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amnesty7:
This "Igbere Tv reports" is so annoying.

Jeez! I thought am the only one oo..

Just one style of writing!


nobi their fault sha

Where are those shouting she was assaulted... Even when she lied.

Make una seff apologise!

Tueeh!!

Lessons on Conflict Management

Let me start by coughing first and then taking a cup of water. People from my village in Oyo town would say “you wan tey for this world & you no wan hear weird news, e no pos!”, meaning that "the longer you live, the more weird news you would come across".

We all heard about the intriguing news of the ruling party, All Progressive Congress, Edo State Chapter, suspending the seating National Chairman of the same party, Adams Oshiomole. If you have been following the news in recent times, you would have a mental timeline of the deteriorating relationship between the current Governor of the State, Godwin Obaseki and the APC National Chairman who happens to be the immediate past Governor.

What could have caused this embarrassing episode between them??
Lets leave the answer to the political pundits and face our own business of Project Management. This discuss would be about Conflict Management.

As I explain in my training sessions, Oxford dictionary defines conflict as “fighting, quarrel, struggle, disagreement, difference of opinion...” It is important to know that conflict is natural. It is natural for different parties in a team to have divergent views and interests. In this case, we do not have to be a Prophet of God to know that there are some behind-the-scene struggle for influence and resources that escalated to this level between the current and past Governor of Edo State.

Why does this matter?
As said earlier, conflict are natural and bound to happen.
Successful Conflict Management results in greater productivity and positive working relationships.
In fact in some cases, the probability of successfully managing a project is directly tied to how smartly you can manage conflicts.

On a project, conflicts can be as a result of scarce resources, scheduling problems, cultural differences and many more factors. Do you know that personality differences have been ranked by experts as very low on list of the factors leading to conflicts?

Keep this principle handy: Clarity and openness not only prevents conflicts, it also helps in resolving them.
Think deeply about these and let me hear your opinion.

Conflict Resolution

On a project, conflicts need to be managed maturely and professionally. Some important factors need to be considered well when managing conflicts:
- Importance and intensity of conflict:
- Time pressure to resolve conflict
- Position taken by persons involved
- Motivation to resolve long and short term effects.

When resolving conflicts, it is important to focus on issues and not personalities. The conflict between the two political giants can be said to have gone very messy here, going by what we read in the newspapers. It is also important that conflicts be addressed early before it degenerates. In most cases, it is better to dwell on the present and avoid going into the past when trying to settle conflicts.

PMBOK Guide 6th edition lists 5 conflict resolution techniques
.
1. Withdraw/Avoid
You avoid the conflict or retreat and allow it to resolve itself. This technique is beneficial when stakes are low and it is likely the conflict will disappear on its own.

Comment: The APC Edo State conflict seems to have gone past this stage. This cannot work.

2. Smooth or Accommodate
You find areas of agreement and tries to smooth the situation and circumvents tough discussions. In smoothing, you give more consideration to one party than the other. Here you try to downplay the seriousness of the situation and behave as if the problem never existed.

Comment: Though this is a way of postponing the 'evil day', it is the appropriate option in some case. But, 'gaskia', the APC Edo state matter cannot use this option.

3. Compromise or Reconcile
This is where you take suggestions from both sides and try to partially satisfy both parties. This technique is useful when the stakeholders involved in the conflict hold similar level of influence or power.

Comment: This is looking interesting. Can we get the two political giants to sit together with both sides stating their claims and finding a middle course?

4. Force or Direct
Here you agree with one party’s viewpoint and enforce their wishes. This is a win-lose situation and risks demoralizing the team.

Comment:
This option is not smiling o. Can we force one of them to drop all his concerns and align with the other person or group? Hmmm, maybe when General [sorry, President] Muhammadu Buhari intervenes.

5. Collaborate or Problem Solve
In this technique, you discuss the issue with all parties to agree on a solution, while considering multiple viewpoints. This is a real problem-solving technique and gives a final solution to the conflict. It brings consensus, commitment, and shared responsibility for the outcome.

Comment: As interesting as it sounds, it is time-consuming. Ok, let Edo people raise a panel of inquiry to investigate the near and distant causes of the conflict; conduct a root-cause analysis and get to the bottom of the problem. They should then meet with both to see how they make them see previously obscure areas towards collaboratively producing an agreeable and permanent solution to the conflict.
What other ideas do you have for our big politicians fighting?
Lets hear from you.

Oladeji Seyi Hybee10x
MBA, M.Inf.Sci,PMP,CISA, COBIT5
http://www.linkedin.com/in/iboladeji
+2349099576339

PS: An evil-minded person is saying we should leave them to fight as it does not affect the price of garri in the market
PPS: Help me tell both of them that when, (if) they eventually settle their fight, my share is 10% of the goodies that caused the fight in the first place

SeuIn:
Kano. From Lagos.
Your phone? Let's talk

am going from Lagos to Kano too..my digits

09032493263

Treasuredlove:
what disrepute?
Why would she lie?
Do both have reputable behavior? One of them drags girls with rope on their neck about
She has a budding career, she is not foolish
I just think she was put in the wrong place at the wrong age and fell into the wrong hands.....and yes, pretty mike might not even remember. There are loads of stupid guys like that out there (cue in you saying something as dumb as sleeping with her so she can keep quiet). Please stop making rape and sexual assault victims look stupid and stop acting like a rapist yourself

all those ones that Pretty mike put rope for their neck, abeg shey him force them abi nah dem obliged willing??

LOOL..The 7th actress is the custume girl..

see the guy eyes seff..Ishi Anwuranwu

baba.. all nah sleep joor.... mods should do the needful

capip120:
you can't compare those guys with naija senators nah. From the pictures above you could tell dey are probably dreaming of ways to better their economy.
But here in naija what we have are representathieves when sleeping in the chambers are thinking of ways to loot the treasury and impoverish the people.

the message is, do not always put your country on the negative light..thank you

see another one

This is a counter thread to a post made by freemandgenius on some senators and lawmakers who are pictured sleeping.

https://www.nairaland.com/4298540/sleeping-nigerian-senators-these-senators

people like these are part of the reason Trump labelled African Shitholes..cus you all do not believe in yourself[b][/b][/b][b]

one thing you should know is that these guys are not robots and thus, we should cut them some slacks.

do not always see anything from Nigeria as BAD, if you cannot correct, at least overlook and move on.

the US and other nations you are using as benchmarks also have their own shortcomings too.


below are pictures of lawmakers sleeping in the chambers.

you see that's part of the problem.....that is how your husband too will 'fall in love' with another woman, but you will be the first to scream husband snatcher....mtchewwwwww

zionmade1:
Thats cool
Thats how a civilized religion should look like. where everybody is free to make his/her choice


Unlike the one she converted to where it is punishable by death to leave

Ode Sombody, Oya name just 1 person that have been punished by death for leaving Islaam.
explicit details on who punished the person, where he/she was punished, who administered the Punishment and the rule that said any converter should be punish by death...

always speak with sense

Oya WO!
Who is now lying??

OP sire, how did you know their age??

nah wah ooo....
so should we say Azadus plan to invent his career at the expence of DSTV??

and so? we should fry beans and boil bread?

***books space ***

make I go eat first

hmmmmmmmm, is that the new development

congrats oooo, still waiting for the likes of dbanj and don jazzy!!!

they really need it there!!! Good Job corps

so make we fry chips for you!!

yeye dey smell!!!!

Sorry guys, who is a maestro

Yeah...the humble one has it

Yeah...abuu thiago no dey make mouth jare

I got 500 and 200 m.b seperately..

Jazakallahu kairan akhi...you also forgot cutting of the finger nails and using of perfumes{for men}

See bad belle ooo...he cajoled them as if you were there....

CANTICLES:
..... U Miss it all , Song of Solomon is an History of dat jewish girl named Shullamite who refuse to compromise despite advances from a wealthy king like solomon ! A Great lesson on maintaining virginity especially for girls is also emphasised!!

hmmmmm, and that is in the HOLY BIBLE... the self-acclaimed word or God....

[quote author=olaweey post=26889680][/quote]abeg make una go read songs of solomon...unah go sabi how to toast girl weh weh...the whole songs of solomon can never be the word of God..

CANTICLES:
Anyway, this is a funny thread ... Back to business : u guyz need to answer this two questions .... 1. Will muslims celebrate 'ileya' if assuming Abraham sacrifice his firstborn ?? ( coz that would mean firstborns will b roasted for ileya festival) If NO, y do it bcoz its a ram ! 2. Did Abraham even eat the ram after offering the sacrifice ??

lol, brother you funny ooo. you said assuming stop assuming and face reality jare...does that means that assuming your jesus never died on the cross, you will remain a sinner till you die?? as for the 2nd question, abraham was a prophet, we are told to emulate him and that neither the blood or the meat of what we kill gets to Allah but our PIETY....