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Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 6:50pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
pozehnani: you are speaking out of experience or using another's man cupcake to judge me. 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by pozehnani(f): 7:02pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: Sorry. no vex. |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 7:13pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
pozehnani: still working too the busi stuff. I trained her a computer typist and she is also a tailor. on this I admit I have faults. beside she is only a secondarian |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Nobody: 7:31pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
1) File a report to the police station with evidence of her suicide threat. You'll be safe if she eventually do it. Send a copy of the report to her parents. 2) Report the sex denial, and frustration to your religious leaders. I know your religion has case studies for this issue in marriage. 3) Visit a marriage counselor. Go alone first for the first session ; then go with her subsequently. Discuss the issues with the counselor in details. 4) Focus on your work (business and career). If your marriage ruins your source of income, you'll be in mess without good savings. 5) Do not announce/discuss your intentions. Lock your phone and pc and use passcodes known only to you. 6) I know you seem to be a responsible man. This young age is the right time to Man up and explore your potentials, skills and interests. Let nothing and no one stop you from pursuing your success. Think of the lifestyle you want to give your children. Think of old age. 7) Learn to command some respect in your marriage. It appears you've loosed it. Pick a few books on marriage from the bookstore and read. Learn to 'be the man' always without having to resort to physical abuse. You can achieve this. Withdraw All the privileges she has. Limit the funding to basic, limit access to your bank account, stop eating her food. Drop any money she might need to run the home on a table and tell her so she wont need to ask you. Do all the house chores yourself every morning and as often as required. Bath and take care of your children. Take them to school. 9) Live like she doesn't exist. Let her feel useless, help your children do assignments after work, dedicate time to yourself and the children. Pray as required. Visit the poor and give them alms. Don't involve her. 10) This is my golden point. Never raise your voice, hand on her. Do not show any signs of frustration or anger from her behaviors. Ignore her when she cries unnecessarily. Make provisions in the house. Food, beverages, female materials, baby stuffs. Pay your bills and utility fees on time; don't let them come home asking your wife for bills. Maintain as many of these you can do for 14 days. It may be tiring but I bet you'll love it. Watch her behaviors without showing you're watching. Share the results again for further evaluation. Let's hope she'll change. Mind you, if she pretends to change, never restore all the privileges. She has lost some for the sake of goodness. I am not telling you just be the man. But BE A MAN. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by nuelyoyo(m): 7:33pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
pocohantas:I know other regions marry young brides, but you will agree with me that it's prevalent in the north. But where I started sensing he may be a Muslim was when I saw many of his comments where he said he would marry another wife. Yahksbiz: I am not trying to bash any religion or region, i just wanted to be sure coz I was curious, why should I make assumptions when I can simply ask you. |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 7:35pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
pozehnani:I no vex, wit u my wife has taught me A lot about women |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 7:38pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
nuelyoyo: honestly people have this idea of faulting Muslims for marrying young girls. but I will like us not to discuss that. I want to live in a world where religion is not out problem |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 7:43pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
FzanyAjibs: thanks alot now I can c That u are not just a man and a husband but also a father. thanks |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Nobody: 7:56pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
She Keep Asking U 4 Luv. Meaning? |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by pocohantas(f): 8:08pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
nuelyoyo: Oh well, men all over Nigeria fck teens- so I am always lost when men in the South whine about Islam, like it is (Northern) muslims defiling minors in their region. I guess it is okay to date and fck them. The problem is marrying them hah? Marrying a second wife is a straightforward move. Don’t you non-muslims normalize side-chicks? If his wife is a practicing muslim, it is well inline with their religion. 4 Likes |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by GodWrites: 8:21pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: Divorce please, life is too short. |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Nobody: 8:25pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: If you 'want' to live in a world where religion is not a problem, maybe you go start a colony on Mars before Elon Musk gets there in 2023 and then you govern it just the way you want. Regarding the quote, it calls for rẹ-orientation and getting a clear distinction between 1) Northern Nigerian culture, 2) Arabian/Middle Eastern culture and 3) The ways of life dictated by the predominant religion in these areas. I think knowing this will answer a lot of questions and educate millions of people who have absolutely no idea of what influences their way of life (even a simple dressing) and decisions and some of the very causes for their extreme poverty, extreme violence, extreme illiteracy in Nigeria (if not for pidgin) and aggressiveness. I know some of these is not related to the thread situation. However, I wrote these because of how OP is shielding away from such discussions about his religion and region of which he doesn't want to understand that child marriage is not ideal. Teenagers need more than sexual (puberty / adolescent) maturity. They need 'time' maturity for marriage. There are even reports of marriage and consummation with Pre teenagers. This is not ideal too. |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Dayoebe(m): 8:48pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
iamme1234:My brother, you are absolutely RIGHT! |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by mosdii(m): 8:55pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
HRHQueenPhil: Zee world look what you made her say. |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Funkyswagzz(m): 9:01pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: U see this is the actual problem here. Look take her out when u are free.. buy her things she needs or do something romantic. My dear if u loss this lady I don't know if u will find someone better. She's ur wife for Christ sake and shes not even askin too much |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by nuelyoyo(m): 9:03pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
pocohantas:Like I said earlier, my question to the OP is just to satisfy my curiosity. Anyone who read the OP's comments would easily guess he is a Muslim, and his answer to my question confirmed my suspicion. I wasn't asking because I found fault in his decision to marry a second wife, any woman who marries a Muslim man knows that her hubby can marry more wives. |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by pocohantas(f): 9:17pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
nuelyoyo: Okay Nuel, Apologies. It came off like you have a problem with them... |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by pozehnani(f): 9:48pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: Oh . I see. She's a school cert holder yeah? Then how about enrolling her for a part-time program or let her learn another vocational skill like catering. Anything to while away time. Since she's computer literate, you can open a biz center for her around any school/University location and equip it with copier machines, binding machines and internet broadband so she can be managing and making money at the same time. That way, she gets so busy and not miss you much. Please don't divorce her. |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 9:51pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
nuelyoyo: why sounding like marrying another wife is a curse to the flash. do you know how many lives was lost in the cause of managing a man or a woman. please let's try to make things simpler for ourselves. a religion is not always the answer to all human's problem |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 9:56pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
pozehnani: despite all I source for her to acquire she later said before I married her her ambition was to become a nurse but now that I married Her she can't do all that. I begged that isn't a problem she can do it and become what she dream to become if not for this happening covid 19 and assu she would have been enrolled in one of the school. but after all these it seems she isn't convinced, she blames me for something I new nothing about. 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by pozehnani(f): 10:03pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: Are you sure she's not even pregnant. Lol... Maybe it pregnancy that is pushing her. Well.. she can go do it now that lockdown has been eased. Op, permit to say this. It's like you're not romantic. Maybe it's in the way you reply her that makes her behave that way. She seems like an emotional person. Just go easy on her. Show her love. As in pamper her. That's what she needs. O? |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 10:12pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
pozehnani:my brother I was the one that is emotional. she started her character 6 month after our wedding. after our first child she became more aggressive. Kai I'm tired otisume |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 10:15pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
it was like I married the wrong woman.....
she did many things and I have said a one of twenty part of a quarter.
it is me that love her |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by pozehnani(f): 10:44pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: It is well. Just take it easy. |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by James4bright(m): 11:27pm On Oct 31, 2020 |
virginprincess: She's demanding it in excess. It's always okay for a woman to be obsessed but not okay for a man to be obsessed with his wife? I'm very sure if you had a husband and he was always demanding you come back home early, just so he could caress you, you'd definitely be bothered. 1 Like |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by HRHQueenPhil(f): 6:09am On Nov 01, 2020 |
mosdii:u made my new month with this comment |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by ledaman: 6:19am On Nov 01, 2020 |
Bro you need to be grateful for your spouse to ask for love. It like you have stopped what you were doing during courtship. E.g always make sincere compliments, surprise her with gift irrespective of the amount, send her love text messages when you are @ work, flirt with her sometimes when you are faraway from home. It might be difficult due to responsibilities and challenges be @ work or home but you av to balance the equation. If you should allow a guy to have her love bro you are on a long it! |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Nobody: 6:23am On Nov 01, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: I am curious is she literate/ working ? |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 9:41am On Nov 01, 2020 |
pcguru1:non |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Yahksbiz(m): 9:42am On Nov 01, 2020 |
pcguru1:but in her own kinda way yes |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Mrscarter(f): 10:18am On Nov 01, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: I think just cos Ur going thru a tough patch U shouldn't give up. Marraige takes perseverance and communication. Talk to her heart to heart be honest and try make things better for both of you. Let her know wat U want n ask wat she wants. You have to atleast try. Gud luck |
Re: I Think I Am Tired Of My Wife by Mrscarter(f): 10:21am On Nov 01, 2020 |
Yahksbiz: She needs to understand U need to make a living. She just has to accept that. She will get used to it. Time apart just makes U look forward to Ur husband getting home at the end of the day more. U can't be glued to each other it's not healthy. Is it new marraige? |
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