slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr Only pussy ass niggarr do such

so you think such thing do not exist or what?

topcatking:
OP, the "Sister" has no business being in a relationship then.

Stay single, unbothered and happy.

Can't take the heat? don't f.cking step in the kitchen

she is turning out and guys keep sprawling in but she wants noplay boy type

Anoth:
A relationship without kiss and others is not different from a Brother-Sister relationship

you dey my mind I told her to stay away from relationship
no guy can do that.

are they her brothers ney

DesChyko:
Long distance relationships has been a thing since time immemorial, so yeah.

I told her that but she insisted she see the person

how can a relationship be without kiss, hug and sex....... can a guy do this?

I don't think she is asking for too much, but she will like to see you prove the love you got for her.

pcguru1:

I am curious is she literate/ working ?

but in her own kinda way yes

pcguru1:

I am curious is she literate/ working ?

non

it was like I married the wrong woman..... she did many things and I have said a one of twenty part of a quarter. it is me that love her

pozehnani:


Are you sure she's not even pregnant. Lol... Maybe it pregnancy that is pushing her.

Well.. she can go do it now that lockdown has been eased.

Op, permit to say this. It's like you're not romantic. Maybe it's in the way you reply her that makes her behave that way. She seems like an emotional person. Just go easy on her. Show her love. As in pamper her. That's what she needs. O?

my brother
I was the one that is emotional.
she started her character 6 month after our wedding. after our first child she became more aggressive.
Kai I'm tired
otisume

EbenezeMatthias:
Not available, why

sorry may be the owner removed it

pozehnani:


Oh . I see. She's a school cert holder yeah? Then how about enrolling her for a part-time program or let her learn another vocational skill like catering. Anything to while away time.

Since she's computer literate, you can open a biz center for her around any school/University location and equip it with copier machines, binding machines and internet broadband so she can be managing and making money at the same time. That way, she gets so busy and not miss you much.

Please don't divorce her.

despite all I source for her to acquire she later said before I married her her ambition was to become a nurse but now that I married Her she can't do all that. I begged that isn't a problem she can do it and become what she dream to become if not for this happening covid 19 and assu she would have been enrolled in one of the school. but after all these it seems she isn't convinced, she blames me for something I new nothing about.

nuelyoyo:
Like I said earlier, my question to the OP is just to satisfy my curiosity. Anyone who read the OP's comments would easily guess he is a Muslim, and his answer to my question confirmed my suspicion. I wasn't asking because I found fault in his decision to marry a second wife, any woman who marries a Muslim man knows that her hubby can marry more wives.

why sounding like marrying another wife is a curse to the flash.
do you know how many lives was lost in the cause of managing a man or a woman. please let's try to make things simpler for ourselves. a religion is not always the answer to all human's problem

Anoth:
Believe in yourself and have Trust in God, he can do wonders.
Avoid all sorts of uncleanness, turn off the world and live in God.
With time, you would be better

thanks

Anoth:

Okay ooo,,,,,,, but you,,,, don't always have to hide ,,,,, your identity ,,,,,,,,

hide my identity? how please?

Anoth:
Tell is the truth,,,,,,, is this you,,,,,, or your friend,,,,,,, ,,,,,, because I am seeing something else here,,,,,,,

I indicated it nah
is not me

(from a friend)
I am 28 still in university, I want to start a fresh life.
please people who struggle against all odd and made it through should help.
it is becoming harder.... all I do is to listen to music, watch films and browse while my time is going.
I want to kt how to rewrite my life. school is locked and the hope is clouded
my age is going up and my time is coming down. but I believe my have some time so I want to write my life. I had a strong believe that education was my only hope but seeing how things are going I need to rewrite it.

ask me any questions I promise to provide answer in due time.

thank for your help.

SALAMAN KUFA

FzanyAjibs:
1) File a report to the police station with evidence of her suicide threat. You'll be safe if she eventually do it. Send a copy of the report to her parents.

2) Report the sex denial, and frustration to your religious leaders. I know your religion has case studies for this issue in marriage.

3) Visit a marriage counselor. Go alone first for the first session ; then go with her subsequently. Discuss the issues with the counselor in details.

4) Focus on your work (business and career). If your marriage ruins your source of income, you'll be in mess without good savings.

5) Do not announce/discuss your intentions. Lock your phone and pc and use passcodes known only to you.

6) I know you seem to be a responsible man. This young age is the right time to Man up and explore your potentials, skills and interests. Let nothing and no one stop you from pursuing your success. Think of the lifestyle you want to give your children. Think of old age.

7) Learn to command some respect in your marriage. It appears you've loosed it. Pick a few books on marriage from the bookstore and read. Learn to 'be the man' always without having to resort to physical abuse. You can achieve this.

Withdraw All the privileges she has. Limit the funding to basic, limit access to your bank account, stop eating her food. Drop any money she might need to run the home on a table and tell her so she wont need to ask you. Do all the house chores yourself every morning and as often as required. Bath and take care of your children. Take them to school.

9) Live like she doesn't exist. Let her feel useless, help your children do assignments after work, dedicate time to yourself and the children. Pray as required. Visit the poor and give them alms. Don't involve her.

10) This is my golden point.
Never raise your voice, hand on her. Do not show any signs of frustration or anger from her behaviors. Ignore her when she cries unnecessarily. Make provisions in the house. Food, beverages, female materials, baby stuffs. Pay your bills and utility fees on time; don't let them come home asking your wife for bills.

Maintain as many of these you can do for 14 days. It may be tiring but I bet you'll love it.
Watch her behaviors without showing you're watching.

Share the results again for further evaluation.
Let's hope she'll change.
Mind you, if she pretends to change, never restore all the privileges. She has lost some for the sake of goodness.

I am not telling you just be the man. But

BE A MAN.

thanks alot

now I can c That u are not just a man and a husband but also a father.

thanks

nuelyoyo:

I know other regions marry young brides, but you will agree with me that it's prevalent in the north. But where I started sensing he may be a Muslim was when I saw many of his comments where he said he would marry another wife.


I am not trying to bash any religion or region, i just wanted to be sure coz I was curious, why should I make assumptions when I can simply ask you.

honestly people have this idea of faulting Muslims for marrying young girls.
but I will like us not to discuss that.
I want to live in a world where religion is not out problem

pozehnani:

Sorry. no vex.

I no vex, wit u my wife has taught me A lot about women

pozehnani:


Oh.. just seeing this. I get the picture now.

Sorry but from this narrative here, seems she's idle. Then let me ask you this.
Did you go a honeymoon after your marriage?
Is she gainfully employed or engaged with her own business?


I think she needs to get a job and get busy to kill time. Otherwise, the period she's idle will have her missing and wanting to be with you. remember, you're her only companion. Just get her busy. Also try to take her out sometimes and spend the whole day looking into her eyes **laughs* and having fun once in a while.

It is well.

still working too the busi stuff. I trained her a computer typist and she is also a tailor.

on this I admit I have faults.
beside she is only a secondarian

pozehnani:


Im not saying you have to be perfect but you can be near perfect if you work at it.

Now, what actually is the problem here cos I don't seem to get as you keep beating about the bush. If I get you right, she's not giving you breathing space? More like being obsessed about you? If that is the case, then you don't have a problem cos it's only a woman who loves you genuinely that will be obsessed about you unless of course your ways are not pure, that's when it will be a problem to you but if you're clean, trust me, you gat no problems. Just be there for her and be transparent to give her some sort of assurance to make her a bit more relaxed.

I don't know why you men have problems with your woman being over possessive and protective but you do it when you meet that lady that makes you go gaga.

All the best.

you are speaking out of experience or using another's man cupcake to judge me.

EmmaNuella77:



I don't get your point tho?

why do you think I seek your opinion?
how are you loved.
tell me how your boyfriend or husband love you. may be I will try that. because right now I am totally imperfect and incomplete

pozehnani:
What do you mean by she keeps asking for love? Anyways, give her love if she's asking for it or why did you get into marriage with her in the first place? To make her a lamp-stand?

I don't know why men of nowadays easily get tired of marriage and relationship. Sucks!

pardon me, we are never perfect. hope you aren't asking me to be perfect.
I am not making her any lampstand. relationship isn't marriage. why would man not get tired if his source of joy is shattered.

every marriage has ups and downs. we stand to face it and we live to die for it. but when a woman become an obvious intruder to man's destruction isn't it wise such man to take to his hill.

EmmaNuella77:
She keeps asking for love?
As as how?
Wetin she wan ask for before?

what if love is not the problem

nuelyoyo:
Are you from the north, or a southern Muslim?

please don't incalculate religion in this.
I am seeking advice as a human being

I am a Muslim from the north.

southniyikaye:
let me give you a scope, I know you might be tired whenever you get back home.shower, take your meal and try as much as possible to dedicate the rest of your time to her. See they don't neccesarily need much, just cuddling and playing with her will be OK.. Just relax on her leg let her play with your hair and body or make her relax on your body and play with her whole body.. Compliment her. Even when you didn't see anything new about her, just create one and talk about it.. Her hair might be due or just talk to her about telling her you saw some sexy lingeries.. Just keep her engaged with the little time you have..

let me not frustrate this beautiful suggestion. they was a day not to long even before it gets sour I bought a new shoes and some makeups when I got home despite her usual attitude I neglected it and sat like one who is starting a new relationship. I brought out the stuffs and showed her. I was shocked at what she did. she neither thank me or collect it. instead she said all my remorse would not work on her. then she started crying. my brother I begged till the following morning.

MhisTahrah:
Will marrying a second wife make the first any better? It might even worsen her behaviour, the best thing to do in his case since communication has failed is to divorce and remarry.

I consent with what you said, she nurtures the idea that I am getting another wife and she is just flaming out because of such thing but I don't know where she get that fact from. she primarily uses that as a factor for her attack

Notatribalist:
What is the problem here not that makes you to start thinking of divorce or marry another one?she keep asking for love,so that's the problem? You're not matured enough for marriage

she is just using that as a yarstick to unrest my heart

BigDawsNet:
frustrating wife is not a good thing to be honest
You need to be mentally and emotionally strong not to dive into depression.

so just try and call her family you can set up a meeting and try to settle it..

Lot of men marry second wife because of the issue they face at home with first wife... But eventually it wasn't a regret move for them because they realize it just added more stress to their life..

Call a meeting
You guys can take a break
And make sure you invite God in your life

Goodluck and God bless

the last meeting we had. she begged for forgiveness but I insisted that she go stay with her family for a month she started crying so my dad pleaded I pardon her. it was unbelievable when we got home she couldn't even wait till the next day before she started her attitude. I got mad I got her ready for the journey back to her parents for a while without letting my parents know but I was shocked, my father called to tell me he wanted to see me only for me to meet my wife with my father crying that I wantedq to drive her away.

BigDawsNet:
frustrating wife is not a good thing to be honest
You need to be mentally and emotionally strong not to dive into depression.

so just try and call her family you can set up a meeting and try to settle it..

Lot of men marry second wife because of the issue they face at home with first wife... But eventually it wasn't a regret move for them because they realize it just added more stress to their life..

Call a meeting
You guys can take a break
And make sure you invite God in your life

Goodluck and God bless

the last meeting we had. she begged for forgiveness but I insisted that she go stay with her family for a month she started crying so my dad pleaded I pardon her. it was unbelievable when we got home she couldn't even wait till the next day before she started her attitude. I got mad I got her ready for the journey back to her parents for a while without letting my parents know but I was shocked, my father called to tell me he wanted to see me only for me to meet my wife with my father crying that I wanted to drive her away.

virginprincess:
Bros this your matter hard o, but you married her too early na, maybe it that pepper eye she is using to face you.

it was a mutual consent. She agreed to marry it was not a forced marriage.
all I see was pretending nature

Doradorwa:
1. Federalism.... Power being shared between the component and central unit
2. Democracy.... People given the direct role to chose their leaders.
3. Republicanism.... A nation in which people hold popular sovereignty through the electoral and legislative processes as well as participation in public and civil right.
4. Kleptocracy.... Whereby the ruling party has either come to power, retain power, or both, through the means of corruption or theft......

Believe the first 3 at your own peril

thanks
but does the citizens know what system of government we practice.

the endsars is an eye opener.