanding. I had to do everything possible to bring her back for the sake of the children. Someone once said on nairaland that the major beneficiary of marriage is the wife and I am beginning to believe that person

jesmond3945:
this is your own side. I would like to hear her own as well.

My brother it hasn't been easy for me. At a point in my life roughly 2-3 years ago I was so depressed that I even contemplated suicide. It's the love for God and my children that have kept me going

flokii:
@OP you loved blindly and missed all the red flags..

There are so many beautiful ladies and handsome guys out there but character is the true beauty (iwa lewa). I don't even want to imagine the trauma you're going through.

Thanks for the advice. I would definitely look for the book to read

Zabiboy:

When you advice young men they wont listen...
Hope you tell your kids not to make this same mistake again....


Anyways now that you are alone, find time to read "THE MANIPULATED MAN"...it was written by a woman....Its just 69 pages...infact once you get to page 40, your whole mentality would have changed....
GL

Cc: Xj2020

Madam, I do not see anything wrong in helping your spouse when you have the time. I wasn't trained to leave everything to the woman to do Ma

vikkimimi:
A woman that's not working...just a house wife is who you still help with house chores?
Haba! You belittled yourself first before she helped in completing it.
Don't mistake me, it's kul to help your wife out with home chores, 'i love that kinda man' but not when she's sitting idly while you're hustling alone ...

My advice is: give her the space you intend to give her, and stop being soft, give yourself some damn respect and increase your self worth.

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