What will he be thinking in his mind?

Favfables1:


The time for planning is over sir...
Now its time to take action...
If you think she is worth you spending the rest of your life with, then go and marry her...
Forget the issue of not being awk now, you're no stranger to that family and considering all you've done for their daughter and for them, I believe they should make things easy for you...

That idea you have is a very bad idea...
If a married woman can leave a man and go and get married to another is it someone that is not married??
So do not think that putting her permanently in your house will guarantee that she'll stay...

Thank you comrade

Righteousness2:
Mr. Ned needs to repent and discharge all these young girls and women .

Before GOD, with the Exception of His legally First wife, they all are nothing but his sin Partners.

Mr. Ned you need to repent and Submit yourself to JESUS Christ, because all these Vanities will not count when you stand before GOD.
Don't let culture or people Deceive you. What Matters is to obey GOD.

Laila has done herself good to find her way. She has an opportunity to do things the right way. She was never your wife before GOD.

Guy reason atimes

This is laud

Iyaebe:
Her parents are right,you'll be a father someday and by then you'll have a better understanding. I wonder what's keeping you since you have the capacity to marry her,you can go with the bride price first and extend the ceremony till when you are fully ready.I hope you'll be smart enough to take meaningful advises here and ignore those bitterpillers/redpillers who are against marriage, they are the ones insulting you.Another one is,stop disrespecting their poor background, everyone can't be rich,I still see some dignity in her family despite their poor background and you should appreciate that.That they are poor isn't their fault, please respect them and do the needful over their daughter whom you want to wife.

Iyaebe broke � my heart.

All I see is sense from her contributions. I think some uncultured nairalnders are the ones that push her to wall, hence her other contributions

luizpippo:


Seeing that you loved her enough to be able to cater for her to this extent, just try and visit the parents and do "small thing" on her head so that her staying with you is no longer strange.

But if she or the parents prefer an elaborate thing and you can't afford it, stay proceeding on any spending.
I mean hold your fire.
Abort all catering mission.

Another sensible post, from a great mind

Iyaebe:
Shebi nairalanders don't want my advise anymore, I'll just be looking.

We need your advice, but think before you say anything, but don't think around sex madam

Ebubechuwku:



Bros leave am, the girl will outsmart him later.... he dey play junior school prank that is clear to everyone...

Ok shopboi

Gentlerespect76:
From all indications you have the capacity to wed this girl, even now. Then what's the point of insisting that she come stay with you and in 18months you pay her bride price? Why not just put yourself together financially and do the needful?

It may not be an abomination for her to come stay with you permanently when you have not officially married her, but it's not appropriate. Those people you are mentioning could have been in circumstances entirely different from yours. Moreover, you don't justify your actions and decisions based on those of others. As a man you must have principles that guide your life and conduct. Let me ask you, as a man, would you like your daughter to go live with a man in future, who has not met all the requirements of marriage. As a father, no one would want that. I can understand from what you wrote that the girl's parents are poor; but you need to respect the family. You show them respect if you are able to knock on their door and formally ask for their daughter's hand in marriage which they will oblige you.

Whatever you do, please do the right thing and accept assurances of my best wishes and prayers as you honour this girl and her family. If you are ready to marry, of course, your kinsmen would educate you that a man doesn't need hundreds of thousands and millions in order to marry when he has made up his mind. Thanks.

I read alot of sense in this your contributions.

But everybody know that marriage is not a rush in affairs, bro I need to take my time, to avoid regrets. That is why am giving myself some few months. But she staying in her parent's house within this period is a free will to her to do anyhow and an opportunity for any guy to come to her.

Ebubechuwku:



Why she no go love u when u dey pay for this and pay for that.. me I shall dey tell u now..

No worry now...time will tell...

Ok thank you, the shopboi

Deicide:
See this one o, the advice way them give you for the other thread you follow anyone?

Bro, I don't think you read this post, if not you won't be asking this again. Pls read and comment again.

funshint:
Why don't you go and meet her parents and seek her hand in marriage?

That's one of my plan this December bro

chatinent:

What nonsense and disrespect!

You told her to tell her family to allow her come stay with you? As what naw? As her personal lord and saviour?

What stops you from paying for the bride price now before she moves in??

Dem no tie rope for your neck to sponsor am. Do the right thing!

Not because people at doing sth or a quote supports your theories does it mean it is right, sometimes, both you, the other people, or the watimagbotional speaker fit dey stupid!

Bros are you that daft? That you can't read in between the lines?

With all these I have done, why is it the bride price, that will be a problem. I said I'll do that between now and 18months, of which before then I should have being ok than this.

Ebubechuwku:
Op, what you are about to do will hunt you in future.

What about if you marry her and do everything for her and she feels she has achieved and can stand alone, and she divorce you or run away from you.

This girl doesn't love you, she is only with you because of what you can offer. Even if she loves you, with what you have splitted here, she has a lot on her mind to say and doesn't know how to tell you because she has a lot to loose..

Leave the girl alone , and look for someone with equal vibes..

Never, think you can force marriage or force love on someone by giving them money, they will leave you immediately they don't need your money again... even if they have 20 kids with you..

Girls are smarter than all this junior level prank you are playing, cos it's even clear ...


There is nothing worth peace of mind....

Bros I know her than you do, so don't just conclude without knowing her pls. She does love me, but I'm just trying to be careful, because she staying in her father's house and me shouldering her responsibilities in her father's house gives room for suitors.

Sequel to my last about how I sent my girl to school, which I was the one responsible for all the bills and fees from ND1 to ND2. And how I was the one that paid her rent during the cause of the 2years.

And how I have being shouldering her parent responsibilities for over 3years, due to their poverty status and their inability to provide for her, which I'm also aware of.

And how I was planning to enrol her a Catering school, about to about 250k.

My last post ended with the line, where I told you guys that she's in her parent house to stay with them for sometimes. Of which i told her, I cant be feeding you when you're in my house and be doing the same, when you're in your father's house is wrong.

Last post link >> https://www.nairaland.com/6881129/asked-cant-parent-provide-basic

To continue my story, I asked her to tell her parent about the catering school she want to enrol in and ask them for the fee, which is 250k. Her parents both replied her that they can't get the money from anywhere, that she should go and learn from a small food shop (booker) around them or if I have the power I can help her.

She called me and explained her parent response. And I told her, I can't continue to shoulder any of her parent responsibilities anymore, only if they will allow her to be staying with me permanently from this December, because if she staying in her father's house many will be coming to ask her hand in marriage or even dating. But if she's in a man's house, which might be a bit difficult.

And she also said her parent said, they're not collecting any bride price, because they're not selling their daughter.

Of which between now and 18months, I'll make arrangements and come for engagements and wedding. But from now, she will start staying with me.

I know some people will say, I want a woman that I have not pay her bride price to be staying with me that is abomination. Mind you many people pay their wife bride price even after 3 kids and some people even wed after many years of staying together.

She even told me a story about her uncle wedded after he and his wife have being staying together and had about 2 kids after 14years.

Another thing that make me to make the decision of coming to stay with me fully, was that her mother usually tell her whenever she's with me like a week, that she's staying with a man, that haven't pay her pride price. This also triggered me, that what of all these things I have being doing for a whole 3 years?


Am doing all this to protect all my investments and commitment on the relationship and to avoid stories that touches, like a guy sponsor a girl to school, but she finished and return to her father's house, where another man sees her and married her.

Pls is my decision ok or what can you suggest elders in the house.

Vinnie2000:


You Guys Should stop this Nonsense!

Creating Post about Females and Monitoring dier Comments..
Is Iyaebe ur Girlfriend or ur Wife?

If you check most comments she use to drop, you'll know that someone have to raise a bar about her.

Afamsi:
You are bitter too for calling her a bitch

Are you now bitter for carrying someone headache on your head?

Are you her? Is her you?

Gentlerespect76:

The onus lies on you to suggest the way forward

They should ban her. From commenting or make any posts till further notice, till she's ready to keep her bitterness in her house alone, with coming to nairaland to spread it.

Ryda:



You can't stop a bitter person from spreading bitterness. I hope she grow over it

Hmmm. It is well with her.

Ryda:
Ignore her, I do that to irrelevant mentions most of the times

That's what I did, but something must be done about her, to avoid her spreading her bitterness on this forum

Ruudy:
U guys should not take her words serious. D bitch want to be notice as always. She lives her life on social media. She is just one of those depressed feminist dat all.

I pray she won't read this, before pouring out her buttered mind on you bro

Greatzeus:
It seems to me she has gained so much prominence in your life and thought,that you had to set some of your precious time aside to create a topic about her. More like obsession smh
Guys like you are the reason some people think they're somebody on Nairaland. Imagine someone created a topic about herself with " A Popular Nairalander....",like seriously Popular ko,Pinocular ni

What is this one saying?

Gentlerespect76:
You are only bitter about the truth she told; yes.

Read this over, over and over again bro. And point out any true or sense you can get from this.

Some people are just on nairaland to type, nothing else.

Sequel to my last posts about me and my babe.

Iyaebe commented some bitterly rubbish of which many people even women like her came for her head.

I think nairaland should do something about this entitle bittered bitch -@iyaebe.

They should ban her. From commenting or make any posts till further notice, till she's ready to keep her bitterness in her house alone, and stop coming to nairaland to spread it.

Ftc

Maka make I drop my acct

The baby girl go sabi grab di.ck eh, sorry go sabi grab duck.

How can bandits, arm robbers or kidnappers threatening this type of home?

ednut1:
after 3 years u better send her 20k now hahahha

Think before you talk sometimes bro

arthurwillia:


Who be this one like this

Full House Prostitute

Iyasaburi:
At this point, bros, it is too late to be asking such a foolish question

It's not too late, at least trying to push her to press her parent to be at least a bit responsible

AYNL:


and all you could talk about is sex

shey na only him dey enjoy it

and BTW, should sex be the only thing the girl can offer in return for everything he's done for her

shey the girl na olosho?

I just ignore all her quotes

ednut1:
after 3 years u better send her 20k now hahahha

For you to know, I have really tries, but still are parent is still not improving.