logica: Some people seem very adept at giving advise but cannot follow same advise. Take your own advise. One more instance of dumbass things. It is merely proof that had the same happened to you as happened to the OP, you would likely do the exact opposite of the advise you are giving. They call people like you hypocrites.

logica: LOL. So men don't tell people when cheated on. They help a non-respectable woman to keep unmerited respect. Dumbass things.

WhyMe222:

Thanks for your contribution. I know my wife will find this and I wasn't hiding it. We do frequent nairaland to keep abreast of happenings. Reading through all the comments with diverse opinion from people of different races and nationalities and most especially our fellow country men/women from different tribes will help draw a clearer picture of the quantum of her misdemeanor and cause her to take a deeper sober reflection.

I don't agree with you that this thread will cause a leak as I did not disclose vital statistics and keywords that can give us away. I had that at the back of my mind all through and I carefully avoided such details.

biolabee:

bro,, i thought you will have tired by now...

baby_123:

baby_123:

biolabee:





thats why ladies will die for some good ol' fashioned cunilingus

coogar:

even the width hardly matters - it's about knowing which positions to take. the only reason any woman would think size matters is because she only practises missionary position.

secondly, the first one-third of her vagïna (the third closest to the opening) is the area that houses all of the nerve endings and is, therefore, the only area that actually registers sensation. so ramming it down the whole length is just a waste of time and effort....

biolabee: Stats show 80 percent of women fake orgasm...

Also most women are stimulated clitorally rather than vjay-wise





http://www.nbcnews.com/id/38006774/ns/health-sexual_health/t/sorry-guys-percent-women-admit-faking-it/

Toks2008:

I believe we are all adults here so get this fact straight.

If you make love to a lady and she does not gush out and i mean real squirting then you need to do serious home work and it does not take a 12inch man to do this. its about specific positions and lots of pre-intimacy in the right places.

Proper cunnilingus, Finger stimulation of G spot, and so much more that i cant list here.

baby_123:

LOL. Abeg, stick to ababio, abi what is the new science encyclopedia. This is not your specialty clearly.

baby_123:

Research you say hahahahahahha. Abeg, please, dont kill me.

baby_123:

As a man, you are describing sex of a woman to me. This is the most ridiculous conversation i have had in years. Wallow in your beliefs. But orgasm does not come from hitting the G-s*pot alone.

baby_123:

I should ask my female friends as a woman LOL, dude, the vagina is not the penis. You are mistaking organs. The vjayjay has feelings all the way to the G-s*pot. This is why size matters. Get it? All the walls are action packed.

coogar:

size did not destroy those marriages - the poor performance did. why do people carry this myth of size matters? which yeye size? the average length of a woman's vägina is 5 inches. anything beyond that is just a waste of sausage.....

it's not about the size of the dog in the fight, it's about the size of the fight in the dog.

baby_123:

You can never fake a good thing. You obviously dont know what you are talking about. Are you a woman? How can you use theory to define sex? i dont think you are a woman.

baby_123:


You are clearly in your own world and make up things as you go. Learn this today, size matters and women love the PLEASURE of sex. Not PAIN. When they MOAN, they are not in PAIN. They are experiencing PLEASURE! Women love and want se*x just as much as men. A hole that can pass out a baby can take any size. . As long as there are no health issues, the sex is not terrible or pretense is not involved. Are you truly married

Mboi:
Men are polygamous in nature. A man can decide to marry more than one wife, live with both under one roof if he likes. Men have mistresses which people closer to them know, some theirs wives know too but! A woman cannot marry another man while she's still married to her husband. So you see the difference.cheating by women is more dangerous and more degrading than cheating by men because a woman will give the man another persons child which the person might even come after the child after many years and all the woman will say is "am sorry". This is Africa, get that into ur skul and stop misleading other women. If a woman sleeps around because she thinks her husband does, that woman is in for a doom.

Winneygirl: @Op,
I'll say one thing.
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Breath.
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Stop analyzing. Stop trying 2 be logical abt anything. Just take a step back and breath.
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Clear Ur head. Empty Ur mind of all thoughts.
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Truth is, a dissolution of d marriage will not give U peace. Letting go of d hurt/pain will.
It will be hard, but I'll advice dat unless U have taken in some fresh air, any decision U take now will be rash.
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Most pple may not want 2 hear d word 'pray', but believe me God knws Ur every thought/pain. Pour out Ur heart 2 him. U hav been trying 2 deal wt this alone. Now's d time 2 handover everything 2 God.

WhyMe222:

You have just spoken like you were living inside my head. The few times I have tried ĺ♡√Ɛ making, it was appalling. I could not be the man I use to be. All through the brief session I struggled and I couldn't help the flashing images on my head. Worst when she makes a sound in pleasure. Oh God help me.

logica: You don't need to regale us with tales of diseases of which you are afflicted.

logica: I am sure I make perfect sense to those with much more than 3 connected neurons.

logica: As usual comparing male and female. Of course the possible result of a husband cheating is different from a wife cheating. With the husband cheating, it could lead to a child born out of wedlock and who may even go undiscovered by the wife till the husband's death. For a wife cheating, it could lead to the man raising another man's child as his. For a woman who thinks it's the same, I wish I could find a way to hypnotize you for 18 years to think the child you are raising is yours, then bring you down to earth (with a snap of a finger and out of the trance) by telling you the child is not yours.

I do not know the circumstances of the OP's marriage, but let's say I agree with what many women think: a cheat will always cheat again, and again and again. Or have our women suddenly forgotten this? Forgiving a cheat will only give her certificate to cheat again; after all she already knows she will be forgiven. Abi?

Jman06: D earlier u get a divorce d better 4 u unless u want 2 die b4 ur time.There are many women out there who are ready 2 love nd make u happy 4 d rest of ur life.

Jman06: 4get that trash u are talkn abt bible and divorce.A man is different from a woman,d ego of a man is totally rubished when his wife cheats on him,a woman can easily live with an infidel husband in our society,but a man can't withstand d shame,infact a cheatn wife reduces her husband 2 a nobody.this is africa 4 crying out loud.

Jman06: If that bitch remains in ur house,i bet even ur gateman wll have a taste of her honey pot.I wonder why some ppl think that a man should not get a divorce when it's necessary#4giveness my foot#

biolabee:

e dey pain me bros.... i no lie
i cant imagine how he will feel in the innermost of his soul
See wetin the good book talk

Toks2008:

Some threads should be rated Adults only. Lol!

biolabee:

Toks2008:

Let me give you a hint.

Call her and sit her down for a real heart to heart talk.

Just maybe there is something she really wants that is lacking. We men must really know how to make her women happy in all areas.

I laughed my head off when my wife wrote to me that the only thing she missed is the massage i usually give to her but i know she is missing much more.

We are all adults here so please pardon me to tell you this, do crazy things to her in bed like licking her snail, explore her G spot, make her squirt and many more because women love good sex so really talk to her.

And anytime you make love to her, do it with serious vendetta by doing it real good always trying to prove to her that you are better.

But the bottom line is that you need to move on, forgive her and in no time GOD who sees your heart will make you forget. Stop bothering yourself about whether she had it 100yimes or once with another man.